First Time Frolicker Graduates...

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...now the "Crazy Baby Ladies"!

Had the idea to start this thread because, after getting my BFP on Monday, it suddenly dawned on me that I was going to lose contact with a lot of lovely people. I feel sad every time anyone leaves (though obviously happy for you that you've got your BFP) and thought this might be a nice idea, so that we can continue to keep in touch. After all, we've been through a lot together, haven't we?!

Also, I felt a bit out of my depth on the other threads, where it seemed like most of the members had already had children. There didn't seem to be a "first-timers" thread on here. (Unless I missed it!)

So here goes!

CURRENT GRADUATES:

Trying4Baby1 - BFP 21Aug - EDD?
Kaystar - BFP 27Aug - EDD?
Pepperonipizza - BFP 12Sep - EDD?
Fulhamgirl - BFP 18Sep - EDD?
Ladyemmalou83 - BFP 13Oct - EDD?
bluesnowfalcon - BFP 14 Oct - EDD?
Spirael - BFP 7 Nov - EDD?
Curlycasper - BFP 11 Nov - EDD?
TishTosh21 - BFP ??? - EDD?
EmsieRo - BFP 16 Nov - EDD?
vix206 - BFP 8 Dec - EDD?
HypotheticalMummy - BFP 9 Dec - EDD?
Ozziegirly - BFP 16 Dec - EDD?
NovemberAli - BFP 24 Dec - EDD?
Eleanora - BFP 28 Dec - EDD?
whiteroses - BFP 11 Jan - EDD 25th Sept
hamsterlover - BFP 11 Jan - EDD?

FUTURE GRADUATES:

addie81
aly323
blueberry noo
Bunnygirl
Calyx
Capricorn76
ceebs05
chalky3
chancewouldbeafinething
chico193
CJ2007
cla ireinthecommunity
DrewsGirl
evilgiraffe
fudgecat
Hobnob
Homebound
Honeymoo
Kaloki
kkas
Mada meG
mrscinco
mumnerves
Muser
Pidgin
pixiestix
Sevans
Sky27
sparklyrainbow
Stellybelly
Worr isomHeart
YorkshireTeaDrinker
Zippys

spirael again our lives are echoing eachother's! I hardly slept last night due to scan worries and this awful cold that is finally clearing up today.

We had the 20-week scan. all looks healthy but blurry pic appears to show that I am giving birth to a beer-bellied chimpanzee. Can't wait for a clearer image at tomorrow's private gender scan. Oh, and we both thought we saw boy bits today but can't be sure (I said I saw testicles - actually I said ball-sack - and he said he saw "a little willie")

Now it probably will be a girl.... hee hee
will let you know tomorrow.

positive talks with my rheumatologist as well today, so that's encouraging re controlling the arthritis. take care all, i;m off to catch up in the house after a day of hospitals and baby shopping.

grumpy congrats on healthy baby cant wait to find out what your having, be sure to put pic up on your profile

managed to make today's pic a bit better. It's here.

Better one with gender to come tomorrow.

HEH at "ball sack" - I am so immature, I find that so funny.

But also congratulations on the healthy baby at the scan, really great news.

fulham sorry to hear that your boss is such a bitch.

As for maternity clothes, I have bought 3 dresses, a pair of jeans and a couple of tops. I'll probably buy a couple more things as I get bigger but these are fine for now - I still fit into all my normal tops really, it's just around the waist that is tight - hence dresses.

Well I've been to my Midwifes appointment and talk about being blinded by science. She went through all the tests that I have, I get tested for HIV and syphilis. I mean HIV I kinda get, but syphilis!! The last time I checked we were in the 21st century, not 16th century France!!! I told my Dh and you know what he said to me, well I'll tell you he said 'well are you positive?' I tell you, I nearly blew my top. It's not as if I go around rubbing my genitals all over smelly random people, the cheek of it. I calmed down a bit when he asked me what it was, bless ignorance really is bliss isn't it. I love my DH.

I've got my maternity notes, they're not as snazzy as I thought they would be. I was expecting some kind of funcky pregnancy related design or at the very least a book. Nope I get a large green booklet that has lots of boxes which I have to fill in. Woop de doo!

