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Ninjacat · 12/10/2009 15:25

Because you chat sooooo much!!!

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PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 16/10/2009 18:17

southern oh that sounds lovely!

The mess with the builders will get sorted. It will take a long time but we will get there. SE thinks the builder will back down once we put in our defence and counterclaim against him in full, including reports from him, the building inspector, photos, the lot! But, we shall not. This nice builder said to just remember to not stress ourselves about this too much, try to enjoy our family, use the space for now and see how we feel about it all in the future, in terms of changing things, he said, sometimes its best to just let things go, even if it costs financially. And he might be right, but I am not ready to stop yet

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 16/10/2009 18:19

The main problem we have - the space is 8ft, until the lobby is removed, and our bed is 7ft 8inches We are going to have to put it in a different place to start with, until we get a new bed and remove the lobby!

weston · 16/10/2009 18:30

glad to hear its not just me laugs might be 2nd child syndrome and not having the time to think about it, my 'what to expect' book still remains unopened!

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 16/10/2009 18:53

I think this baby will arrive early, but have no time to think about it , must really be second child syndrome, or too much other stuff going on, but definitely less time to think about the arrival. oh, it will happen soon, but not yet . I bought some nappies today though, so getting prepared!

I am really uncomfortable. I spoke to locum gp who was as helpful as a chocolate teapot. She said, could it be contractions - did they feel like they might be (this pain above my bump) and I said, no nothing like contractions. She asked if I had back pain, yes I do I said. Directly opposite the front pain in actual fact.

She said I should be seen by midwife, at some point, next week will be ok probably, call up on monday, if not around then go and see my gp. But if I get worried or it gets worse over weekend, go to hospital. . So, nothing at all about what it might be, or anything helpful at all.

Oh, and take paracetemol, if the pain is too bad, but try not to if i can help it. I am so pleased I called [grr]

scarlotti · 16/10/2009 18:56

pav that's great news about your loft ... and you have a huge bed!!!
Think the builder may be right, as long as you can let it rest. We took a long time to get over our saga and could only finally let it go when we moved - although ours did end up with neighbour issues too.
Keep all your docs and follow the process, but do it to your schedule now so that you can all enjoy your renovations and the new baby.

weston I have a bag packed and stuff is all sorted, but am not really thinking about actually having the baby - I think about what I'd like to sort out in the house, and then every now and then think about how difficult it's going to be with a 4yr old and a newborn, but other than that it's head in the sand!!

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ErikaMaye · 16/10/2009 19:38

Pav if its any consolation, I mentioned the pains I was getting the midwife yesterday and she wasn't worried. If my blood pressure had been high it would have been different, but everything was fine. Suspect it just baby leaning against stuff, and the area stretching.

Cot is being ordered tomorrow dances am so childishly excited about the cot Or should that be !!

Am rather annoyed... I said I'd do dinner as Mum is still struggling to walk and Dad is playing busy. I made a lamb stew. Then, just after I'd finished doing the dumplings, am informed that everyone is going to be out. Well, I'm going to eat my stew. I am going to have dumplings in it. I will leave the rest of the mix on the side and if they get back soon enough will still be okay for them to use. Grr...

BeckyBendyLegs · 16/10/2009 19:39

I'm in denial too... third baby syndrome.

We're listening to Abba singing, according to DS1 'mummy, mummy, mummy, in my tummy, in a rich man's boat'. Almost, not quite!

DS1 went to his friend's house after school today and the friend's mum said they were talking about how my baby was going to come out and apparently it goes like this:
'I think you go to the hospital and the doctor uses some scissors to get it out' DS1.
'No, I think he uses a knife' DS1's friend.
'And if it doesn't come out straight away, like a couple of years, you have to go to the doctors and they get it out some how' DS1.

What more can I say?

tigger32 · 16/10/2009 19:47

pav that's great news about your loft

tabby hope today hasn't been too tough for you and dh.

I must say I'm not ready mentally for this baby yet either and the house needs a good clean! I have far too much other stuff going on to give birth, I did think by 37 weeks I'd be ready but that's next Saturday so maybe not... maybe with a 3rd I'll never be ready

southern and erika thanks for the tip re Browns thread, I was going to pop in and have a read, will get my book out instead!

hobnob57 · 16/10/2009 19:51

I've got 2nd baby syndrome - I haven't even sat down once yet and had a 'conversation' with it. It doesn't even play with me like DD did when I poke it . Perhaps it's got the vibes...

