Due in Nov 2005 - Part V!!

[rodeo1]

Here we are ladies.....

Oh and enthusia! (forgive me but I just had to correct your name as i read over this post and realised I'd written euthenasia, doh! another pregnancy brain-wrong)
I know what you mean about odd sensations, seems the baby can find a new strange place to kick me every day..i never imagined it would feel like this before it happened.

Things aren't that bad here BoB!!!!

As for MIL I'd say make boundaries now, after bubs comes I imagine that is going to be even more difficult and you will be knackered and irritable. Could you try and sit down with her - or telephone - email etc and say in a nice way, the way you would like things to be and how important it is to you. Also very important is a united front on the situation. If DH is not in agreement then she will weedle herself in the back door!!! If you are both together on this she will see what you want and hopefully accept it. So I'd talk to DH first then MIL. Be firm but in a nice way!!!

BOB- you need to sort this out asap because if you dont it will get out of control, you need to seriuosly talk to her about whats going to happen for the birth and afterwards and make all your boundries perfectly clear.

concerning your partners fears about being with you for the section-maybe you could get your consultant to reassure him that he'll be fine and a huge help to you by just being there or try and find someone whos partners been there whilst they had a section so he could talk it through?

I would ask you MIL what she plans to do for the month she'll be staying, is she going to be popping round constantly or will she be doing some of her own things and going off sightseeing etc? make it clear to her that you want to spend quality time with your partner and your new baby so the three of you can bond and settle into family life but perhaps she could stay after christmas or something?

I dont have this trouble with my mil as luckily we get on really well, but i do sympathise as i do have this trouble with my sister who lives in york

well firstly dp doesnt want her here for so long either..they have a fairly volatile relationship so he is firmly on my side, but as I said there is often no reasoning with her!
and busyalexsmum...I'm not having a section..just normal delivery, which is what she referred to as 'an operation' haha.
she did it alone and thinks it should be the same for everyone, she told me 'you will lose all dignity if anyone sees you in that position' and 'anyone but a doctor will infect the baby'
well..i'm sorry but i want my dp to be there for our babies arrival and don't appreciate scaremongering with the deluded opinion it's 'protecting' him..
she has some crazy ideas!

oic, what a old fashion view, surely she can see times have changed since she gave birth??!

I say stand together as a united front and either get your partner to ring or write and clearly state what you want concerning visitors after the birth

Indeed- when she gave birth they gave an episiotomy to everyone as soon as fully dilated to 'ake the baby come out faster' in her words, so she has no idea of medical procedure in this day and age and this county.
As for her coming to stay- I am almost certain she will be here constantly, she has already given her opinion on everything, even telling me not to breastfeed as i will 'ruin my body' and be 'tied to the baby day and night'
I think me and dp will have to discuss the best way to talk to her about this, and then be as blunt as possible

Has anyone else been feeling lightheaded? I thought it was just the yoga last night but i have to keep sitting down today. I've also got the mother of all appetites!
We have friends over this evening as we are all leaving for a weekend away and as there is still all the mess from workmen being here to clean up have not had a minute..why does washing, ironing and packing take sooooo long Can't imagine doing this for 3 of us [sigh]

I have an important question, if anyone can answer in the next hour. I forgot to do my urine sample this morning but must take on to GP at 3 this afternoon. Will it make a difference if i do it now?

Thanks

chacha..i think not if you hav been drinking normal amounts since then.
and also..be very careful with light headedness..get gp to check your blood pressure
Last week I felt light headed and a bit vague all day and then whilst ironing just totally blacked out and collapsed with ironing board on top of me. Luckily I had just put the iron down on the work surface, but dp really freaked out.
Then a few minutes later it happened agin and i came round, very confused as to why I was on the floor with dp yelling at me.
i got a midwife out and my blood pressure was dangerously low, so I am having it monitored now
don't want to scare you..but better safe than sorry!

Hiya ChaCha

I had my MW appointment on Tuesday at 3 and didn't do a sample until 2.45 - it didn't matter to her!!!!

Hope that helps and that you have a good appointment.

Plus please get that lightheadedness checked out at BoB said, you never know!!!!!

Thanks guys. I will definitely talk to GP about it..

BoB - How awful!!!! You must have had a fright! I usually only pass out with needles or the sight of blood...now you can see why i'm so excited about childbirth (NOT!)

I hope my b/p is okay. See you all later x

To be honest I was more concerned with calming dp down, he was seriously panicked and ready to call an ambulance.
Am a bit more worried these days as it's still low and I get frequent dizzy spells, doesnt help that our bedroom door is right at the top of our very steep stairs..dp has stirred and insisted on chaperoning me to the loo in the middle of the night when I get up..
Fortunately our practice nurse is amazing and comes round every day on her way home to check it for me.
Godd luck..hope it's just 'one of those things' fopr you!

Cha Cha i have been feeling quite fuzzy headed and my head pulses hard when i bend over!! anyway GP found i'm really pretty anaemic so am now stuffing horrid iron tabs down my throat so its worth getting it checked.

Hope everyone is well and happy Take care
xx 29+ 4

Hi Laylasmum - We haven't seen you on here for ages and 29+4...WoW!!!!

GP took my blood pressure and she said it was fine, my urine sample was fine and she puts light headedness down too the baby sitting on that big vein. The haemoglobin count from last blood test is on the low border..she said they'd check it again at next blood test in a few weeks [groan]. Not really sure what that's all about but she said it's okay we'll just keep checking. Next appt is at 29wks with m/w.

