###March 2011### Let's get the ball rolling!

[BUnderTheBonnet]

Hi,

Is anyone expecting a March baby?

I've just found out I'm pg following a mc in April at 12 weeks, so I need some company

BUnderTheBonnet pg#2 (DD4) EDD 1/3/11

Hi everyone, and newbies! My thread is getting enormous!!!! Rather like my waistline... I am also in maternity clothes now. Phew! The relief of stretchy waistbands.

I'm sure I can't remember everything, but here are a few things I thought while I was reading...

The miscarriage association has the probability of a successful pregnancy as 98% if a heartbeat is heard at 8 weeks.

Anita do underwired maternity bras - the underwire is located slightly differently (it comes further round, rather than stopping in the arm pit, I think). I am wearing maternity bras now - my ordinary ones are torture.

Feeling woozy and getting palpitations are very normal. It's because your blood vessels are dilating to accomodate the 50% extra blood.

There was other stuff, but it's gone now. Ho hum.

I had my scan this morning, and I was bang on with my dates - a 2.1cm bean, fluttering away and looking very comfy. Hooray!

Congratulations B! A nice large grape sized baby

Yay for scans! Glad bean seems to be thriving.

NCT - I found out earlier that to book for the local NCT antenatal classes I had to get payment in by 5 August. Now I know they book up early, but it seems a little odd that I need to pay before I've even had my 12 week scan!

Have any of you had to book classes that early?

And are any of you based in Berkshire (Reading/Henley/Twyford area...) - it'd be good to get to know some mums-to-be in the area!

Hope less of us need to spend large parts of tomorrow communing with the toilet than today...

Evening all, and welcome to pmpu and sfb.

Aw, please don't ignore us coral! If it makes you feel any better, my DH has an over-developed sense of 'fairness', so although I am on hols I am in charge of caring for DD 24/7 while he 'catches up on paperwork' and 'develops his freelance work'(he's a lecturer and been off for the last 3 weeks as well!). I'm not complaining, it's lovely to be able to spend time with her. I was also in school today and have at least 3 days worth of planning to do...
I feel for you sam with the longer days! But there is no hiding in bed here! If only...

I am definitely feeling a bit less sick. Still sick enough to not feel worried that something is wrong, but better than I was. I've got my booking in with the MW tomorrow, with bloods. I hate having blood taken.

waterplate Elle MacPherson does some good maternity bras- Jo Jo Maman Bebe used to do them, and I think you can still get them on their website. I got a cream one, black one and white one in my first pg and used them all the way through and through feeding. Am going to replace them this time I think. May treat myself to Hot Milk feeders as well, though £ is tight this time round with only working PT.

spilt your boss sounds like a knob. He should be grateful to you for taking your maternity scan time like that as you are entitled to having that time off paid! Management often seem remarkably unaware of their legal responsibilities to do with pg, ML and returning to work. My boss still thinks that nurseries will let you 'swap' days in the week without charging you any extra, meaning he can demand that I work days I don't usually work. Haven't told him about this little one yet. Waiting for it to be obvious!

Hurrah! to having bumps to show off! (also to having lovely flat tummies still).

Me23 - have appointment with midwife on 10/08 but no scan booked yet
Spilt I agree with Jeffily your boss does sound like a knob!!!
B very exciting having scan - glad all is going well.

split i agree too he's a knob!! I see some of you are starting to feel a bit better??? Sooo glad for you!! My day went from bad to worse really my m/s seems to be getting worse and lasting longer every day feel sorry for kids as its not their fault i feel so poo!! still am paid to look after them so i will try to do fun things they just have to be by a toilet!!!I have dating scan 24/08 so now i have that date will organize the oscar scan for after that ( well dont want to pay £200 if the worst has happened can find out for free the day before on NHS!!)

Thanks

He's not always quite this bad, but does have a history of knobbishness & periodic sulking/foul moods. Very annoying.

split would you like us to pop over and sort your boss out for you? I'm pretty nifty with the old chinese burn technique...

jeffily ok ok as long as you slackers can prove you're not jsut lazing in the sunshine and eating ice lollies I'll be nice

I am feeling ok today too, a very faint nausea which is enough to mean i dont panic screaming "the symptoms have gone! the symptoms have gone!" but faint enough that i have been able to eat and get on with life happily!

I bought a dress for the wedding we have at the end of summer, a floaty number with "room to grow"- reminds me of my mum buying me school uniform! I've had to relearn how to dress for my new shape, i no longer have my much prided waistline! all the dresses i loved were cinched little numbers and there was no way on earth i could get into them in a months time
It is quite exciting to think there will be a bump to dress soon! That is much easier to deal with than the current flabby look of my midriff!!!

