Due May 2010: Into the third trimester we go, can the bumps get any bigger?

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So here's the continuation of the thread previously known as Due May 2010: Where we get a 'bloom' just in time for the christmas mayhem???
Let's see if this one lasts up until the first birth... Knowing how chatty we can be, I doubt it!

Cross post Pigley, sounds like your GTT was like the one I had in my first pregnancy, I wonder why some places do it differently?

Memory- The info in my pink notes (exactly the same as last time with DD) says to fast from midnight then 2 hours before the test drink 410ml of Lucozade (orginal kind!) The blood test needs to be taken 2 hours after you finish the drink.

Nothing about a fasting blood test at all and no time as to when you should have it. I choose to drink my drink at 6 to be finished at 6.30 and have my test at 8.30 when the clinic opens.

Its horrible having to push in front of people who have been waiting ages as it needs to be done at a set time.. You do get some filthy looks!

Forgot to say in my last post that I met DH at a hen party ...

Had GTT with DS (pg1) 12hr fast, blood, lucozade, wait, more blood go home and eat everything in sight!

We have zafira and love it with 2kids and flexibility of extra seats but can't get 3 across middle row and not sure I'm happy any more about putting DS in the boot (he thinks its a treat) after some comments on other mn threads

Intimacy not as often as weekly here, he'd love more, I'd still choose more sleep! Met at uni 12yrs ago but took ages to get together - problems like him being engaged at the time

Have started my evening class in indian head massage and think I'm really going to enjoy it, have sky+ed OBEM to watch later. DH and I find it really funny, mostly because I've been so lucky in both labours. I'm another one who realises how good DH is in labour when watching the apologies for partners on there

The GTT I had in my last pg sounds like the one you had pigley, all a bit hit and miss really! I haven't had to have one this time - new rules, different area, who knows?

I met DH 10 years ago in the Falklands. We didn't get together for 18 months as he was also engaged to someone else. Knowing that we got on so well before we were together really helped things along at the start too.

Nothing new here, MW yesterday was uneventful, I asked all my related health questions but am still none the wiser!

Ladies,

Apologies for quick post, been enjoying reading all of yours - although you're all half scaring me with your stories of the difficulties of getting sleep and being a good parent to todlers. Still, you're all here doing it again so I guess it can't be that bad?

Lots of respect to you SK battling on with SPD!
ML - very angry for your late diagnosis of infection and MDM horrified at your GP story. Don't get me started on this topic...
SquirtsMum - I'm no game player but first came across my dh on a geeky online forum - 14 years ago

Had my 28 week appt and blood tests this week. I'm in shutting-eyes-and-turning-head school when it comes to blood tests so I was a bit put out by the chatty style of the woman who took them this time. She was more interested in making comments about what sort of first time mothers people my age make, how tiring toddlers are and how big my bump looks Still, came away with no brusing so can't complain that much.

We've been doing nothing but packing up our home of last ten years. It's taking ages. Keep having to order more boxes. Moving out on monday, and everything is going into storage for two weeks when (hopefully) we'll get the keys to house we're buying.

So, I'm 29 weeks on Sunday and i want to ask if you think it would be mad to put baby/hospital bag stuff in storage for the fortnight, or if I should keep that with me? Will be staying with friends so don't want to have too much baggage.

What do you think?

hi everyone we have had this snowy slush all day long, it's cold and just plain miserable, or is that just me? I so want to be able to go out without coats, hats, scarves, gloves, boots, scrapping the car and being cold.

OBEM was fun last night, I alternated between sobbing and wanting to strangle that DH what a twat. I remember DP telling me to stop making so much noise during DD1's birth, I think I shouted at him to "F* off" and get out. I think it was because the MWs were also saying that. Also the MW saying to the poor lady about not having the G&A until later. I remember the MW coming in last time and I was hanging over the sofa, I didn't even say hello it was "gas and air now" That poor baby though he looked big and when he came out floppy eek!

