Due May 2010: Into the third trimester we go, can the bumps get any bigger?

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So here's the continuation of the thread previously known as Due May 2010: Where we get a 'bloom' just in time for the christmas mayhem???
Let's see if this one lasts up until the first birth... Knowing how chatty we can be, I doubt it!

hi everyone I am so sore today, have taken second load of painkillers as well. Went out last night for a few drinks with some other Mums but was sitting down all night so don't think it was that. Very frustrating as there is so much I need to do around the house and I cannot do it.

pigley - great news about DHs job

memorylapse - don't know what to suggest really, I would have told the MW to stop hurting me though, HB or no HB, any chance you could get a scan?

rachelfruitloop - sorry you have a rubbish MW visit as well, I think some people just grow big babies and a big baby isn't always a problem in itself

welcome asparagusaddict - is the 8th your EDD or planned csection/induction date?

Angel - I am so still on two minds about the homebirth thing, will need to talk to the MW and ask if there is any chance of an induction at 40 weeks. I will be sad not to have another HB but in some ways the sense of control will be a lot better i.e knowing the date he will be born and organising childcare around it, I have this fear of delivering on the living room with the other DCs around me!

welcome kaffacakes

Well MW has been..listened in to baby for a good couple of mins..HB absoloutely fine..she was very reassuring and said that sometimes the de celerations can be caused by baby grasping the cord..scary but she said they always let go in the end! she also said that the increased Hb was high..but not a worry as long it dropped again..she said it could actually have been baby turning round and I wasnt aware of it which is quite energectic for baby..hence the rapid HB...she has said though..that if Im nit happy with the movements by 9pm..I must go to labour ward..feel a bit more reassured but wish baby would have a good shift around..just had a few pokes and a dose of hiccups

Welcome Kaffacakes Spatone's fab, I love it. Dark chocolate is good for iron levels too

ML - glad everything's OK I hope the movements pick up soon and your LO's just been having a lazy day.

Pigley - great news about your DH's job

Angel - hope you're OK this afternoon with your dog. Are you doing anything with the ashes?

Pigley - results came back within a day from the test so I'd have thought that someone would have contacted me sooner if they really were worried.

Anyway, all sorted now. The midwife at the hospital just rang to say that they'd got confused and thought that the second reading (taken one hour after lucozade) was actually the third reading (two hours after lucozade) in which case, it would be quite a high/borderline result. They've apologised for all the stress and removed me completely from the diabetic team system and reinstated me as normal. Hurrah! I did wonder if that's what had happened, glad it's all sorted now.

TCH..glad you got it sorted..slightly worrying that they confused your results though

Hi ladies,
I'm a newbie to mums net i'm Aim I have a son who is 3 in April and am due my 2nd son 20th May 2010.
We are hoping for a vbac this time round after a very traumatic emcs with ds1.

Hope your all doing well and look forward to getting to know you all.
xx

Welcome aim I don't know where the list is but it looks like there are a few new names to be added!

Things are better with DH now - we had a good chat before he went to work this morning and he ended up bringing home flowers and most importantly, giving me a big hug and telling me we'd get everything sorted. On a practical level he sat down with me to start making a rota for who can look after DD when I'm in labour which is helping set my mind at rest that everything will be ok...

ML - yes, it's a bit of a worry. If I hadn't spoken to a midwife previously then I would have had no idea it was dodgy and probably just gone along with it all. Worst case scenario I guess is if they might miss GD in someone who really did have it or give treatment to someone who doesn't need it. I suspect it might just have been a new doctor getting confused tbh. I was able to speak to the consultant's secretary though so at least he knows about it and can deal properly with it.

Welcome Aim1984 Sorry you had a bad time with your DS1, do you have supportive midwives for a VBAC?

Carikube - glad your DH came through for you and is helping.

welcome Aim..

Carikube..glad you and DH sorted things.

