Are you on the wagon?

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Morning

It is still raining

It was quiet on here yesterday, what have you all been up to?!

Diege, the hair thing sound's a bit of a mare.

Tink, know what you mean about trying to cut down. I have been quite lucky, never thought it'd happen but I have stopped even thinking about chocolate, though I do make a point of buying the yummiest chocolatey foxes cookies when we do the big Ocado shop, I figure one treat every 7-10 days is fine! It is crisps I'm having the hardest time with, don't know why but in my head a bag of crisps is nowhere near as bad as a bar of choc, so I think one bag won't hurt, every day!

Can't, have fun today You are very brave, 2 supermarkets in one day?! I have given up with food shopping, get it all delivered now, just top up every 4/5 days (bread and milk etc.) at the local co-op. So much easier. We ended up getting in a right pickle at times when we moved here, closest supermarket is in Leyland (1/2 hour drive) which meant we couldn't go on a week night because else the boys would be really late to bed, so we were putting off to weekend and doing almost weekly shops in co-op which was costing megabucks! Now a lovely man knocks on the door, brings bags into kitchen, helps me un-pack bags, and takes the bags away, AND, doesn't comment on how many bottles of wine we've bought !

Just ordered DS1's trampoline for his birthday. Looking at weather, not so sure it was a good idea to get ourdoor-sy type stuff. Got a good deal though, 10ft Duplay trampoline and the enclosure thing, ladder, and a weatherproof cover thing, £130 from Amazon. The 12ft package wasn't much more but thought I'd best stick to the smaller one incase the garden is smaller when we move.

Right had best get a wriggle on and get him out of bed. And have just realised that I've had my wet hair wrapped in a towel for the last hour, god it's going to be fun trying to get it to lie in any sort of style now, all my new hair at the front is only about 5/6cm long and it's not too bad if I dry it straight away but it just sticks right up if I don't dry it quick enough! Might stick my head under the shower... why haven't I thought of that before?

Morning! On day 2 of a killer migraine here so just signing in and then signing out! Started yesterday pm and have sent dh out to get some solphadine max in the hope that it will enable me to pick the dds up this afternoon.
NAT, lol at hair Your garden deal sounds good; will bear in mind when we come to get the promised tramplone for the summer.
TINKS, also trying to cut back here on chocs - am 'allowed' up to 2 fun-size bars a day on slimming world - sounds ok, but not for an addict like me.
CANT hope the course goes well again this weekend x
Bye for now!

Sorry for migraine You seem to be getting loads at the moment, do you know what triggers them? I get them when I haven't had enough to drink, haven't had a proper one now for about 18 months and I'm sure it's because I conciously upped my fluid intake (no, wine doesn't count!) Can always tell it's Friday, that's the second mention of wine from me and it's not even 10 o'clock! Hope your tablets ease it enough to feel slightly normal.

Have just done food shop, have nothing to do now till DS1 get's home from school, he want's us to get his bedroom sorted, poor thing has still got 2 boxes in his room of stuff that needs sorting, and since he is banned from his laptop tonight (he's lucky that's all, I was quite ready and prepared to pick him, his quilt and pillow up and put him and them in the garage last night!) thought we may as well get the boxes done, else he'll be hanging round telling me how bored he is etc.

hi ladies

morning ladies

hi nat,diege and cant

nat - my trick is to keep choccy in boot and not in the house then i take one just before i eat it i dont have biscuits etc in house.
not to bothered about crisps here i have a sweet tooth!!

diege - i used to get migraines all the time they r horrid i took migraleve then they just went away i get normal headaches alot think it is due to the pill

have just had retail therapy

boden retail therapy

have bought bracken this in the red

www.boden.co.uk/en-GB/Girls-Coats-Jackets/35050/Girls-Jersey-Lined-Anorak.html

and dd1 this

www.boden.co.uk/en-GB/Girls-Tops-T-shirts/Short-Sleeved-Tops/31388/Girls-Vintage-Print-T-shirt.html

i luv owls

buying rest on tuesday

getting lampshade for dd1s room today

have bought a creme egg for lunch

so glad that it is fri

i have to do my food shop nat i luv it my time out by myself

thought ladies please?

dd1 is 4.5 years old!!
she is tiny for her age only weighs 12.5kg.
she is in a car seat up to age 11 with the harness still think she has to be 18kg before she can have grown up seatbelt across.
will be about 20 till she is this weight the rate she is going!!!
really want to get her a booster seat they say that they r from 15kg woud be much easier for school trips 2 instead of having to take in her big seat!!

should we just ignore weight and get a booster seat?
or stick with her car seat.

she gains weight very slowly

Good shopping Tink

Re. carseat, I am a bit obsessed with making sure they have the right one for their weight, I'd stick to the seat she has. I know they are a PITA, but you'd never forgive yourself if something happened. Just my opinion though.

cheers nat - they have to be 18kg to use adult eatbelt i dont think she will even reach this weight by the time she is 11?!!!