No experience of GTTs here sorry.

A friend of a friend has set up her own ironing business and is coming to pick up a stack for me tonight yey!

Tomlin - I would pay little attention to fundal height and what size MWs tell you the baby is going to be, IME they tell you one thing and the baby is another. There are so many women I know get all scared about measuring big and trying to give birth to a 10lber and thinking they will need a CS and out pops a 7lber. With me they told me DD2 was 7lbs and she was over 9lbs. I think it worries you when they start all that. I meane everyone is a different shape and getting a tape measure out and measuring a bump is not exact is it?

Gils - sorry about your fright, not nice when you think you are in early labour but reassuring when it turns out to be a tummy bug. I bought some newborn nappies last night too, got about 40 size 1's that I think will do for a week or so. I prefer the Pampers newborn as they have a kind of mesh layer which is good at catching the very runny BF poos. Don't get too many size 1's as they grow out them v quickly.

brightred - the C4 is very nice but I think they haven't been out that long so getting a cheap secondhand one i.e. under 9K is hard, same with the SMAX. I know the Renault Scenic can fit 3 in a back but no boot seats I have been warned off the Espace though by about 6 different people and have been told the Grand Scenic is rubbish as well but they are popular so guess it's your luck.

Squirtsmum - you are definitely in the minority then lucky you was telling DP about what we were talking about and he was like "you look great and I feel all protective of you with the bump but just can't you know with the baby there" I am quite glad as I don't think I could bear being touched erm downstairs just now, feel all swollen and my piles are playing up as well, coupled with the SPD and ever expanding bum have never felt so unattractive in my life.

Oh sorry I am full of the joys today aren't I? Oh I know it will all be worth it in the end.

Lots of people here have met partners on the internet - I did too! Must be higher than an average group in RL because we're net-inclined and on a mums' forum, maybe?

Those who have had good birth partners - what did they do that was so supportive? My poor DP is a first-timer and keeps asking what I'd like him to do as a birth partner. But I haven't a clue, really. Depends! I guess just to be there - not tell me what to do, but to tell me I'm doing brilliantly - regardless! What advice would you give a man who has never been a birth partner before?

Schipo good luck with the move. I just swapped bedrooms at the weekend and the house is still in chaos! How you are managing a complete move in your third tri, I don't know! Make sure you don't overdo it!

TOmlin - I agree with PIgley - it's such an inexact measurement, I wouldn't worry about the odd cm or two.

Rachel - wow at your cake-making! Impressive!

Hope everyone else is okay - esp those with their GTT tests...

hobnobfanatic I would say to first time dp to... not sleep whilst you are in labour no matter how long it takes (like mine did!) make sure he knows where the babys things are packed for when the baby is delivered. Make sure he is just there for you and dosn't act like one of those prats on obem!

Ive been to a new class at the gym today called chi gong (or something like that) it was quite slow and I felt dizzy standing for so long. But I need to keep calm so should be good for the aura!

I met dh 16 years ago whilst decorating his house. Never looked back 2 beautiful boys and hoping this one is a girl (so scan says) as will be the icing on the cake, after a torrid few years. Ds2 been very poorly but should be getting statement soon and more support so hopefully he will embrace his new baby sister. Just hope I can cope!!!

Hobnob I thought DH was going to be a complete drip during my labour with DD as he is very squeamish but he was brilliant. We agreed that he would only stay for as long as he felt comfortable but he was there right through the lot and was actually the one who held DD for the first hour whilst I was getting patched up. He didn't crowd me, he kept encouraging me throughout and he also spent a lot of time making sure that I was drinking enough water. We discovered early on that I didn't really want to be touched during contractions so he gave me my space. Basically he was supportive in every way I could have wished and really took me by surprise as I wasn't expecting that much from him!

