December 2010 - Time to stop feeling sick. Please

[RaceyLacey]

Stats thread

sorry, should read "is NOW 30+"! I sincerely wish it was NOT 30+

Jeez, all this talk of fat is making my really hungry. Or should I say ?

Afternoon everyone,
Thanks so much for the good wishes for brother. My bro had a christening for his twins & a birthday party for his 4 year old at the weekend so the whole family, godparents, friends etc were all gathered together and it was lovely.

Now he has checked into hospital ready for the chemo to begin tomorrow. So it was an emotional weekend of joy - seeing the family, telling them the news - and anxiety about the risks of the bone marrow transplant process.

But overall, the joy outweighed the anxiety because we are all hoping that he will be cured and next summer all the family can gather with no dark clouds on the horizon.

As for me, I am still mega-relieved about the scan, and being able officially to tell people (though still waiting for combined bloods score). Desperate to be officially, publicly pregnant, I reached a point of not being able to bear wearing my summer clothes anymore because they are either cutting me in half at the waist, or they are my size 16 clothes from when I was much bigger - which I was about to chuck when I got pg.

So on Saturday I spent a happy hour in Blooming Marvellous and H&M Maternity and Primark and have got some stuff to wear and it is SUCH A FLIPPING RELIEF! Especially as in normal summer clothes I'm back to 16 but pregnancy clothes I am a 12 or 14. And I also got more bras -pretty, properly fitted Bravissimo underwired ones in 38DD. Much more comfortable than the ugly 36D's John Lewis witches forced me to buy.

At 13 weeks according to the books I probably shouldn't be in maternity wear as a first timer but my poor bloated tum and swollen DD knockers need to be comfortable so pffffffffffffff to all the 'experts' who say you don't show until you're 4-5 months.

Who else is in maternity wear yet?

Miffster so glad to hear that your brother's treatment is begining. I really hope that things go well for him and for you.

We are going to tell people (who don't already know) about the pregnancy tonight, even though the blood tests aren't due back until Friday. I feel like the Scan part of the Nuchal test has gone well and if we do get a high risk from the bloods we'll just have to face it and get on with it.

We had our NHS 12 week scan today and they measured the baby as 13 +5 which has freaked me out a bit as on Friday at the Nuchal it was only 12 +4! At the Hospital today they measured the skull but the Nuchal people just measured the baby's length. I am a bit because I am so sure of my dates, this being an IVF baby but they have put my due date forward by 4 days as they decided to date it from the date of my last period! it's all a bit confusing really.

Can't believe how long it took at the scan, loads of bloods taken and waiting around. At least my boss knew why I was going to be away and it was all above board! I had been told by my midwife that I might have to see a consultant but the hospital say as I am fit and healthy I can continue with midwife led care.

MIffster, glad your family have had a good weekend and again, sending best wishes to your brother, hopefully this will be a new start for him.

Thanks everyone, still feeling a bit rubbish, but DP is doing his best to reassure me and telling me that it's just an automatic thing that a computer does when the numbers 3 & 0 are inputted into it toigether, and that the consultant won't be silly and will see that I'm clearly not obese!

Glad all the scans are going wel and everyone waiting for them still, it won't be long.

DH has always managed to make me feel better about high BMIs by pointing out that BMI is mathematically flawed because it's dimensionally inconsistent - by using the square of your height, it assumes that you are two dimensional. No-one is flat! (If you are, then you have an entirely different set of problems!) And of course, pregnant ladies are generally even less flat given that we have busts and bumps.

Kilograms per square metre is a good way to specify the weight of flooring, but not of humans.

In other words, don't pay any attention to it. Visuals are definitely a better clue.

Japhrimel good news re scan Anyone else got their scans after the surge on the 14/15th? Mine is on the 22nd - another 2 weeks tomorrow, seems like forever.

Was considering eating prunes - not sure I like them - do like figs though. I slept in the spare room last night as I was trumping like anything , but was good to get it out of the system!

