~~August 2010~~ tummies blooming into bumps

[CherryPie3]

5th thread come grab a bean bag, theres a cake table in the corner (feel free to help yourselves)

I love that we're having a boy but know at least 2 of my friends were disappointed when they had boys so a couple of our mutual friends seem to have been trying to cheer me up when I told them it was a boy. I don't need it! Anyway I think sisters should have big brothers Only thing is I
a bit unsure of cleaning boy bits but assume I will work it out along with everything else!

GYP - did not see that episode - how bizarre. I presume it was a fairly easy birht then!!! Being nosy I just looked for the thread you were refering too . Gosh's she's a stroppy mare in my view. Why post on MN just to tell people to mind their own business (effectively) and be so unhelpful!

I think if I could've chosen my 'order' of children I'd have liked a boy first so that there was an older brother. Was always jealous of friends with older brothers!

emster if you don't like the 'was it planned' question definitely do not have your second when your first is 1- people's absolutely first question..

aussie the lady in that episode went in and had terrible cramps, went to the loo 'passed something which didnt ease the pain' and then had the 2nd twin on the bed as the doctors successfully resucitated the 1st twin who was actually in the toilet bowl!

Thanks for looking at the thread I was referring to- she totally misunderstood what I was trying to say then got all arsey when I tried to explain/apologise and finally told me she wouldn't discuss stuff when I asked her for advice!! and and all at once!

Guess these subjects are emotive issues and she has some ishoos

Off for bath book and flake now- hoping it's just hormones as to why I've got myself upset over a random internet chat..

Do you ladies think IBU to buy this with my maternity grant?
I'd love it for my hospital bag but DH reckons it's overpriced...Animal? overpriced? surely not!

girlsyearapart Just wondering what on earth you're meant to do with a boy baby!! answers on a postcard..

I wondered that with my first...

Really the main trouble with boys that I have found so far (he's only 17 months) is that they have a penis...

Two practical differences - point the penis down in the nappy, so the wee doesn't come out of the top and wet the clothing, and cover it with a cloth during nappy changes (at least for the first few months.)

I was a bit shocked to discover it can get hard at ahem 3 weeks old probably earlier than that, I just hadn't noticed before. Then there came finding it during nappy changes... playing with it at every opportunity. I don't think that changes, just gets less public.

My DS managed to puke in one ear and pee in the other at the same time, one memorable change!

Otherwise, they seem to be pretty much not much different to girls, initially...

Hey girls struggling to stay awake tonight but just wanted to reassure you that boy bits are easy! You just need to make sure it points downwards INTO the nappy and prepare to be pissed on! The first time ds managed to wee on his own head we didn't know whether to laugh or cry. Lol!

gya - had to at that thread, some people get very touchy very quickly! And I've got an older sister and an older brother and my sister was more 'fun'. My 2 younger brothers are fantastic (I love my older brother, he just always has to compete with me and be 'right' even when he blatantly isn't!!)

Nice Chulita. Show your DH this link www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10001_10001_089010299760_-1?CMP=OTC-GOOGLEPS and he'll soon agree that the one you want is eminently reasonable

I showed him but he says the one I like looks like a dress his mum would wear Might have to work on him a bit more!
And LOL at puking and peeing in ears...the mind boggles!

Hmmm, Chuilta Can you tell him that your Mum has good taste and that as you're a pregnant lady you need to be indulged? Does he not understand that bags sometimes call to women, like a mermaid?

the mermaid metaphor worked but he's now using it to convince me that he 'needs' a £250 graphics card for the PC - maybe I'll tell him he can buy it when the government gives him £190 for being pregnant!

at cheeky DH. The argument only applies to bags, shoes, jewellery and cake - I have thoroughly looked into it

Hee hee! He shall have to bow to your superior knowledge then!
'Night all!

Hi ladies,
I havent had a chance to post on here for ages,but im really pleased to see the thread still going strong

I had my 20 wk scan yesturday and everything went well - we will be joining team surprise. We didnt find out the sex with either of our two girls, despite a bit of nagging on my part!

CazEm just wondering which uni u go to. Im in caerleon, in my final year of teaching prac. 6 more weeks to go and im done for the summer - cant wait!

morning all.

thanks for the boy advice! You watch me have a girl now and have been worrying about nothing..

dd1 up lots in the night last night and I kept thinking about that stupid thread- don't like it when I'm taken all wrong.

