July 2010: Still getting bigger, gone are the days when we had a figure

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July is getting closer and we're all still gabbing. Feel free to join in

Poor Gracie! What a nightmare!

Didn't have the best end to my holiday in France with my parents either - we had a minor car accident and although I was unhurt I went to hospital for monitoring and they ended up keeping me in overnight. My French deserted me and no one spoke any English, and though it was good to have a private room I had a lonely, bored and weepy evening.

Just been shopping for nappies, maternity pads, changing mat, muslins etc - very exciting! We also have the crib and a mattress so really the only essential thing we need now is the pushchair and car seat.

Gracie poor you! Saying that this story is verging on hysterical! ;)
Nothing as entertaining here, but I have a cat problem. We live on the 1st and second floor of a Victorian terraced house. My oriental constantly tries to get on the roof and last night he went out through the window, he did not get back until midday... I was sick worried. My poor neighbour said he went into their house and set off the alarm at 3.45am! Her husband and kids were away so understandably she was terrified. Not sure what to do...) Can't open the balcony doors or the little window on the flight of stairs now...
Pregnancywise I am 36 weeks nearly and the smallest walk makes me breathless now. I am like a true whale. Also don't sleep too well.

Ah also got really distressed as FIL and wife suggested they would come to visit at the hospital. They are not the type of PIL who would help in any way. Very much "children should be seen and not heard" old fashioned types. They live 2 and a half hours away in the train and require a lot of attention. So asking them to go after 30 minutes would be inappropriate and DH would have to look after them. Whereas I want him to look after DD and me of course! Not sure how I will be after the c-section. Am I being unreasonable?

LOL gracie what an ordeal! I have to be honest though and say that sounds so funny but obv for you at the time was prob horrendous!

I have had a less than amusing day, DP and I quickly checked the argos website to make sure the drawers were in stock before we went to get them, well Im really glad we did as they weren't! We have 2 stores near us and neither had them and I was really annoyed as I really wanted to do the nursery today, but next weekend we are seeing friends who live about 40 mins away and they have an argos near them and the drawers are in stock there so if they still have them next weekend we will go to that argos and do the nursery next weekend. grr still annoying though.

We did go and see DP's sister's new 8 week old beagle puppy though which made up for it as he is just too cute!

gracie poor you im sure the new gf understands though being a doctor she must see a few pregnant women who have had a hard day!
emster glad your ok after your night in hospital, must have felt very alien!
jojo couldnt your pil wait until you are at home to visit or could your dh explain that you will need his full attention
ive been panicing about people visiting when i have baby and ive said i dont want people there for ages dh is under strict instruction to tell people not to try and pick up baby if hes asleep and that half hour or hour tops for a visit is enough! we havent got a great deal of family who would visit (probably 6 visits) so not like we will have a queue, i just want our space when the time comes, i can be very rude and short when tired so im sure dh will tell people even though its not in his nature just to spare them my wrath!!!
i havent done anything today kitchen is a state but i dont care, feeling fed up with pregnancy today i really do just want it over with now walking about is taking ages my legs just dont like working for long anymore!!

You'd think so Memphis, but DH does not know how to say no and last pregnancy he explained "things" in a way that they were cross with me for a year or so... Step MIL is 81 and FIL is 78 and they are very difficult to explain things too... I guess I'll just try and say it myself...

jojo sounds like a difficult one, my fil is great and mil wont visit even though she lives 2 mins away for a week or 2 i reckon, her own daughter had a c section with her 2nd and had to find someone to look after her 1st while she was in there 5 days later her own mum hadnt even visited! how lonf do you think your pil would stay for? would it be for day or overnight... or longer?

Just a day. I called them and sorted it out... I said the a couple of weeks after c-section should be fine and we will talk when baby is born.. Phew!

Gosh I'd forgotten how knackering visits are - and people always arrive just as baby wants feeding don't they? I found having the moses basket up in the livingroom helped a bit, people could come and coo but not disturb baby - dh decided to invite everyone the weekend after dd was born I was totally shattered but it did mean everyone got their fix and left us alone for a while. I read in a magazine last week to not get dressed for a couple of weeks - theory being people see you in your jarmies, they make their own tea and clear off again, if you're dressed they expect you to make the tea and stay longer.

wonder i read that too, ive stocked up on tea bags today and ive sorted out all my pj sets that fit so i can be in matching ones when lo is born! im a bit ocd with germs since ive been pregnant so i hope i wont be telling people to use hand gel
jojo glad you sorted it out, it will be better for them after a couple of weeks too as baby will be more settled and just the day will be near bearable

I also read on MN that you should tell people they can't hold the baby til they've done something round the house sounds cheeky but I'm going to try it!
FIL wanted to come down while I was in labour to help MIL watch DD. I told him 'no dads' and he got all offended. What a tit! As if I want FIL anywhere near when I'm trying to get a baby out I don't really want MIL either but she lives 3 hours drive away as opposed to my lovely mum who's 6 hours away...grr!
This LO's transverse too, fingers crossed it turns, I'd do an awful lot to avoid a cs - I really really don't want another!!

Chulita is DD going to be in hospital too?

Or are you having a home birth? Sorry if I am being silly.
I can understand not wanting FIL around! Eeeek.

MyLifeIsChaotic-mmmmm bbq sounds lovely,I love lamb!
Gracie123-oops about leaking on your top, poor you. I never leaked with my two but noticed my pj top was wet on one side the other night- note to self must be extra careful wearing white!
Emster30- oh no, are you/baby ok?