I dont know what to do..when the MW came she said if I didnt have 10 movements by 9pm to go in for a CTG..well I havent..Ive even been naughty and drunk coffee and eaten a flapjack..just had a couple of pokes..DH shouted at me and said..we are not going to that effing hospital again..theres nothing wrong with the bloody baby

so im sat here in tears..I cant go on my own..its 40 mins away and a fair walk from the car park late at night

Evening everyone
Welcome asparagus Kaffacakes and aim I am pretty new to this thread too so be nice to get to know you aswell.

Had bit of a scare wed night, had a bit of spotting. Freaked me out because I have low lying placenta but decided to sleep on it and had mw booked in the morning anyway.
She said that if it happens again to ring the hospital. But then she asked when we last had sex and I said the previous morning, and apparently this can cause spotting. Was quite surprised as I didnt know this could happen (and it isnt that big!
But had bloods done and heard heart beat, also measuring 30 weeks (im 29) so think thats good? Been ok since so maybe sex and gym all in one day prob was abit too much!
Very disappointed that there are no ante natal classes in our area anymore due to lack of staff. Apparently you have to ring the hospital to see if they have any going on. Think thats really bad, could just do with a refresher, but if I was a first timer then I think the lack of service is terrible.

I have paid privately for a short course on birth etc tommorow morning so quite looking forward to seeing what that will be like.
Hopefully meet some mums to be. As I feel quite lonely sometimes.

Hi All

Thanks for the suggestions about work - no help available for me, I'm afraid. We didn't get a trainee this year due to credit crunch or something. Will just have to get secretaries to help out a bit more, and buy extra biscuits or something! Not helped that we have had a big Govt decision come out last week that will affect a lot of clients in specialism that my team deal with, so will have huge number of phone calls and letters out to sort out next week, but ho hum. Clients deserve to get the advice, so will just have to knuckle down and stop moaning!

On much better note, went to see my friend today who has just had her second baby, a little boy. He was sooo cute, I had a lovely cuddle and DS1 didn't bother at all when I was holding another baby, so feeling more positive about how he will deal with our baby when it arrives. My friend had a home birth and it was a very positive experience - she hired a water birthing pool and have birth in her living room. The MWs cleared everything away afterwards, and she said within 30 mins of her giving birth you wouldn't even have known what had happened. It sounded fab, tbh, but I am too much of a control freak to have a homebirth for me - I want access to all the drugs and all the emergency services just in case! It does sound a lovely option, though.

ML - I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. Hope you get it all sorted out soon.

Welcome to all the new joiners!

Mustbemad - that must have been terrifying, thank goodness it all turned out ok! I hope you get to meet some other mums at your class - it is great to have people to meet, just to get out of the house sometimes.

Hi to everyone else. We are off on the North York Moors railway tomorrow for my Mum's birthday with entire family - hope we don't get washed away in the rain!

Memory I am so sorry you're having such a stressful time! Is there anyone you can call to go with you at all? If not, might be worth calling the hospital and explaining the situation and see what they say? If I were nearby, I'd go with you!

rachael..sadly there isnt anyone that can go with me...My daughter didnt come home from uni this weekend otherwise Id have taken her...Im afraid to go to sleep even though Im so tired..I will just have to take myself as soon as it gets light and ask DS1 to babysit (as DH works weekends)...I feel completely unsupported by DH at the moment

memory, i hope things are better this morning, please update when you can. Thinking good thoughts for you!

Memory I hope that you have been able to get yourself checked over and that everything is ok. After the week I've had, I know what it feels like to be unsupported by DH and it is not great. I really hope that things work out and you can relax a bit as it sounds as though you haven't had a chance to do much of that this pg...

Memory - I hope you've been able to get checked out and that you're OK. Sorry you're feeling unsupported by your DH, it's horrible when you feel like that Hope he sorts himself out and takes care of you. Thinking of you.

Tomlin - how long till you go on maternity leave? Your friend's homebirth sounds lovely, I'm glad seeing another baby helped you relax.

