July 2010 - a quieter thread for those who can't keep up!

[WestYorkshireGirl]

Hi there

I have been on the July thread, but it moves so fast and as I don't have time (or energy being so sleepy), I can't keep up with everyone who is on several times a day! If anyone else wants to join me in a slower thread to share how your pregnancy is developing, feel free!

Hi all - I am feeling a bit, dunno, almost left out if that makes sense because I am not having any nausea.

I am actually wondering whether or not I am even really pg, which is Bad (have been paranoid about this pg before it even happened) - I got the positive test but although my boobs started off a bit swollenish and soreish, they've gone back to normal sagsville now; I am a bit more plumpish but haven't gained any weight (but then I didn't 1st time around either); and no nausea (but also didn't get that 1st time around) - have had appetite ishoos (same as before) and feeling v. tired, but still not sure. Going to the GP on Tuesday so we'll see what happens then.

for all of you with sickness probs - hope they go away after a while!

thanks for the concerns, particularly tobago04 and WYG. i am absolutely wiped out -- to be fair, i have a live in nanny who helps out with the 2 DCs as i work FT. she is absolutely brilliant and is a lifesaver. planning to keep her till the kids are 18+ and then she can stay to look after me
scan on jan 8, mw appt this sat. i think i walk around with a faint smell of sick (glamourous, huh)
good luck to everyone having scans etc. glad i found this thread

Thanks wyg will try that,it drove me mad last night,i've only been clear of it for about 2 wks and then got it back again,the doc just gave me another 6 lots of pessaries to use at night
Hi life nice to hear from another one on no.3,i'm already worrying about shifting the weight this time round,will have a wedding to go to in August too
I would'nt worry bells i feel fine today and don't feel particularly pregnant either,don't think you really believe it til you have a scan and can see it wiggling about,remember we are here if you need a chat

Thanks tobago - hope I don't have to wait too long for a scan, not sure how long it takes in Australia, the GP receptionist thought it might be at 10wks. Here's hoping!

I didn't feel all that pregnant first time round either! I felt like a fraud so went to see doctor so he could confirm it but had too much water before going and the result was inconclusive! Felt like major fraud then! But tobago is right. It can feel very bizarre until that first image of them jiggling up and down inside you!!

Feel like such a gargantuan heifer today. Have eaten for Britain and am sure I'm now feeling sick because of that!

I have a question. I'm 35 now (will be 36 at birth)so am starting to think of whether to go ahead with screening tests or not. I decided not to with no,1 child but now feel like i shouldn't be ignoring it so much as am over 35. Plus there's the whole issue of if i get a high chance of a downs baby back from a screening test will i then want to do a diagnostic with its increased risk of miscarriage. Or do I put my head in the sand again and just not go for any tests? The trouble is me and OH can't imagine what life would be like with a downs baby so deciding things like this so early on seems so impossible. Any of you struggling with this one?

I WILL EAT NOTHING BUT SALAD FOR REST OF WEEK!

I'm worried to about shifting the weight after this pregnancy. After DS I didn't manage to loose anything which means that I am already more than one stone overweight to start with!

MW appointment was dull. I wonder why I spent an evening filling forms, if basically we had to go through the same thing again. Can't they just have someone putting in the information before the appointment. She didn't even give me any advice as too what to eat etc... and not time to take my bloods either so I have to book a separate appointment with the practice nurse at my GP!

I can't believe the other July thread were already talking about labour yesterday. It seems like such a long way away

Thumblebell don't feel left out. I do not have that many symptoms either nor do I look much different physically

Hi all.

lifeistooshort thank you. I am really struggling to shake it off and DD is getting very fed up of being in the house. Thankfully we are going to my parents for xmas on Tuesday so at least there will be people who can help to entertain her.

We had to take the private test while we still had symptoms, I don't know of anything you can have to test immunity once you're better unfortunately

I know what you mean about the vaccine. I was agonising over it too - I had come to the decision to wait until 2nd trimester then ask for Celvapan. I think that's probably the safest option but I really don't know. So sorry you have to worry about it too.

Hi Ghouls I am sorry you have been suffering. It does sound like SF so hopefully you won't have to worry about the vaccine. I have seen my MW today and she hasn't mentioned it, so I am waiting really. I hope you are feeling better soon! Take care!. Did you manage to find someone doing hypnobirthing near where you are?