I have to say I preferred the sick version of DD. She was placid, thoughtful, cuddly and entertaining. We've got the boundary-pushing whinge bag back again today!

pav so happy the loft is finished and to a good standard. Let it be a load off your mind, won't you? Try not to jump from this to the next thing and find some time to chill.

LissyGlitter · 16/10/2009 20:44

I've been crying at everything today. Me and DH had a disagreement late last night (he was drunk, even though he had promised me he wouldn't drink at all till the baby was born. I wouldn't mind if it was a one off, but he is at the pub more nights than he isn't at the moment, and I really need him here. Plus he does the thing where he says he is nipping to the shops, even though he is really tired, because he doesn't want me and DD to be without milk/bread/whatever, then rolls in hours later having "nipped for a half" and gets all annoyed when I ask him to at least text if he is going to be late. To top it all, the last few days, he has been making a big deal of how he has been ill, staying in bed all day leaving me looking after DD and worrying about him, so much that I was worried that he shouldn't go to the shop and offered to go myself even though walking that far would mean I would be in agony, then he suddenly finds the reserves from somewhere to spend a night in the pub, comes back very merry, then proceeds to drink a couple of cans of lager and some whiskey on top of that! I happened to ask him what was in his mug out of curiosity, and he completely flew off the handle, saying he does loads more than most men and that he drinks a completely normal amount and doesn't know what my problem is and I am apparently disgusting because I don't do enough housework and I'm milking the pregnancy, most women are still working at this point, why should he wait on me and DD hand and foot, then he stormed downstairs, slamming the door so hard the house shook)

Then, presumably because I was shaken up by that, I started getting strong BH, and when I went to the loo, there was blood on the paper. Only a tiny bit, and quite a lot of mucousy discharge, so the practical side of me was saying it was probably just a little show, but there was still a part of me saying "OH MY GOD I'M BLEEDING" but of course I couldn't go and tell DP because I didn't want to risk being at the receiving end of another rant. And the laptop was downstairs so I couldn't come and see if anyone was online here. I had no more bleeding after that, but still had a horrible nights sleep, and when I woke up in the morning I just couldn't stop crying

Anyway, I have had a word with him and hopefully it has hit home that it is far more important that is is just there for me and DD than that he does any amount of housework. He was really concerned when I told him about the bleeding, so hopefully he will act like a responsible adult from now on.

I probably blew it all up out of proportion because of my hormones, but surely that is my right as a heavily pregnant lady who is absolutely shitting herself at the thought of another complicated birth?

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 16/10/2009 20:47

hobnob I have to act on the court thing, as he is taking us to court for some arbitrary figure he pulled out of a hat. Just so happens to be shy of the small claims limit, coincidentally. Shame we won't give him that grace. We are taking him to the cleaners in return . We have 28 days from last week to put in a defence and counter-claim. The timing is out of hour hands. I just know he stands no chance so I am less stressed about the next steps. I am also familiar with the court system to some degree and i do not get too nervous when giving evidence, as long as I know my facts correctly I almost enjoy it . If it was down to us, we would have waited til the new year to start this.

And my bed is not actually that big. Its only a double, but is a japanese style and has a large wooden trim all around it, that is what makes it so big. So, if we get a normal bed, but a kingsize, we would have more bed but it would take up less space! .

tabby I hope today was bearable for you and your family.

Koumak · 16/10/2009 20:57

Just got back from our school disco. That was so noisy! Ds lasted exactly one hour. Feel asleep in the car on the way back. Dh out for drinks and I have the house to myself. What should I do? Any ideas? Sleep maybe? Hmm, or food and book?

Completely agree with the second child syndrome! I don?t talk to her at all. I have started to call her ?she? rather than it to see if it?s going to make a difference in how I feel. I am hoping thinking it might be working as I have managed to stroke my tummy few times in the past week and actually talked to my belly! I just don?t seem to have time to myself or the baby. Weekdays seem to fly by as I am at work all day and in the evenings I am knackered. At the weekends I try to spend time with ds so I ignore the baby as much as I can!

The other day I caught myself to be talking to her while sitting on the toilet at work but that seemed really wrong!

The chocolate mousse in the fridge is calling me!

ErikaMaye · 16/10/2009 20:58

Oh Lissy That sounds so horrible. I don't really know what to say. He sounds like he's being really unsopportive right now. Big hugs. x

wook · 16/10/2009 21:04

Lissy sounds awful. What did you do about the bleeding- have you rung the midwife?
Men! Glad you got to talk it through.

Pavlov phew on the loft front.

