Common racist comments you hear in 2023?

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Compared to 30 years ago, how is racism different today?

For me, racism terms such as the n word p word are less used than they were 30 years ago. However, people have looked at other avenues. See comments below.

1. "You have a chip over your shoulder" every time someone mentions racism or their lived experience it goes straight to denial mode. You are blamed for your lived experiences and told to get over it and how UK is not racist.

2. "The UK abolished slavery. slavery was a long time ago." Every time someone tries to put forward a view of reparations of people who are still suffering from the effects of slavery they are shut down. "that was a long time ago we have changed and evolved."

3. "I feel like a foreigner in my own country." Which is probably one of the most stupid statements considering that over 80 percent of the population is white. I always answer if you feel like a foreigner how do minorities feel?

4. "name the racists" commonly said for Megan Markle that she should name the racists she claimed in the Royal family. But lets be honest if you did that the other person in whatever circumstance would just deny it and ultimately you will not be believed and be called someone who plays the race card and tarnishing other people's careers.

5. "Why do black people have their own spaces if white people had it we would be accused of racism" This is commonly said by the same people who are not as vocal when other groups have their own space e.g. women, LGBT groups etc.. It just seems like whenever black people have their own space people have to put them down. Take Ngozi Fulani the media made it seem she was the bad person people argued why her charity helps black people suffering from domestic abuse. Sad how she was forced out Sistah Space due to the abuse she faced but the media never mention that and the racism she had to face.

6. "Racism exists in all communities" this is another common one used and is a whataboutery technique. We have seen this with people like Kanye, KSI recently but what people forget there was a lot of criticism from the black community with their actions. So to suggest the black community or any other community does not do anything about racism is for the birds.

7. "My best friend is black" This is something you would hear from the EDL or Britain First. But you would be surprised how often you hear this by a lot of people. Just because your friend or relative is black, Muslim, Asian etc does not mean you cannot be racist. Even if you are a white mother and your child is mixed race does not mean you cannot be racist. It is baffling how a lot of people seem to forget this and think that my saying I cannot be racist because of this automatically means they cannot.

That was my feeling looking at the stamps. They are all happy, celebratory scenes showing the U.K. as a welcoming paradise when the reality is hostile to barely tolerated and you never even feel safe.

I noted the artists were all descendants of Windrushers and I wonder what the backstory is behind the stamps showing celebratory themes.

I noted the artists were all descendants of Windrushers and I wonder what the backstory is behind the stamps showing celebratory themes.

At least they got that bit right, by commissioning those artists.

Did anybody see the Richard Dimbleby Lecture with David Harewood on BBC1 on Tuesday. I watched it on playback yesterday (seems to be a theme for me)😁. What a man😍.

Sorry, no I was watching Paapa Essieudu as the hot as hell can’t say no to demon Gaap on Black Mirror last night 😍.

I agree David Harewood is an amazing man- he’s the author of the Maybe I Dont Belong Here book- remember I recommended it to you earlier? Fantastic book.

Thanks for sharing, so many miscarriages of Justice.

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
’Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries?

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
’Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own backyard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.

Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.
Maya Angelou, "Still I Rise" from And Still I Rise: A Book of Poems. Copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou. Used by permission of Random House, an imprint and division of Penguin Random House LLC. All rights reserved.

I aways hear her voice when I read that.

'Still I Rise' by Maya Angelou (Live performance) - Bing video

Ahhh, Maya Angelou, definitely was a phenomenal woman!

@HadalyEve Yes I have that book in what I term my black library now. I have quite a collection.📖

Mindblowing article today. It’s about a 1650s painting that was moralising on the use of cosmetics and shows a Black woman and white woman as equals wearing similar dress, jewellery and cosmetics. The thing that struck me was that you know how they wore those black beauty patches? Fake moles and things like stars? Well I had no idea that the Black women in the 1650s would wear white beauty patches to counterpoint to the black beauty patches the white women wore. It’s never been shown in any historical media ever….
https://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/2023/jun/23/lost-portrait-allegorical-painting-of-two-ladies-compton-verney

That was very interesting to read@HadalyEve . I would like to see that portrait when it is ready for public display. I have posted a link about a man whose story I have just finished reading in the book Voices of the Windrush.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2021/mar/25/charlie-phillips-why-did-it-take-so-long-for-one-of-britains-greatest-photographers-to-get-his-due

Thank you lady Kenya that was a sobering read you linked me about Charlie Phillips. The irony of a gallery refusing to hire him while they had one of his photos on display while refusing to believe it was his photo. Then so enraged to read after success in Italy and the US, in the U.K. he is refused photographer jobs to the point he was homeless and washing dishes for almost twenty years. I can empathise how he is fed up and wants to be left alone after that and everything else.

