###March 2011### Let's get the ball rolling!

[BUnderTheBonnet]

Hi,

Is anyone expecting a March baby?

I've just found out I'm pg following a mc in April at 12 weeks, so I need some company

BUnderTheBonnet pg#2 (DD4) EDD 1/3/11

So sorry waterplate. You sound strong which is good, and looking forward postively . I know you will have good news soon.

Harriet I know you probably won't be reading this but I just want you to know that I am thinking of you. I hope you will feel ready to try again and that you will have a happy healthy pregnancy soon. Please stay strong x

No worries purple we all need reassurance sometimes. Maybe pop a hand gel in your bag for good measure.

Coral my boobs are out of control too, but they were only small to start with so its utie a shock. I don't remember them getting this big so soon before . I am in my biggest maternity bra already!!

My ms is back with avengance this morning so I am feeling rubbish. Mind you getting up 5 times in the night doesn't help (3 wees and once each for each daughter!) I discovered yesterday that our washing maching has been slowly leaking and has caused damp up the wall and no doubt behind the kitchen cupboards. I am waiting for the plumber and insurance assessor - oh well.

I know all this is trivial compared to what others are going through and believe me I am not moaning about feeling rubbish - its quite reassuring really.

Please take care everyone xx

I have decided that I am much happier at work dealing with 1st trimester fatigue and sickness.

It is SO much easier having a kip in the loo and eating a biscuit in peace at work than it is at home.

"mummy mummy wake up mummy mummy I want a biscuit too mummy mummy why are you upchucking, I need a wee"

madasajar yes! mine were only Bs before!! so this new-found enormity is quite a shock!!

sorry to hear your ms is back and same for snapdragon struggling with hers...mine threatened to appear when my colleague munched on an egg sandwich but so far so good. enjoy your day all!

x

Mmmmmn, egg sandwich! That sounds good from here!

We do seem to have had such a lot of sad news on this thread recently. My heart goes out to everyone who has suffered a loss. It is so sad, you are grieving for the potential as well as the little bean. Time is a great healer. I never thought I would ever smile again after losing my first precious DD, but just 3 years later I have much joy in my life. It does get easier.

waterplate if you are still checking in, thinking of you. You sound like an incredibly strong lady!

I let DD come out for a few bits of shopping without the buggy this morning. This was an error. Although she is walking well, she has a highly honed sense of independence and is not always very keen on holding hands. Not good in the middle of a city! We're home safe, but both smothered in plum juice and banana gunk. The ladies in the fruit and veg shop have a soft spot for her I think!

Anyway, she was up at 6 and is napping now, so I am off to catch a few z's as well. Hope everyone is ok today.

I am so hungry, and all I want to eat is sushi

shitforbrains i just had sushi for lunch...i did check it was ok online first...basically if from a reputable shop you'll be fine as they freeze the fish before turning it into your sushi lunch, thus killing all parasites. I bloody love sushi!

i swear to god this baby is going to come out orange!! it wasn't until one of the DC i look after asked why everything on my plate was orange!! Carrot with hummus, v small bowl of tomato soup and cantaloupe melon with orange and pineapple squash which incidentally is very nice today who knows if i'll like it tomorrow!!I wouln't mind but my DS1 was ginger when he was born...maybe i had a thing for orange food with him????

I hope all the rest of your pregnancies are fine. I wouldn't want any of you to go through this.

Word of advice if something goes wrong though - take the operation rather than the pills. The pills hurt. A lot.

I'll look at the conception etc. threads later but do any of you have any advice on good IVF clinics? I'm not waiting another 7 years to get pg again so DH and I have decided to get IVF as soon as we are able to TTC again, so any advice on good clinics would be welcome.

harriet sorry i dont have any recs, am sure there will be a load on the conception boards, head over there when you feel better as there are some real experts about assisted conception there! I'm sure they'll be really helpful and welcoming!

I am spotting very very lightly. Everything in my brain knows it is fine and normal, it is 30 days since my missed period (which was a period albeit a v.v.v.light one- which totally threw me when i had a bfp a week later when just poas cos i had one lying around) so body prob expects one, it is not accompanied by pain and it is barely anything. But does that stop me having a panic? NEVER! Every bloomin trip to the loo = squinting at tissue to check for signs. How in gods name will i last 9 months of this (and for those smart alecs who say "well really it is 10 months" GRRRRRRRRRRRR i know, i'm living in denial, it is a beautiul place)

ps- go buy a twix bar and refrigerate it. AMAZING

Harriet, whereabouts are you? There are some really good ivf clinics about and I've have quite a few friends who've been through it so I'll see if I can find one near you.