well had my first bad buying experience on ebay..sold my other pliko as I couldnt get the matching car seat...succesfully bid on a pramette in boston check..looked nice in the pics...sadly when it arrived, it stank of stale cooking...was filthy..the seat unit had milk stains on it and food crumbs and the sun shade was broken...seller basically told me bog off and accused me of lying...saying send it back for a refund..but I wont refund postage..well in that case that will leave me about £25 down Id be better off selling it on (after a good clean)....so I still have no pram...DH wont let me buy new...

ahhh, I love all the stories about how everyone met their other halves! Hobnob I think you are probably absolutely right that, as a group on an online forum, we're probably far more likely than the average group of people to have met partners online.

Schipo, as a first-timer too I don't really know what to suggest about whether or not to put your hospital bag in storage (although I am very impressed that you already have one!). I am a bit paranoid because one of DH's cousins had her baby at 30 weeks last year (doing fine now, luckily). Do you have a car? If so, my inclination would be perhaps to leave it in the car boot. That way you have it handy in case of emergency, but it won't be cluttering up your friends' house.

SK I was on the edge of my seat in OBEM when that poor baby came out all floppy and it seemed to take them ages to get it to breathe.

Like Hobnob, am also interested to hear any top tips for DH to be a good birth partner (or at least just not a rubbish one!). Was quite suprised this morning when he asked me to save OBEM on the sky+ box for when he gets back from his work trip! I didn't think he was that into it, to be honest.

Rachel am really impressed by the sound of your cake baking skills! Hope your GTT results come back clear so you get to eat it too!

Does anyone else find they have days when they feel more pregnant than others? Today I suddenly feel much more pregnant (29+1). The bump feels more weighty, almost like it has a bit more downwards pressure, and I was really aware of it when walking from the station to my office this morning, when I'm not usually aware of it when walking at all. I wonder if the baby has moved to a head-down position, because it feels more firm toward the base of the bump, and I have been getting little nudges / kicks in my stomach and diaphragm all day. Would that make sense?

Ah yes, the intimacy question... We are managing only about once a week at the moment, but I blame that mainly on the fact that DH is currently distracted by watching the winter olympics in bed of an evening! He actually seems to like me being pregnant though (he's always been a boobs man anyway, so it's a bit like christmas for him at the moment) - he said it made me look 'really feminine' !!!

hurrah! DH has agreed after our pram fiasco that I can order a new one after I pointed out that if I bought the car seat to go with the other one..it would cost almost the same.

so Ive pre ordered this...

www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplayA_54_10751_-1_1405 18001410001_14051

Thanks for all the comments about the GTT. I have an appointment with the Midwife next thursday so will have to quix her about it then. Its just that theres so much more sugar in the Orange Lucozade that its bound to come back positive.
As DH pointed out though.. If it come back ok then its even better as def def not Diabetic.
The MW may suggest to see the results and maybe do it again in a few weeks.
Oh joy!

Carikube- at a hen night? Was he the stripper

Yorky - My sister does indian head massage along with her hairdressing. Its fab Was it you arranging the secret stork? What happened about that?

schipo Agree with MDM about maybe leaving it in the car. If not then just a few essentials in a small bag. Most likely wont need it but saves hunting through boxes if you do.

SK yay on the ironing service

Memory Yay on the new pram/carseat.

hobnob Its hard as you dont know how you will be yourself. Id say "dont moan" "positive thinking" and to take his cues from you. DH was just there and suppotive and was helping me understand what the MW's were saying when I was out of it on Pethadine. for Example... MW- Do you want an epidural?
Me sobbing in pain- I dont know. DH- Say yes! You do want an epidural dont you! (knowing that i just wasnt coping with the pain and spaced out)

