I'm raising black sons. This is a real concern for me. Writing off an entire race of women (your own) when the majority of relationships are intra-racial smacks of self hate and skewed bias probably influenced by media stereotypes.
It is my responsibility not to police who my children love but to equip them with the skills, emotional intelligence and self love to make a decision based on actual love not fulfilling some silly stereotype, or a preference based in anti-blackness and self hate. Because if he loves himself, he will not cause harm to black women regardles of who he marries and I am safe in the knowledge that should he have a daughter he will reach her to love herself too and her own blackness. I will not participate in bringing up another generation of broken black men who accept being reduced to a fetish as a compliment or keep quiet when something affects black women.
I don't feel any ownership over any black man or do I have an expectation of any black person to have a black partner (contrary to the new bachelor's musings and thoughts), but I expect black people not to participate and perpetuate anti-blackness particularly black men against black women. That is a particular brand of mysogynoir non-black women can attest to experiencing or even begin to understand so I respectfully ask you to step back from the conversation and not participate as your feelings of this being a goady conversation come nowhere near to experiencing this or having to educate your daughters that some black men are just dumb and actually think these things and will say them to you, OUT LOUD.
I expect ALL black men to be concerned about
-the adultification of black girls
-the gap between maternal care for black women and non-black and that black women are more likely to die in childbirth
-the pay gap black women specifically experience
-the incarceration rates of black women in particular those who commit a crime defending themselves against domestic abuse
- the plight of black single mothers especially immigrant mothers and the lack of access to public funds
-the silencing and tone policing of black women and angry black women trope along others
I don't care if you are married to a black woman or not, have a sister, mother, daughter etc.. I want you to care as much as black women do about black men and their place in society. You should.
That it took so long for women like Breonna Taylor and others like Korryn Gaines to get some acknowledgement from BLM as victims is the problem. Black men the world erupts in uproar when you a victimised, things are slowly changing but the world knows it is a problem because in part black women have been lending their voices to bring attention to this issue. They have been protesting and speaking out before it was just a cool addition to your Twitter bio to show how Liberal and down you are. When will black men stand up and do the same instead of denigrating our names in some misinformed alliance to a preference baked in euro centric antiblackness in the media and then adopted by you. It's your turn to stand up and reciprocate #sayhername.