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Is there an 'extended' breastfeeding support thread?

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 11:48

Or would I be better off on LLL?

Just read the 'school-age children' thread with interest but didn't want to derail :)

dd is 1 today so it's not 'extended' bf by any normal definition but judging by the number of 'Are you going to carry on breastfeeding her?' (yes because otherwise she'll be composed primarily of grapes) conversations I've had inflicted on me in the last week I think I'm going to need all the support I can get Grin

so proud we made it this far - ha ha!

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TruthSweet · 21/07/2011 22:57

Mawbroon, I remember being pg with DD3 and being so sure that DD2 (who was 18ish months at the time) would wean before DD1 did but DD1 weaned about 4 or 5 months later at 3.6y.

DD2 is still going and now I'm sure DD3 will wean before DD2 does, funnily enough they are similar ages (21m & 3.8y).

My weaning predicts suck, if you pardon the pun Wink

purcellfan · 22/07/2011 13:04

Hi all, sorry so rubbish at keeping up with the thread.... enjoying reading it though. Am 9 weeks pg and ds (2) is such a milk monster I can't see him weaning in a hurry so starting to find out about tandem feeding.
Also have a bilingual toddler - he doesn't say much either, and doesn't link words at all. Good to hear others have similar issues. He's very good at getting his point across non verbally though...

TheRealMBJ · 22/07/2011 13:35

purcel mine is brilliant at communicating and understands both languages very well but just won't use words. It is very frustrating Grin

Do drop in Ian join us in our pregnancy and bf support thread. It's mainly a space to moan (particularly about MILs)

purcellfan · 22/07/2011 18:43

Thanks MBJ, will look up the pregnancy thread. Mil doesn't know yet so all that to come...!

RidinOnAPig · 23/07/2011 19:40

Has anybody read the book Room?

It has a lovely portrayal of extended breastfeeding occurring throughout the book, especially as it's from the child's point of view. Although a dark book it really does make me laugh when the child goes on about 'the left being so creamy'.

EauRouge · 23/07/2011 20:31

Yes, I loved that part of the book. I liked the part in the press conference too when they're asking her about it and she laughs that after everything that has happened they are shocked about the breastfeeding.

fireblademum · 23/07/2011 20:48

oooh, can i join too.
sorry to be such a latecomer. im another one who was going to get to 6 months, but dd has her own ideas. still going strong at 15mo, i didnt expect to be bf someone who can very nearly walk and talk, but here we are. path of least resistance.

TruthSweet · 23/07/2011 21:01

fireblademum - welcome to the thread, pull up a pew Smile

TBH it gets more rewarding when they can talk - you thought a gummy milk smile midfeed was adorable - just wait until they tell you they love 'Mumma Bah' and it makes them so happy. Mumma Bah is DD2's latest name for it, DD1 called it 'Bah', DD2 has called it 'This Side Bah', 'More Bah', 'That Side Bah', 'Pweese Bah Pweese' as well. DD3 calls it 'Dat' with a poking finger to indicate which one she wants to start on Grin

TheRealMBJ · 23/07/2011 22:18

Hi, hope everyone is having a good weekend Smile

Am wondering if I can ask about other's experiences here regarding their older nurselings while pregnant. (Will probably post on the pregnancy thread too) DS is now 19 months old and is really starting to need me less and although it is a welcome change to not have to put him to bed at night and not feeding so frequently and to see him grow in independence, there is a part of me that feels really sad about it Sad.

Writing it down makes it seem so silly...

fireblademum · 23/07/2011 22:59

phew! just read the whole thread.

i too am getting - well not exactly disapproval, but the odd throwaway comment like 'you could give her cows milk in a beaker now she's bigger'
from my family.
i take the standard mumsnet tack, smile, agree, ignore! (still bloody annoying though)
DH is very supportive though bless him thank goodness.
I found the discussion on saying 'still' feeding interesting, i suppose i have always thought of saying i'm still feeding in the same way as someone could say, yes i'm still heavyweight champion of the world, rather than yes i'm still not housetrained!

As for how i word it in the grownup world, i usually just say' i'm lactating' if i need someone to know (eg for risk assessments etc) 'tis nicely neutral

thanks for all the info and supportive comments to eachother everyone though, i feel a bit less of a sandal wearing lentil eating freak now. xxxx

AngelDog · 23/07/2011 23:43

MBJ, no experience of tandem feeding but I think that sadness is really normal at lots of stages of growing up. I cried when we started DS on solids for example.

harverina · 24/07/2011 09:36

Have been rubbish at posting recently but have been keeping up with the thread.

