'3rd trimester bits and pieces, post on here while our weight increases'

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Yet another new thread for the July gabbers!! Everyone welcome, feel free to come in, say hi and share in the chat.

memphis thats crazy about your friend being classed as an older mum! I suppose thats due to the under 18s having children.
Yeah Id much rather be a young mum that a binge drinker!

chulita aw thats good its nice to be happy
LOL I got something stuck under my 'D' key not long ago and was constantly missing that letter out of words and has to really jab it for it to work, got me really wound up after a while!

kk Yeah thats what I think we'll be young and fit and full of energy oooh..for all of 1 day! How do they assess the liklihood of getting PND, did they say?

dh i was always out at weekends til the weekend i found out i was expecting so i think i would have been a binge drinker until 7 months ago my friends were so shocked when i said i wanted a baby, they expected me to be a party aninmal all my life!
on the PND thing like kk i got told as i was feeling so low during early pregnancy i was at a higher risk of getting it once he's here but as long as i organise what i can organise b4 the birth and dont put too much pressure on myself once he's here then i should be ok, you sound like you have a supportive dp so that should be a big help!

Hi ladies

On the subject of being to young dh i don't think your too young, i was 19 when i had ds and i'll be honest its hard and i did get pnd but with family support and help from my health visitor i got through it.

I think its terrible they are pigeon holing you girls as being candidates for pnd just cos you have been down through pregnancy. They say there isn't a link between being down during pregnancy and pnd. By telling people they are more likely to get it could frighten you. Sorry rant over. I am higher risk as i have had it before but my family and partner are aware of it. Best thing i can suggest is take any help you can and if you feel down tell someone its nothing to be ashamed of and they can help. X

yeah stac it really gets me wound up too. i suppose cos i let things get to me i might be more suceptable to it...i dunno. but im not gonna let it come into my head if im able.my friend who had a baby last year had it bad enough and i spent quite a bit of time with her as i was worried for her so i've seen how it can make you so at least i can be aware of it if it does happen. think its something i need to sit dp down and talk about just to pre warn him just in case so he understands

good plan kk and remember we will all be online to help and listen. Try not to worry bout it, think thats my problem i'm a born worrier x

kk I keep waking up at 6am! total shocker for me as I like my sleep.
Try not to worry about possible pnd.

memphis is your due date july 9 then?
I don't know if my dh will notice my bigger belly but I sure am.

A random question - I'm trying to get things together for my hospital bag and am going to buy some pajamas in case I have to stay in for after the birth/possible c-section but I don't know what size to get.
Obviously I won't have the baby bump but will still be big. How much does your bump go down after the birth??
Shall I get a few sizes bigger than my normal size?

kapars Ive heard your tummy post-birth goes down to about the size it was when you were about 5 months preg.

stac i actually got diagnosed with prenatel depression at 14 weeks but i refuse to labelled with it i refused anti depressants as i didnt think it was needed to add drugs into the mix! i felt like screaming at them of course i feel down i had an ectopic twin, nearly lost LO nearly had to have my tube out while pregnant on top of everything else that was going on i wasnt going to feel all sunshine and light, my biggest problem was i was so down i felt even worse because i was worried LO would sense it, once i got to 20 weeks and found he was 100% healthy a cloud lifted but i still have bad days, i just went to buy some salad and got a nose bleed in the shop so that set me off crying, i personally dont like attention so once LO is born and he gets all the attention i will feel better
kk yes 9th july like you i just hope i go a little earler!

memphis you poor thing, i was diagnosed with prenatal too. More because we had fertility treatment to get here and i was convinced i would loose her. I'm also a control freak so as you know your least in control when pregnant so i was totally panicking luckily its calmed down. We'l be fine when lo's arrive as i say even if we do get pnd theres no point worrying bout it x

memphis that must have been so hard for you I had no idea you went through all that, I cant remember when we started this thread!
I have bad days too and I havent been through anything like that, I cried the other day cos the toothbrushes fell out of the cupboard in the bathroom

stac Im convinced now something bad is going to happen to LO, I keep reading things (I dont go looking I just come across them) about really late preg losses and I think that might be part of the reason Im feeling so down, I think Ill tell my mw next week when I see her cos I really dont think its normal the amount I worry about him.

Hello Everyone.

I'm due July 26th with my first. Hope you don't mind me jumping onto your thread and joining the throng.

I'm a kids TV producer, having a lovely, chilled and happy pregnancy, still not feeling too big, although getting out of the car elegantly has gone out the window.