Have had a busy day today, went to car boot this morning.managed to get a hospital bag-one of those trolley cases on wheels, very chuffed brand new for £8! lovely, one less thing to get!
midday went off with MIL and her chap down to the beach, ds's flew their kite and generally got sandy and muddy! was really blowing a gale on the beach but was nice to be out in the freash air and it didnt rain despite the forecast.

ds's back to school and nursery tommorrow so plan to have a few hours kip if I need it whilst their gone, dont feel like Ive had much of a restful weekend!

Sorry gracie you had me in stiches! Poor poor you i really hope one day you'll be able to look back and laugh! It was just one thing after another.

emster sounds like a horrible night in hospital- i would have been in pieces.

jojo sorry not got any advice on the cat- was it just a one off with the neighbour?

Thanks for all the chat on visitors after the birth! not something i am too prepared for! i have a feeling our house will be like a train station for a while but with people who already know where my kettle is who won't be offended if we ask them to leave!!! can't think of anyone who would be its a good plan to stock up on tea bags etc now tho.

I went to primark today and got a couple of pairs of PJs- really loose and comfy! the tops are loose with buttons down front so should be good for BF- certainly beats the price of the special BF tops you can buy- these ones were only £3 each! the bottoms are huge but so nice to wear either under or over bump- they also have drawstring so will be good after birth too

Also got some veet bikini kit, gonna try myself as i really can't face the pain of waxing right now and things are getting way out of control!!!

So glad its been cooler here today- thought i was going to melt away yesterday!

glaston in my post that disappeared yesterday, I had said that my niece has had some really great success with the CAMHs team here- she was visiting me today and was like a different child (not too different, still with character but was calmer than i've seen her, ever!) Really hope you have some success with them too Sounds like a great day at the beach - i love windy sea air, clears my head completely

Yes it was the first time - but I am sure it woud happen more if I opened the back window...
Anyone else wakes up in the middle of the night? I have been up since 2am...

jojo I'm not planning on having DD in the hospital too but I want to try and labour at home for as long as possible. With DD it went on for 6 days so I couldn't stand the idea of FIL sat there the whole time!

DD is still asleep for all their assurances to the contrary, the MMR has really kicked her ass - poor little girly. She's all rashy/itchy and sad and it's 2 weeks on...

emster sounds horrible being alone in a foreign hospital, glad you're back now!

I still need to get a rocker for the lo, which one did you get mlic?

I went for Primark nighties too becky, I hate Primark's ethics but everywhere else was too expensive for pj's I'm just going to bleed all over...I can't believe the prices in there, so cheap!

jojo feel your pain about inlaws. Mine are divorced and we are already having tension about who gets to look after DS whilst DH and I are in hospital. Anyone consider my parents might want to be involved? Or that DS might want to stay with his cousins?

TBH FiL lives furthest away and is most likely to overstay, and as I'm having a section and will probably be in hospital for a few days I am pushing for him to come then That way he can visit LO at the hospital during visiting hours and hopefully be gone by the time I come home.

Unfortunately MiL has already booked tickets for her and DS to go to the theatre that week for Peppa Pigs birthday party, so just hoping that it doesn't coincide, because he won't be happy about sharing 'his' time with DS when he has travelled up to stay with us.

Looking back I suppose the leaking incident was funny to read (if it had been about someone else) was hard to see the funny side at the time.

HI ladies,
gracie It was the way that you wrote it - it sounded very funny for anyone else but not for you obviously! Think we can all relate to it.
Interesting about the visitors issue as I have been thinking about this myself as a first timer.
My parents live four hours away and I'm very close to them and they were planning on coming down when lo is born but not staying with us as we need our own space but I think I should tell them they should come a day or two after to give us some even more space so we can enjoy first few days without anyone there.
What do you think? I think they want to dash down as I go into labour but this is a bit crazy really....
Don't think inlaws will be problem. they live 45 mins away but never see them.
emster my lo was tranverse at 32 weeks and is now head down at nearly 36 although she has very long legs so they way are off to the right side - don't think they would fit anywhere else. I sit on a birthing ball all day which has helped with moving her I think.
Sorry to hear about your hospital experience.
anifers well done on getting your dream job during pregnancy. I was offered a really great job at a paper in first trimester and then for various political reasons it all fell through. I would have been gutted normally but because I am pregnant I didn't mind so much and instead have worked hard on building my freelance business up from home, which is ideal as I can go back to whenever I want. It's fab your dh can look after lo for three months.
My feet are like elephant feet at the moment but other aches and pains have eased and I have lots more energy which I think is because of the iron tablets i'm now taking.

My friend has just found out hes having a little girl which is what he was hoping for so hes very happy!

Been to see my friend this morning, now Im home and having a quiet afternoon on the sofa

Got a text from the hospital this morning reminding me of my scan appt at 10:40

I'd never heard anything about it, so I rang to check and turns out I'm supposed to be having a scan every two weeks because of baby size! I had no idea!!!

Anyway, good job I went, turns out my blood pressure has been increasing slowly and this week it suddenly rocketed, so they are concerned about pre-eclampsia. I don't know much about it, but it does mean they would consider a section at 36 weeks which is only 3 weeks away!!!! Very scary!!!

Anyone else had this before or been told something similar?