Re meeting DH.
Another computer related meet here. DH was at Uni doing a computer science degree and also working partime in Tesco's- Alongside my mum.
Our computer broke so mum asked him to come and have a look at it. We got chatting and really hit it off. A few weeks later Mum suggested to him that if I might like it if he rang me ( typical mum! I nearly died of embarrasment when she told me!) Anyway he did and we had our first date. Seems he had been thinking about me too but though i was out of his league, Bless him! Anyway that was 10 years ago. We moved in together after only 9mths and lived 50 miles away from anyone we knew for DH's job so it was make or break us for us really.
4 owned houses on, 2.5 years of marriage and a 1yr old...I think we did ok

TomlinTowers - I was told that the fundal height measurement can be out by 2 weeks without being a problem. Glad to know your DS sleeps better in a bed, makes me feel more positive about it! She slept OK last night so I think she's getting the hang of it.

SquirtsMum - We've met some really good friends through WoW (some who are RL friends too now) so I don't think it's odd. You can get to know people so well We used to joke about race/class DD would turn out to be as well I wasn't actively playing when I was on mat. leave, wish I had been because I'd have been much less bored and been able to level loads of characters.

Re meeting DH - we met at my 17th birthday party. I had a joint one with some friends and we invited him because he was a friend of a friend (we needed more boys because we were at a girls school). There was a secret Santa thing where someone had brought toy handcuffs, some joker used them to cuff us together as part of a dare, we got talking and started dating a month or so after that. It's a fun story to tell cos it always sounds quite saucy despite being really innocent. People had to hint to DH to ask me out too Pigley - he didn't believe them that I might be interested and thought it was all a joke

Re sex: I just haven't been very keen at all for ages so it's been a long time now. DH is being very patient but I kind of wish I could, just always too tired by bedtime

Re GTTs: Mine was having to fast overnight, then have bloods, Lucozade, wait an hour, more bloods, wait another hour, more bloods. Hope everyone's test goes well and we all get good results.

I watched OBEM last night and cried throughout - that woman's DH was horrible I showed DH when he came home (he'd been out) and he agreed bloke was really unpleasant. He was very supportive and calm in labour last time which I really appreciate. Top tips were that he was very patient with what I wanted and helped me pack the hospital bag so he knew where things where so could get them quickly. He was asking the MW questions about what was going on because I was too out of it to remember but it meant we were informed properly. He was very supportive of my choices too which was great but did help me make them (when I was refusing an epidural because I was being stubborn he talked to me and made me realise I wasn't being a wuss). TBH, he always says he's massively in awe of any woman going through it and I think that helps

Had my 28 week appointment yesterday so got to see LO again on a scan which was nice. Apparently, the consultant was worried because one of my blood test GTT results was borderline (although MW said they were all fine) so wants me to see the diabetes team so they can decide whether to treat me as being diabetic. It's a bit annoying, because from what she was saying, it's not borderline but under what it should be (can't remember figures now). It was all a bit surreal. I spoke to the MW afterwards who said she can't imagine why the diabetic team would be interested. I'd asked the doctor (not one I've seen before) about not tearing again in a second delivery and she just told me that I only tore so badly because I was pushing wrong in the first birth. Helpful . All a bit unsatisfactory really. The diabetic team are meant to be ringing me at home so hopefully that will help.

Pigley no, DH was just one of a few blokes who had also been invited along on the hen night (don't ask me why!). When we went to see the priest to arrange our wedding and told him we met at a hen night, he looked DH up and down and said "Where you the roly-poly strippogram?"....DH was not impressed!

I'm on a bit of a downer here - ended up crying last night as I'm feeling anxious about things and in particular the thought of what we do with DD when I'm in labour is starting to really stress me out. Told DH that that is why I've been a bit off for a few days and he didn't say anything no words of reassurance, no hugs better, nothing. I ended up sleeping in the spare room as I was so upset and then he tried to leave for work this morning without saying goodbye. It's so not like him as he's normally so supportive (admittedly he was in a bad mood with me last night as I hadn't shown any enthusiasm about a party we've been invited to which he got cross about) and I'm now feeling a bit abandoned just when I need him the most. Damn these pg hormones!!

