Due Jan 2010 - we're all bump now !

[sazlocks]

Hi all - a new thread for all our new chat as teh old one is nearly full. No idea how to do a link though !

Sockmonkey - LO is definitely flipping the Vs!!! How funny is that?!

giving attitude already... looks like s/he will be fun!

Yay, finally made my ring sling yesterday! Not being a particularly comfortable sewing type person I'm very proud of my effort...am now thinking of trying to make a nappy. OMG I'm turning domesticated.

somewhathorrified - well you will have to start selling your designs!

Wish I was good at sewing, I was thinking of a breastfeeding cover. I have seen a few different ones but have an idea of my own.

timmette - sorry to read about your son. it sounded scary. i remember when my younger brother and sister had croup, it really does sound like a dog barking. i hope he is better soon. x

sazlocks - i totally agree with the language the mw use, it can make a world of difference.last time i asked for them not to speak to me only to my partner, leave me as mnuch as possible with lights off etc all done very nicely of course

this time i am going to ask to not be told how far dilated i am too. last time they told me at 5am i was was 10cms dilated but then with a very concerned face and tone said I am afraid you canb not push, your baby is too high and your waters are intact. she made it sound like as dying. so i instantly thought i was not doing well and my relaxed state immediately changed to me totally losing it and from then until i start pushing at 8.30am I was in so much pain. i really beleive if she had kept that to herself i would have continued the way i had been, focusing and concentrating on my breathing. i was really proud of myself up to that point. words are so powerful to a woman in labour. unless the baby is in danger they should keep quiet and only give encouraging comments.

moan over

Devotion, I just take the designs of the internet, there are so many out there!

Also I wonder whether the MW feels a bit useless unless they give you a running commentary about what's going on 'down there'. I also read that if your baby's not in the right position that going for a quick walk moves it down nicely and some MW's get you dressed and take you for a waddle down the road. I think it really depends on the MW you get, I'd love to get one that brings her own knitting and just sits in the corner quitely...a bit like a miss marple type

somewhathorrified - i agree they want to feel useful but i did ask for them to just leave me be and some just can not help but do it "their" way so you do have to be a bit bossy i think

when the mw told me the baby was too high, my waters had not broke etc she did not suggest anything that would help like a walk etc and you dint really think about these obvious things until after. so maybe if she had then things would have moved along faster.

i guess i have had two labours now which has helped me learn how i want things to happen this time and things that may help certain situations.

i just hope i have a really nice patient mw with lots of knowledge.

im trying not to wish the next four months away but i am so excited about meeting this little person, i caught him or her making poking my belly on video the other night. the girls love feeling him/her kick too. they sing to the baby and teh baby kicks back strsaight away.

I think it helps to have some idea of what you want and don't want before you end up in labour and to make sure whoever is in there with you knows as well. I couldn't have wished for a better supporter in DH - he totally got what he needed to do but I think that was, in part, due to the hypnobirthing training. This gives very clear roles to the birthing partner and was a lifesaver for us. When I got to the point when I was so off my face on gas an air and they were umming and ahing about trying an instrumental delivery he refused on my behalf as he knew I wouldn't have wanted that.
On a lighter note hope you have all had good weekends. I have although v busy and feel wrecked now. Sigh of relief that DS has gone to bed and DH making the dinner

p.S somewhat very impressed by your domesticity!

hi all-strange feeling today was holding 2 babies today( at different times, no together) and whist doing that MB was goin nuts moving around poking and all sorts! the babies are small so no weight,do you think baby can sense another baby or am i just being silly

I also asked about strange dreams or is it just me again!

Ah Mama2b5.... yes, Pregnancy dreams are particularly vivid, and seem to either be of the erm cough romantic type or scarey things involving bad things happening to baby.
I had a particularly good one involving Robbie Williams after watching X Factor on Saturday... he was teaching me to sing Tis funny cos he's not normally my type.

the last one i had i had been dreaming that i was pregnant, but it was only a dream, so when i woke up i felt my belly to check ermm i am still pregnant,as i was being punched from the inside and i just

My DH is having vivid dreams, bless him, he's had more symptoms from this pregnancy than I have!

Devotion I agree that it's important to: a. know your mind and b. that you need to express that to MW and the med prof as a whole. Isn't it sad that all the 'old' ways have been left at the roadside, all that knowledge lost to be taken over by forceps! Don't gt me wrong medicine has it's place too.

morning ladies and hope you all had a good weekend.
sleeping is getting irksome now as i get stitch like pains when lying on my side. i am bloated and uncomfortable all night and up every hour to wee! my back has twinges in the morning!
getting sad dreams that are so upsetting i dont want to dream anymore! but weirdly they involve my ex husband .
started to move my stuff into dps house and wondering if i can manage with three kiddies under 5 on my own as obviously he works and it is long hours. have no idea who will have the kids when i am in hospital since i have no family here and cant expect them to travel all the way here and hang around til i go into labour! worries worries worries nad to top it off starting my diet today and all i can think about is a big mac and a bar of chocolate!!
has anyone applied for the health grant we are all entitled to? i told my mw i would get shoes and she replied ''yes that is good for your psychological health!'' but to be honest i have no idea what i will spend it on as it is for healthy food i think.

timmette hope your ds is better, dd has bad asthma and we have had a few scares too. Hopefully, the nebuliser will help.