Off to get the dds feet measured today. The joy.

Morning all! I'm awake so incredibly early but I suppose that is because I was asleep early last night too!! Have had a lovely few days with DH but have decided that being pregnant and having 2 weeks off work just after finding out the sex of your baby is dangerous - looked at the bank last night and there is a shockingly low amount of money left to last us to the 28th! Ahhhh! I'm sure we'll get by, it'll be good practice for those last few months of maternity leave, but I've totally over shopped while being off, as well as "dates" with DH! Haha! Last indulgence today (a facial and pampering treat I'd booked weeks ago for my pregnant self!) and then no spending whatsoever! Empty the freezer of food time I think...

Laughing at all the "boy bits" wonderings. I had exactly the same thoughts before we found out we were having a girl!

tah2 - I'm doing my post-grad diploma in Special Education part time (with a view to joining final year of masters course part time eventually!) at Swansea MET. I applied to Caerleon when I originally went to uni but decided against it in the end because I wanted to leave home and ended up at Trinity in Carmarthen instead (I'm also a teacher)! I'm such a home bird though and was glad to move back home at the end of 3 years! I'm at Swansea for 3 days in a school term now, most of it is independent study. I'm handing in my last assignment before baby is born then deferring for 2 years, rejoining the course at the same point when it reruns with a new group to complete modules 5 and 6 and then transfer (hopefully) to the Masters bit. Do you live in Newport then?

morning all - grrr dratted insomnia been awake all night, job is pretty stressful and been keeping me awake so.....i've called in sick today. Naughty but rarely do it and feel so dog tired i think there would be tears.....plus my commute Brighton - east London takes best part of 2 hours each way and have a drunken guy crush me last night on the tube, I feel defeated today

Anyway i'm delighted to hear all about the lovely scans and so happy to feel our LO do can-cans since last week, such a weird and wonderful feeling.

My question is - and be honest - how diligent are you at doing your pelvic floor muscles. I have to admit - I've been "slack" for want of a better word but I guess never too late to start?

LCR - I'm ashamed to admit I haven't even thought about pelvic floor yet... maybe its time to now you've bought it up though!! Sorry to hear your feeling poorly too, rest up today now.

There are some perks to being up so early I suppose, my kitchen is sparkly and spotless, including a washed floor.... deciding I might tackle the bathroom now before I get dressed!

I can see me avoiding uni work again today - which means I will be solidly doing it all weekend! Would you believe I used to be much better at getting down to work, I'm blaming the baby!

Forgot to say earlier lovely to hear about all the lovely scans too!

If I have anymore sympathetic looks when I say I am having another boy (3rd) I will KILL - I have even had a "never mind" and a "maybe next time!" - Grrrr, I am happy with what I have been given, and would have been either way.

DS1 was really ill when he was born so a healthy baby and a good birt is all I really wanted.

Bloody people - rant over

how annoying ishe. It's almost unbelievable the comments that people think are acceptable. I had lots of 'was it planned'. And then when we showed my FIL the scan photo he asked how we knew it was our baby cos they probably just give everyone the same photo and then he said it was really ugly !

Hellooo

ishe I completely understand where you're coming from!!
The comments I've been getting are slightly different being that I already have a girl and a boy - comments tend to follow like

"why are you having another? Do you expect it to be green?"

"will you have another to balance numbers out?"

"you're not keeping it are you? (was very at this one - had to walk away very quickly before I screamed, sobbed and scratched her eyes out.

"It's not very fair on the 2 you've got is it?"

And so on....

Marzi at your FIL's comments - what did your dh say?

CazEm kitchen and bathroom cleaned before 9am?? , seriously impressed!!

Chulita That bag is lush!!! You HAVE to have it!! It's not negotiable

Tah2 Nive to see you back here again a lovely to hear you're keeping well. Congrats on your scan - have updatyed the list for you.