Mustbemad - sounds pretty scary! Glad everything's OK. at no antenatal classes in your area, that's pretty bad, especially for first timers.

thanks for the kind thoughts everyone..

I feel like a single parent sometimes..DH works long hours and works every single weekend..before I became pregnant I was out working every weekend too so the kids went to my mums....but now I feel quite lonely..and DD is being hard work at the moment and DS1 wants ferrying all over the place to mates etc..Im so worn out as Im still technically working and still have to actively work each Sunday as I have a regular booking to cover.

I dont get any help from my mum really...she has even told me that if I dont have baby until until the last two weeks of April..she wont be coming over to help as they are going to florida on may 1st and my mother is a control freak who needs to spend the best part of a month packing..then she will spend the last two weeks of April, cleaning her house, washing windows etc.

DH has announced that he cannot get any time off after the birth either.
Lately I feel that he doesnt seem interested in me or baby..he did..but just lately he goes to work..comes in, eats and then sits on his laptop ignoring me...he hates coming to clinic with me...and only came last week on my insistence and actually fell asleep while we were in with the diabetic nurse!

Trouble is..I know where this is leading..it means his depression is back..hes been clinically depressed for years and the last time he got like this he refused to get me treatment when I was ill with pnuemonia and I nearly died..

sorry for the rant..just feeling very wobbly and alone right now.

baby woke up at 2 o clock in the morning and had a good wriggle and she is moving now..DH has also asked me to transfer to the nearer hospital..but DM has said she wont visit me after the birth if I transfer there as its an hours drive for her.

feel very fed up at the moment..

Memorylapse - sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Family can be so demanding, you need to start putting yourself first. Your health will suffer more if you don't. Your DM needs to realise you are having the baby and where you have it has nothing to do with her! I'm glad the baby has been having a good wriggle and that has put your mind at ease. I'm sure they just have quiet days sometimes - perhaps putting all their energy into growing! Take care and I'm sending positive thoughts your way. x

Welcome to all the new mums - AIM, ASPARAGUS and KAFFACAKES!

Carikube - glad your DH is starting to help out. My DH has always avoided talking about babies and the labour, but last night he actually asked me questions about what was going to happen.

Mustbemad - That it terrible about the antenatal classes. As a first timer, I am looking forward to my classes. I have read a few books but that isn't the same as being told or talking to others in the same situation.

Hope everyone else is well, tyring to catch up with a few days worth so sorry if I've missed anyone.

I've just got a natal hypnotherapy CD to try, has anyone had any experience of this? I put it on yesterday and it was very relaxing and I think it will be useful during contractions and to calm me down! Thought it might be good for the old BP too. Hope I'm not being too optimistic!

Hi Everyone! There have been so many posts since Thursday night!

First of all, "welcome" to Aim Kaffacakes and Asparagus (weirdly enough, I'm allergic to asparagus!).

ML, which hospital would you choose if it was just up to you (and not DH or DM)? You should choose that one, it's not the right time to be trying to juggle other people's expectations or preferences. Go for the one that you feel comfortable with. Your DM is lucky to only have an hour max. to travel. We're at least 2 1/2 hours away from mine and at least 6 hours from DH's parents. I think our hospital doesn't allow any visitors other than your birth partner (unless you have to stay in for a few days) anyway. But I'm happy to wait for the DPs and DPILs to visit until we're back home really (maybe even until we've been back home for a week or so, if I'm honest!!).

First NCT class with the men today, and it went really well. The other couples seem nice and I was pleasantly surprised when the men were sent away to write a list of what they want to cover over the next few lessons, and one of their main concerns was how to make sure they are helpful and not annoying during the labour (DH added "or for the rest of our lives actually"). Turns out everyone else had been watching OBEM too and dropping hints to all their DHs about not emulating the partners on the programme! MBM hope your refresher course went well this morning and you met some other local mums. Have you tried the local threads on Mumsnet? I had a look at my local thread on here and found a mum who lives near me who is also due in may (although she's on the June 2010 thread because her dates were originally a week later).