I have discovered having a cup of camomile tea before bed helps with the sleep and the heartburn after scary vomiting in sleep experience. Dp is drinking camomile in sympathy with me, he also had wind in sympathy too .

I am about to send off health grant I might look into pregnancy massage or acupuncture for morning sickness (I am resigned to the fact that I will probably have it until I give birth, ughh). Mw said there wasn't much she could do, though I might try the gp and see if she will give me something...

Ahhhh bethoo- im sure you are much stronger then you give yourself credit for and you will manage whilst DP is at work! you have no close friends that can help when your labour starts?
i cant imagine worrying about my kids whist being struck by a contraction!!!!oh boy and they are under 5??try not to worry to much you and DP will have to put your heads together for this one, or DP may end up staying at home! maybe you should have a home birth if thats an option????

yeh im not sleeping through out the nite which aint good to get up at 7.30 and try and go to work!its becoming harder and harder to get comfy!and turning over is a big effort! how did i cope before i dont know!aint bothered with the grant thing just yet, just another thing to add to my list of things i must do!
oh well back to work now!

Bethoo - I sympathise with you on who's going to look after kids when you go into labour! We don't have any friends/family particularly close by that we could ask either if I went into natural labour - and as its our third (you and I) - the worry is we need to move quickly!!

Fortunately - I'm gearing up for c/s on medical grounds and the one thing I'm really pleased about is that I can organise the childcare - ridiculous isn't it?! I was coming to the conclusion that perhaps DH would need to drop me at the maternity entrance, kids in car, hand me over to staff then drive back home to look after kids and let me get on with it! Not a bad option really - he tends to get on my nerves in labour anyway - ssssh don't tell him!!!

So - housework Monday done and dusted, moaning and groaning with aches and its already time to pick the others up from school!

Will check back later for the up to date gossip!

bethoo there's plenty of time to find someone (or a group of people) to help with childcare. I know it's daunting when you feel isolated (I'm just thankful I have a DH who isn't working Jan and feb). You could try dropping hints around at DC's nursery/school to see if anyone offers assistance when the time comes. See if any fam/friends would come and stay for a few days each when it looks like things may be moving along. If the worst dome to the worst have a look at registered childminders in you area...you can always use your HIP grant to pay for it. Also need to ask why you're going on a diet? Isn't the bonus of being pregnant that you eat what you like and urges for food are your body's way of telling you what it needs? I just had 24hrs of pudding and sweeties because that's what my body wanted...lucky me

Just been to MW only to find out that there's only 1 pair of HB MW's on call at any one time! DH summed it up perfectly, getting a MW at your HB is a complete lottery. DH now on the internet looking at how to deliver a baby (just in case).

somewhathorrified - no way only 2?

but do they have many hb's in your area then? maybe not so you should be fine. i dont know how many i have in my area - on list of things to do now!

maybe you could take it one step further and have a "free birth" where its just you and dh - dont know how people do that, I would be too nervous.

bethoo - you must be able to ask one of the childrens friends parents? most people would be happy to help? can you not get someone in your family to come and stay for a couple of weeks to be on hand?

somewhathorrified - i know what you mean, we should have everything available to us so we can choose as we wish and not how a mw does it!

CTOFN - forgot to say your pictures are fantastic. i love the fact you get a dvd too, i would love that!!!!

Thanks Devotion. Keep looking at the pics - 27 in total - all very real to me now which is just as well because it took a while to kick in!

Hi all just catching up feel absolutely shattered.
Had midwife today blood pressure up and protein in my wee so bloods have been sent to hospital

Glad to hear everyone else is doing okay

Oh Alibobins - that must be a huge worry for you. when do you get results? Any headaches, funny vision etc? Try to get some rest, particularly if you feel shattered - sometimes the protein does just disappear you know

Just feel a bit hungover (not been drinking )
Should get a phonecall tomorrow if there is a problem.
Got no swelling so thats good.

Hi all-
AB - i hope all comes back fine and there is nothing to worry about. fingers crossed for you.
SWH- 2 HB MW - thats just nuts thank God your not going it alone and you have a DH who willing for rolling up sleeves!
Pregnant and diet dont match up, healthy eating yeh i get that one! good luck on that one!WHY!!
Im so looking forwards to my scan! time seems to be dragging till i can get mine done!
was on phone to my cuz who is due in dec and she has nothing for the baby at all i was a bit
I have a wonderful gadget on my iphone which moniter's my pregnancy - i love it! i can take pictures, questions to remember to ask MW or GP - info about me and the baby, appointment countdown and pregnancy countdown luv it!
sorry i just thought i would share that useless piece of info!
kids r in bed apart from dd15 and im watching "fast forwards" loving it so far!