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The Continuing Adventures of the First Time Frolicker Graduates....

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Hermya321 · 01/05/2010 20:01

Right (plonks self down and breaks out the biscuit tin and tea bags), I've stuck the kettle on. Whose joining me?

ARRIVALS:

Fulhamgirl - EDD 30th May - DOB 9th Apr - Girl - Lily Ann - 4lb

CURRENT__GRADUATES:

Trying4Baby1 - BFP 21st Aug - 25th Apr - Girl
Kaystar - BFP 27th Aug - EDD?
Pepperonipizza - BFP 12th Sep - 24th May - Boy
Ladyemmalou83 - BFP 13th Oct - 23rd Jun - Girl - Erin Elizabeth
bluesnowfalcon - BFP 14th Oct - EDD?
DesperateHousewife21 - BFP 3rd Nov - EDD 18th Jul - Boy - Dylan
Spirael - BFP 7th Nov - EDD 25th Jul - Secret
Curlycasper - BFP 11th Nov - EDD 21st Jul - Girl
EmsieRo - BFP 16th Nov - EDD 20th Jul
vix206 - BFP 8th Dec - EDD 22nd Aug
HypotheticalMummy - BFP 9th Dec - EDD?
Ozziegirly - BFP 16th Dec - EDD 24th Aug
NovemberAli - BFP 24th Dec - EDD 2nd Sep
Eleanora - BFP 28th Dec - EDD 4th Sep
WhiteRoses - BFP 11th Jan - EDD 15th Sep - Boy
hamsterlover - BFP 11th Jan - EDD?
Hobnob - BFP 17th Jan - EDD 26th Sep
MadameG - BFP 17th Jan - EDD 16th Sep
pixiestix - BFP 18th Jan - EDD 24th Sep
ceebs05 - BFP 22nd Jan - EDD 29th Sep
addie81 - BFP 28th Jan - EDD 8th Oct
chancewouldbeafinething - BFP 1st Feb - EDD 11th Oct
WorrisomeHeart - BFP 29th Jan - EDD 12th Oct
Hermya321 - BFP 12th Feb - EDD 24th Oct
fudgecat - BFP 19th Feb ? EDD 28th Oct
Pidgin - BFP 27th Feb - EDD?
Honeymoo - BFP ? - EDD 1st Nov
YorkshireTeaDrinker - BFP 1st Mar - EDD 6th Nov
DrewsGirl - BFP 4th Mar - EDD?
bunnygirl80 - BFP 12th Mar - EDD 19th Nov
Mumnerves - BFP 1st Apr - EDD 8th Dec
Spanishlady - BFP 3rd Apr - EDD?
luckyseven - BFP 8th Apr - EDD 17th Dec
Capricorn76 - BFP 12th Apr - EDD 1st Jan
Homebound - BFP 30th Apr - EDD 8th Jan

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aly323
Ariesgirl
Bellaby
calligraphy82
Calyx
CaveMum
chalky3
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claireinthecommunity
Dinkytinky
evilgiraffe
FelicityFlick
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Kaloki
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Hermya321 · 10/07/2010 18:13

Spireal Wow, thanks for the tips!! I hope I'm up to as much as you after delivery.

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bunnygirl80 · 11/07/2010 09:32

spirael you seem to have given birth to the perfect baby

worrisome I think I shared some of the gossip about my neighbours ages ago when I was still on the TTC thread. They're actually quite nice people, the guy just smoked about 6 joints a day while sat out in their garden. And they had "friends" round on Saturday nights.....poor DH has woken up on more than one occasion and happened to hear their late night antics

And as for not being like Ramsay St - Susan and Karl Kennedy have that box of toys she gets out when he's been a good boy.

chance ooh you're packing!! When's the big move?