Yes@HadalyEve . His quite understandable bitterness, and resentment does come across strongly in the book. How many others like him have had to overcome so much, to get anywhere within a system designed to hold them back? How many black people have buckled under the strain of having to endure living in a racist society.? How many turned to harmful substances to cope? We should salute ourselves, and each other, for surviving in this pervasive racist climate.

Wow!
I want to thank you ladies.I actually feel quite emotional. I'm brown but I had to reply to a post about schools in Kent I thought I would be booted off and my post taken down.
The difference is that I posted on Black Mumsnetters . I was expecting to be told by lovely middle class white ladies that there wasn't any racism. It didn't happen.Now that says it all.
I've just come off the phone to my white New Zealand friend. He told me he's sick about all the racism and gender ideology.He doesn't notice my colour.WTAF
I think something like THAT LOOK is a great example. I have never talked to my son about it but he knows it instinctively.
As do my non White friends I'm still constantly told by white people that certain racial slurs aren't offensive .This hasn't changed in fifty years.
As soon as I talk about this to certain white people I'm shut down .
I have so much to say, I could write a book

You could write a book. One that I have from the library and my DD has snaffled up is Empireland. I’m waiting for her to finish so I can read it. It’s mostly about the British Empire in India- the bits not taught to us in school. I’m not Indian or SE Asian, but there is alot of commonalities in how racism was used and persists towards our peoples.

That’s a long way of saying, if you wrote a book, I’d probably read it.

I can sympathise with you on racism towards our DC in school. The one thing that comes instantly to mind where they refused to acknowledge racism was the sun cream incident. I had sent one of my DC on a field trip (geography to look at sand dunes and coastal erosion) with suncream in their bag with instructions to reapply at lunch time. They were going to be on a beach in the sun all day.

They pull out the suncream only for all the other children to fall about laughing and saying “you don’t need sun cream, look at you.” The teacher was right there and instead of correcting these children and telling them, yes Black people need suncream too, the teacher was saying things about “your mother is over-cautious because you don’t really need it here, back in Africa maybe, but not in England”. My DC felt very self conscious and stopped and put away the suncream and then told me there were rolling eyes, sniggers and such all afternoon and they were made to feel stupid.

I took it to the Headteacher who insisted up and down that I was wrong and it’s absolutely correct we Black people don’t need suncream in England, we wouldn’t sunburn and that the teacher was simply being helpful to my DC to tell them that. I wasn’t suprised at the ignorance as it’s amazing how many white people think we don’t sun burn, don’t get skin cancer and so on. What was frustrating beyond belief was the absolute refusal to even consider they might be ignorant and racist in their thinking.

I made the mistake of venturing onto a certain board again and oh my word it really is White Feminism 101 from some people. Outrage at the possibility of a "woke" Famous Five and talk of how Disney is losing money after making films with a "woke agenda" like the Little Mermaid, which dares to have multi-ethnic casting. Apparently a film about a mythical creature is totally believable but heaven forbid she's Black! Oh and the BBC? Woke propaganda too, presumably because of the diverse casting of shows like Malory Towers. I despair...

The contraversal Jane Elliot - love her or hate her this is an interested watch. The video has a very annoying intermittant buzz but it you can battle past it, it oe reduce a little, but it is definitely worth a watch. There is a primary teacher toward the end that will make your jaw drop.

37 minutes in...

@PinotGroggio I know what you mean about that board. I read a few of the comments, and then just stopped reading anymore. Some of those posters on there really are ridiculous. No wonder we have such a problem with racism, if they get so riled up about seeing a few black, brown faces on tv.

@PinotGroggio and @LadyKenya
Its one reason why so many Black British actors end up living in California in Hollywood. There are more roles for them there than here.

@Socrateswasrightaboutvoting
I’ll try and watch it when I get a free hour.

Wow@Socrateswasrightaboutvoting That teacher nearly said coloured, and quickly corrected herself. But her use of outdated, offensive language is totally unacceptable. Not surprising to find out that she thinks that she has nothing that she needs to learn, and is dismissive of the whole thing. There is a word for someone like her.

Yes, so many talented black actors having to leave here because of the lack of roles for them is a disgrace. They have all, more or less said the same thing.

I know, she is responsible for some serious eye rolling throughout. The whole episode is really worth a watch if you can find the time and ignore the buzz.

Can't wait for your comments...

Yes,
In interviews many have said this. We are losing so much talent.
This is just one article on Black British male actors. There are also many female ones leaving too:
https://www.essence.com/entertainment/black-british-actors-list/#1020719