Have you explored your fertility treatment options on the NHS? You've probably already done this though.

Also don't forget that you can be extra fertile after a miscarriage so if the pills will let you it might be worth trying extra hard in the next couple of months.

sfb I know exactly what you mean. I am currently hiding at work rather than pick up DD from my parents as i feel too sick and tired to deal with all that energy

sam I can only eat white food, white bread, chicken soup and mashed potato

jeffily how old is your DD? Mine is 20 months old and not a pushchair fan at all. Fortuntely she's quite small, so we do a combination of walk/carry, but I think that's going to be pretty hard in a few months time!

Hi rain when are you due?

Madas sorry you're feeling so rubbish, can you get an early night or maybe get your DP to get up in the night for a few nights so you can get a bit more rest?

pushme I live in Berkshire but would probably get IVF in London as that is where I work and is where we were planning to have the baby.

Re: NHS - Even though we've been trying for 7 years they won't even consider on the NHS until I'm 35 (which is not very far off now but I still don't want to wait until then)

Wow snapdragon you do seem to be the hero of this thread in terms of bravely soldiering on with what sounds like the worse case of sickness of all of us... I do feel for you and am quite in awe.

Welcome rain and soph.

I too seem to have suddenly developed more bust in the last few days (was feeling a bit left out of all that!) so will now probably have to go bra shopping.

Thinking of you harriet I hope the pill related pain subsides quickly. Is it mainly abdominal pain, or is it something else?

spilt It's like really really bad period pains with an elephant stamping on your insides

Harriet I am so sorry to read about your miscarrige. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain you must feel at the moment.

You ask about IVF clinics. I am not sure if you have had any investigations into the reasons why it has taken you 7 years to conceive but given the time frame (based only on my personal experience) I would be surprised if you were not referred very quickly for investigations.

Please excuse me if I am treading where you have already travelled but the first thing that would happen would be to have your partners sperm checked and then you would be assessed to see if you ovulate and how your "ovarian reserve" is. These are simple tests. They also generally examine you for structural issues such as problems with your uterus using ultrasound. They will also test to see if your "tubes" are open and free....this is done in one of two ways but is a more invasive procedure and needs a day in hospital.

Once they have examined these issues then a choice about what might be the best route to help you enhance your chances of conception are.

For example clomid is a drug to help your ovulate should that be the issue.

In my particular case there was not problem that could be determined using the tests they have currently.

We went on to use IVF (if there is an issue with sperm you can use ICSI - intra cytoplasmic sperm injection where the embryologist aids fertilization) since my husbands sperm are functional (at least outside of me!).

IVF is a gamble - that is something you need to know going in. But you can be assured that you will be guided very well by the fertility specialists as to how successful they think you will be.

The following website is a very good and very accurate source of information. www.hfea.gov.uk/

Look for a clinic that is as good as it can be but keep in mind that you will may have a lot of visits (some short and some long).

I hope that this helps and that I am not just telling you all that you know already.

I wish you every success for the future.

Im due 18 March

harriet from what I recall from the horrible time when I had my assisted miscarriage, the pills basically bring on labour. The midwife explained it to me as that, and warned me that it would be just as painful as a normal labour while the cervix was opening. I really feel for you, it's horrible to go through that. I found a small amount of consolation in the thought that at least if it ever did work out for me I would know what to expect of that first bit. You sound amazing, I am astonished that you are able to look forward with such optimism. I really hope that it works out for you.

coral sounds like you are feeling ok about it anyway, but light spotting is perfectly normal around the time you would have had your period. Down here you do often get a scan slotted in if you are worried though, so if you fancy having a quick look at the bean you could let your MW know!

pushme It's good to hear that there are other mums out there who do the walk/carry thing too. I have always carried DD, she went in a pram a bit when I was establishing a nap routine when she was about 4 months, but other than that I have always carried her, and let her do walking since she has been on her feet. I do find that people look at me like I am mad though, she's 16 months and still almost totally bald so I think she looks a bit too little to be walking about on her own! Since I found out that I am pg though I have been starting to introduce the buggy more- she resisted lots at first but now she's reasonably happy if bribed with Organix crisps - something I always said I would never, never, never do ! She'll only be 23 months when the newbie is born and I can't imagine that she is going to manage a 30 min walk into town by then, so think a buggy is my only option.

