November 2010 - It's not fat, it's a baby!

[Lorelai]

Hi all. Thought I would get the new thread started before the old one got too full! Thanks to nomoremagnolia for the title

Oh thanks for the reminder about H&M ceasar04, will have to have a look next time I am in the city

4madboys how come you have to take a wee sample with you?
You should give it a wash when done, hand it back and ask for a refund haha

Welcome JFly glad to hear the scan went well

Hope everyone is enjoying the start of the weekend, I'm off to Cambs tomorrow to see my mum, havnt seen her since before I got a BFP so going to go pram window shopping with her x

I went and bought maturity clothes today, leggings and vety tops to wear under normal dresses and a lovely bra from mamas and papas, quick look at prams but dh wasnt playing.

evening all and welcome ceasar, Comtessa and JFly

I treated myself to M&S limited collection skinny maturity jeans - using up a credit note from a returned birthday gift (massive fluffy aqua dressing gown which transformed me into a cross between big bird and orville so was hastily returned). Everything else is just about still fitting although I think black work trousers will be the next purchase.

My next scan is booked for Tues 29th June. I was so delighted to see the last one I'm counting down the days . . .

Loving Fenouille's new phrase, "maturity clothes"...seems to have caught on ( clueless)

Me again haha
Swear I just felt afew more small pops near the bottom of my bump

Cant wait till DP can feel them , is anyones DP, DH not really showen much excitement or interest yet?
DP did not jump for joy when I told him I got a BFP he said he already knew and didnt say anything about the pops last night tho he was the one that said lets try for #2 and has only showen excitment by grinning like a madman after our first scan.
I'm hopeing he will show more interest later on and open up more as I did catch him the other night bunched up to me in bed and stroking my belly when he thought I was asleep, gah he needs to be abit more emo haha x

hi all well my mouths a bit better now thank goodness antibiotics seem to b working.I will have my baby in october as i have been induced between 5 weeks and 3 weeks early with my sons and they told me yesterday that i will b induced sometime in october.

Hi mumcha, glad to hear your mouth's feeling better, you must have been feeling rotten.

clueless, shoppingstar But is anyone actually feeling more mature?

Rinny my DH is not very expressive either but I keep catching him looking at my belly/bump and he gives it a rub most evenings too. I think it's really hard for them because even if you can feel things changing it's not very obvious from the outside. I do tell him every time I think I can feel the foetus moving though so he can feel a little more involved. And of course I share my hormonal mood swings with him fully too!

We also received some fabulous news last night. Our best friends, who have been trying to adopt for years, have just been told they've become virtual parents There's a little 13 month old boy waiting to meet them, and if all goes well they'll be bringing him home in October They're going to be amazing parents and we're over the moon for them. Ooh, I'm starting to feel all warm and fuzzy!

Morning all.

mumcha glad to hear you are feeling better now

fenouille what lovely news about your friends. They must be so excited.

So we broke the news of the twins last night to some close friends. They just laughed! TBH honest I am kind of expecting that reaction from most people as twins with two DCs already, ain't exactly what some people would call ideal! Hell, its not what we would have planned either so I am not upset with the stunned looks of horror that we get. My boss had the best reation "I want to say congratualtions, but all I can think is Fucking Hell!!" LOL!

I have just got out my maturity clothes that I only put away 12 months ago. I have had to put on one of the tops as I am definately showing now, even at 12 weeks.

ceasar04 - sorry to assume it was your first. Very sorry for you. Hope you've got plenty of support, and I'm glad the drugs are working!

My nice neighbour dropped off a load of maturity clothes the other day, including a couple of Isabella Oliver bits. Ooh, get me. I've got loads now, but I can't get that excited about them. I find the pregnant-me extremely unattractive. I just feel...functional.

My DH is very excited about the baby - but then he has to have fertility treatment for a year-and-a-half to get me up the duff each time, so he probably feels more involved than most.

Is anyone else hoping to find out the baby's gender at their anomaly scan? We're going to. We did last time, and it all felt much more real afterwards. DS was named before he came out.

Have a lovely Saturday.

HLH at your boss - he/she sounds hysterical.

Booboobedoo, yes, we'll be finding out the sex at the scan. I don't have strong feelings either way but my dh is very firm about how much he wants to know. He's convinced it's a girl and thinks he will need a couple of weeks to readjust if it turns out we are expecting a boy! It's even rubbed off on me so that I now refer to bump as 'she'. It's probably a sad indictment of my cultural indoctrination but I just can't refer to the baby in a gender-neutral way.