My midwife was a bit of an odd sort, she was very quiet and softly spoken. I wondered in the back of my head how she managed to be heard over the screams of a woman in the throes of labour. Hmmm well I guess I'll find out one way or the other.

Right I've got to ask, but when my Mum was preggers she brought home lots of informative booklets such as an Emmas diary and a bounty guide to pregnancy. Do people still get these? or are we expected to fend for ourselves these days?

On the upside I've got a date of 7th April for my scan. I can't wait I'm so excited.

Fulham I will be that Mum who takes her shopping home but leaves her baby at the supermarket. It will get so bad that my LO will know the supermarket staff by name. We just rushed out the door and just didn't pick them up, simple as that really. Me and DH are just a ditzy (but intelligant at times) couple. Yeah I might queary that with my landlord, I don't want to be paying for the improvements to the pavement outside, I don't earn the budget of a council unfortunately.

Grumpy Oooo I bet you can't wait, I'd be so excited. Let us know how your scan goes tomorrow and if it confirms the ball sack theory. LOL

Ozzie Don't worry you weren't the only one, my sense of humour isn't very sophisticated. I laugh myself silly at films such as Clerks and Superbad. My DH thinks it's fab though as he doesn't have to hide the films from my sensitive eyes and ears. Mind you, it's all his fault I was naive and innocent before he got hold of me.

Hi folks..

First of all - huge apologies for the prolonged silence. Nothing sinister - more that my m/s has kicked up a notch and is exacerbated by the commute to and from work, so that when I get home I'm too sick and exhausted to do anything but lie on the couch and whine at DH! I hope that in 3 weeks time when I hit the second trimester I will start feeling better and can be a better poster!! Have had a really quick read through and will try and keep up with your news, but just wanted to touch base quickly. Have my first m/w appt on the 18th and then scan on the 29th, so really looking forward to both of those. Recently I've been having twin dreams which is slightly worrying - especially as I'm a twin myself so the hereditary thing is there! Eek! Don't quite know how I'd cope with two - am worried enough about keeping one thriving!!

roses Sea Bands are the work of angels - I'm convinced they are the only thing keeping me from being sick. Absolutely brilliant.

Pidgin and yorkshire congrats and welcome!!

desperate and spireal so exciting about finding out the blue/pinkness of your babes!!

Anyway, hope you all have lovely weekends - will go back to my reading only state now and will post after my scan when hopefully I'll be blooming - right?

Morning all

spirael and desperate i hope your colds clear up soon. Have you tried a few drops of olbas oil on your pillow? It helps me when im bunged up

grumpy congratulations on the 20 week scan what time is your scan today?

hermya LOL at the syphilis but glad all went ok at your midwifes appointment and that you have your scan booked

worrisome twin dreams eh????

Yesterday we made the decision to book an early private scan for the 19th just to see how things were going... I think i have jinxed myself by doing this as last night and this morning i have had some spotting im trying not to panic as i know its probably Ã?Â?just one of those thingsÃ?Â? and all will be ok, but the other part of me keeps telling me that im still in the 10% risk of miscarriage zone.

someone tell me its going to be ok

ball sack theory was a pile of balls! our initial instincts were right and it's a wee girl! happy, happy, happy!

Hey lovely ladies, sorry not been in here for a long time. I'm so exhausted from work, and now feeling/being sick on a night as well as a morning too. Lunch is the only meal I feel able to eat freely at the mo without feeling ill. I've gone off meat, fish, anything tomatoey, milk and anything spicy and strong tasting. Doesn't leave a great deal for me to eat really.

I'll be 11 wks tomorrow, and I can't quite believe that I've got this far (I've had a real fear that I was going to be one of the unlucky ones who MC, sorry, hope that doesn't upset anyone).

I've just had my home visit with the MW. (some of you may remember that I posted a few weeks ago that I didn't like her much)
I warmed to her a lot more this time, could have a laugh and a joke with her too. She had put me down for an NHS scan but I've not had a letter through, so I guess I def aren't getting one. All my bloods came back good, I'm immune to rubella and my iron count is good too. Got a huge pack of stuff in a bounty folder, a little light reading!