Littleowls - I've heard very good things about the hypnotherapy / hypnobirthing CDs, but haven't tried one myself yet. Apparently they make you doze off, so are quite good to put on in the middle of the night if you're suffering from insomnia!

Nice quiet afternoon planned with a slab of Green & Blacks dark chocolate (for the iron levels of course - thanks for that tip TCH!) and the new Audrey Niffenegger book, while DH is out playing golf! Being lazy gathering my strength for a trip to Ikea tomorrow to get some bits and pieces for the nursery. Although we're usually quite good at Ikea (our record time is in and out in 20 minutes with everything on our list and a hot-dog!).

hello all! welcome newbies!

ML- hope things can be sorted quickly with your DH regarding depresion and that your DM will wake up to the fact that you will need her support. if its easier to have baby at neare hospital i would do what is best for you. also glad to see that ababy is now moving about again.
mustbemad have you tried looking privavtely for antenatal classes, or through surestart?
littleowl have eebn told to get a hypnobirthing CD by yoga teacher, even if i dont get to use it in labour just for the relaxing power! fingers crossed yours keeps BP down.

we are all well here, been and bought some plants today, so will be going out in a few mins to put them in and get rid of all the old bits of plant left from last year...need to weed the front of the house too, makes it look much tidier if its all full of plants rather than brick and concrete.
still progressing on the inside clean-a-thon, just the last few bit in the lounge to sort out and 1 more load of washing to do then i will be all sorted. just have to plan how im going to put the furniture, as im trting to make as much space for Ds and aby to play as possible.

hope all are ok

How's everyone's weekends going?

Busy busy Saturday here, we went to look at a car this morning then shopping, then came back and both older DDs went to dancing, we picked up DD1 then went straight off back to our hometown (hours drive away) to look at yet another car and to visit SIL, didn't get back to 7.30pm tonight phew. Didn't like the 2 cars (Kia Sidona) basically due to seat configuration, means I have to have the back row up at all times and squash a pram in. Anyway we know know exactly what we want, Citroen C8 or Peugeot 807 but there are hardly any for sale that are a) close to us and b) within our budget argh cars! Still we have 10 or so weeks to go hopefully something will turn up.

ML - sorry things have been so rough for you but glad all is well with the baby now.

itshappenedagain - wow at you planting, ground still forzen here think it will be about June before it thaws out

right am off to watch some TV and relax, SPD much better than yesterday so that's good

MDM - glad you're enjoying your NCT classes, sounds like the men are being very sensible Are you enjoying the new Audrey Niffenegger (I assume you mean Her Fearful Symmetry or whatever it's called), I liked it.

Memory - glad LO is moving now. I hope you've had a better day and are feeling a bit better.

Itshappenedagain - very impressed at you planting! Every time I try and do anything in the garden the ground's either frozen or it's pouring with rain.

SK - sorry you're still struggling with cars. I hope something turns up for you soon.

Hi All, welcome to those who have joined us!

Memory - sorry your feeling stressed out and worried, its worse when you feel you're not being supported.

Tomlin - hope the 5 weeks up until your maternity leave go quickly and less stressful!

I had my MW appointment this week, she wanted to sign me off work as she says i looked very tired and wanted me to start preparing myself for labour in May - thins freaked me out a bit! I said i'd feel more stressed if i wasn't at work getting things done. Now regretting it as i caught the norovirus at work and have spent the las t 2 days on the toilet with bad stomach pains and complete exhaustion Got a little worried about bubs, MW was fantastic and came out to visit and check heartbeat. Was raised but nothing too concerning which was good. LO has been moving around which is great but not great when stomach already in agony Been left with sharp back pains which i think is down to lying around too much but no energy for anything else.

Feeling better today and have managed to eat something too which is good.

On a positive note, a friend had a baby boy by CS yesterday - both well

sorry post all about me!