Carikube - so sorry you're feeling down and unsupported. It's entirely natural. At least I keep trying to tell myself this! I'm also worried about DD when labour strikes - I know my mum will be at least 3 hours before she arrives and I had quite a quick labour the first time. Also worried about juggling work and baby and house and DD - with no maternity or paternity leave eligible to us. And we need to buy a house together - and everything is taking AGES. I just want everything to be organised NOW!

Carikube - the end is in sight. We can almost count the weeks on our fingers. Everything will be fine. How old is your DD?

hello all!

sorry to hear that a lot of you are in panic mode, and hope that DH/DPs become more supportive and understand a bit better soon.

im loving the stories of how you met your partners...nice to tell your children in years to come.

im still in clean up get sorted out mode, and am waiting for my landlord to call and tell me when he is coming to paint, as i think it will be easier if we just go and stay at my mums for a few days. then again he may just give me the paintand say get on with it!

hobnob - my friend and her partner have just moved in together this week, and she is 36 weeks pregnant, so hopefully it will happen for you to very soon.

strange question, what colour towel are you taking to hospital? just took a couple of old ones last time, but all my towels are now white...think i may have to go out and buy some new in a dark colour.
another question what are the symtoms of GD, its just im thirsty all the time.

anyway off to do more cleaning, im determined to have everything organised and sorted out by the 2nd week in march...just ahve to wait for LOs dad to move himself and all will be done!

I think we all agree that the DH on OBEM..was a complete twonk...my DH couldnt beleive how horrible he was being to his partner.

am very pleased..as ebay have refunded me for the horrid pram..and I havent even sent it back yet!

Hello all, just put DD to bed after a fairly ok morning with her. Went to see a friend who has a toddler and a 6 month old and my DD played really nicely

My friends 2 DD's have had quite severe reflux but she says life is starting to become easier ok already.

My DD had mild-ish reflux - does anyone know if its genetic? Really hope DS doesnt have it.

I am very tired again today as DD was up in the night (second consecutive night, really unusual for her), hope she has a nap now

I met my DH about 12 years ago but didnt get together for about 3 of those as I was living with someone. We used to work together and got on brilliantly as friends, he used to joke that one day he would marry me . I only realised how I felt about him when he got a girlfriend (long distance) and I was insanely jealous.

Does me good to remember this as having been together 9 years and married for 3 of those, am finding you do have to remind yourself . I feel quite unsupported too as DH's energy is all in to DD (rightly so) but pregnant and emotional I feel quite sorry for myself.

Thanks for the 'get-wells' girls.

How are you feeling memory? stupid flu. Hey, I have also got something (midwife thinks it's a knee) pushing across the underside of my ribs - what a weird feeling. Also, every now and then I get a kick or nudge that pushes some air out of one lung. Or that's what it feels like.

MDM Chocolate museum/makers is veyr high on my Bruges list though I am a bit worried that I might create an embarrassing international incident by completely losing my head and throwing myself into a huge pot of warm chocolate a la charlie and chocolate factory.

DH told me last night that I have best bump in NCT class. Very sweet (if a bit odd.)

squirts and heffa Loving this utterly incomprehensible WoW chat.

rachelfruitlooP and memory* and others with regular hospital treatments, I have a newfound respect for you - had to go to JR today for my physio app for SPD. Took all bloody morning and was pointless. Hate hospitals, definitely not having the baby in one.

schipo go for the storage option. You will be fine. And good luck with the move!

memory that's really bad luck about the pram. Hopoe you FLAME the seller on ebay. oh but HOORAY have just read newer post. Send your link again to new pram.

carikube I know what you mean - I spent most of Monday in tears. stupid PG hormones indeed. Some days are just well hard. Hope you are feeling better?