7+5 today, totally with you girls who want the time to fly to 12 weeks...every morning i drive past the hospital and think "argh come on 23 aug i want to drive IN IN IN!"

have a lovely day girls, keep feeling better

Ahhh coral our scan date is the same then... I am 23rd too 10.30am.

split i read somewhere that apparently violent crimes committed by pregnant women are treated very leniently due their hormonal condition. A quick kick in the knees and a stern sort it out is in order.

madas i have terrible veins and when you are pregnant they are supposed to be more prominent. I have had copious amounts taken from my hands and the sides of my wrists and my feet were even looked at once (thankfully only looked at). And they never want to admit defeat.

BUB - yay for scan.

Hello to everyone.

Right

You know how you get REALLY tired when you're pregnant?
I mean, SERIOUSLY tired?

Well I was last night. Comatose.

Unfortunately I dreamed I was sitting on the toilet, started to do a little wee, then realised something was amiss. Like, the actual toilet. DH is so proud.

Hello everyone!

gemma glad you had a nice weekend. Let us know how it goes with the tablets!

waterplate yes I'm sure the constant worry is normal! Have fun in somerset!

coral I never did any exercise before and not about to start now! just the thought of it makes me feel sick.

camper I have been very good and not eaten any forbidden foods, maybe cos it's my first and I'm paranoid that something will go wrong if I look at a slice of brie!

on the underwired bras front, I have found that the underwires are really uncomfortable now so have had to stop wearing them (wires that is, not bras!) I now only have 3 bras I can wear though and 2 of those are sports bras.

harriet it's far too early to be worrying about the birth just yet.

snapdragon maternity clothes already!! gosh. although I am kind of wondering how long I can hold out til, am wearing my biggest clothes now!

mixed and seven and everyone else - sympathies with your sickness
I know what you mean about getting outside, I am still at sodding work but going round opening all the windows!

I was also sick for the first time last night, it was horrible.

welcome to pushmepullyou! and congrats! how did you get your viability scan? did you go private? or did they do it cos of previous probs?

madas how exciting to have had your mw appt! I have mine on friday. I also have hopeless veins so dreading if they have to take blood!

spilt sorry to hear about your boss. what an arse!

BUnder exciting about your scan! again can you tell me how you got this scan?
I am jealous of people having scans already!

hello to everyone else!

Roll on week 12...

superpenguin - I'm having a viability scan on Thursday - privately. I don't think I'd be able to get one on the NHS - my GP knows I've been TTC for 7 years and am desperately worried about this one and didn't even suggest anything like a scan. i don't even have an appointment with the midwife until about 11 weeks, so private was the only way to get the reassurance I am after.

shitforbrains i came so close to doing that last night!!!! woke up thinking, hmmm was i dreaming about peeing? and then realised that i had and was v.close to wetting muyself! thankfully i woke up just in time, especially as we just took delivery of our new bed and DH would have been v.upset to see it covered in pee. haha

superpenguin i had an early scan after a touch of bleeding, but for about £100 you can get them privately. I would have done so had i not gone in last week...way too impatient and it is reassuring to see it is a viable pregnancy despite it looking like a shrimp with a heartbeat...can you maybe look at something like that near you? I bet i could find it for less than £100 if i wasn't googling central london clinics.
Sorry you got sick last night, it really is horrid isn't it.

mixedmama how will we ever survive til the 23rd? normally i'd suggest passing the next few weeks in a drunken haze but not even that is an option anymore!

Hi everyone, looks like more people getting their dating scans come through now its exciting!!

shitforbrains thats hysterical

superpenguin i just phoned local epac and told them i had had previous m/c and they let me have a viablilty scan at 8 weeks.

waterplate you are down my end of the woods enjoy the horrible farmers accent

has anyone had no m/s with first pg then bad m/s with consequent ones??? just wondering if could be different sex of baby meaning more sickness or just old wives tales?? would be interested to hear your opinions!

touch wood, fingers crossed, in a shushed voice nausea seems to faded a little today, maybe cos i wasn't up at 6am and had lie in til 7am!!

hope you all have good days and no too long spent worshipping the white god or feeling like you may need to any time soon xx

Morning everyone.

BUnder how lovely to see that scan! Glad somebody else is in maternity gear and not just me! Took the kids to nursery this morning and the ladies there were aghast at how suddenly a bump has appeared!

Coraltoes dressing a bump is lovely! There are some gorgeous maternity clothes now.

SFB Oh yes - I know that tired feeling. All previous parameters of exhaustion have been redrawn. Sorry but I nearly wet my pants reading that you dreamt you were on the loo. I have done that...

Spilt pregnancy seems to be just a big inconvenience to some bosses, never mind the life changing thing it is for us. I'll get in line to bash him. Was going to tell my boss yesterday morning after my night shift, as he was on the early. Guess what - he was late. Thought he started at 9am not 7.30, so my colleagues sent me home, bless them. Guess I'll have to tell him next weekend - though the way I'm expanding, I rather think he'll guess...

Sickness still ongoing, but random. Keep going mad for some food, then going off it really quickly. The biggest problem for me is the sheer exhaustion right now and managing a 3 year old and a 2 year old who have boundless energy. By 7pm I am ready for bed myself and poor DH is probably feeling a bit neglected. He keeps getting a bit amourous and I can't bear it! Roll on 2nd trimester and I might get some energy back!