Saw my flab rolls bump move yesterday while i was lying in the bath. I was every bit as freaked out by it as I expected to be! I'm sure I'll get used to it eventually though

pixiestix · 11/07/2010 14:33

Spirael, you are seriously my new hero!!
[sings Wonder Woman theme tune]

pixiestix · 11/07/2010 16:56

Was noseying around the boards and saw this posted by DesperateHousewife so thought I would pass it on!
"Dylan James was born at 8:57am on 9th July weighing 7lb 2"
The Frolicker babies are coming thick and fast now!

pixiestix · 11/07/2010 16:58

... Guess that means you are up next Ozzie

WorrisomeHeart · 11/07/2010 17:40

Yayyy! Congrats to DesperateHousewive!!

Hobnob76 · 11/07/2010 22:50

Hey lovely ladies! Long time no speak, so sorry!

I've now finished school for the summer! And my mat leave officially starts on 6th Sept, so no more work for me for a long time! I'm 29 weeks now, I was ready to finish as I was tired, but the end of term is tiring pregnant or not.

We went for a 4D scan last week, and it confirmed that we are indeed going to be parents to a little girlie! The detail was incredible, if a little spooky. I have to say I still don't quite believe that that tiny perfect little girl has been made by Hubby and I and I'm actually cooking her!

Congrats to all those that have had their babies in my absence!

Fudgecat I've been thinking of you.

Spirael · 12/07/2010 11:11

Morning all! Many congratulations to DesperateHousewife!! We're in the same antenatal chat so I've seen the birth story there. Glad things went well!

Woo, another girl for the frolickers, Hobnob! Having got one myself now, I can say they're lovely. ... Though I suspect boys are just as lovely.

Things are still going well here. Miranda has developed the strangest feeding pattern ever, though. She starts off in the morning feeding every couple of hours on both sides, which is pretty much as you'd expect.

Then during the day the feed demands get closer and closer together, she's pretty much glued to me from mid-afternoon onwards, until at bedtime she starts refusing the breasts because she's managed to completely empty them! So we've ended up giving her a teeny amount of formula, only 1 fl oz or so, and then she drops off to sleep for... Eight hours!!

Are newborns meant to sleep through the night?? Not that I'm complaining, of course!

I've managed to sneakily express some milk this morning during the slow period, so hopefully tonight I can smuggle her expressed breast milk instead of formula. Shh, don't tell her and she may not notice.

I don't think I've discovered anything particularly tip-worthy over the last few days... Will post again if anything turns up.

seablue · 12/07/2010 17:55

spirael - you are a wonder! So good to hear a voice from the Other Side, especially a cheerful one full of good advice! And what an amazing birth story. Keep up the good work!

aly - your more work or less stress dilemma is really tricky. I'd probably go for more work if you're trying to deal with those hypos - there's nothing as bad as being in that sort of pressured position in front of lots of people if you start feeling wobbly. If you do take the calmer job with more work, perhaps you can make sure that your boss knows your limits? He sounds quite reasonable.

Just a quick one as at work. Am going to try to Go Out tonight for the third time in three months now I'm not feeling so rough (though still knackered), and just realised how much work I've got to get through before I can leave!

love to all

pixiestix · 12/07/2010 17:59

ARRIVALS:

Fulhamgirl - EDD 30th May - DOB 9th Apr - Girl - Lily Ann - 4lb
Trying4Baby1 - EDD 25th Apr - DOB 6th May - Girl - Emily - 10lb 2.5oz
Pepperonipizza -EDD 24th May - DOB 28th May -Boy
CurlyCasper - EDD 21st July - DOB 24th June - Girl
Spirael - EDD 25th Jul - DOB 7th July - Girl - Miranda Jane - 8lb 3oz
DesperateHousewife21 - EDD 18th July - DOB 9th July - Boy - Dylan James

CURRENT__GRADUATES:

Ozziegirly - BFP 16th Dec - EDD 24th Aug - Boy
Sazziej - BFP? - EDD 1st Sep - Girl - Evie
NovemberAli - BFP 24th Dec - EDD 2nd Sep - Surprise
WhiteRoses - BFP 11th Jan - EDD 15th Sep - Boy
Hobnob - BFP 17th Jan - EDD 26th Sep - Girl
pixiestix - BFP 18th Jan - EDD 24th Sep - Surprise
addie81 - BFP 28th Jan - EDD 7th Oct - Girl
chancewouldbeafinething - BFP 1st Feb - EDD 10/10/10 - Boy
WorrisomeHeart - BFP 29th Jan - EDD 12th Oct - Boy!
Hermya321 - BFP 12th Feb - EDD 24th Oct - Boy
fudgecat - BFP 19th Feb ? EDD 28th Oct
Pidgin - BFP 27th Feb - EDD?
YorkshireTeaDrinker - BFP 1st Mar - EDD 6th Nov
bunnygirl80 - BFP 12th Mar - EDD 19th Nov-Boy
Mumnerves - BFP 1st Apr - EDD 8th Dec
luckyseven - BFP 8th Apr - EDD 17th Dec
Capricorn76 - BFP 12th Apr - EDD 1st Jan
Homebound - BFP 30th Apr - EDD 8th Jan
Seablue - BFP? - EDD 10th Jan
Oneof8 - BFP 18th May - EDD 17th Jan
Aly323 - BFP? - EDD 31st Jan
saltyair - BFP 18th June - EDD ?
muser - BFP 22nd June - EDD 27 Feb
superpenguin - BFP 1st July - EDD 7th March

Just a bit of a list tidy-up and then I'll try and do a catch up. November I think you are having a surprise like me, but do correct me if I've got it wrong!

WorrisomeHeart · 12/07/2010 18:18

spireal it is just so lovely to hear your day to day life with Miranda! Good luck with the commando expressed feeding!

Spent the afternoon with a friend and her 2 week old - was very surreal thinking that in 3 months(ish) I'll be the one with the newborn - argh! Can you tell I'm getting slightly freaked! I think all of a sudden I've (metaphorically) turned a corner and am now on the downhill slope. I can't wait until the LO arrives, but at the same time I can't think how I can possibly do this! Please, lovely Frolickers, calm me down and talk me some sense!!

pixiestix · 12/07/2010 18:29

Spirael, thanks for all the fab tips and for finding the time to post to us in the midst of that feeding frenzy! Its so good to hear what life is like with a Frolicker baby - our other grads seem to have disappeared off the face of the earth as soon as LO put in an appearance! So selfish of them...
Mindy sounds like an absolute star. As Bunny said, the perfect baby! None of us are going to live up to you two, you know!

Hob - I'm so jealous of you finishing work already! I only have another three weeks to go but it is draaaaaaaaagging so slowly.
I loved your description of your little girl, it made me all emotional.

Fudgecat - Hoping the weekly scan went well today and Splodge is getting chunkier. How much more does s/he have to put on before the doctors see you as hitting viability?

Seablue - glad you are feeling better, hope you have fun tonight.

Bunny - now as interesting as it was to hear about your crazy neighbours, I did NOT need to know that about Karl and Susan Kennedy's box of toys! Wash your mouth out young lady!
I quite like watching my twitchy bump, although I don't know how I will feel when I start making out elbows and knees poking about. At the moment my belly is just jumping around - very entertaining!

Chance - when are you off? Are you completely bricking it or really excited at this stage? We are moving in August and I am wildly veering between excitement and sheer panic at how much still needs to be done.

Worrisome - if you are getting a walk-in freezer then I am coming round to your house immediately! We could have a Frolicker party in it, it would be amazing! Ugh, this heat is awful, isn't it. Its the first summer ever that I have been continuously cursing the sunshine and praying for a downpour!

