Are you on the wagon?

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Hope this is ok?

poor u cant hope u feel better soon they r nasty!! really drain you

i have bought dd1 tshirt dresses not bothering with any strappy summer dresses, have her old leggings to go underneath if abit chilly!!
lived in leggings last summer.
star tops look really nice diege
dd1 is getting a blue one and dd2 a red one
i luv there tops best i was going to get long sleeved tops not bothering now!! thought they can wear tshirt with star cardy

the spotty coats r great too

ARRRGHHHHHHHHHHH Am sure the kids are planning against me, after DS2 spilling his oj into the toy box last week, since then he spilt one onto his table where his pc is, and one has gone on the floor, and now DS1 has just landed a big glass of milk all over his bedroom, all over his plugs and extentions, (laptop charger, laminater, speakers, printer, lamp, and alarm plugs) which were tucked neatly down behind his chest of drawers full of clothes, now swimming in milk, all down the side of his drawers and his desk covering mountains of paper inc. homework and books, all down the wall and of course all over the carpet. MILK. We've only ever had one milk spillage before and it smelled really bad for weeks All his clothes need washing, the wall is going to want repainting because the paint has washed off.

And to top it all off, when I heard the 'oh noooooooooooooooooooooooo' I went running upstairs, DS2 has pulled all the duvets, pillows and sheets off of all the beds, this is a new game of his, prefered getting into bed and finding cars in places I won't go into TBH, rather than having to make the fucking thing every night! And then after I have just cleared up the milk, cleaned the wall, floor, drawers, desk, sorted through milky papers for any that we'll need to replace, made 4 beds and a cot up, I come downstairs to find DS2 has pulled out every single jigsaw puzzle he has and all of them are in a big pile on the floor, he was building a tower apparently. AIBU to leave them there and as soon as DH get's in go to bed?!

Oh me oh my I am cross.

hi everyone, sorry i havent been on not had internet.
not caught up with everythin properly. hope your all well
KAYZ im sorry to hear about all this with DH but im sure you will work out and decide what is best for you. hope your ok. and are holding on strong.
been shopping today, was meant to be food shopping, but didnt get any bit of food at all
managed to get some skinny jeans for M, a fleece sleepsuit, and some pump style shoes for him from next tho also managed to get my dads bday present and cards, and my mum some flowers still had a productive day but didnt really need the stuff i got as much as food haha.

H is meant to be leaving tomorrow and I am terrified.

Sorry not been on for ages - struggling to find time to get on now I'm back at work. Being 4 days a week and leaving 15 mins earlier than everyone else at end of day to get to nursery, I feel I can't really log on during the day even when I do need a break from spreadsheets every now and then.

Kayz - am so sorry for the difficult time you are going through with your H. Is he going to his Mum's tomorrow for a few weeks to give you both space? Sounds like you have had lots of good advice from everyone. Are you terrified because you don't want to be on your own with the boys or because you don't want to lose him? Am sure the space will help you both to get to the bottom of your feelings. Have you thought about setting up a meeting for a week's time or so when you've both had time to think, so that you can then both talk openly about what you want? It is incredibly hard with young children and I'm sure that it puts a big strain on most relationships and it must be even harder for you both with H out of work. It absolutely doesn't excuse him texting another woman, I'm not sure what I would do if I found out my DH had been doing that.

Just want you to know that I'm thinking of you and there is always someone on the wagon for you to talk to. Hope you have someone in RL to talk to too.

Diege and Tink - good going on shopping.
Nat - yay for course, sounds great, hope the week does not drag too long and you get a response soon. at all the spillages in your house - it does make you want to send them back to spouty cups doesn't it?!
Ses - glad return to work has gone okay and sounds like O is doing great at nursery. Sorry for poorlies - is same here. DD finally got over the rotten cold we all had and now she has runny nose and red bottom and fingers in mouth - think another tooth is coming through, but can't see where!

LaTour - good to see you back on the wagon. You inspired me this weekend - printed off a CBeebies I can Cook recipe for easy peasy pizza and made it with DS - he loved the cooking and the eating, so thanks very much for the inspiration.

at GBL, Gin, Gruff and anyone else lurking or who I've missed.
Gruff - thinking regularly of you and your Mum and hope she is doing well.

Right - off to bed now I think. Only managed 5.5 hours of interrupted sleep with DD last night, as I went to bed too late and didn't make the most of her long stretch! Did not bode well for my driving to work today, so best get more sleep tonight!

Kay - I just logged on. Havent caught up yet. Just wanted to say Im here.

((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))

(I think thats allowed given the situation!)

Hi Star, great to hear from you. I have trouble keeping up on here myself, so Im not surprised you do too! Cooking sounds nice my mum is doing ok thanks. Chemo still makes her very poorly but as she has it a week on, week off, she does, at least, have 2 weeks to recover. Its good because it means she gets to do stuff in the week off and gets out and about and visits people too. She is coming to see me at the beginning of April for a couple of days and this is when GC's birthday party will be I do find it very hard with her being in Scotland

Kay - I really wish I could help you... thinking of you xxx

Morning (Am much calmer now!)