All those desperate to get their scans - it is lovely to have an early one and be reassured, but they are worth waiting for. There'll be far more to see, which is so exciting.

sam it does seem every pregnancy can be very different. Some people will swear that really bad sickness is one gender or another. For me, I had hyperemesis with #1 and got a girl, not so bad with #2 and got a boy. If I was a betting woman, I'd say this was a girl.

My sickness has always been bad so I guess that must mean another boy for us. I might change my name to Peggy Mitchell.

Was craving chips last night, proper chip shop chips. MIL sent me some chick pea curry instead.... that went straight in the white God I am afraid. Found a chip shop in West End today for lunch, but no onion vinegar. AHhhh! I wanted the onion vinegar as much as the chips. And the fishcakes were homemade (which of course is normally great) but today I wanted birdseye crap fishcakes. This now means I will be buying fishcake and chips from the chip shop on the way home too. Am I going to be 2 stone heavier.. Errrm yes!

About the maternity clothes. All of my clothes are tight and my linen trousers are the only thing I feel comfy in. I am wearing a dress today that makes me look about 6 months pregnant.

Talking of weddings I have my BIL wedding in OCtober but my dilemma is huge as DH family are Asian and oh the palavas for Asian clothes is not even funny. Have finally conceded and told my SILs to go shopping without me and I will shop nearer the time. I am going to have to wear a sari i know it.

Today is another constantly sick day - yesterday was great so who knows what is going on.

oh and SFB I nearly did that whilst being sick today.

sfb haha that is so funny! I've been needing to get up about 3 times during night/early morning for a wee, but then I was like that already

waterplate enjoy your break I love somerset dp is from there, we are going to move there eventually, though I've been in london all my life I do prefer the greenery these days.

feel a little nauseous today but nothing cmpared to what you lot are suffering. In my first pregnancy I didn't get bad ms either.

Are any of the 2nd time mums going to go to antenatal classes. I really dont need to considering next year I would have been qualifying as a mw and I tend to run them as a student midwife but this is dps first baby and I want to involve him as much as possible and make it special for him.

Hello everyone

Welcome to all the newbies and congratulations to all those who have had their scans.

Sorry Coral for rubbing your nose in it re school holidays, I do appreciate we are lucky with the timing - promise I won't mention it again. But I like jeffily will certainly not be hiding in bed all day - with two energetic boys to entertain and a pile of schoolwork (I am hoping if I ignore it, it will go away) to do.

I am 7+2 today - have been feeling rough for last few days. Keep having mad cravings for certain food so I go and buy some, have a few bites and then completly go off it. I have also completly gone off tea and coffee - this happened with my previous pregnancies -and am struggling to find an alternative.
I brought some breakfast juice today and have been drinking that diluted with a bit of cold water which is lovely and refreshing.

I had appointment with GP on Friday - and he has referred me to midwife who will see me for booking in at around 10-11 weeks.

Regarding the forbidden food thing - my GP said avoid soft cheese, pate and alcohol, but other than that eat as you would normally. This being my third I am much more laid back this time and almost had a slice of Brie a few days ago but it actually says on the back of the pack that expectant mothers should avoid it, so I put it back. Although, I've heard that they don't warn against eating soft cheese etc in France.

Anyway, hope you all have a nice (not to rough) evening and those who are feeling better continue to do so x

howdy polka i was just jesting. I'm just enormously jealous and in your shoes would be lying on the sofa watching dvds and making the most of not having to do anything!
as for nibbles- have you tried pretzels?? they worked wonders for me!

right hometime at last. have a lovely evening all!

shitforbrains !

Well apart from greeting the porcelain god this morning, I have been pretty much fine today. It is bliss.

Thank you for all your kind offers of assaulting my boss but hopefully it won't be necessary! I looked up all our manual handling assessments today, highlighted the bits about pg workers and gave my boss a big prod & passed him all the info. He was going to phone Occ Health to get them to talk him through what he needs to do. So tomorrow I shall nag and see if he has made that call yet.

coral at least the wedding is after your scan so you can tell people why you aren't drinking rather than have them beat it out of you

snapdragon what a pain that you couldn't tell your boss today. It's horrible to get your nerve up ready to have the awkward conversation and then have to do it again another time.

mixedmama I went through the chip shop chips thing last week too. Sick as I felt, they went down wonderfully.

What's people's thoughts on antenatal classes for a first timer? Is it worth shelling out the £180 for the NCT, or are the NHS ones fine? I could do with finding some RL mummy friends...

hiya, ok if i join yas? found out about 2 wks ago im expecting number 4. due around the 24th march. finding early pg a nightmare with 3 children lol.

Welcome snot! I'm not surprised you're finding it hellish. I have found it hellish and it's my first pg! Hope you have a supportive partner.

How old are your other children?