Sorry I have been a bit quieter than usual. I have been having some "ishoos" in RL and DH has practically banned me from MN! (He is out tonight so I am sneaking on!) Don't know whats the matter with me, but I have been having really bad panic attacks and convincing myself that the LO is going to die in utero, leaving me completely helpless to do anything to save it It got so bad the other night I ended up in hospital freaking out and they had to put me on a monitor to convince me everything was still ok. I have no symptoms to indicate anything is wrong, I just get these overwhelming feelings of terror And its not been helped by far too much MNing and reading all the sad stories of things that have gone wrong for people. A lady on the August thread has just lost her little daughter and its so sad it just breaks my heart.
I'm seeing the midwife on Friday and hoping she will tell me I'm not a complete freak and will feel better soon. And it feels so selfish to talk like this when people like Fudge have real problems to face, and are so strong in the face of it all. Sorry.

So apart from my selfish panickyness everything is ok in the Pixie household, and LO is bouncing away between my bladder and my stomach Ten and a half weeks to go until D-Day!

pixiestix · 12/07/2010 18:34

Cross-posted with Worrisome. Well, as you can see from my post I am not the best person to advise you on freaking out/ calming down!

Shall we have a big glass of wine?

WorrisomeHeart · 12/07/2010 18:52

pixie Am with you with the vat of wine (make mine virtual ) Soo sorry to hear you've been having a rough time of it too. I think it's a third trimester thing - all of a sudden the baby is moving much much more and becomes a little personality - so much so that you can't bear the thought of anything going wrong. And that's not to say that's not the case in the other trimesters, I think it's just the proximity to the birth that crystallises all those feelings - or at least that's the case for me. Am not making much sense, but hopefully you get my drift! And completely agree with the feeling awful feeling like this when Fudge and others are being so strong in the face of such tough times.

[WH gives self virtual shake] Right, am going to stop stresing now and make some dinner. Hope you guys are all having an ok evening

pixiestix · 12/07/2010 19:11

I think you have hit the nail on the head there with the Third Trimester thing - in the other trimesters I was thinking how awful it was that LO had been cooking all that time and yet nothing could be done if something went wrong. Now I am thinking that if something goes wrong there is still some hope, if it was diagnosed in time, if I got to the hospital in time, if I went into early labour rather than it happening silently within me. If, if, if - its all driving me a bit mad!

(My wine is virtual too - I am being very good, except for about six uncooked prawns the other night that I just couldn't resist!)

fudgecat · 12/07/2010 20:35

Hi all

spirael you are incredible Are you sure you are a genuine first time frolicker? I have my suspicions that you secretly have 86 children already Keep the tips coming!!

bunnygirl lol at your neighbours. I?m very jealous at your mention of having a bath, since my waters went I have only been able to have showers and I so miss having a nice soak.

Congratulations to desperate

You got any ideas on names for your little girl hobnob?

seablue have a good night out tonight I think I have forgotten what going out is now!!!

pixiestix so sorry to hear you have been having a stressful time, make sure you have a proper chat to the midwife Friday as it may be that you have a touch of antenatal depression? I?m not that strong you know, have a bit of a wobble several times a day when it all gets on top of me. It?s a fine line between trying to keep positive and being realistic about the situation.

Went for my scan today and splodge has put on about 46 grams this week - still needs to put on at least another 224 grams for the doctors to change the status to ?viable?. Back again for another scan next Monday.

Thanks again for all of your support xxx

WorrisomeHeart · 12/07/2010 21:08

Fab news fudge, so pleased Splodge is hanging on in there - what a little fighter!

aly323 · 12/07/2010 23:24

Fudge, I think you're strong, and so is your little one. I'll be sending you constant wishes of weight gain over the next week.

Pixie and Worrisome, oh boy, DH is already going insane with my stressing out. I can only imagine how thrilled he'll be by it in the third trimester.

Seablue, good luck going out! Are you doing anything exciting? I'm happy to make it to the market nowadays. Actually, I've felt significantly better over the last few days. Hopefully we're both getting past the rough part and getting ready to bloom.