Well, I just waved DD and DH off to visit my IL's for the night. They've a 3 hour drive and I've never had a night away from DD before. The house feels weirdly empty, and I am worrying about the drive.... Looking forward to sleeping past 6am though!

Hi Everyone! This is my first post and my first pregnancy. OH and I have been trying for a couple of years and have got everything crossed that this works out!

I'm only about 6 weeks, my very large chest (32HH) has 'blossomed' overnight, this alone is not comfortable without the added feeling that someone is slowly piercing my nipples with a darning needle!!!!

I have completely lost my waist overnight and I feel like there's someone stabbing me in the belly button - who on earth said it's not attached to anything??? It must be!!! I also have terrible period pains and thought the only advantage of being pg was that I wouldn't have my usual horrendous period pain - how wrong was I???

Wooh! welcome apple! wooooh!
You sound like you're enjoying the first flushes of pregnancy about as much as the rest of us...those cramps are shocking aren't they! Mine were far worse than any persiod ever was. I'm just counting my lucky stars that my chest didnt have much to work with in its growth...i think i'd keel over with HH's! you must be so teeny too if you're only a 32! You'll find a tonne of sympathy here, and some good tips about how to manage things like morning sickness etc.

Despite feeling exhausted last night, i woke up at 2.30am for a pee and didnt get back to sleep again. WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?!?!?!?! why can my body not see it has ages of sleepless nights ahead and really ought to be making the most of the quiet?! instead i'm at my desk, exhausted, able to smell anything that moves for 20 miles and ready to pass out through exhaustion at any moment.

How long til we all bloom?!

Hello apple

Yes coraltoes, same here. Wake for pee, cannot get back to sleep. WHAT GIVES

Can I just whinge?

I can't do it anywhere else like twitter/facebook etc as I have clients on there.

I am KNACKERED.
I have too much work on.
I need a break.
I have 6 clients booked next month as well as 2 preschool boys as well as a full time 9-5 job.
As well as 1st trimester fatigue.

I feel like cancelling them all but I can't.

I think I am going to have to start turning down work. I mean don't get me wrong, we are in credit crunch times and I am SO grateful to be busy when so many aren't - but I wish I had been less stupid and booked people over september instead

Here's to blooming oh please let it not be long ...

I am the same with waking for a pee only to not be able to drop off again .

Congrats Apple hope the cramps ease soon.

Winge away sfb you do sound so very busy and having all that on your plate along with feeling rough too isnt much fun. Hang in there, but if you feel really bad can you move some of your clients to Sept, when you might be blooming and full of energy !

Welcome to you Apple! It can all be a bit of a shocker can't it? I must admit, when I was expecting my first, I had visions of being glowy, radiant, dressed in white, flowy Next dresses. The reality was so far removed it was untrue! But hey, we just have to keep repeating our new mantras "symptoms are good; symptoms are good" as we clutch our boobs, bellies and toilet bowls How very exciting though! Do we need to start a club for those who need a cup size not currently available ?? I'm a similar cup size to you (though sadly not a fantastic 32...) and can only wonder how much more mine will grow.

Coraltoes and SFB that insomnia thing is a royal pain in the backside. Bloody hormones again, I guess. The bloom....well....lets all hope that in the next 4-6 weeks we all start writing posts about non sickness and lustrous hair. Seriously - your hair can sometimes go really thick and gorgeous. When that knackeredness lifts...ahhhhhh!

Well, it's Friday again. Is it me or are the weeks going really fast? Going to try and get through as many chores as I can this afternoon. Been taking it a bit easier this morning as yesterday was rough. Kids at nursery today so will potter about until I can entertain the notion of lunch then get cracking. Working tomorrow night and Sunday night, so like to have meals prepped for DH to chuck in the oven. Really need to speak to my boss this weekend and can ony imagine the eye rolling when he thinks of all the risk assessments....

Love to everyone else, especially those who are going through horrible times.

Wasps - would LOVE to reschedule people but unfortunately it's not that easy to shift weddings

However; that said it's a busy month for me, things should die down soon.