My only worry is that they won't be able to tell and then we'll have to fork out for a private scan...

To those who will find out - will you also tell? I know someone who knows but doesn't want to say. No way in hell that I have that much self-control!

We plan to find out the baby's sex at next scan and I think we will just tell - I think it would be really hard to avoid letting slip and lots of people have already asked me if I found out at 14 week scan so can't imagine that will lessen as i get more pregnant.

Does anyone else have horrible greasy, lumpy skin on their face since becoming pregnant? My forehead looks and feels awful

afternoon ladies

JFLY we were on dec2008 babies thread together, when i had ds4!! great to see you on here and glad your scan was ok

my scan is monday morning and i am getting nervous but still feeling pukey so hopefully all is well.

re the urine sample i have to see a midwife and a consultant when i have my scan, just as i have had big babies, they want to see me and the letter said i MUST take a urine sample with me! so best do as i am told.

previously i got my sample pots from the midwife, but i when i booked in she forgot to give me one and havent seen midwife since, i next see here at 16wks.

on a note, this feeling sick and pickiness with what i can and cant eat has meant i have lost over half a stone, i noticed that my jeans were loose and tried on some that had been too tight and they fit fine!! so woohoo i can wear those for afew weeks until i start to get a bump, no bump at all yet, but i was the same with my other pregnancies.

FENOUILLE that is fantastic news about your friends! i bet you are so chuffed for them xx

right i best go, dp is a bit about me being on the pc, tho he is sat watching formula one and listening to the football on the radio......

I'm not finding out this time. Last time I did and it was cool - I had my heart set on having a boy so was quite good to have time to get excited about a girl!

This time though I really want a surprise, and have plenty of neutral stuff so if it's a boy will have fun shopping after he's born. Got romantic visions of dh saying 'it's a ...' when they are born

Hello to all the new people

re finding out the sex, with the first three we had it as a suprise each time and that was lovely with ds4 there was a lot of pressure for a girl anyway dp and i found out, BUT we kept it a secret, just between ourselves! it was nice actually, that just we knew, we thought it may help us choose a name...... but ds4 was nameless for two weeks, as we couldnt decide on a name!

so this time i am really not sure, again, i know once family know i am preg, there will be the 'oh i hope its a girl' comments, the boys are the only grandchildren on both sides of the family. i like the idea of a suprise, but part of me is desperate to know. also i wonder if it will be nice for my boys to know whether they are getting a baby brother or sister? they dont know i am preg yet, but we have talked about us 'maybe' having another baby, they are very keen but the middle two have expressed a preference for a sister! we shall see i guess, have a while to decide.

also if i was to find out and it was a girl i 'may' be inundated with girly clothes, i HATE pink and am not a girly person, so i think i would find that a bit much. its a difficult decision to make actually!

Hello everyone, and welcome to the new mums

I am v tempted to find out the sex at the 20 week scan, but I think DH would prefer a surprise, so I will go along with that. I think a surprise would be nice actually - it's just that if it were up to me I know I would find out as I am terrible at waiting!!! We'll see though - still undecided really!

Evening everyone

Fenouille glad to hear I am not alone in the DP/DH lack of interest of things. Once again when he thought I was asleep I found him rubbing bump and even putting abit of firm hand on it low down, think he was trying to see if he could feel anything bless him
Oh and congrats to your friends also

Booboobedoo I will be for sure finding out the sex if baby will play right, I will be 20 and half weeks so fingers crossed, DP is fine and MIL said she does not mind just my mum who said not to tell her, she want a surprise this time.

I have felt alot more lil pops in bump today so think baby is on the move letting me know its here, I just hope all goes well tho I still have worries which I dont think will carm anyless till the next scan

Booboobedoo I think we'll be finding out the sex. DH is keen to know, and I know if elect not to find out I'll spend the rest of the pregnancy wishing I had!

Fenouille That's such fantastic news about your friends

Rinnyx It's so sweet that your DH is rubbing your bump when he thinks you're asleep. My DH didn't show a huge amount of interest in my pg (except for my ever expanding boobs) until after the first scan. Even now he gets a bit bored if I go on about it 24/7. I doubt it will seem real to him until the baby is actually here

kawaiiko we've been referring to the baby as he - I don't have any strong feelings that it is a boy, I just don't ike referring to my unborn child as "it".