Had a scan today and was amazed to see that there was a tiny baby in there!! I think he was sleeping and he had his little hand next to his face, but he actually looks like a baby and his heart was so strong and easy to see. I cried. There's a baby in my belly!. I'm going back for my NT scan Thur. I can't wait to see little Arpie again- I think I'm in love!!!

bunnygirl80 · 13/07/2010 00:14

fudge I'm so pleased to hear that Splodge is still fighting away

I feel for you not being able to have baths...I always have a good long soak on a Saturday afternoon while DH is out playing rugby. I think I'd miss it if I was told I couldn't have one.

pixie sorry to hear you're feeling so panicky. Definitely tell your midwife how you've been feeling - she may be able to help you out

aly congrats on your scan. Good luck for the NT scan

spirael good to hear you and Mindy are still doing so well. 8 hours sleep a night You're making new parenthood sound remarkably easy!

COngrats to desperate housewife on the birth of Dylan

My best friend's due date is tomorrow. We both started TTC at the same time, and she got pg on the first cycle. It makes me feel glad it took me a bit longer to get pg in the end as there's no way we'd be ready for a baby now.

Ozziegirly · 13/07/2010 01:20

It's scary that I am now top of the list. Eeek!

pixie I do sympathise. Although I haven't been in full panic mode, I feel more scared now at something happening to Pip than I did in the first two trimesters. I was quite "what will be will be" at first, but now I feel these little movements, and we have a room full of baby things and have actually started talking about how we will bring him up, I just would be so devestated if anything happened.

It doesn't help that because of the Gest diabetes they keep mentioning monitoring foetal movements and "breakdown of the placenta" as if I wasn't worried enough! Mind you, I think it's a sign of things to come as I can't watch anything on the news about fathers and sons. We have sadly lost a few Australian soldiers in Afghanistan recently and I have to leave the room when there's anything wrong as I just can't bear the thought of anything ever happening to my boy.

Anyway, on happier news, congratulations to Desperatehousewife really wonderful news!

aly that's wonderful that your scan went well, I'm so pleased all is going to plan.

fudge I'm so pleased to hear that Splodge is continuing to put on weight - you've certainly got a fighter and I really hope all works out for you.

Spirael it sounds like things are going well for you. I'm no expert but I reckon just going with the flow with regards to feeding in the early days sounds good. And a bit of formula top up is fine - I bought some bottles at the weekend just in case and I'm certainly not going to feel guilty about topping up if it's necessary.

Plus 8 hours sleep! Wow! Even if it doesn't last, lovely to have the time to recover from the birth!

addie81 · 13/07/2010 10:26

Pixie I sympathise too. On Thursday I hit 28 weeks and my sister's best friend who a neonatal intensive care doctor says that at 28 weeks the prognosis is really quite good if she were to arrive early, but like you that just makes me worry that something might happen without me knowing it. The only advice I can give is NOT TO READ THE UPSETTING THREADS!!!! it will only make you feel worse, and you have no reason to think anything bad is going to happen to your baby. I keep away from them like the plague!

Spirael · 13/07/2010 11:02

Morning all!

It's normal to be worried about LO's arrival, WorrisomeHeart. I was more worried about having a child in my life than the process of giving birth! So far it's been wonderful though, Mindy has successfully wormed her way into my heart and now DH and I can't imagine how we were ever without her. I'm sure it'll be the same for you.

Even in the first week we've been able to go out and do things, and invite friends over for an afternoon/evening, so it's not like you suddenly change into a completely different person with a different life entirely! The main difference at the moment is that things take a bit more planning and timings need to be flexible around LO's stomach.

pixiestix it's also normal to get increasingly worried about the LO inside as pregnancy progresses. I was the same as Ozziegirly, trying to be really chilled out, but the closer it got to the end the more I was worrying over how long since I last felt movements and whether LO was ok. I found drinking lots of cold drinks and eating ice-cream was the best way to calm myself, as that inevitably got me booted in the ribcage!

Nope, this is definitely the first one for me, fudgecat. Though amusingly enough DH and I did have a conversation last night about having maybe a couple more, so pregnancy, labour and having a newborn evidently can't be putting us off that much.

