'Due July 2010 babies, now we're halfway there ladies!'

[stac14]

Thing the title says it all thanks to winter We can gab lol !!!

crikey we haven't even thought about buying anything yet! Am hoping to start a bit of shopping after the scan on 12 March.

hi viksam I am still on here with the ladies in the clomid thread, we have been through so much it seemed rude to leave also I feel I can give something back and they see me as a positive story after everything we have been through. I hope we can all stay online with each other after the babies are born so when we are up at 3am we have someone to gab to lol

spider dont let them patronise you hun, ds is 10 and I still remember the first time he did it, I was so frightened something was seriously wrong so I phoned my sil to come up. Hope he feels better soon

becky thats lovely your nieces are so excited, my first niece is due to be born in about 4 weeks so dont think she will be too fussed with this lo. Had a wee chat with ds today, hes a bit concerned I wont have time for him anymore, I pointed out he is my boy and always will be, also said he wont want to hang about with me as he is getting older, he said of course I will cos your mum I nearly cried. Not sure if its hormones or there was a wee moment there lol

emster we havent done much either, did order car chair and pram but more so because I was worried I wouldnt get the one I wanted lol

I have joined loads of the baby clubs, you get lots of freebies but some amount of crap leaflets lol if you join the pampers/tesco baby club which will get you a free pampers hamper worth £30 so you should join xxx

Hi everyone, Ive been into town with my mum today and we had lunch. Ive now started wearing maternity tops cos my regular tops just dont fit me anymore which is a shame cos I really dont have many maternity tops.

I slept for 2 hours yesterday afternoon and Im trying really hard not to do the same thing today but its hard I feel so sleepy!

had scan this afternoon all was well and baby is bigger than average which was a shock as they thought it would be small as my bump is little, im having a boy and we are thrilled we went straight to debenhams to buy stuff!!!

evening, just popping to say hello. not much to report here. Sad that my scan has happened now, i want another one!! So tired after working today, was hoping that DH would get fish and chips but he just phoned to remind me he is going out, NO! I had my heart set on them but now have to put DD to bed and frankly not enough energy to go and get them anyway.

There seem to be a lot of sick toddlers around at the mo, spiders (welcome btw!) my DD is looking very pale and would not eat much today so am a bit worried may be in for a bad night...

I haven't bought anything new yet, i guess cos have a lot from before. Need to get a few things bit we are hoping to move house before July, so might wait until then.

anyway, congrats to anymore scans that have happened and i've missed, can't wait to see pics. Happy weekend all

great news on scan memphis did you get lots of nice stuff? are you going to post your pic on here?

I was reading a baby mag and found a couple of discount codes, 20% off from mumstheword.com just use code MTWMB0310 and 20% off from blooming marvelous using code S01RMB1, just thought they may be useful for getting some stuff xxx

ooh congrats memphis a boy, how exciting!!!! Funny how bumps don't match baby sizes. I have a big bump but baby not bigger than average at the mo.

Evening ladies, have took a deep sigh of relief and now slumped on sofa. My boy is sleeping soundly in bed after having a day of dirty nappies - no more devil sickness though - thankfully. Although I think I'll be responsible for filling the landfill sites around here with all the nappies I've used.

stac14 doc receptionist can be a little above her station! I'm not going to feel bad by checking all is ok - her problem not mine!

We managed to get out to the park which he loved and I feel better that he's had some fresh air. We are going skiing next week - well, not me obviously, and need to get out tomorrow to get some snow boots, not ideal really given that it's now coming into spring, think I might struggle some how!! Didn't have the foresight to buy them in winter! Oooppss

Congrats to Memphis - my little man is just fab. Orange how disappointing not to get f&c's, that's just what I'm fancying but like you am now confined, DP is still working and given my nutrionally deprived diet I should be eating a plate of broccoli!!

Have a good Friday night - all my friends, well not all but a lot!!, are pubbing it watching the rugby - me I wouldn't want to be anywhere else but here, I'd rather stick pins in my eyes than being in a rowdy pub with lots of v drunk people

ha ha spiders yes thats exactly what DH is doing (rugby in pub i mean). With you on the broccoli but prob go for pasta and sauce, somewhere in between

ours are the same spiders, wish my dp had went out, he is really bugging me, and if i'm told its hormones once more I will not be happy lol xx

lolstac! that seems to be a favourite line any time i get the slightest bit upset or angry these days too! well dp rolled my pride and joy of a car into the wall today! our driveway comes in a slope and handbrake musn't have been on properly and he got out and into the house and bang! god love him he just started crying as he's been reaaly down the past few weeks as he's not getting much hours at work and he's broke and there's just nothing going right for him lately and this just topped it all off!its really not like him to be down or worried as he nevr lets anything get to him. not much damage as luckily it went into the corner of the house and not full head on into the wall so number plate and grill bent in so thats all we need to get and hopefully it won't cost too much. and he was literally just after coming back from gettin everythibg i need for the car cause im going to have to sell it as its a 3 door and then this happens!

Hey ladies
Had the scan and all is well, placenta moving up now too so that is good...we're having a girl!!!!

BUT (this will sound bad) I really thought it was going to be a boy and a little sad it isn't. Don't get me wrong so relieved the baby is well but a bit surprised. Tbh that is why we wanted a scan to be prepared in case it was a girl. DH almost fainted after we were told but think it is because it is finally sinking in we really are having a baby and we are still having a stress trying to sort out buying a house which is not going very well. Saying that I do think a girl is easier as I will hopefully have better idea what to do as she gets older just don't want DH to be disappointed, app he'd been thinking about all the father/son things he's be doing.
Telling you ladies as I'm hoping you won't make me feel better for saying all this, just need to get it out and couldn't tell anyone else.