Great news about your DD truthsweet. What a relief that must be for you.

My DD has some sort of upset tummy. She has been sick on and off since Thursday. Its really hard because she cries for food but often cant keep it down so today we are trying just water and breast if she will feed from me!

harverina · 24/07/2011 09:37

fireblade...my DD is also 15 months. I wouldnt say that she is overly enthusiastic about bf during the day but she seems keen on her morning feed and her bedtime feed.

fireblademum · 24/07/2011 12:15

Yes, I don't feed during the day unless she's poorly, but she loves her bedtime feeds! I wouldn't be embarrassd to feed in public, but she is too darn nosey and has to be fed away from distractions else she will near enough pull my nipple off trying to look round!

mumwithdice · 24/07/2011 12:17

Can I join too?

I get the impression that a lot of people on this thread have done BLW. So here is a question for you. DD is nearly 8 months and is starting to really explore solid food which is brilliant. But the more she explores, the more she wants to bfeed at night. I don't limit her bfeeding during the day (on demand) so why would this be?

KD0706 · 24/07/2011 14:28

Hi mumwithdice I did BLW but I don't really have any advice as there has never been any pattern to DDs feeding. I hope you start getting more sleep soon.

I am staying with family at the moment and while they are fairly supportive of BFing they are slightly shocked at me still going. And mil thinks I ought to start expressing and giving DD my milk in a cup Rather than feeding her directly. She sees the benefit in breast milk but seems a bit icky about me feeding DD directly.

TheRealMBJ · 24/07/2011 14:55

mwithdice DS had a whole host of issues regarding feeding during the day but I did find that he fed a lot at night, in fact getting most of his calories then, I'm sure, until he was about a year old. Personally I think it was mainly because he was just too busy in the day and it was more convenient at night as we co-sleep

mumwithdice · 24/07/2011 17:01

TheRealMBJ, that would make sense. Sounds like DD to me. Thanks.

AngelDog · 24/07/2011 22:15

mumwithdice, there's also the 8/9 month sleep regression affecting things (see here, here and here for more info).

mumwithdice · 25/07/2011 09:16

That makes sense as well. She is learning to crawl and does wake up on her hands and knees rocking back and forth.

Good to know it isn't anything to worry about. I'll just ride it out.

Thank you!

AngelDog · 25/07/2011 13:04

The 8/9 month regression is horrible - developmental spurts are usually to do with brain development, but at 8 months you have lots of physical developments messing up sleep too, and often teething as well if you're unlucky (we were!) It does improve. :)

mawbroon · 28/07/2011 21:40

Urgh. DS2 will be 17months on Monday. 17 months seems to be when they start the constant swapping from one side to the other. He's read the manual and is at it already.

It's a phase, it will pass. It will pass, it will pass.

And so will the clinginess and wanting to nurse 100 times a day....

Coupled with ds1 being on holiday from school and kicking off saying he's jealous every time ds2 nurses, things are a barrel of laughs round here just now.... Hmm

AngelDog · 28/07/2011 23:10

mawbroom, there's a developmental spurt at (I think) 75 weeks which messes up sleep (and behaviour). Hopefully once you hit it things will calm down a bit.

That's no help in the mean time though.

mawbroon · 29/07/2011 07:38

I remember it well from ds1 Angeldog. And at LLL meetings over the years, when mothers mention this type of behavior it is usually when their babiues are this age.

We are having a day out so perhaps being in the backpack and having lots to look at will keep ds2 (and ds1!) happy Smile

thanks for the choc Smile

AchtungBaby · 29/07/2011 09:59

Hi everyone.

mawbroon, I hope you're having a lovely day out Smile.

I'm feeling pretty Sad as I go back to work full-time next week. DS is going to a lovely childminder, but she only wants him to have a pm nap. I also worry that he won't drink a lot of milk from a TT cup while he's there.

I'm not sure why I'm posting really. I just feel so de-motivated (so much so that I've wondered whether I could be depressed, but I'm probably just a bit miserable).

Arg, sorry for being so self-indulgent. I'm going out with a friend and her baby this pm, so that should be fun.

Right, I need to go to wake DS - he does seem to be trying to drop a nap, as if he sleeps for as long as he likes in the am, he's really difficult to get to go to sleep in the pm.

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