December 2010 - Time to stop feeling sick. Please

[RaceyLacey]

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Thanks ladies for the moral support about boss - no, she's younger than I am, ( she's 35 I'm 39) and she's never been pg. The thing is, before she was my boss she was one of my closest friends.

I think she is sore and 'funny' about the pregnancy thing because she is not getting on with her DH at the mo, as he wants to start a family and she is scared, plus her younger sis is pg, which really made her flip out, and now I am as well, and it is making her quite angry. She and I are both the oldest sister in our families, she lost her mum in 2006, I lost mine in 2007 and I think that isn't helping either - I think the bereavement is affecting her decision to hold back on being a mum herself - and her younger sister's pregnancy felt like a shock and a betrayal

She is also fed up that she and I can't go for beers and bitching after work as usual and so in general she is not feeling very sympathetic to my pg woes ( she actually said las week, when I said I was tired 'well, it's all self-inflicted!'). I was

Our friendship is definitely under strain. Such a shame, I miss confiding in each other and keeping each other going at work but we feel like we are poles apart right now. All I can think about is pregnancy/babies/the future and that is the last thing she wants to discuss.

notso and spiral, I drink tonic water with ice and lemon and pretend it is G&T/V&T.

notso Ah that's what I reserve a special spicy tomato juice for - very convincing!

I'm possibly about to open a giant can of worms here but ... I haven't actually completely stopped drinking. I have been having the odd half pint of ale every 1-2 weeks and a glass of bubbly at a wedding last week. I'm going on the basis that the government advice to cut it out completely isn't scientifically based but because people were drinking more than recommended before. Seeing as I drink because I enjoy the taste, rather than to get drunk, and have no problem sticking to the medical advice I figured there's no harm in it. Any thought?

I thik that the odd drink is fine, though I haven't had anything other than a sip of champagne since about a month before I had the IVF.

I don't miss it but might have a bit of cider at Glastonbury Festival - not a whole pint but just a taster.

thechange personally, i dont drink because i have mc's so many times i do not want to do anything to risk it. but, i drank very moderatley with my 2 dc. a half every now and then is not going to hurt i dont think.

helllooooooooooooooo

Im 11+5 I think...

Sickness has gone, just cracking on with my work

how are we all? We've applied for our new house (DP is with estate agents now) muchas excited!!!!!

Hooray for sickness gone OWO you are an inspiration to us all! Roll on 11+5

Changespiral, I had a glass of wine on husband's May 7th birthday, and a small wine glass of bitter a week later (was hugely craving it). I think I will be drinking 1-2 glasses a week when I am into second trimester. But the taste is a bit funny at the moment.

If we're all confessing, I have been eating runny egg yolks about 4x a week.I can't stand hard boiled eggs. And I have had sushi once as well. 2 Pret rolls, with a bit of raw salmon in. I am pretty sure they pre-freeze the salmon, thus killing the nasties.

I mean Yo! Sushi not Pret.
I can't concentrate on anything. I have just made a really stupid mistake at work and snet a client a mad email ignoring everything we had just discussed on the phone.

miffster i know what you mean re work - I cant concentrate either. I have a deadline tonight at 12 and I didnt realise at all untill Friday, so have been working all weekend and its still not done!!!!

I've also eaten goats cheese and have a massive Roquefort craving today - I'm a bad mum already!

However, having just re-read this brilliant 2007 article by Zoe Williams I'm feeling a bit less guilty:
www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2007/mar/21/comment.health

Oooh, I'm so glad you're all talking about drinking. I had a beer yesterday at the football and my dh was HORRIFIED and made cat's bum mouth. I was trying to tell him it was only Carlsberg and tasted watered down anyway. I must say, I REALLY enjoyed it a lot.

I'm sure much more harm was done by the woman sitting right in front of me smoking revolting Gauloise every 15 minutes and holding the cigarette at shoulder height - she might as well have put it right in my mouth, not to mention her 4ish year old son's mouth as she was holding it RIGHT next to him . I didn't feel justified to complain really, as it is my choice to go out to a public place, but I did consider throwing up on her head

Eurgh even the faintest whiff of smoke makes me heave at the moment - so gross! Where's the puking smiley?

Yes smoke eeeuuurrgh. My DH is still smoking and when he comes in smelling of fags it makes me want to be sick. On him. I used to be 10 a day. I have explained that I have supersonic smell, and it makes me react like he has rolled in dog poo. But still he smokes.