I did buy some girly clothes this afternoon and know it is all going to be wonderful and we will fall in love with her just not how I thought today was going to pan out!!

oops hoping you won't make me feel bad!! Pls do make me feel better!

aw kkfairy at least theres not much damage hun, dp will be feeling the strain of everything at the moment, mainly as the men feel the need to "provide" sure he will be fine after a few hugs from you, if not blame his hormones lol

flex don't beat yourself up about it hun. Do you have kids already? (soz preggo brain is crap) when i was pg with ds i was convinced it would be a girl and we didnt want to know so when he was born i was delighted to have a healthy baby but a bit disappointed he was a boy. Of course you will love her no matter what though, i wouldnt change ds for anything. This time round i think its a boy, but i dont really care as we were trying for so long. Sorry for such a long winded post x

flex congrats on scan. I can't speak from personal experience as I didn't have a preference, but i have a friend who experienced the same as you (but wanted a girl and then found out she was having a boy) and says although she was disappointed after the scan, she quickly got used to the idea of a boy and was glad that when she gave birth she was just so overjoyed because she knew it was going to be a boy so that she didn't have the disappointment then. Hope that makes sense, sorry a bit garbled...

Aww flexab23 I think it is totally understandable to have mixed feelings when you had strong feelings that it was going to be a boy, but really, truely when it comes you will both be so relieved and happy the sex of the baby won't matter at all, you will both fall in love with her because having a baby is just so amazing. Also I think men do get excited about doing father/son stuff with boys - but the reality isn't always what you expect, I have a younger brother and I am so much closer to my dad than my brother is, we are just more alike than by db and my df, sometimes children don't have the personalities that we might expect. My dd is such a girly girl and I was such a tomboy I wonder how much common ground we will have as she gets older. I feel like I am only just getting to know my daughter now she is 2, babies are so mysterious.

DH really wants to find out the sex on Tues and I am really not so bothered would rather wait tbh. I think it is that thing about it only becoming real to him when he finds out the sex (I get the constant kicks that make it real enough lol). Everyone who has expressed an opinion (and so many people seem to have) has predicted a boy. I don't know how they think they know, and I wonder if a lot of that is because we have a girl and people seem obsessed about you having one of each. This pg does feel very different from the last.

Thanks all. I am excited about it being a girl and pleased that we can now start to really think about this as a person who will be in our lives forever not just an abstract idea. I know DH will be fine and over the moon very soon. Just nice to be able to be honest somewhere!!

Stac14 yes this is our first baby so everything new. I just think DH was in a bit of denial until today and it then became REALLY real in a rush. We'd been trying for a while but so different to actually be pregnant!

Hospital said they now offer 23 week internal (hmm not looking forward to that - anyone had one?) so will get to see her one more time before she's born 2 weeks on Monday and I'm already looking forward to that. It's all waiting then short relief and then waiting again this pregnancy malarky from what I can make of it!

i've not heard of that flex whats it for? I hope i get another scan before lo gets here (cheek since mine isnt till monday lol)

wonder most people think we are having a girl, as you say probs as we have boys. MW on monday said lo was so active it was probably a boy, but who knows eh? Are you going to find out? We are I want to buy gender specific clothes lol

I had an internal scan during the early stages of a pregnancy many years ago. It was uncomfortable, but not too bad, slightly less grim than a smear imo - I'm sure getting to see your baby again will take your mind off the (very small) probe up your fanny.

yip had that while ttc, but it wasnt too bad. i think a smear is worse defo lol xxx

phew!!

aw flex congrats! i know exactly what you mean as dp is the same.whenever he refers to the baby its always 'he' and doesn't ever seem to contemplate that it may be a girl and he's always going on about him playing gaelic football and soccer and the things they're going to get up to! have been a bit concerned by times and have nearly considered finding out what it is just in case it is a girl to give him time to come round to the idea but he's assured me he would love a girl either cause she'd be daddy's girl so i think i'm happy enough with that!
stac thats exactly what he keeps saying.that he's so broke that all he has to look forward to is the baby(i know this is a BIG thing!) but then at times he's not looking forward to it cause he feels like he wont be able to provide for us. it just breaks my heart to see him like this cause i never imagined that he could get so worried cause normally if he were any more laid back he'd be horizontal! but i have the salon in the house so i'll always be able to do a bit even with the baby so its not as if we'r going to be stuck for anything!
sorry for the me me rants xx

kkfairy its really common for men to panick bout stuff, they cant see by the financial side. Dp is the same, he took on extra work as soon as he heard i was preggers. But it was causing strain for us so i have made him stop. As long as your partner knows he can vent with you he will be fine, and you have us to vent with lol x

congrats on a healthy baby girl flex. As others have said, I think it's totally normal to be a bit disappointed. My mum said that when she had her kids, years ago before the days of scans, she always felt a bit of sadness wrapped up in the happiness after the birth, about the loss of the boy or girl that it wasn't (does that make sense)? she said that although she was over the moon to have a girl, for example, part of her had to grieve the little boy she had imagined, and vice versa when she had my brother. Maybe this isn't something everyone can identify with but I'm sure a lot can. Your DP may just need a few hours/days/weeks to mourn the little boy he'd dreamed of, but that doesn't mean he's not happy or that he won't be just as elated and in love as any new father when she arrives. x

yeah can see where you're comin from stac. suppose its the whole men being the breadwinner thing from years ago. i'l always be here for him to vent when he wants to and glad to know i can blow all of ur ears off!(or eyes whatever way that works!)
right im off to the cot was up early this morn so dreamland is calling xx