We're having a 4D scan tomorrow - VERY excited about that one.

dh it is normal to worry and you'll never stop worrying about him, but if you feel its getting on top of you talk to your mw hun x

I hope i havent worried you by talking bout my pnd. X

welcome anifers! glad your breezing through the pregnancy so well!
memphis thats awful you poor thing. no wonder you were down.fwiw i think you were 100% right in not accepting the ad's.
stac i think its great that we are able to talk about things like pre natal and post natal depression. god forbid that any of us do get it, at least we know that there are others who understand us right on this thread and therefore we'l be willing to talk to each other at least.
dh i have to say im comin across a lot of things like that recently too. and with being so unwell today i keep getting shooting pains in my bump and then aches and i do be convinced something wrong but in the back of my head i know its all completely normal!
we just have to look onwards and upwards ladies as we'r all going to have a very happy ending and these pregnancy woes will be all soon behind us!

Chulita Yes i feel more pregnant, but not sure what that really means as this is my first, just not sure i should be waddling so badly and feeling so tired!

DH, stac and memphis I had IUI to get this baby after a VERY long 5 and a half year wait, so as u can imagine, i was very anxious right up till week 20ish, I still feel worried now about babys health, i will be 36 when LO arrives so very concerned about downs etc, i had my tests and all came back as low risk but theres still a chance...........I think i have just learned to shut it away in my head, but my mood swings are horrid and i really hate myself for it, a customer was really rude to me today and I told her to bugger off!! She was almost out the door and I said it fairly quietly but its still wrong coz other customers could have heard and as im the manager its not exactly the best example to set is it!!
DH the ladies at work keep buying those crappy magazines, like chat or take a break, and every time there is a rubbish story like that in them, i know i dont have to read them but i cant help it, i think we just gota remember there are thouseand of babies born and we hear about one or two bad things, its not the norm, its highly unusual and if we are being checked regularly and all is well thats what we have to think about, its very difficult though isnt it.
Welcome Anifersgirl How exciting about ur 4d scan, i was thinkng about having one, how far along are u? Tell us all about it when you get back, id like to see some pics if you get any good ones, glad ur happy and chilled, u need to add urself to the list, its here somewhere!
stac when do we have to move, at 1000?? coz we are not that far are we, ur like the keeper of the thread, hehe!!
I mentioned my under boob ache to the midwife and the consultant and they didnt seem to think it was anything to be worried about, the only way it goes is to lie down, which is ok as it usually comes in the evening, they said it was just streching, nice! Had my Anti D injection today, it was fine, stung a bit but was ok, glad thats over with though.
Right, DH is out for the night so im going to walk the dog, right up the the shop for choc and right past the chinese for chow mein!!! hehe.

Even 17mths on I worry all the time about losing DD. A lot more than I should, definitely but I can't help it. If she sleeps too long I have to check on her, if I'm carrying her down steep steps I'm terrified I'm going to drop her, I worry about her all the time but I'm pretty sure it's cos I love her to bits and I couldn't imagine life without her. It's the same with our LOs that we're cooking now, we're their mums and it's our job to worry!
Hello anifersgirl!
Thanks for sharing about PND stac, it's actually quite common and there's nothing to be ashamed of but you hardly ever hear about it. I'm glad you got through it and I hope none of us get it this time round!
DH is cooking golden syrup sponge pudding so I'm going to dig out the ice cream

Evening everyone.

The weather has been lovely today, so hoping it holds out for the weekend! Have a week off work next week, and taking the kids to Butlins for a last break before the baby arrives!

Well I feel massive this week, bump seems to have grown loads! can't believe that there are still at least 10 more weeks to go! (Am basing this on mine being slightly early, as my other 2 were!)

On the sleeping arrangments, DD slept in our room for about 6 weeks, DS only lasted 1 night! He was a very light sleeper and I don't think anyone would have got any sleep (including him!) if he hadn't gone in his own room. So am thinking the baby will probably also be in it's own room fairly early on, but we will have to see!

