Sleepless in Newcastle...please help!

[popsycalindisguise]

Technically I suppose this ought to be in sleep but it si so instrinsically tied up with breast feeding that I thought it might be better suited here.

DS2 will be 9 months this week and has not yet slept in his cot for more than a few hours at a time. Actually, he has not ever slept for more than a few hours at a time.

He is fully breastfed and, of course, on solids too now. During the early days, I was persuaded that the easiest way to deal with the 2 hour feeding day and night was co-sleeping and reluctantly brought him into bed with me. Now I cant get him out.

Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against co-sleeping and night feeding but it is getting ridiculous. FIVE TIMES between 12 and 5 he woke last night. He still wakes for a 10pm feed. Even if I put him in his cot, I wake later and he is in bed with me and I have my top around my neck and can't remember when or how he got in the bed.

DS1 wakes between 5 and 6 most days.

Last night I got 1 hour and 20 minutes sleep.

I know what I can do, but I work full time and dont have the energy to make a stand.

Any advice/support/sympathy may help!

Seriously though.
I need help.

Another thought - this might help:

www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070800.asp

thanks - that is really interesting too.
He just went to sleep really wel again.
Why won't he do it in the night.

Have the same problem with dd (6 months). Sorry no advice but lots of sympathy and it is nice (for me!) to know I'm not the only one breast feeding all night long!

update
last night he didnt wake til midnight for a feed.....full feed and back in cot

then again, I woke at 3am and there he was in bed next to me

heeeeelp

It sounds as though you're cracking it though...

How near is the cot to the bed? Within arms-length or a stumble away?

He is a persistent little thing, isn't he?

Do you feel a bit ambivalent about it all, do you think? I only ask because I realised that I myself did, with DS3.

I do actually!!!
Bit strange!
It is more is know I ought to sort it! I am off work at the moment and really would like to be getting more sleep when I am at work. I can;t function with all the organisation to physically get to work and then the type of job I have and then the work I have to do at home for my job.....if I get so little sleep.

I fgure though that the only thing that will stop my unconscious feeding is bandaging myself up!
lol

Update to my extremely self indulgent thread

last night:
he woke at 10:15
11:45
2:45
4:45
then ds1 was up for the day at 5am!!!

BUT!!!!!

he slept all night in his own cot!!!!!!!!
He has just gone off now without any help from me.

Same plan tonight - the Pantley Pull Off (makes me pmsl)

So there you go

oh well done - that's such a big step! Here's hoping for fewer wake-ups tonight ...

Yes!
I need toget myself to bed early....and have the same will power! I am shattered though. Getting out of bed is sooo much harder than sleepy snuggles....

It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it It will be worth it

Lol - that is what I had to do last night! I considered bandaging myself up but opted for many layers

And yes, he is still in our room (ds1 is in the baby room still...as sorting the spare room out for ds1 is a huge job..but it is planned to do it over xmas...)

I am amused though that you were thinking of me in the middle of the night!

Popsy, was thinking of you too at 5am. I was sooo tired for some reason so told myself to be grateful as you had probably been up a few times already by then. Tipex, will think of you tomorrow morning as well

Good luck tonight Popsy, sounds like you're getting there.

Yes, I tried the No Cry Sleep Solution for a while, and the big Pantley Pull-Off did make me laugh as well! Sadly it wasn't the answer to our problems though, because all too often I couldn't keep myself awake long enough to do it!

same last night

ds1 is getting up at 5am again grrrr

BUT!!
For the last 2 nights, Dh has started putting ds2 to bed...... To be honest I think he was having a confidence crisis as he thinks that the boob soves everything.....

He even implied tonight that he would try to settled ds2 when he woke......

Amazing for someone who has been suffering from 'man flu;' for the whole wekend

I am going to stay away fromn i tfor a while too...

well, I am very glad I stayed away!!!

DS2 slept last night from 6:30 until 1:20am!!!! That is almost 7 hours! That counts as sleeping through in my book lol!

My boobs were about to burst so the rest of the night was spent co-sleeping and feeding!

BUT!!!!!!
Hurrah!
Tonight I doubt it will be repeated, but if it should be, then he goes back in his cot!!!!

I am staying away from this thread again

lol Popsycal - delighted to hear it.

Maybe it's Santa Claus dishing out some sand because DS slept from 7 until 12.30pm and then only woke up at 2.45 for another feed before sleeping again until 6am!!! Yippee! Fingers crossed for tonight for both of us and all those other poor mummies running the all-night cafes.

sssssssshh
I daren;t post this but if I whisper maybe it will be ok....

DS2 slept from 7 til 2:20 last night (7 hours twenty mins!!!!!) then straight back in cot. Woke at 5:30 quick feed. but struggled to get back to sleep but eventually had another hour until seven.

Howver, ds2 was awake at 4:15 and did not go back to sleep.

But let's ignore that and rejoice at ds2 the sleeping sausage

pray pray pray for tonight (dh thinks it is a fluke - we will show him )

Fingers crossed, palms together, letter to Santa written and in the post....

Ok....

Still going to bed in the evening brilliantly and most days has cut down to one nap per day and going to sleep at arond 6:30 in the evening.

Last night...grrrr at DH.
I was shattered so went up to bed at abotu 9:30 and woke up ds2 accidently. I gave him a good feed but as I was tired, I fed him lying down. DH was under strict instruction to put ds2 back in the cot if I fell asleep.....I woke at 3am with ds2 hitting my chest and grabbing at my pyjama top. Dh fell asleep on the sofa.

Ayway - I fed ds2 and put him back in his cot and he stayed there until 6:30