Tabby hope today was OK

Well, I decided to blitz the kitchen today and went crazy with the Cif, then went to wipe it all off with a wet cloth and managed to give myself a big electric shock having wiped the sockets with the wet cloth. What an idiot! It's a bit hazy but all of me sort of went 'brrrrrrrrrrrrr' for a moment and I jolted backwards across the kitchen.

Went into total and utter panic mode and rang midwife very tearful- she said go to a and e and then on to delivery suite which I did- dh came from work to drive me up to hosp and then he picked up ds from nursery.

At A and E had a cardio check thing and some bloods, but I kept saying 'It's not not me that needs checking, it's the BABY!!!' and baby was monitored there for half an hour and thank god she is fine. ( huge relief emoticon)

Was doubly annoyed to spend all evening in hosp as had spent most of the morning up there for GTT! Think it was all that lucozade that made me have the energy to start on the cleaning in the first place!

Funnily enough the blood test ladies at the GTT were joking with me about Halloween due date and calling the baby Morticia- imagine after this shock the baby coming out with a big white streak of hair!

So my lesson for the day is- DO NOT WIPE ANY SOCKETS WITH A WET CLOTH!
or, in fact, my advice to you all is DO NOT START ON THE CLEANING! Get someone else to do it while you have a biscuit.
Lissy perhaps you could try this cautionary tale on dh- pregnant women should not attempt housework, their brains are too addled. Well, mine clearly is. Going to bed now in lovely new Primark pjs.

wook · 16/10/2009 21:07

Koumak agree on dc2 syndrome, I feel v guilty that I haven't written to this baby like I did with ds, and when I do talk to her it's always to say things like 'stop kicking mummy little one!!'

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 16/10/2009 21:08

lissy sorry, x-posted with you and missed your post completely. You poor thing, how are you feeling now. Don't think you are blowing out of proportion either. What a sod for you. Hope you have a better nights sleep x

longwayaway · 16/10/2009 21:10

Pav, congrats on the loft being (mostly) finished! Your old builder is soon going to regret having ever laid eyes on you.

Lissy to be honest your reaction doesn't sound at all unreasonable to me I hope it's clear to him now what you need from him and that his behavior will improve. Might just be his way of dealing with the stress, but even so he should find a constructive way of working through his worries that doesn't involve worrying you even more.

Yikes, wook, what a fright! Glad you and the baby were both OK.

Just had an amazing home-cooked Thai meal courtesy of our upstairs neighbors (Thai wife, English husband). We definitely won the neighbor lottery. Wish I knew how to return the favor!

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 16/10/2009 21:11

wook oh my god! How frightening for you, glad you are ok and baby is ok but how horrid a thing to go throgh. That is a lesson. No more cleaning ladies!

LissyGlitter · 16/10/2009 21:13

I haven't rung the midwife as it really was a tiny bit of blood (the amount you would get if you knocked a spot or something, literally a drop) and I suspect they would want me up to the hospital for ages. I have promised myself though that I will ring her at any sign of any more problems. Baby is just as active as ever.

I have insisted on taking it easy today, and demanded that DP make my tea and so on

ErikaMaye · 16/10/2009 21:17

Wook Glad you're both okay! What a shock... No pun intended!!!

Lissy just make sure you put your feet up and keep an eye on things then. Hugs.

Pavlov of your bed.

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 16/10/2009 21:21

Would i be really naughty to by a new bed on buy now pay in 6 months deal on my cc? - I would, wouldn't i? But I have seen a rather lovely one that would look ace in the new loft. It would mean not being able to change my mind about who is in the loft though, as it won't fit in the space between the wardrobes where our bed is currently (it has build in shelves/drawers). But it might make me feel better about it all

Tell me to stop it. Pg hormones make me want to buy things.

Koumak · 16/10/2009 21:22

Lissy what a day! Please take it easy.

Pavlov you are almost there!

Wook what a scare!

And goodnight all! Turning pc off. Tv on. Might watch peep show!

ErikaMaye · 16/10/2009 21:27

Pavlov as long as you send me your very comfortable sounding other bed I don't mind

Not just me that keeps being persuaded to at least consider buying things normally I wouldn't even glance at then?! Phew. Another thing to put down to hormones!!

scarlotti · 16/10/2009 21:48

wook what a scare! Hope you're ok now.

lissy sorry your DP is being such an arse, you are not over-reacting imo.

pav don't ask me, I'd say buy the bed

Cleaned the fridge tonight, don't think it's nesting ... more trying to appease the little voice that tells me I should be getting things done that I can't whilst at work, which would be sorting out stuff that could probably wait or just be ignored!

DH out, tv is pants. Not sure what to do with myself to be honest! So rarely get time (and the remote!) just to myself

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