I feel a lot happier

Congrats and welcome to Yorkshireteadrinker and Pidgin Whiteroses glad your scan went well and that you're finding the travel sickness wrist bands work, I felt no different with mine on! I'm still sick even wearing them!

Hi all!

Hee, DH and I have been pondering the genetics of LO too, fulhamgirl. We've both got chocolate brown hair, as have all our family, so that one is pretty much a given. However, DH was born white blonde and got darker - I was born jet black and got lighter! I wonder if Gadget will have stripes to cover both.

Fair skin that burns easily (and is tasty food for bugs) is pretty much guarenteed as well, unfortunately. Eye colour will be a surprise, we've got most of them somewhere in the family. Height, build and metabolism could go either way too - though looks like Gadget is taking after her tall, skinny daddy at present! Better than her dumpy mummy, that's for sure.

After spending yesterday pouring over various baby name sites, DH and I have finally come up with three possible names. Secret IRL, but I'll share them here for opinions, specifically if there's anyone famous that's a bad connection? The three possible names are Tabitha Mary, Vivienne Sarah or Serafina Jane.

We found three middle names that did a good job of honouring the necessary, in the end! We both really like all the options. I figured we'll decide which one we're going with on the day, after we get to see LO properly.

Congratulations on your scan, Curly! (Or are you still Grumpy? ) Another little girl for the first time frolickers! But it balances out the July thread a bit better, lots of boys there. So glad everything looks fine. Was it a 3D/4D scan you had today, or just a regular 2D one?

Does sound like twins could be on the cards there, WorrisomeHeart... I wouldn't worry about it too much though, if there are two then I'm sure you'll find it easier to cope than you think.

Also, any and every baby is special, regardless of whether or not any siblings happen to appear at the same time as them. I'm just saying that because loads of people around me IRL seem to be having twins, and I've had a few comments directed to me of "Oh, you're only having one?" ... Only?? One is just as special as two, or three, or ten...

Blooming happened for me from around 13-14 weeks, I think. Well... I say blooming, it was more like a return to normality. I stopped feeling sick, my chest stopped hurting and if it wasn't for the fact that none of my clothes fitted then I would have sworn I wasn't pregnant.

I keep getting kicked in the pelvis now though, which helps remind me I am.

Gosh, smiley overload in this post.

My gosh, what a horrid day. One of the girls on the October thread suffered an ectopic last night, poor thing. I also had a text off of a friend back home who suffered a missed miscarriage at 15 weeks. I also heard my cousin had a miscarriage at 7 weeks this week as well.

To cap it all I've had some brown spotting last night and today. I rang the midwife and they said wait and see but that it should be nothing to worry about. I've not had any cramps and I still do feel pregnant. I.e sore breasts and the like. But, I feel so low. When you hear this sort of thing it makes you wonder 'what if I'm next?' and you just can't help it. I was at work when I heard the news and I had to literally stop myself from bursting into tears.

I really feel for my friend, that was a very much wanted baby and it was their first. What can you do though?

I'm sorry my post is a bit sad, but it's not been a happy day.

But you know what, I'm not out of the game yet. If my child has inherited even an ounce of my stubborness it'll be clinging on for all it's worth in there. So I'm going to go with that stubborn filled thought.

I hope you are all having very good days!!!

fudgecat and hermya will keep my fingers crossed that all stays ok - but LOADS of people I know, infact nearly everyone I know has had some kind of spotting and it has turned out to be nothing.

Oh and hermya I also love films like that - Chasing Amy, Jay and ilent Bob, all the Judd Apatow ones.

Spirael I love all of those names, really pretty, lovely names,

No news from me - had a horrible dream last night that I went to the loo and was miscarrying, and woke up with that Andrea Bocelli song "Time to say goodbye" on my mind, which has quite freaked me out and made me wonder if something is wrong. BUT we wated "The Final Destination" last night so I think I went to bed with prophesising on the brain!