LIST
20 July - Aussie #1, Nottingham, 35 20 weeks scan all good BOY
22 July - 4 Aug) Chulita #2: Dorset, 27. 20 week scan all good SURPRISE
25 July - Emster #1, Walthamstow, 29, 20 week scan all fine, SURPRISE
26 July - Rubetube #?
29 July - BouncingBlueberries #2 South London, 33 20 week scan all good SURPRISE
29 July - CherryPie3, #3, West Yorkshire, Age 25, 20wk scan fine. SURPRISE
31 July - Missus84, #1, Bristol. Age 26 - 20wk scan fine BOY
1 Aug - Nikalah, #1, Dorset. Age 35 20wk scan fine GIRL
2 Aug - Dibbydab, #1, Devon. Age 34 - 12 wk scan/nuchal fine. SURPRISE
3 Aug - carolondon #1 North London age 37, 20 wk scan fine. BOY
4 Aug - girlyearapart #3 kingston Hospital Age 30 - 12 wk scan fine. SURPRISE
4 Aug - kcoffin #3. SURPRISE
4 Aug - CarterM #1, Solihull, 36
4 Aug - FireOpal #1
4 Aug - AnnaAndBump, #1
5 Aug - Kanella, 1, Plymouth. Age 37- 20 week scan good SURPRISE
6 Aug - YummymummyKJulie, #1, NW London 12wk scan fine
7 Aug - NichyNoo, #1. Brussels. Age 29 - 20 wk scans fine BOY
7 Aug ? CazEm #1 Newport. Age 25 ? 20 wk scans fine - GIRL
7 Aug - Weehector #1, Largs. Age 36. 20 week scans fine. BOY
8 Aug ? ElusiveMoose #2 Kent 33 20wk scan fine BOY
8 Aug - driedapricots #2 surrey. aged 34 - 12 week scan fine
9 Aug ? Alice #2 Suffolk age 25 20wk scan fine BOY
9 Aug - possiblenewmum #1, Guildford, age 31 - 20wk scan fine - GIRL
9 Aug - thecoffeelady #2, Fleet, Hants, age 32 20 wk scan fine SURPRISE
10 Aug - SassaB #? SURPRISE
10 Aug ? SayAnything #1, Brussels, age 33 ? 20wk scans fine BOY
10 Aug - Ruky786, #? age 32
11 Aug ? MommyDoylee #2, Colchester, age 23, 12wk scan fine
12 Aug - bluecheesefiend #1, 15wk scan fine SURPRISE
12 Aug - tunise, #4, Suffolk, age 31. 20wk scan GIRL
13 Aug ? Neenz #3 Liverpool (32) - 12wk scan fine, 20wk scan fine SURPRISE
13 Aug - augustsun, #2, South London, 34
13 Aug ? babyisaac, #2, North Yorkshire 35
14 Aug - LCRLCR #1, Brighton, age 34, SURPRISE
14 Aug ? babyducky #2, Brighton, age 24, 12 week scan fine. SURPRISE 20wk scan fine
15 Aug - Plant #2 Kent
15 Aug ? LizzieA #1 Wirral, 33, scan ok BOY
16 Aug - Tah2 #3, South Wales. SURPRISE
16 Aug ? cakeywakey, #2, age 32, 20wk scan fine GIRL
16 Aug - Vix206 #1, Leicester, 31, 20 wk scan fine BOY
17 Aug ? Lovesaruby #3 Essex, age 32
17 Aug - Doodleydoo #2 Kent still just 34...
18 Aug ? Isheisnthe #3 Camberley, FPH, Age 33
19 Aug - marzipananimal #1, York, age 23 - 20wk scan fine SURPRISE
19 Aug ? Bubbabear #?, Reading/Berks
21 Aug - loobyt #2, age 34, Devon, 12 week scan fine,
22 Aug ? Cosmosis #1, West Yorks, Age 35, 12 week scan fine.
24 Aug - growningbump2, #2, age 25, Dunfermline, SURPRISE
24 Aug - Hattieboomboom, #?, age 32, South London, SURPRISE
24 Aug - HelenaCC #1, Manchester, age 31, SURPRISE
24 Aug ? JaysFourth #4, age 38, GIRL
24 Aug ? LeeKerry #3 Edinburgh Age 31
25 Aug - Sam86 #2 Liverpool, GIRL
25 Aug ? aendr #2, Huntingdonshire, 33
25 Aug - Soontobefatnat #1 SE London Age 30 12 week scan fine
25 Aug - Joey30, #1, Halifax - West Yorkshire, age 30. 12 wk scan fine
26 Aug - pamplem0usse, age 25, #1, Herts 12 week scan/nuchal fine SURPRISE
26 Aug ? drcaroline #2, age 32, Hove, 12 week scan/nuchal fine
27 Aug - Jamiki #3
29 Aug - starshaker #2 & 3 Ayrshire Age 29 12 week scan fine
29 Aug - LilyPad72 #1, age 37, Berkshire, 12wk scan/nuchal fine.
29 Aug - Hildainstant #1, Sunderland, age 30
29 Aug ? FoxyJBro #3, Shropshire, age 30, 12 week scan/nuchal fine SURPRISE
30 Aug - Sparkle #1, age 31 12 week scan/nuchal fine - SURPRISE
31 Aug ? vitapulchra, #4, Guernsey, 32, 12-wk scan fine
1 Sept - mrsZaC, #1, Glasgow, 26
8 Sept ? ronx, #2, NW London, 37 12-wk scan fine