Hi all and welcome to Asparagus Kaffacakes and Aim

On my 30wk app on Thurs i got a from the MW as i'm getting what i assume are Braxton Hicks (not very often, mainly at work) but we managed to work out that they started just after my fall last week so nothing to be too concerned about and since Thurs evening i've not had any
BTW my bruised knee seems to be getting worse, not painful or achey, can't feel it, but the bruise is at least 3x bigger than original and its getting darker in colour - any suggestions on it?

I'm on MLC so have a team of 3 MW's looking after me and this app was with the only one i'd not seen before, lovely, v chatty, gentle with bump so hoping she's around for the birth!! But its my 3rd time i've had the fundal height measured - at 24wks it was 24wks (MW 1) at 26 weeks it was 28wks (MW 2)and at 30wks i now measure 33wks with MW 3 - am i getting too big too quickly or is it as my app are with diff MW's and never at the same time of day? (Squirt heads south and bump seems bigger towards the end of the day)
She didn't bother sending me for a scan as i had the extra heart specialist one last week and if anything was totally amiss they would have picked it up, she just told me to watch my weight in the nxt 10wks or so..... but cake is soooo yummy and so are Snickers (never really liked them but now preferring them to Mars bars )

Last night i ended up in A&E - nothing wrong with me, DP had chest pains for 2 days and like a typical man ignored them, so we end up in hospital on the busiest night of the week with him hooked up to an ECG and having bloods taken got home at 5am this morning, i'm still shattered to say the least so didn't go into work today but have now realised i'm in at 8am tomorrow.... grrrrr really should hit my bed soon!!

But on a much happier note, we've found a beautiful little apartment in a fablously quiet mews about a 10min drive away and we should pick up the keys and sign everything in 2weeks!!! Rent is under what we'd budgeted for, deposit is under what we were expecting and the place has almost everything we need, so under budget there as well (just need a fridge/freezer and an ironing board). Have told DP that as a reward for stopping smoking before we move we'll spend some of the cash we've saved on a new 360 for him and some yummy post baby heels for me

Hope everyone is well and bumps are behaving themselves

xxxxx

SK..the car market is a minefield..it does your head in..hope you find something soon.

Den..sorry to hear youve been poorly..sickness bugs are not welcome at the best of times, especially when pregnant.

Squirtsmum..did they find out what was wrong with DH in the end? must have been a really stressful evening for you

Morning all, been awake since 5am couldn't sleep have taken some painkillers just having a cuppa and waiting for them to kick in.

The car thing is a nightmare, the one we really want is really scarce and as we are in Scotland it's even worse. Might have to have a rethink but I think we are going to keep this car for a load of years, I will be getting 4 children in and out it every day so it has to be right IYSWIM?

Anyone decided on names yet? I like one, DP likes another, we both kind of half like another you would think we would have a plethora of unused boys names wouldn't you? The DDs have decided we should call him Baby David, after DP but a bit Royale Family

squirtsmum - I wouldn't worry too much about the weight thing, some MWs don't even measure just look at your bump and say you are fine, I mean does everyone start and end from the exact same point? You could measure yourself 3 times and get 3 different measurements. Sorry to hear about your DP. is he OK now? And well done on finding the house.

Den - poor you I had a stomach bug with DD2 I think, nasty but the baby is well protected and they have priority over your wellbeing so they get all the nutrients. I watched this programme once where they were saying a baby is the ultimate parasite on it's mother, they send out hormones that break down our bones for calcium, rob our brains of essential fatty oils and even make us really sleepy so we rest so they can steal all our energy. I see it as an excuse for those afternoon naps myself I am always telling DP I may look like I am doing nothing lounging on the sofa but I am growing another person from scratch and that takes a lot oh and have you ever done that? erm no!!!

Maybe reduce your work by a few days a week as a compromise?

Hope everyone has a nice realxing Sunday, not much planned here as yesterday was so hectic, will spend it with my lovely DDs, I have promised DD1 I will play dollies with her, just the two of us, bit of time without the other two kicking off, we don't get to spend much one on one time together.