Miffster all the best for your brotehr tomorrow. Bah to the experts - if you need to be in mat clothes then so be it. Comfort, esp when it can be so hot is more important.

am at you being made to cons led care racey i have it for a variety of reasons, but not heard about for a bmi of 30. hope it gets resolved for you.

miffster glad your db's treatment has started. fingers x'd for you all.

df i had my early scan at spire that dated me at 6+2 which was EXACT for my dates (charting, limited intercourse etc) then my nhs dating scan put me 6 days forward. it means i would of conceived before we had sex i'm sure when i go for the nuchal it will put my dates back again. tbh, im happy to go with the nhs date as i have a real fear of going over and being refused an induction.

11+5 today and my symptoms have kicked in with avengance. really sick, boobs are on fire and so tired i feel like crying.

the big name debate has started here already. not going well. dp and i have polar opposite tastes in names its going to be a looong few days.

on a brighter note i worked out today i have 200 days until my edd. seems like nothing. except, that means there are only 200 days until christmas

well hello

shit day.

really shit

not going into it

any hoo, have decided in a baby name - if its a boy (which i think it will be).

Who asked about maternity wear yes I am!! Nice comfy blooming marvelous jeans - yay and long tops and leggings - I am 14+5 with number 2...

DD is currently pollishing the furniture she loves it

she slept between 5 and 6 so no early night for me

racey I am shocked!! I am a size 12 on top and 14 on bottom now (after losing 3 stone, I was a size 20 after DS) and if they tried to refer me due to BMI I would flip! I was 15st 9lb when fell with DS and am now down to 13st 2lb, they didnt refer me first time! I would have been a size 16 ish and theystill didnt refer me...so god knows why they would refer you! The looks you get are horrendous though, don't take it to heart, I would kill to be a size 8/10! The looks I got re my BMI are part of what spurred me on to lose the weight, I though I'm not letting some snooty midwife look at me like that again!!

miffster glad your brother has a good weekend to distract him! Fingers crossed for the transplant.

Mumatron, it's funny because I have real fear of having to have an induction!

RaceyLacey I have the same problem. I'm short but have quite an athletic build so my weight and BMI always put me as overweight. This is despite cycling 13 miles a day to work on top of acrobatic training and yoga several times a week (obviously not at the moment!), as well as having eating an almost vegan diet. Medical professionals generally laugh when they work out my BMI and tell me I'm living proof of what nonsense it can be.

I had my booking in appointment today and have also been referred to a consultant but because of my funny shaped uterus. I didn't think it was that big a deal - just that the baby was more likely to be breach that usual - but apparently it means that I'm classed as 'high risk'. Sadly this means I'm very unlikely to get my home birth

They made a bit of a mess of my arms taking the bloods but were ever so lovely about it. Unfortunately I had a student midwife, so she wasn't very good and so I have three bruises and three little round plasters. At least they were nice though and understanding about me being a bit squeamish.

Despite being some sort of crazy peeing machine for the last few weeks - once I was called upon to provide a sample my bladder actually had the cheek to refuse me! Bloody typical

Hello all

I've just become an Aunt 4 weeks early! I'm not sure whether to hope this is a sign of things to come for me or not. My sister and her new little girl are both well, but she damn well chose a name that was on my shortlist - Dulcie. She's so cute though I'll have to forgive her.

I only wish I could trump . It's all stored up inside and it's not coming out either end. I think it's the main reason for my bump. I am 14 +1 today, and into my maternity jeans very happily. And thank goodness I told work last week, because people are starting to notice.

Good luck for your brother tomorrow Miffster

Is anyone else peeing constantly? I have been throughout pregnancy so far but last night was the first night I have woken up to go to the toilet 3 times! not liking this, as I'm exhausted anyway!

Is it true that when my bump pops out pressure will be relieved off my bladder? bloody hope so!

Hello all. Miffster that's great that you had such a lovely weekend with your family, and that your brother's treatment is about to start. You sound much more relaxed than last week, it must be great to have the scan over and done with.