Well, i'll bid you all a great weekend. Don't post too much ladies or i'll have tooo much to read next week Take care of your bumps xxx

Good news cha cha..
Your mention of urine test reminds me of when I was 12 weeks ish and got on the bus ,couldn't find my pass anywhere, and in the process of emptying my bag pulled out my wee sample...most amusing as bus driver was imaptiantly staring at me, and no doubt many others were too! teeheee

Annoyingly, as I hoped the worst was over..I just had a bad spell again and can't wait for dp to get home..
unfortunately his station is closed for 'security reasons' yet again, fair enough it protects us but it has meant him taking 2+ extra hours to get home a few times recently.
With all the other stresses I am finding this hard to deal with..and thank having mumsnet to vent on..so sorry to bore any of you but I need it!
y'all take care..and eat and do as you please..

would it not be time for a new thread soon, especially for the sake of dial-uppers?

chacha - am now coming up to 29 weeks! I have to say as this is my second have not been as aware of what week I am at esp over the summer!

Evening girls just a quickie as I'm off to watch DIY SOS, bloody hell Bob my mouth falls open the further I read into your M-I-L situation, I don't know whether to laugh or be shocked.

You have got to get a grip on the situation right away as otherwise she's going to be a nightmare from the start. Just be blunt and tell her that things have changed and it is the most wonderful experience in the world for a dad to be there at the birth of his child.

I asked my mum to be there for Ben's birth and she was reluctant at first but was absolutely gobsmacked by the whole experience and has asked if she can be present that this one's birth because it is so amazing so don't let your mils daft ideas spoil a magic moment and you definitely want him there whether you lose your dignity or not - you won't want to make eye contact with the dr or mw in sainsbury's afterwards but i'm sure your hubby has seen all your vital bits before otherwise you would be telling us you were the next Virgin Mary - I take it your not or we'd have seen you on the front of every news paper!!!

Right I'm off, have a great weekend Chacha & look afteryourself, get some Lucozade tablets to suck to raise your blood sugar level slowly whenever youfeel dizzy, speak to you all tomorrow BEks

BoB - i couldn't see the first pram as it went to the home page, but the second one looks quite bulky, have you been to any shops to try pushing them around? I found that really useful, along with learning how easy it is to put it up and down.

I don't use a pattern for the curtains, I have a very basic knowledge of how things are made, and then just copied the curtains I already have at home. They're black-out lined an everything. I have to say I'm quite lame and go to JL for all my fabric needs, but you can find material places all over the place.

Morning all

I have two queries this morning that I hope you can help with!!!!

One of the Drs at my surgery phoned last night at about 8.30 to say that my blood results had come back and that I had a high white blood cell count. I know this means there maybe an infection but I feel fine. Dr asked me to drop in a urine specimin this morning to check for anything in there. I was very calm about this all last night, but now I am wondering if it could be serious at all, or whether DR was just being very efficient calling me that night. Any ideas on other reasons for high white blood cell count and drs reaction please!!!!!!

Other query is that I have just had delivered the second hand moses basket I ordered off ebay - do you need to but new matresses for moses baskets or can you use the one it came with. Woman I got it from said baby only used it for less then a month, so I am unsure - plus you don't seem to be able to but them seperately from Mothercare without spending more than I paid for the whole basket and stand. They only sell the posh ones seperately that are over £25 not the normal ones!!! Any thoughts!!!!

Hi Enthusia - sorry to thread crash, thought i'd investigate the mattress thing for you. have looked on mothercare online and they have one for £9.99, see link.

mothercare mattress

also found some on kiddicare.

mattress kiddicare

hope this helps. i think kiddicare do free delivery too.
hope everything is going well.

i am not well today. Going to check on here about oedema as my hands and feet have swollen up and i feel rubbish

rodeo, is it you that has cats? Did you (or anyone else) have them before children, or if you've had a baby since you got them, did you do anything to prepare them for the new arrival? I only ask because I've noticed that one of my cats is becoming a little aggressive - he doesn't seem to like the fact we're moving furniture or changing routine slightly and I want to nip it in the bud before it becomes a real problem.

morning all
enthusia, re raised white cell count he is loooking for underlying uti as you may not have any symptoms.Could also be caused by recent cold's,they may look at your crp (c-reactive protein) level if this is raised it means you have been fighting a longer term infection and this would be more worrying.
hope this helps
twinkle
26+1

Twinkle and Diddle
Thank you for the info, very helpful!!!!!! Will just have to wait and see about the urine, I do feel fine though and bubs is still kicking me heaps!!!!
Diddle have looked at the mattresses, just need to check sizes - thanks for the link - I was looking in the catalogue without much luck!

Nova - Sorry you don't feel well, is it just today or have you been feeling off for a while? Did you maybe do too much yesterday or the last couple of days? I know when I did too much, especially walking and standing i also started to swell and felt ill.

As for cats - i also have a cat - doesn't seem to be too bothered about the moving etc, as we move every year anyway, but I am worried about her with bubs - as she has already been caught sleeping in bouncer and pram carrycot and had to be booted out. She is a very loving cat, am going to have to keep her away somehow - any tips would be useful!!!!

Enthusia, Busyalexsmummy and BEKSmum,

THanks for your messages of support.

I got a bit teary when I got your messages. They were happy sad tears. I am overjoyed at being pregnant again, but I could have been on this thread with you guys. Beanie was due 5th Nov. I am really worried about this pregnancy. I hope that the drugs do the trick.

Take care of yourselves and thanks again. Your messages mean alot.

Peepee.x