DH and I met in the world's skankiest pub in a shoddy part of London. He intervened when some horrible man was hassling me. DH was drunk as a lord but still thrashed me at pool. Oh, the romance

hi everyone, well I finally got the HIP form and posted it off, spoke to another MW (useless one is off sick) anyway she recognised my name and I said "you delivered my DD2" she was asking if I was booked in for a HB again and I said I was and that I was scared of not making it to hospital, she said perhaps it would be best to go as she loves quite far away as does a few of the MWs and they might not make it in time

I am now totally stressed and confused about the whole labour and birth thing. I think it would be best if they could induce me on a given date. Like Carikube it's the other DDs that are worrying me, I have school and nursery pick ups and DP works about an hour away and no family close by, I do have friends to call on in an emergency but suppose my waters go (which is best case) I know I have minutes before the contractions start and I have to sort out childcare and phone DP if he is not here and actually get to the hospital or if a HB get the MWs here. DD3 was born in 1h 35m from waters breaking waking me up until she was here, 45 mins of good contractions and no pushing.

I know they induce for severe SPD and I think if I knew the date, DP would be here, SIL would be here childcare sorted, I'm having a 4th baby after 3 naturals, if I were 40 weeks how long would it take to kick me off, couldn't they just start it and my body would do the rest? Stressing me out no end.

Towels - I have dark blue ones, last time I bought some really cheap Asda basic ones as it was a HB and you need loads, with a view of just throwing them away (had used all my really old ones for DD2s birth), anyway my lovely friend took them home and washed them they must have been well mucky. But she got all the stains out!

Right had better shoot off and make some dinner

Hi all

Had a horrendously busy week at work so I've had no chance to read the thread, will try to at some point tonight, but hope all is well.

For those of you who are teachers, we've had Offsted in after being given a notice to improve last year. Thankfully we got a satisfactory today which takes the pressure off, the other option was special measures and I'm pleased we weren't heading in that direction. So, a very stressful week including working over my two 'days off' but glad its over . Relaxation here I come.

Hope everyone is well.

LuckyC I'm a bit calmer now but will be interested to see how things are when DH gets in from work; I'm actually going out tonight so we won't have too much time together but I'm trying figure out how much of an issue to make of the fact that I have felt so unsupported or whether to just drop it.

Had my MW appt this pm and all is well; however she said that my next appt in 4 wks will be with the GP as she doesn't have enough time to see me. She couldn't do my HIP form either as she hasn't had time to sort them out yet and has a backlog to get through - she'll be posting it to me in a few days instead.

She also told me that I probably won't see much of her on OBEM as none of the women whose labours she attended wanted to be filmed so she'll only ever be in the background. She did say that the editing in the programme has been quite naughty eg making the receptionist look as though she doesn't do anything all day when in reality she is apparently exceptionally busy and always really helpful

Carikube - sorry you're feeling down My DH did exactly the same to me a couple of weeks ago when I was struggling, but was very helpful when I did get to talk to him. Hope you get to speak to yours and he's supportive.

I was wondering about the editing on OBEM so trying to remember that what we see might not be everything that's going on. That receptionist reminds me of Eddie Izzard!

Hollyoaks - congratulations on Ofsted thing My Mum was a headteacher so can understand how stressed you must have been. Hope you get to chill now

SK- sorry you're feeling stressed about your birth choices, doesn't sound like the midwives are being terribly helpful.

LuckyC - enjoy all the chocolate! I'm feeling very geeky talking about WoW.

I got a phone call this afternoon from someone in the diabetic team telling me that I'm now officially going to be treated as diabetic and have lots of monitoring, even more growth scans (in addition to the extra 3 I already had scheduled) and that they'll probably induce at 37 weeks. It all seems to be happening very fast since only one of the results from my GTT was borderline and the other 2 were fine (the 2 midwives I've spoken to have said that the 'borderline' result isn't even borderline). Not sure what's going on really They keep talking about a big baby, but LO is spot on the 50th centile from the scans I've had (including yesterdays) and DD was small when she was born too.