HLH your boss's comment made me laugh.

shoppingstar my skin has been awful. I've got spots all over my chin and I've got a really itchy rash on my ankles which is now making an appearance on my forehead.

Thanks for all the good wishes to our friends. We went over to celebrate with them yesterday evening and it's so nice that we'll be going through this big life change altogether

On the less good news front I managed to get (lightly) scratched by their cat I'm now freaking out about toxoplasmosis, and having just read up on congenital toxo I'm freaking out even more I'm such an idiot. It'll be 3 weeks before I know if I've caught it (it's a hot spot for it around here) so I'll have to try not to think about it until we get back from holiday.

We're not intending to find out the sex of the baby. DH would quite like to, but doesn't have that strong a view on it, but I definitely want it to be a surprise. That said, apparently here it's standard to find out so friends who didn't want to know have been told anyway by the Sonographer I think I'll have to tattoo "Don't tell me!" on my forehead!

I'm off on business for a week tonight and then hols for 3 weeks to see friends and relatives, so lots more people to tell in the next few weeks. Just hope this toxo thing doesn't cause any problems to the foetus... Speak to you all when we get back.

Have put on maternity maturity jeans . They are still a leeeetttle big but so much more comfy. We are about to go for a big Sunday lunch so maybe I'll need the extra room.

I can't decide if we should find out what we are having. We didn't with either of our DSs and the surprise is lovely. We had no strong feelings for a boy or a girl and I had not a jot of an inkling with either pregnancy either. But with this one, I don't know. I would quite like 2 more boys, or a boy and a girl. Two girls scares the life out of me! I don't really know why.

fenouille have a lovely hol, and I'm sure the cat thing will be fine. Hopefully the hol will take your mind off it.

4madboys hope the scan goes well tomorrow. If you don't have a container, you could always do what I did once for a MW appointment and couldn't find one - a contact lens case!!

hope you are all having nice relaxing Sundays!

Thanks HLH I'm going to try. LOL about the girls though. You just know how bad we can be!

I think I'm definitely into getting-away-with-murder-because-I'm-pregnant territory. Just asked DH to make chilli for lunch and now he's finished I've just remembered we've got some chicken in the fridge that needs eating (and the chilli doesn't smell all that good any way). So I've asked him to make chicken fahitas and freeze the chilli and he agreed (without a word of complaint) I think he's trying make me feel better about the cat thing but still.

Hi everyone, have just got back from 2 hours up the local shopping centre waiting to get my hair done. Feel much better now it is!

As for finding out what the sex of the baby is, I think I will this time. Last time I decided not to as I thought the surprise would be nice but this time I would like to buy girl/boy things and decorate the room before the baby is born. My other half also wants to know the sex as this is his first and he is UBER excited!

Fenouille I know what you mean about getting away with murder, I just spent £60 having my hair styled and my other half didn't bat an eyelid, he said I deserve to be treated... Which I don't normally hear!

Hope everyone is having a great Sunday!!! x x x

I'm not getting away with anything Fenouille and harmony, can you please have a chat with my dh?! Everytime I say something along the lines of, 'oh, I'm feeling wiped out today', I get, 'yeh, I'm shattered too' or 'No change there then' type response .

Neighbours and other people I haven't told have started congratulating me on pregnancy now, so figure I must be showing quite a lot. I'll post a photo on my profile so we can all compare bump sizes!

hi everyone. i'm due 12th november. seem to be incapable of having a summer babby. oldest dd birthday is january, other is november too. i've got my next scan 24th June. cant decide whether i want to know if its a boy or girl. dp is desperate for a boy.

Was just coming on to ask if people were going to find out sex at 20wk scan! I really don't want to, but DH really does. Don't mind what we have and will enjoy the surprise on the day and DH telling me, but he wants to plan. I see some discussion looming over the next 6 weeks!

shoppingstar I am suffering from the same problem as you, all due to the hormones as around my jawline. Went for a facial a fortnight ago and switched to bare essentials mineral make up, high in zinc, which is helping. It is getting me down to be honest, but then try to think of bigger picture.

On a different note, my big sis gave birth on Friday. She woke up with back ache at 5:30am and baby was out with no pain relief at 8:43am, 28 minutes after they paid for hospital parking! Hoping that is a family trait...but unfortunately I remember her 26hour ordeal with number 1! Baby is 9lb 7, looking at her is making my eyes water - and not just with joy! Seems logistically impossible! Anyway, nice to have one for me to practise on as a first timer!