I am wondering whether to go to independents this time. Bristol seem much better for home birth, but am still not sure.

Hiya!

Yes, I am going to go for hypnobirthing I think, almost definitely.

I have a consultant appt at about 26 weeks I think, so will probably wait until after that then book it but the woman I spoke to said that would be ok.

I think I;m going to book in at the nice hospital I went to last time again - our local hospital hasn't got any better by the look of things, it's in the news again at the moment.

Are there any good IMWs in Bristol? I guess you have to do what feels best. Do you need to do the hypnobirthing course again, or are you all set still?

It's tricky deciding about the tests. I think it's a very personal thing. We have decided to have nothing other than the two scans because the tests themselves are not infallible and you could end up worrying about things which may not happen because you only get told you have a greater chance not that it will definitely happen. I have read some articles about how scans and other tests have not detected any abnormalities and then parents have been really shocked when all was not as they thought it would be.

We feel that 'what will be will be' and we would like to enjoy the pregnancy rather than worrying if the baby will be 'perfect'. I think in our society today we put a lot of store on the perfect baby and try to eliminate risks etc, but having a baby is a natural process you can't control & we would love it no matter what.

Oh dear, think I might sound a bit hippy there and don't want to sound preachy - this is only my opinion and I am sure others will completely disagree!

After my booking in with NHS in Jan, I am switching to an independent mw and hope to have a home birth. GhoulsAreLoud - is the hospital you mention private?

Experienced ladies - what about the dreaded stretchmarks? Read somewhere that the creams etc are no good and it's all genetic anyway! Just asked my Mum if she had any and she said no which gave me hope !!

Concerning the tests i think it depends what you would do with the results,personally i don't think i could have a termination even if there was something wrong and would just end up worrying throughout the pregnancy so i don't think i will have the tests
Good points about the tests too wyg
As for stretch marks i did'nt have any with dd1 but after giving birth to dd2 i looked down and i had loads {fshock] luckily they have pretty much vanished now,am definitely going to try and not get so big this time [if thats possible]
Hope your feeling better soon ghouls

Tests - well I am now 42 so will be having the tests, although I doubt it will have much bearing on whether or not we go ahead with the pg (depending - who can know until you are faced with the situation?). A friend of mine who was pg at the same time as me with DS had a high risk of DS, so had the further test (I think she had chorionic villi testing rather than amniocentesis) - anyway, that showed up clear and they then knew beyond doubt that they were having a little girl. The risk is 1% - which means 99% chance that nothing will happen as a result of the test.

Stretchmarks - both my mum and my sister had horrific stretchmarks but both were overweight before they got pg - I had none, so it's not always just about genetics. I like to think that my taking MumOmega fish etc. oils helped my skin to maintain its elasticity despite my advanced age, plus a good source of Vit C helps too (repairs the collagen). However, things might all be different this time around. I don't think the creams help though.

Hypnobirthing - I think it's brilliant. I started it about 32w pg last time, had 4 sessions initially and then because I went 2w overdue, had 1 more because of the planned induction. Helped me quite a lot, I thought.

Am planning to avoid the swine flu jab if at all possible - I have the opinion that there is a chance that I might catch swine flu but I might not; but if I have the jab and something goes wrong, I'll know that it was my fault for having the jab and I can't live with that. It's a personal choice made on the grounds of what I can live with, whatever the outcome is (it might be nothing of course! )

Re the tests, I think I will only have the triple test and that is it. I agree with you that they are not infaillible and I would rather wait and see

Re hypnobirthing, I think I will do a refresher course. I haven't looked at the IMW in Bristol but might do soon.

Ghouls how come you are seeing a consultant?

Hiya!

So I had my booking appointment last evening and all went well. I've had issues with blood pressure in the past, but very glad that it's gone completely normal as it was with last pregnancy.

Cannot wait until my scan on 4th January. Even the midwife thought my bump was rather large for 9 weeks - almost twice the size it should normally be, especially as I haven't actually gained any weight yet. DH is in total denial about the possibility of twins - so the truth will come out on the 4th. I'm taking my DS along for the scan which I think will be a great experience for him.

Feeling a lot better these days in re: nausea, but still very tired all the time. Am now beginning to eat for Britain.

Hope all of you are well!