I also think I"ve been worrying that this ligament pain I"ve been having is more sinister than the Obs said it was, especially as my book says the pain should come and go, and basically mine has been there all the time I am walking around for a week now - but internet searches seem to suggest this is totally normal.

it's quite a stressful time isn't it!

Well I had an interesting night, I ended up ringing the Docs at 2am this morning as I woke up with shooting pains in my tummy. Well that combined with the spotting I had sent me into a bit of a panic induced panic. The Docs response was that he didn't know what was going on but if it got any worse that I should call him. I did feel a bit like an hysterical woman as I walked out of the emergency Docs though.

I also rang the midwife as well and she was a lot more useful and she's going to refer me to the EPAU for tomorrow morning.

Now, the pains aren't constant and I didn't get woken up by those again. Instead I got woken up by the drunken mutterings of the people in the flat below us. They were also singing kareoke as well. It was enough to make me giggle as that woman could not sing to save her life, bless her.

So hopefully all will be well tomorrow after my appointment. I don't feel an impending sense of doom. In fact I feel quite hopeful and feel that everything will be ok. But theres always that part of your brain that suggests otherwise isn't there. At least if the worst does happen I'll be in the know now rather than later.

Ozzie Yeah it is stressful and nobody tells you how worrying this time is for girls. I expect if they did, not many people would reproduce. I love your film choices, girl after my own heart.

I would put money on your shooting pains being the same ligament pain that I'm having hermya. It sometimes wakes me up in the night too as it seems at its most painful when I turn over in my sleep, or when I get up suddenly.

There's hardly anything mentioned about this in any of the books though. Although I was idly flicking through "what to expect" and there was a section on painting and saying you should be out of the house if any painting is being done - well, I repainted our living room a few weeks ago and we have just had the rest of the house done as well something else to worry about.

Good luck tomorrow and let us know how it all goes.

Ozzie I hope your right and to be honest you probably are. I heard from my midwife and I'm going to be seen on Tuesday morning not Monday now, so we'll see then.

I'm sat at work and I've had a lecture from a colleague. To say he hates his job would be an understatement. Oh well, heres to the weekend.

Hermya really sorry to hear about your stressful night and pains - I have read somewhere that ligament pain is very common though. Hope the appointment on Tuesday puts your mind at rest. Sorry to hear you're having to work, though!

Ozzie in the book I'm reading at the moment it says that most domestic paints are OK, especially if the space you're painting is ventilated - I don't think there's much evidence re: paint fumes being dangerous. It seems like there is a neverending list of things not to do when pg, it's impossible even to remember all of them. Sorry to hear sbout your pains too.

Spirael I absolutely love those names, you have great taste! Vivienne is one of my absolute favourites. So exciting to be choosing names!

Congrats on your girl grumpy! Are you also curly?!

Nice to hear everyone else's news too.

DH has gone to the gym and I am lounging in bed.

pidgin that's good to know about paint - the bloke in the shop had said it was ok, and we did have the door open, so i"m sure it would be ok, but you know when you read something and just go fuck.

hermya im sorry to hear that your going through the same thing as me Â? its so stressfull not knowing whats going on

Im still spotting so called nhs direct this morning, they advised me to call the out of hours GP service. So i called them and about half an hour later the on call GP phoned, she couldnÂ?t of sounded less interested if she tried and said i should go and see my normal GP tomorrow.

So now i have a dilemma... Stay at home in the morning and phone the surgery when they open at 8:30 to see if (and thats a bit if at my surgery) i can get a same day appointment. Taking into consideration that im supposed to be at work at 8:30 and thats 2 hours away. Or should i just go to work as normal and see if i can talk to my GP over the phone?

Hmm... If you've got the sick leave to cover it, I would err on taking the time off and seeing the GP/resting up at home, fudgecat. (I guess this applies for hermya too!) Are you at/beyond the 6 weeks mark? That seems to be the golden number for when scans can be done and such, and when the medical profession start to actually care.

Hopefully everything will be fine and there's just a little bit of old blood being cleared out. In that case resting up to make sure that things stay nice and happy is the best thing to do, and a reassurance scan won't go amiss either. Puts your mind at ease and gives LO a day or two to settle with the slight change in environment.