AND he ordered a whole case of Virgin wine, really nice dry Chilean white, my favourite, and sat there and drank a whole bottle this weekend going, 'mmm, this is lovely. You'd love this. Mmm, yum.'

Not malicious. Just thoughtless.

I said, 'if I was visiting a pregnant friend, I wouldn't sit and drink a whole bottle of her favourite wine in front of her. If you were ill with stomach flu and couldn't stand the smell of smoke, or frying eggs, I wouldn't puff away and then sit right in front of you eating an omelette.'

'And this is YOUR baby I'm carrying, 24/7, for the best part of a year' I added.

He had the grace to look a bit mortified.

Smoking makes me feel really annoyed. My BIL is often at my house when I get home from work and I can smell it as soon as I come in. He seems to think that as long as he doesn't do it while I am there then it's ok, but I can still smell it long after he's gone!

Miffster & heading4home I think you should both tell your DPs that my DH has given up alcohol in support and only drinks when I do - should help with both situations!

One of our beer-monster friends looked terrified when we told him about that in front of his broody wife.

Hello all - I just introduced myself into thin air over on the old thread - till OWO kindly redirected me (thanks!). I'm just over 11 weeks with 2nd DC, and as I said over on the other page, I can really sympathise with those who have had bleeding recently. It sucks, big time. I had it over the weekend (second time this pregnancy) and had a scan this morning - everything appears to be OK and it was wonderful to see the little bub in there wriggling and turning. So hopefully this might offer some comfort to those who aren't sure what's going on. It is so stressful - personally I will be glad when the first trimester is over. Really didn't feel this anxious with the first...think I know too much now! And what's with the eating?! If this goes on I will be enormous by the time December arrives!!

DuelingFanjo That is outrageous! I think you are well within your rights to ask him not to smoke in your house regardless of whether you're pregnant or not.

I have had a word with my DH about it but I tend to be a bit passive aggressive and lock myself in the bedroom with all the windows open

Have told him that once the baby is here no one will be allowed to smoke in the house.

Hi slightlytired I'm managing to snack on fruit most of the time but seem to be eating Lion bars and twiglets on a daily basis!

DuellingFanjo, I definitely start with the intention of snacking only on fruit - but I've just wolfed down three cold sausages while standing at the fridge door. Good lord, no wonder I am showing earlier than last time! Where's the chubby smiley?

Oh, confessions. This is fun.

Mine are:

I have had a couple of runny eggs. mmmmm.. yummy
I had stilton on my steak last Saturday
I have been good about the no alcohol but that's because I am a girl who likes her beer/wine, and I wouldn't want just one. So, I'm sticking to no alcohol through the first trimester and then I'll have a glass here and there.

Oh, I took a really warm bath last weekend. It wasn't hot but it was nice and toasty.

Now, someone had to mention sushi. Oh how I love it. I might have to go get some of the cooked stuff.

Oh, and I had a strop to DH about drinking in front of me as soon as I knew I was pregnant. I stomped my feet in hormonal fashion and said I didn't care if he drank elsewhere but I thought it was pretty rubbish of him to come sit down for dinner with me and bring himself a beer when I couldn't have one.

He agreed, reluctantly.

Welcome SlightlyTired - your post made me hungry ;)

Personally I've read articles about drinking and it's worse in the first trimester as everything goes through the placenta to the baby, when all their organs are developing so it's really not a good idea. More and more research suggests that even small amounts are not good for the baby, hence why the advice changed. It may not be a hugely noticeable affect but can and does make difference, in say, intelligence, brain power, organs etc. Each to their own but I've suffered so many losses that it just isn't worth it for me.

I avoid everything I should in pregnancy and that must make me look like a right freak but I really just would blame myself totally if anything happened otherwise. Having had 6 losses I don't need any more reason to blame myself than I already have. I usually love a drink too! I don't eat the blue cheeses anyway but I do love runny eggs. Off the agenda for a while now hehe.

I'm not judging anyone by the way, people can make their own choices, just giving my opinion on what I choose.

Dueling how is he in your house when you're not there? Does he have a key? If so, I'd take it away and only let him in when you/dp are home, especially if he can't act responsibly. I detest the smell of smoke, I used to smoke when I was younger but I have no tolerence for it at all now. It's disgusting.