J

lilJ the possibility of twins. How exciting and scary at the same time!

Anyone's hormones running the show? I burst into tears in playgroup today as seriously stressed by DD's behaviour.

I'm up and down like a yoyo at the moment.... can't wait for the 2nd trimester serenity to get here!

Hi Ladies, room on the bus for me ?
I have been bed bound all week with raging fever etc and the doctor just called to confirm I have swine flu. She swabbed me on monday and the results just back. I am in shock, not sure how I feel about it ! I am glad I've had it in a way and that now I can stop my do I/don't I vaccinate debate but I'm worried if it had any effect on the baby. I've just booked in for another scan next tuesday to check the little bean is still alive. The swine flu was so bad that it masked all other pregnancy symptoms like sickness etc. So now I am convinced something has happened to baby. Also I have had so many paracetamol it has to be bad for baby ?
How are you all ?

Hi mousemole, you poor thing.

We have had swine flu confirmed by swab too. It's horrible isn't it?

Try not to worry about the baby, I think they are pretty tough, also, from what I've read the first trimester is the least bad to get any type of flu so at least it happened now and not later.

I've got a scan on Tuesday too so we can compare notes! Hope you start to feel a bit better soon.

Lifeistooshort the m/w just said I would see a consultant - my notes say due to previous high forceps plus DD's size at birth. I think they said they would monitor the weight this time, as she was nearly 10 pounds.

thanks Ghouls you have made me feel better. Just so paranoid. Silly I know because if I had regular flu I wouldn't be so worried but because its swine flu and the media have hyped it so much I am stressed. Looking forward to swapping scan results on tuesday .
Advice please - we are due to drive 5hrs on thursday for 2 xmas days with my in laws. They have a very cold uncomfortable farm that is awful to stay in. I am dreading going with my swine flu and the boys. Ds1 is recovering from swine flu so not on amazing form.
Can I pull out of xmas or is that just not possible ? Just cant explain my dread at packing us all up and staying there and the 10hr round trip.

mousemole don't go! I think your 'recovering from swine flu' excuse is perfectly valid! How would they take the news? What would your husband say? Would he support you?

mousemole I wouldn't go either. Being pregnant, and recovering from swine flu, with children recovering from SF is a decent enough reason to cancel a 10h round trip

I know you are worried but at least you and ghoul no do not need to agonise about whether to have the vaccine or not.

I'd like to join this thread too please.

I'm 35 and am "borderline" for the NF tests - in that I turn 36 in a few weeks and apparently that's when my odds increase - like the baby knows right?

Anyway, we have decided not to go for anything other than basic scans. We want this child whether it has any problems or not. For the sake of my own mental health I cannot afford to spend 4 months of my pregnancy winding myself up and getting stressed - we'll cope as and when the situation needs it.

I am also at this stage not interested in any flu jabs. I live outside the UK where we're not whipping ourselves in to total hysteria wrt flu and I don't use public transport. I'll take my chances.

I'm also in the homebirth camp and have my midwives already lined up.

Mousemole, if you tell them you have swineflu they may not want you anyway!

But seriously, I would cancel. I assume they know you are pg - surely they can see how deibilitating it would be for you to have to do that journey while still recovering from swine flu?

Definitely back out - you owe it to yourself and the baby!

Sorry ladies - I am going to have to leave this thread. AF started today , no doubt of outcome (too much) but I don't know whether to wait until GP appt on Tuesday or to go to hospital over weekend. Does anyone know or should I take this qu elsewhere?
Sorry to put a damper on things - hope the rest of you all progress as you should.

oh Thumblebells so sorry to hear your news. I am really thinking about you. . I would go to the hospital today. I don't think it would be wise to wait till Monday.
Dh has conceeded this morning that going to his parents is a bad idea. We just need to make the phone call now.. it will be tinged with good news though as they don't know I am pregnant, was going to tell them next week.
Welcome skihorse, nice to have you on board.
Feeling quite a bit better today from the swine flu. The GP explained that being pg the risk is of getting a secondary infection such as viral pneumonia or bronchitis, so lots of taking it easy. Easier said than done with 2 energetic boys.
Anyway, at least the vaccine decision has been taken out of my hand. The Swine Flu is bad, but the same as bad flu really.
have a great weekend all, anyone got any snow ? We have some but more coming later