And don't worry about what the books say about when you need to wear mat clothes. Everyone is different and I am certainly in mine now. Although I'm at that annoying stage where my normal clothes are uncomfortable and look ridiculous but I'm swimming in most of my maternity clothes. Thank God for jersey maxi dresses is all I can say.

Lavitabella I am up most nights 2 or 3 times to pee. It really sucks - particularly if one of those times is at 5am, when it can be really difficult to get back to sleep again. I'm trying to remember from the first time whether it got better as the pregnancy went on - I think it must have done as we were in our old house then and the loo was downstairs - so I am sure I would remember if I'd had night time trips for 9 months!!

Racey I can't believe they referred you for BMI reasons when you're a size 8/10. How utterly ridiculous. Talk about not thinking outside the script.

Morning all, Racey, I'm sure they will see the error of their ways. I think I will be put down for consultant care due to weight and clotting issues, so am trying not to get my hopes up for a home birth.

Miffster glad you had a nice family weekend, really hope all goes well.
My Mum had cancer while I was pg with DS and although it was a very stressful time, she said looking forward to seeing my Baby helped her to stay positive, she was declared all clear the day I found out I was pregnant this time.

OWO hope you have a better day today, well done on picking a name so quickly. I think it's going to be a tough one this time round for us.

likethemapples congrats on being a Aunt. My BandSiL are trying for a baby and I am definately not going to discuss any names with her, at least I'll have first dibs!

Lavitabelle the peeing has a lull then goes mad again as you get bigger. DD is counting how much water we are using for her homework and she was too embarrassed to tally all the times I had used the loo yesterday!

SlightlyTired hooray for the maxi dress! I shall mostly be wearing them this summer, rain or shine!

On the subject of clothing does anyone know if I can get a maternity waterproof? I need one for festivals and camping and at the moment thing I'll have to make do with either one so big it's tentlike or one that won't fasten for long.
Going to the doctors today about sickness, scan tomorrow, hooray!

Hmm, I haven't come across one in my extensive internet travels, notso. I think you may have to wear the giant man sized parka...or one of those travel poncho things that look like giant condoms.

Miffster - I'm in maternity clothes too and its my first. I've decided to ignore all that nonsense. I've gained less than the guideline 1st trimester weight gain so it's just bump, not extra podge so phooey to everyone who says I shouldn't really be showing yet.

TheChangeSpiral - if the only thing that makes you high risk is the increased chance of a breech baby, can you talk to the consultant about possibly supporting a homebirth if you're not breech when you go into labour?

notso - have you tried eBay for a maternity jacket? There were some coats in the winter collections, but none I've seen in the summer collections (like it never rains in the summer here!), but there may be some on eBay.

notso I've been looking for a festival waterproof too and have come to the conclusion that a giant poncho might be the best option.

I really want this one but sadly I suspect it might not quite do the job:
cgi.ebay.co.uk/YAY-LADYBIRD-WATERPROOF-FESTIVAL-CAPE-RAIN-PONCHO-S-/180515124509?cmd=ViewItem&pt=Gir lsClothing&hash=item2a078a351d

Morning all - I am going to try and get on here a bit more often and try and be sociable. Don't really know you all yet but would like to! Had first scan at wk 12 (will be wk 14 on Friday), everything ok, referred to consultant because of my CFS (currently not as well with it as I normally am so i have a few concerns about managing to go all the way thro a normal labour as I did last time!)
change jobs next week which I am looking forward to as new job will be quieter I hope, still waiting for my employer to find us housing in new area so DH and DD will be staying here at present and I will have a weekly commute from South coast to N London - bit of a pain and will really miss them. also means transfering care mid way thro' pregnancy which is always a pain!
Racey - I wouldn't worry too much about BMI as others have said - I'm in medical world and many are sceptical of it's use!
ST - I have lost my cooking mojo much to my Dh disappointment - mainly because I can't eat any of it, my taste buds have gone doolally and last night managed a few slices of bacon for my dinner!? Hoping it may come back soon!
Keep well and hope MS is going for most by now!!

japhrimel Thanks - that's what I'm going to try for. As far as I can tell if the baby isn't breech then there's no problem with it. I hope I get an understanding consultant!