Memphis when I first went to see the doctor about being preggers and had high blood pressure - she said it is probably because I am an 'older mother'. WTF - I'm only 33!

welcome anifersgirl wow 4d will be fab, i got a 4d pic at 22wks its on my profile if you fancy a look. Yours will be far clearer as your further on. Where you from? Tv producer sounds a cool job.

kk your right we have each other and trust each other which helps get things off your chest.

viksam chow mein sounds lovely. Yeah thread holds 1000 posts, are we keeping the same name?

chulita i think people hide it as they are worried what others think. I didnt want people to know but now i dont mind as you say no reason to be ashamed. Your so right bout the worry, things that wouldnt entre your head before freak you out now lol. Yum at your pud, havent had it but it sounds nice and gooey

Quiet night for me, did some housework and moved a chest of drawers so my pelvis is suffering, not telling dp he already moaned cos i moved so lots of chocolate.

dh forgot to upload bump pic but will get it sorted x

oh im very emotional this eve! probably cos im sick but just had a big 'i'm so fat and ugly' cry to dp! and that he doesnt think im sexy anymore and just doesnt think of me like that anymore . i actually do feel like this cos he doesn't try anything on anymore and anytime we do it its me who initiates things but he say's its cos he doesnt want to be annoyin me and the fact that there's a baby in my belly! and that he does think im sexy. does anyone else have this problem? we'r getting on better than ever but i suppose with him having to work 2 jobs he gets tired. he does everything else right and he's being very good to me but just upset about that this evening!
probably sound like a bit of a knob sorry!

kkfairybrains DH still finds me sexy but I have to make all the moves and it's precisely because he doesn't want to pester me. I think it's lovely because I don't want sex at all so to have him ask when I really am not up for it would make me feel like I was failing him. I'm quite lucky cos he's always telling me how sexy I look even though I feel a long way off that! I know he wants it more than I offer but I've got fanjo ishoos which make sex very painful at the mo. You don't sound like a knob, don't worry It's hard to feel attractive when you're pregnant!!

aww kk try not to worry its totally normal, my dp is the same as yours and chulita like most men he is afraid he will hurt the baby (yeah right) or that he will feel the lo move but insists that he thinks i'm beautiful etc which to me is nonsense. Its just hormones hun xxx

Welcome anifersgirl

Sorry to hear you're feeling down kkfairy- I've had a few 'ugly' days recently. Thankfully I normally feel better after a few hours. Hope you feel better today

I'm off to the baby show this morning-bring on the freebies! becky - if your friend isn't able to come with me then you are more than welcome to join us. We'll be there from 10am

viksam yeah, i'm still typing on my phone. Can't wait to have my Internet connected. Really miss it!

Hope everyone else is having a good weekend.

Morning!

violetbubbles thats really kind of you! My friend is definately coming with me and we are aiming for 10.30ish so hopefully see you there! Thanks again for the tickets
I felt great after aquanatal yesterday- definately aiming to get it back into my routine- the relaxation at the end was a bit of a treat too! Think i'm going to make the effort to go back to the gorbals on Tuesday nights also might as well make the most of my membership as it has hardly been used over the winter.

kk i have felt very much the same, although DH does tell me i'm beautiful and how much he loves me I just find it difficult to believe when i'm feeling so emotional and low in myself! Other days i can look in the mirror and actually like what i see! Us pregnant women must be so confusing to our partners! lol! with regards to sex i really have not had much interest and because of early complications we were told not to back then. DH seems a little freaked out by the whole thing! He says he would be scared of hurting me or baby and feeling any movements! We have talked about it openly a few times and agree we both enjoy a good snuggle more than anything else for now! I actually feel we are closer than ever following quite a few heart to heart discussions like that!

On the older mother topic- apparently I am going to feel like a granny on the ward! I'm 28! Thought this was quite an average age to start a family but obviously not! lol! I'm the first of all my friends so when its their turn will they be the great grannies!!!

Oh forgot to mention about the PND topic. I have been a bit concerned as i have had depression in the past and can be very hormonal with extreme crying and very low mood most months. My mum and DH have both told me that they are concerned about it and I have tried to be open about it with midwife also. Midwife is no more concerned about me than any other woman and has advised just take each day as it comes and be open and honest about how i'm feeling when baby is here. I have also had a chat with a couple of good friends and everyone has assured me they will definately speak up if they suspect i'm not coping. Didn't realise how much people really care

MLIC my mum has said the same thing about getting out with baby. She has "instructed" me to make sure every day i have a shower, get dressed and get out for a walk with baby! I thought she was nuts- as if i wouldn't do that? However on talking to more women it is apparent that such a simple process can become a marathon mission with a new born! I plan on taking the advice and it should be easier given we are starting in the summer months!

Thanks everyone I know deep down Im worrying too much over nothing, I just have to think positively and LO is moving and kicking alot so I know hes doing just fine in there.

Hi anifersgirl welcome to our thread

becky I still need to get round to going to aquanatal, I dont even own a swimsuit I think its being brave and taking the first step to attend a class on my own, I know it'll be great when I get there and will benefit me alot so Ive really got to bite the bullet and just go!

stac looking forward to seeing the bump pic!