DH keeps on about DS1 not needing a booster anymore, he is tall (don't know where he get's it from, I'm 5ft nothing, and DH isn't exactly Mr. Giant!), about 130cm, the max height for needing a booster is 135cm, but I won't let him off it yet, there is a reason the limit is 135cm.

We bought this one for DS3, it just uses the adult seatbelt, could she have something like that?

P.S. am sure they do a 'girls' version!

Morning,

Gosh I feel rough this morning, I got in at 1am!!! Then bloody woke up at half 6 this morning and I don't do lie ins. I just can't lie there.

I've had a chat with DH and we're going to give our marriage 6 months and if I feel no better about things then I think we will split up. I feel like I need to give it a really good go though and not just give up now.

Hope you are all well.

Wow Kay, that's a big step.

If you are going to give it your best shot, you need to work out what has to change, and then do something about it.

Have you thought about Relate or similar?

(As an aside, I hope you had a great time last night?!)

We can't afford Relate in a million years. 1 e-mail costs £28. So we are going to have to sort this out on our own.

His temper with the boys is a problem and also I don't love him like I used too. Which I think comes from the way he treats the boys. I love him as the father of the boys but for me it feels like I love him the way I love my Mum IYSWIM? I don't love him romantically. I have ordered this book which has been mentioned a few times on the relationships threads. I've got an appointment to see my GP(not until the 12th March tho) and I am going to see if I am depressed as I'm not sure if maybe that is the problem.

I don't want us to separate but I also think that if we don't find that spark or something like we used to have then it isn't fair on our boys to be in an unhappy marriage.

God I am a barrel of laughs me!!

You can get back from this Kay, believe me, you both just have to want it to happen.

Could your mum/MIL/someone have the boys for a night, so you can have some time together? Even if you don't go out out, just have a kitchen night, no telly, bit of music, lots of alcohol and good food, and talk to each other. I know one night won't solve everything, but it will give you both a chance to start working on your relationship together, not as mum and dad.

Do that thing they always harp on about, where do you see yourself in a years time? 5 years? If you don't like the image, change it, if you do, make it happen.

They wont have the boys overnight. Mum doesn't have room for both of them and MIL is fostering again so her spare room is being used.

But we did think of asking my brother if he could sit with the boys when they are in bed so we could maybe go out.

oh kay what a hard time u r having!!

good luck

cheers nat will look in to it she has taken to undoing harness latley to so adult seat belt might be better

sorry 1st message was brief kay

me and dh were going through a rough patch a while back now and we went to realte meetings @ our local hospital were really worth it. we came to an arrangement on fees think we paid £5-£10 a session.
relationships can be hard especially when you have kids!!
you mentioned dh gets very stressed!! my dh does to he is stressed alot of the time and snaps etc it is mostly work he gets stressed about
it is very hard living with a stressed person
i get anxious so not a good mix.
do you spend much time together in the evenings say watching t.v and how often do you sit and talk

Good advice there from Tink

I really hope you manage to get something sorted Kay, sorry that seems a bit feeble, but not sure what else to say

Right, DH is going to be home anytime soon (we're celebrating, one of his cockhead engineers has finally had his arsed slapped in the way of a formal warning, hopefully he'll start pulling his weight instead of waiting for DH to do it all now) so I'm off for the weekend.

Hope your migraine is on it's way out Diege, and that everyone has lovely weekends, though looking at the weather forecast, that isn't going to be easy. Will see you all next week if we haven't been blown away!

Tink we do sit together and watch tv most nights. We don't talk about this type of stuff that often. I usually
keep it to myself until I feel like I'm going to burst. I've been feeling like this for a while now. But only just felt ready to say it.