Apples (I still read your name as mapples ) re the prunes and digestive problems (about a page ago but people chat so much!!) If you can't face prunes, try dried apricots. I've got the balance about right now and I can really tell if I miss a day without any but they've totally helped with the bloating and the feeling you have where actually you want to let out a trump for about an hour just to relieve the pressure . (TMI alert - ate too many a couple of days last week - they're VERY effective at getting things moving through the system, IYKWIM )

I never thought about having to get a raincoat. I'm refusing to buy anything till I have the scan but will probably go a bit mental afterwards (if all goes well) so I'm already planning what I'm going to buy. The thing that annoys me is that 90% of maternity clothes seem to be in black or white, particularly work-wear. I don't wear either of those colours if I can help it as they don't suit my classic english colouring, and I don't see why I should look like a dog for the next six months (eek! eek!) even if that's what I feel like!

Already got my maxi dress for a ball and general summer gorgeousness. Though on a day like today I'd rather be curled up in my winter jammies on the sofa under a duvet. Still, at least the rain is good for the garden!

Hello! Have just had a good catchup on the past few days

Miffster thinking of you and really hope all goes super well for your brother.

Racey that is just crazy!! Can't believe they said you need a consultant for BMI. Sounds like a load of codswallop to me.

Had a busy weekend as had my inlaws staying with us. Hard work. My MIL is very tricky to please and I worked my butt off all weekend cooking etc...Then got stressed out because I thought I'd overdone it as went to the loo and had a small blood clot when I wiped (TMI sorry). Totally freaked out as thought I was having a MC. DH was just amazing and really calmed me down. All seems to be okay though- no bleeding since.

I am another one who has a scan on the 15th! Seems like it is a very busy week for scans next week. Will be very relieved to have the scan done and hopefully see healthy bubs and heartbeat. So looking forward to be able to tell friends although have a couple of friends who I know are trying so am trying to think of a sensitive way to share our news- any ideas??

11 weeks 3 days today!

Afternoon, just got back from the Doctors, he's given me another two weeks off, he was concerned I might be getting dehydrated and sternly said I really need to up my drinking.

Thanks slightly japhrimel and Spiral for the waterproof ideas, I think I may have to embrace the condom poncho although I do like the ladybird one!

Had a good old mooch around town to see what maternity stuff is on offer, it's pay day on Friday and I'll have hopefully had a lovely 12 weeks scan by then. I've seen some nice Red Herring stuff in Debenhams and a few bit's in Dorothy Perkins, will be trawling the web later for bras too.

MrsSnaplegs poor you having to leave your DH and DD, hope you enjoy your new job though.

Hey all.
Nightmare morning this morning! I found an answerphone message on my phone from yesterday afternoon that said "Hello Mrs C, this is one of the maternity team from the hospital can you ring me today before 5pm please, or first thing tomorrow, it's quite urgent". That was it. I had my nuchal fold scan and bloods last week and was told we would get a letter if all deemed ok but a call if otherwise. I was in a right state and couldn't ring until after 9pm (and after I'd dropped DS off). the "urgent" part had me thinking that it was perhaps not the DS results but they'd found something else, perhaps bubs lifethreatening etc.

Well... when i eventually got through I was told my bloods as well as seven other people's had been mislaid on the way to the other hospital that tests for DS (etc) and although now found they had been sat all weekend so were no good. As I'm 13+6wk today, its the last day to retake my tests. Well when she said thats what it was I burst into tears - and wailed "OMG I thought you'd rung to say something was seriously wrong!". Surely "MrsC, nothing to worry about but we need you ring us immediately to sort out an issue with your bloods that were taken.." would have been better?
I've had the bloods done again now but feel like Ive been through the wringer, not a good start to the morning really