To be honest I just want to tell them to F**k off - but then they will think its because I AM bothered, not because they are pissing me off if you see what I mean.

cherry well we pointed out that you see the pictures being taken on the screen but that was it really, dh doesn't like arguing with his dad, and to be fair he didn't mean it nastily - that's just what he's like (though I think it's a totally idiotic thing to say to a pregnant woman!)

Hi all

Am laughing at the talk of what to do with boys bits I have the same fear...how to clean it and how to stop it waving around and sprinkling pee everywhere during nappy changes

Thanks for the advice on the car seats...need to do some reseach before we go to the UK next month to buy pram, car seat etc. (all so much cheaper in the UK than in Belgium so well worth the journey).

And congrats on all the scans and to those of you who have reached the 24 week mark....I've got another 9 days to go until I'm 24 weeks!!

Can I ask another question please? The mention of tummy measuring during midwife appointments made me think. I've not had my tummy measured yet and nor have I had an internal exam either.

My mum rekconed she had lots of internal exams during pregnancy as they needed to find out position of cervix etc. Now, I do not particularly want an internal exam but wondered if you guys had any or whether I need to ask my doctor??

Thanks ladies and have a good day

Ok I've definately got the cleaning and tidying bug today! I did a thorough bathroom clean (again including washing the floor!)... Going to have a general tidy around now and then take advantage of this lovely weather and get some washing out on the line!

NichyNoo - that makes it another 9 days for me too! Woohoo! I haven't seen MW sine 15 weeks but have had no measuring or internals, I wasn't expecting any internals either tbh... haven't even heard babys heartbeat yet, only seen it on screens, absolutley desperate... Next appointment is the 27th April, I assume I'll be measured and finally get to hear heartbeat if haven't already on a machine thingy I've borrowed by then!

marzi - your FIL sounds ever so simular to mine. Even after 4 years I still don't know how to take him and he often upsets me with insensitive remarks, my DH like yours doesn't like the challenge his Dad and doesn't think he ever means to upset me. Our latest todo was me being told my degree was meaningless and worthless in todays financial climate and that we should get it out of our heads that we would ever be able to afford to send Belle to uni... maybe its cuz I'm hormonal and pregnant but its the first time I stood up for myself ever with him, told him how dare he belittle all my hard work etc to get the career I wanted, and that if Belle wants to go to uni we would send her and support her and would in no way make her feel like we could'nt afford for her to go!! And told him to leave me alone as its none of his business and why was he having a go at me over something that is almost 20 years away?!?!

Think DH was surprised by me, but talk about the straw that broke the camels back... I'd already had weeks of him telling me what I could and couldn't afford to buy for my baby and why were we spending so much on this and that! grrr he pisses me off, keep your nose out innit! Haha! Its probably his attitude which held my DH back for so long, with can't afford this and that. DH will himself admit he had no ambition till he met me, which is a shame because he has a brilliant mind - much cleverer (sp?) than me. Nevermind, he is doing really well now and finally using his talents! Ok thats my rant over, always gets me heated when I think about FIL! I try not to see him very often! Haha!

Cherry - master of lists, you'll have to make another one post-births with all the babies actually days of birth not due dates!

ooo super long post, better get on with the house work! x x

thanks caz it's comforting to know that I'm not the only one with FIL trouble! i'm jealous of my friends who get on really well with their ILs. Well done for standing up to him - I wish we could but he usually says things to dh when I'm not there so we can't back each other up and dh hates confrontation. He told dh that he was embarassed to tell people what I do (at the time I was 'only' doing volutary work, not 'proper' paid work) and he has been really critical of our decision making. Grrr. It's hard to be so closely related to someone you find really difficult!