I have posted on the relationships section but they are just going on about his tablets he is on.

nat - sounds good about dhs work colleague

kay - we sit together for abit in the evening and then dh goes on computer while i have me time.

it is hard when u r both tired in the evening and want to sit by yourself.

when we went to realate before i was very depressed and felt similaire to you so could be depression

Hello! Migraine gradually going, thanks to a hefty dose of meds I might add The school run is a blur..
KAYZ I'm so sorry you're going through this I can't really add anything to what's been said already, other than echoing what you say about giving it a really good shot - you seem such a lovely couple and I wish you all the luck in the world at working things out. Feel free to use the wagon as a sounding board - must of us have been where you are at some point - I know I have xx
Hi NAT! Hard to identify trigger for migraine. Always get one day 1 of period and then about 2/3 at other times in the month. I think it's stress that triggers (hairdresser yesterday - not stressful in itself, but I think having to make conversation etc etc all day (and it was all day) must subliminely stress me, antisocial so and so that I am . They are now lasting 2 days min though, so will mention this to the nurse at my appointment next week.
TINKS, good advice there. I know exactly what you mean when you're both tired and just want to sit in your own worlds in front of the tv. Takes 100% effort to properly talk sometimes Like the shopping btw! I've also had some retail therapy - a buggle snuggle, curtains for dd3's room, some Liz Earle skincare stuff from QVC (I love QVC ) and a mega Chinese takeaway for whole family. Can you tell I've been paid for marking those exams

Evening all,

Just a quick post as going to have a soak in the bath in a minute

Hope everyone ok - Ses hope work went ok today!

Diege - sorry for migraines. I used to get them for days on end. Had them for 6 months where I had them for days on end and ended up going to Bupa where they put me on a strict food diet and it drastically improved. Mine are related to sinuses and perennial allergic rhinitis. I am much better now, only get them when stressed and tired.

Kayz - I am so sorry to hear about your marriage problems. Giving yourself 6 months sounds like a good start but you definitely need to talk about your problems and how things can change for the better, otherwise you run the risk of everything being the same in 6 months. Def go to your GP as you may be able to get referred for some counselling. Could DH be depressed? Is he still out of work? It may be worth seeing if he is willing to see the gP for referral to counsellor as he may benefit from this too. You may be able to find an independent marraige counsellor who is training who will give you reduced rates as they have to have so many contact hours to qualify. Might be worth a look. Just keep talking on here, don't bottle it up. We are all here for you xxx

Tink - bless your DD, she is a dainty one! Hope you find a solution to the car seat problem!I don't like GC's car seat either, its a hand me down and its so big and bulky and doesn't look at all comfy. He seems ok in it though.

Hi NJ, Cant, GBL, Latour, anyone else I've missed.

That wasn't that quick was it?!

morning... Course was very good yesterday... had to share experiences of breastfeeding and taking about expressing for DD2 when she was in SCBU made me cry yet again!! i've never managed to talk about it without crying!!

Off to my mums today, just to get out with the DC's.

Kay- have never been in your position myself, but i hope you can take the right info and make it work for you and DH.

Tink- re-seats, we have the same one nat has for DS, he's been on that since he was about 3.5y... DD has the same one only in this style. we got it a few weeks ago at that price- original price is about £65!! Converts to a booster when they're big enough.

right got to go- can't stand sitting here any longer... power supply for the pc is on its way out and smells awful- makes mewanna heave!!

Morning! Migraine still here, though the heavy sort of pain that means it's on its last legs (hopefully).
Course sounds good CANT; probably good in a cathartic sort of way for you to talk about expressing for Ruby etc. I'm sure you'll be a great advisor!
GRUFF, good to hear from you. How are things going?
Busy morning so far. Decorator been round and he's quoted £250 to paper and paint dd3's room, which I think is quite reasonable. Just need to order the paper now! He'll be doing it end of March, so better get cracking on the e-bay! Ocado man just been too, so need to pack away before ds wakes up from nap. DD1 has a 'Coraline party' this afternoon, and we're making cakes with black icing and silver balls for after the pizza
Hope everyone is well and enjoying the weekend xx

morning

will stick with dd1s car seat.it is sweet is pink with hearts.

oh dear diege hopefully it is on its way out then

hi to everyone else
hope that u r all having a good sat

i went into town rented out - up,cloudy with a chance of meatballs and fame to watch with dd1 over the weekend had a voucher

in town bought an egghead a card for my friend who has just had her 3rd girl meredith jasmine