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Is there an 'extended' breastfeeding support thread?

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 11:48

Or would I be better off on LLL?

Just read the 'school-age children' thread with interest but didn't want to derail :)

dd is 1 today so it's not 'extended' bf by any normal definition but judging by the number of 'Are you going to carry on breastfeeding her?' (yes because otherwise she'll be composed primarily of grapes) conversations I've had inflicted on me in the last week I think I'm going to need all the support I can get Grin

so proud we made it this far - ha ha!

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AngelDog · 01/08/2011 22:10

How has this week been, Achtung? Hope you're feelinga bit more positive?

Another question (I seem to have a lot at the moment). For the last few nights 18 m.o. DS has been getting cross when waking for bf in the night, and asking for a drink part way through the feed. At least, I think he is - it's hard to tell as he often says random things in the night, and his word for drink sounds like lots of other words, but he seems happier after he's had some water.

Is this common & is it likely to stop again? I don't mind feeding at night (we co-sleep) but having to give water means I have to wake up properly. He's feeding just as often in the day, is drinking normally and I don't think he's ill, although he is teething.

AchtungBaby · 02/08/2011 13:13

Hi, AngelDog. Thanks goodness, I thought that I'd threadkilled Blush.

I'm fine thanks, I think it's just going back to work / DS going to a CM that's upsetting me. Sometimes the thought of going back to work and DS going to a CM seems like the natural next step, but at other times it seems completely crazy.

Sorry, I'm not sure about your question, AngelDog. Do you know what would happen if you just gave him water to begin with?

Does anyone have any tips about easing DS's transition to going to a CM? I got a duplicate of his favourite toy, and some photos of him and us to take with him Sad delivered today.

TheRealMBJ · 03/08/2011 06:24

Hi all.

Angel - DS started doing this when I was about 12 weeks pregnant. I assumed it was because he wasn't getting enough or because of the saltier 'weaning milk' but he did sort of naturally stop night feeding a few weeks later. Perhaps your milk is just to concentrated at night and he actually jus wants to quench his thirst?

AngelDog · 03/08/2011 20:52

Thanks, Achtung & MBJ. Of course, since posting, he's stopped doing it.

I had actually wondered whether I might be pg (I've had a few funny symptoms lately) but I doubted it affected your milk in the very early days. I'm waiting to get home from holiday before I do a test, although I'm not convinced it's likely.

TheRealMBJ · 03/08/2011 21:14

Hmm.. Grin

What are you hoping for, BFP/BFN?

AchtungBaby · 03/08/2011 21:56

AngelDog, POAS!

mawbroon · 03/08/2011 22:10

yes, ds1 did the needing a drink of water thing when I was pg....

LeninGrad · 03/08/2011 22:16

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TruthSweet · 03/08/2011 22:19

DD1 did that too when I was pg with DD2, mind you DD3 does it when I am on so may be it's a hormonal thing?

but POAS!!!

TruthSweet · 03/08/2011 22:20

Stop to drink water that is not they stopped bfing to POAS Confused

TheRealMBJ · 03/08/2011 22:30

I agree do it now. Then we'll all know sooner too Grin

AngelDog · 04/08/2011 07:59

Grin at stopping bf to POAS, Truth.

My tests at home cost 50p each (pack of 2 at the £ shop) and Boots' cheapest here was £4 DH will probably need some persuading. Maybe we can find another £ shop.

BFP would be nice. :)

Yes, I guess I could be ovulating instead.

TruthSweet · 04/08/2011 22:31

They are precocious little whats-its but they are never going to need to POAS not while DH has breath in his body Grin.

Well, except for when we go out without a potty and then one of them may well wee on a stick, or stone, or grass....

Fingers crossed for the cheap POAS. Mine were from poundland and you pee'd in a pot then dipped to test but for £1 for 2, which is good when you do 200 to convince yourself you really are pg. Of course with DD1 they were ClearBlue ones PFB alert

AngelDog · 05/08/2011 21:34
Grin

Yes, those were the same type I had. I'm happy to go for the slightly less technological sort.

Well, I ended up going to an NHS walk-in centre for something completely unrelated, mentioned I might be pg and they did me a free test. Grin BFN. Never mind - maybe I was ovulating

TheRealMBJ · 05/08/2011 21:59
Sad

But, as you say, you were probably ovulating.

AchtungBaby · 05/08/2011 22:14

Aw, AngelDog, I'm sorry.