If things aren't going quite so well, then the bleeding will likely get a lot heavier to incorporate clots and might be accompanied by some by bad period pains. From when I had my early MC, I found my hormone levels went all over the place and I had zero control over my emotions, something easier to deal with when at home!

There's also the fact that bleeding can be a symptom of ectopic and such, which needs to be caught ASAP. Since the bleeding isn't red and there's no pain then it's not a huge risk, but still something worth being aware of and that the doc can monitor.

As for getting an appointment, if you've called in sick anyway then maybe go and park yourself at the doctors surgery and refuse to budge until someone sees you? Tends to be more effective than trying to get through on the phone.

I found that snapping at the receptionist that I was pregnant and bleeding was an excellent way to send them scurrying for a doctor. My attitude is that I pay my taxes and take very little back, so when I need the NHS - I'm going to darn well use it!

I hope everything turns out ok for both of you! A little bit of bleeding doesn't mean the end of everything, it will be at least as heavy (usually a lot heavier) than a period for things to have gone wrong.

If things do, sadly, go wrong then please remember that it is a tragic loss that you will need to take the time to grieve for, and the fluctuating hormone levels aggravate things too. Don't let anyone tell you that it was barely a baby, or that years ago women would never even have known, or any of that rubbish. Also, don't try and just push yourself through it! Take the time off to recover, it is a huge thing to go through.

I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that everything will be just fine, however.

Thanks for the encouraging comments on the names, everyone! Makes me feel more confident that the choices DH and I have come up with.

Fudge Did you manage to get sorted today, if the Doctors aren't listening to you. I would suggest ringing your midwife or if you haven't got one just ring your antenatal unit. Mine were very helpful when I rang them last night.

I had confirmation of my referal for Tuesday today, although I'm still a bit anxious at least I know I've only got to wait until Tuesday to find out whats going on.

On the upside of things, I've not had any spotting today so far. My boobs are still sore and tonight coming home I went the long way home and went to three separate garages to find a Malteaster chocolate bunny rabbit. I found one and am eating it with a cup of tea! Lovely!! I'm going to take it mega easy over the next few days and see what the next week brings.

spirael thanks for your message, it has been very reasuring. I will be 7 weeks on Tuesday so hopefully they will investigate whats going on.

hermya i am going to phone the doctors surgery in the morning and with a bit of luck i will be able to get to see someone in the morning and will be able to get into work later on.

im trying so stay positive and am keeping everything crossed that all works out ok for the both of us.

Morning guys.

Omg im so sorry to read whats been written for your guy.

First of all massive congrates to grumpy on the news of your little girl poor Dylan is really being outnumbered lol.

fudge and her-please rest do not go into work just rest up for a few days. I had spotting and bad pains at 8 weeks and I was a wreck but it turned out to be nothing. Seriously I was down A and E quicker than you could click your fingers.
It is normal. I will be keeping check but my lovely boss has taken our internet away so this will prob be my last post for today and thats y I cant post a long message incase I get caught on here I know she is due in around this time.

Stay positive guys seriously everything will be fine but u must rest.

Love to the rest of u all as well sorry I can reply indvidually but as soon as I go on maternity leave I will have one big catch up.

xxxxxxx

Fudge and Hermya - hope you are both ok today. I had brown spotting at 6 and 7 weeks for 24 hours at a time, but everything seems to be ok. Will be looking out for your updates x

Fudge Thats brilliant about getting into your Doctors, have you had anymore spotting today? Get them to refer you to the EPAU if you can, even if it's just for reassurance for yourself. A happy relaxed Mummy to be is the best thing for all concerned.

I was in bed by 9pm last night and slept right through till 8am this morning. I've taken the car in for it's MOT and walked back home. I'm planning on not doing very much over these next two days to be honest and just resting.

hermya my appointment is at 12 today fingers crossed all will be ok. I had a little more spotting this morning but nothing since.

I am 100% pissed off with work tho. I contacted them this morning to say i had to make a urgent doctors appointment and that i hoped to make it in after the appointment. But about half an hour ago i got a really shitty email from them saying about how busy it is today.