GBL and Can't, hope you're all feeling better today?

MMM, good shopping, I used to do that all the time, go into town for something come home with loads of stuff but not what I went in for, many times it would be stuff I HAD to get so I'd have to go into town again!

Star, great to hear from you, you do sound very busy! Hope you managed a better sleep last night?

Gruff, glad to hear your mum is having a bit of a break from the chemo, it must be awful for you - well, for all of you obviously, but I mean with the distance involved as well.

Kayz, I don't really know what to say, I am just hoping that you manage to get through today somehow, and that it goes as smoothly as possible. I am guessing you'll still be at work now, but I will be around most of the day - DS1 off school poorly - so chances are if you post wanting to talk I'll not be far away if no one else is here, or obviously feel free to email or whatever.

Hello to anyone else I missed Am going to get some breakfast, I am starving, not like me at all first thing.

morning

oh no nat!!! not suprised u were cross!!!!!
boys ah!!

kay - hope u r ok!!

hi gruff

good shopping mmm

off to music with mummy in a min

Have a good time Tink

Morning
KAYZ, good luck for today - have been thinking of you, and hope it goes as well as can be expected xx
NAT, I was at meltdown last night when dds1 & 2 came downstairs sheepishly with a pair if scissors. They had decided to cut the labels out of the new outfits for world book day I'd bought them, and had, of course, cut out half of the collar . So reading your account of the milk and jigsaws strangely made me feel better! How do you deal with that sort of thing, esp in the evening when you're tired? I am really trying to cut down on my shouting, and wondered if you had any tips?
GRUFF, good to hear your mum is getting a little respite from the chemo in between sessions. How many more sessions does she have?
STAR, great to hear from you - you do sound busy! I'm lucky ion that while I'm also working 4 days a week, I can work from home one of those days, which makes a big difference compared to fulltime that I was doing when the dds were little. The
only advice I can offer is early nights and lists! Not that you sound liek you need much advice
MMM, sounds a good shopping trip yesterday!
Hi TINKS, enjoy baby class
Hi to everyone else - have to staff Open Day here soon though they have provided us with food throughout the day to keep us docile and complying. Have lost 6 pounds now though, so will take along my banana and ryvita minis instead
Hope everyone is well xx

Hey, good going on the weight loss! It was only Thursday/Friday you started wasn't it?

Re. shouting, used to do lots of it, but realised they take no more notice of me shouting than they do at other times. My key now is silence, like last night, when I went up the obvious "for goodness sake, how old are you? Look at the state of it!" slipped out, then I cleared it up in silence, with him saying "it's not my fault" etc. and me just nodding. If I'd have shouted at him, he'd have just had a tantrum (even at nearly 8yo he is especially good at them!) I'd have gotten even more cross... this way, no shouting, he knows I am cross without me having to spell it all out for him, and instead of him concentrating on arguing with me, when I barked asked him to empty his clothes into the wash basket, or whatever I needed him to do, he did it.

Mmm yes the silent treatment does sound like it might work. Hopefully there won't be an opportunity to test it out for a while
Re: weight loss, yes started it last Thursday, so very good going for me. I am naturally an 8 stone weakling thoigh, so think my body is grateful for the opp to unload the excess. 9.5 stone now, so just another stone and a half to go!

Oh meant to say yes, Warrington not too far from you...If you fancy a trip over this way (hey, you can see The House )just give me a shout. Any Thursday or Friday would be fine

Well we're hopefully picking the car up at the weekend, if I can drive this one I'll see you next week

Look here I can't sit still, feel like I could do 1000 cartwheels finished off with a treble back flip!

Nat, you need to watch Neighbours and get a printer that reliably breaks down the day an assignment is due
Great about the car too...I'm free on Friday 13th if you are ???

Arghh, Friday 12th

Oh oh oh and Home and Away pleeeeeeeeease?!! Is that still on? Used to watch them both till not so long ago actually, probably when DS2 got old enough to argue with me over what was on the telly! I give up now, if the telly is on in the day time it's on some sort of kid's program/DVD!

I'll let you know how I get on with the car, will also have a word with DH because the straight forward way includes scary motorway, he'll know how to set my sat nav to avoid it! Actually can't wait to get the car, I've barely driven anywhere since we got the Mondeo, and certainly no where with the kids, can't wait to get back out there!

Hey, did I mention I've got a student number?!

Home and Away is fine . Hey, now tat you have a student number you can get a railcard too, and money off things...
So what's your first assignment on???

I don't want him to go. I just can't stop crying and I just want him to stay.

oh kay that mite be ur answer then

hi nat and diege

Kayz, I think you owe it to yourself to let him go, if only very temporarily (sp? Can't think straight) you both need space and time to think all of this through, if he stays it will never be over.

Obviously your call.

Have you got someone else there with you?

When is he going/due to go?

(Sorry Diege, not ignoring you...)

Hi Tink

Nat I don't think I can do this.