I'm so glad to hear Splodge has gained weight. Splodge really is a little fighter! I'm keeping everything crossed that things keep going ok. Viability is improving all the time!

Well, my feeding plan almost worked yesterday, except DH accidentally threw out one of my expressed bottles...doh! Mindy went through both breasts, the other bottle of expressed milk and a further 1 fl oz of formula in the space of an hour last night. I'm not sure where she puts it!

She didn't sleep through entirely, but we only had one wake-up half way through for a feed/change, and two lots of 4 hours is still ok by me.

I'm starting to notice my hormone levels fluctuating a bit, finally. Nothing too bad so far, it's been kind of like the night before AF is due with emotions bouncing a little and wanting to cry over nothing?

The MW came over yesterday and gave Mindy her heel prick test and I found myself crying when Mindy did, upset that she was hurt, even though the logical side of my brain knew she was fine! I also felt upset that she'd lost 11% of her starting weight, even though that's not a problematic amount.

Most of the time I'm fine though. Just something to be aware of!

Got a new tip!

  • When breastfeeding, all the books say to switch sides once LO is done with one breast. However! In my case Mindy was stopping for a 5-10 min break after 10-15 mins sucking without entirely emptying the breast. I was dutifully switching back and forth, but what this meant is she's been getting more foremilk than hindmilk, which isn't as filling.

The MW yesterday realised this, so now I feed twice on the same side in a row, and it is helping Mindy go for longer between feeds in the day, Hopefully it'll also get her weight up better as hindmilk has more calories.

Muser · 13/07/2010 11:07

Yay for a growing Splodge fudgecat, I hope he continues to impress.

Hermya321 · 13/07/2010 19:57

Hello,

I've been for my twenty five week check today. Everything seems to be bang on track, I did end up in tears in the midwifes office though. I've been getting increasingly tired and uncomfy due to SPD, heartburn and other issues. My midwifes words were 'pregnancy doesn't suit you does it you poor thing' and asked if I could take my ML early. It is one thing to think about but we really really can't afford it. In all honesty I think the SPD will kick in before my ML in which I'll end up off of work anyway. I'm going to go see the Docs next week to see what can be done.

Other than that, I've managed to pick up a few bits and bobs of baby things this week. Got a cot matress, a swing and a bouncer very cheaply. Was very impressed with myself.

On the friend front, I did tell her that I was going to take a step back from being a bridesmaid and she was okish with it. But seems to be ignoring me now. I've text her a few times and I've had no replies. Part of me thinks that if she's being a bit childish, another part of me can see where she's coming from only that she's handling it in a bad way. Oh well, can't change it now.

On baby front, he is so so lazy. I mean he'll have a busy day and then he seems to have about four days where all he does is nudge me slightly. It's as if he'll remind me he's still alive and then go back to chilling out. Definately DH's son!

Fudge Sploge is doing well, still praying for you both.

Pixie If it makes you feel better, I have similar worries and I keep having to remind myself to calm down. It's not nice is it. I hope you're ok though.

Aly So pleased your scan went well!!

Hobnob So so jealous!!!

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Ozziegirly · 14/07/2010 01:11

Hermya sorry to hear that you're having a rough time. I know what you mean about ML too.

At my last appointment my Obs said how I should be exercising every day and making sure I move around enough as it will help the Gest Diabs and I said how I tried as much as I could, but I have an office job and her comment was "well, maybe you should just start your maternity leave". I'm not finishing for another 2 weeks as I don't get a salary once I stop, and so need to keep working plus it gives me another couple of paid holiday days!

I was kind of hoping she might sign me off sick as that doesn't seem to count towards maternity leave here, but I couldn't bring myself to suggest it, as I'm actually not sick.

And I wouldn't worry about your friend, I'm sure she's just busy with the wedding planning, but also, if she's going to be huffy about you then she's not much of a friend IMHO.....