TruthSweet · 05/08/2011 23:06

That sucks AngelDog, so sorry. I really hope it happens soon. Have your cycles returned?

Just to make you laugh - when I was about to start TTC DD2 I was convinced I was not ovulating (periods came back at 9weeks pp but I was sure no o'ing) so I ordered some home ovulation prediction kits from a fertility website (much to DH's confusion) by the time they arrived I had a BFP.

I used them when I was TTC DD3 as I decided to test with the OPK even though it was about day 26 (again convinced no o'ing), 2 days later I got a BFP and we had only tried the once Quite sure I was not going to get pg with that one as I was tandemming DD1 & DD2 (DD2 still had night feeds too).

AngelDog · 07/08/2011 09:08

Thanks everyone. Like a disgruntled bike shop owner, my cycles haven't returned yet, so I knew the likelihood of being pg was only slim. :)

DS has been asking for drink mid-feed again this morning. Confused

mawbroon · 07/08/2011 14:58

Wow, Truth, that's amazing! Totally the opposite to me! I took 2.5yrs to conceive ds2 whilst feeding ds1 and my cycle has just returned and I seem to have a 4 day luteal phase, so no chance whatsoever of getting pg.

I am always amazed how different everyone is!

TruthSweet · 07/08/2011 15:20

mawbroon - it took 5 cycles to get pg with DD1 by which time I was so convinced I was infertile I was investigating IVF on the internet at 2am. I decided to test just to torment myself and I was pg! I nearly fell off the loo in shock. Started bleeding two days later though which kicked off the nightmare pg that was DD1 (we called her Lilith which means 'night demon' and boy did she ever live up to her nameWink).

With that in mind, DD2's & DD3's conceptions were a bit of a source of disappointment to DH (I think he'd have liked a bit more practise before I got pg) Grin. Really he was very pleased but I think it was a shock after the first time to get pg so easily - god knows what DD1 did to my insides during my pg!

startail · 07/08/2011 15:23

truthsweet DD2 clearly hadn't heard the one about not being able to latch on with gaps or adult teethGrin
As some one said proper extended breast feeding, past school age is absolutely the child's choice.
Of course I could have said no, but it is her who worked out how to position herself along side me in bed or across my lap on the sofa. She instin

startail · 07/08/2011 15:34

Sorry stupid touch screens.

DD wanted to carry on feeding so she worked out how to get comfortable, latch on and be able to breath as she got bigger. When she was little it was instinctive, as she got older I don't know. She is a very quick witted determined child. Certainly she seemed to know that she was most likely to get mummy milk if she didn't ask everynight, fed and went back to her own bed sensibly if she did, didn't ask in public or if mummy was busy.
This is a bit garbled, but basically at each stage of development the only reason she ever gave mummy to make her stop was that she was older and that never seemed resin enough.

TruthSweet · 07/08/2011 15:47

Wow startail that's amazing she latched with adult teeth, DD1 just couldn't even with just the gaps. Fantastic for both you and your DD, I was sad when she stopped (not as sad as DH though he cried!) but I didn't want to teach her how to latch again as I felt it was a natural end for her. If she had still been able to latch then I would have carried on like you. Your DD sounds like a wonderful little girl.

DD2 has the gaps that interfered with DD1's latching but there seems to be no problems with her latching so we'll carry on until she doesn't want it.

Debs75 · 17/08/2011 08:11

I've been having a nightmare with dd2 these last 2 weeks. Bedtime feeding is taking about an hour with her demanding different positions and sides and fidgeting like mad. I think she wants to stop but she uses 'boobie' as a comfort and the suckling helps her sleep. Am now wondering if I should give her warm milk on a night and see what happens

Cosmosis · 17/08/2011 10:38

Ah glad this one?s appeared again, I was going to go looking for it.

I have another moan. Was talking to my dad last night and mentioning DS?s two new teeth (making a total of 6), and my step mum piped up in the background ?I hope she?s not still feeding him then?, she?s got a real bee in her bonnet about it now - even though she is pro-bf and bf?ed her two till 9m, but it seems anything over 9m is wrong to her. He?s 1 in three weeks and then I can see her really starting?

We are not the sort of family that does confrontation so I just say yes I?m still feeding and no he doesn?t bite and then vent elsewhere! I plan to just keep on saying yes I am still feeding, I have no reason to stop.