Due Jan 2010 - we're all bump now !

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Hi all - a new thread for all our new chat as teh old one is nearly full. No idea how to do a link though !

CTOFN not sure I have not been dieting and consumed half a choc orange before lunch so really not controlling what I eat and the only exercise I get is walking ds to school and walking the dog .
That's why I was wondering if I make a big effort to eat more would I gain the weight or the baby - if it means a bigger baby I will try straight away - but does it work like that?

I'm with can't think eat the rest of that chocolate.
Other dc's 8lb, 8.3oz, 8lb, 8lb and a steady weight gain throughout. This one have not put any weight on at all until 5wks ago and have since put on a stone (OMG in 5wks)although that does coinside with diabetes check so !!!!!

SB Was you the same size and weight gain with ds, 8lb is not a lot of weight to gain whilst pg. why are they guesstimating that this baby will be 5lbs. I sometimes think they make it up as they go along, not that we worry or anything hormonal like that !!

SB I am having the opposite panic. According to fundal line thingy (technical much?) this baby could well be 10lb. My boys were both about 6.5 lbs. There is no way in hell I want to part with a bowling ball of a child. (I have had little sobs at the thought of it)
Could we do some kind of baby weight shuffle, you can have some of mine? Pleeeeease?

It's not like I have a massive bump either, and last time I checked I've put on 1 stone 5... (not quite as little as 8lbs though)

Sorry alibobins to dimiss your post, sometimes can't you lose your plug only for it to reform again. On some of the other ante natal threads that are due before us a few mentioned losing their plug but then nothing happened.

How far are you? Is it your first baby?

I'm 34 weeks tomorrow this will be my third baby and from what I've been reading 3rd babies tend to be pains during pregnancy lol

On the weight gain issue I lost so much weight at the beginning that still not quite back to my booking in weight (was size 16 before) my appitite it still not what it was before wonder if I can manage to diet once baby arrives.

Ladies that have breast fed before is there anything I need to be buying as really hoping to give it a go this time. Should I have a couple of bottles incase?
Thanks

Hello

1st baby i had sterilsier and four bottles and teats and a hand pump. I never really used the bottles until I stopped at 8 mths and for the few odd expressed feeds. I found the whole expressing, sterlising feeds just too much palava for dh to give one feed so stopped and just did it myself - easier and less hassle

Except i loved my hand pump which I used to release a bit of milk when engorged.

2nd time I never used my pump at all or bottles. Stopped bf at 10 mths but she would not drink any milk at all so had to just give her lots of milk in food and food with calcium.

Except dd2 loved a dummy so I used my steriliser just for them and her drinking cups until she was 1 years old.

This time I have a steriliser and wont bother getting any bottles at all or a hand pump.

If I were you I would get a steriliser and a few bottles and teats. But try not use a bottle with expressed milk until your feeding is well established. My friend had her baby on the 10th and she had already given her a few expressed bottles and now her baby prefers the bottle because its faster to get the milk out. Bf babies have to work the boob to let down the milk and this can take over a minute so if they can get milk from the bottle straight away then they dont want to try at the boob. But if you wait a few until they are about 4-6 weeks then giving a regular bottle of expressed milk is handy for when you want to switch to formula and does not effect them latching on.

I guess to just be prepared for both situations helps.

sockmonkey partyof6 they do scans at every appointment and they just think if he grows the way he is growing that will be his weight. They don't do fundal height measuring here. I am quite happy to share the weight sockmonkey I am imagining a really little baby. also when I had ds the fundal height measuring was very wrong because he was transverse and very high up so they thought he would be 10 lbs plus and sent me for a scan.

alibobins not sure you need to diet if you will breastfeed. .

SB - am really very envious ! BTW on transverse lie - this little monkey is rotating between transverse and breech at the moment. Do you recall from your DS that the kicks/movements were horrid because all kicks concentrated on our most sensitive parts? I can tell you, every movement or kick makes me feel quite sick atm....

Sorry - blah blah blah me me me me me

CTOFN wouldn't be too envious mother in law had huge babies and thought my ds was small at 8lbs now she keeps saying when we see this baby is healthy I know she thinks something is wrong - but the gynae is happy.
It can be so so uncomfortable having a transverse baby ds was also, the way the gynae described it is they are stretching you in a way you are not designed to be stretched. I don't find the kicks so bad it's just being permanently uncomfortable - it's really tiring.

So sorry if i came across as showing off! i never meant to make anyone feel bad! i guess DH just deserves a bigup when he does really nice things!
Its seems so constant in the news and papers and other threads- swine flu its has consumed the nation, its driving me maddddddd!
ahhhhhhhh rant rant rant!!!! sorry but its like its never ending!
i am thinking i will not listen,or get caught up in the negatives but focus on the positives!
which there are so many, yes i said it positives! life is good, with all the aches and pains and ups and downs!
i am going to write a long list of all the positive things in my life! i believe that it will make me realize how grateful i should be!

BTW, my surgery now has the swine flu vaccine (Pandremix) and I am signed up to have it Sat 28th Nov!

Anyone else with transverse/oblique/breech baby that is permanently uncomfortable? I swear the kicks or elbows in my side (almost back) are ridiculous!!

Bethoo - how are you doing this evening?

Good evening ladies!

Mama2b5 - dont be silly! We dont feel jealous... honest

He sounds lovely and deserves a BIG UP!

I have booked myself for pandremix jab on Wednesday next week. I have 31 app with Gp on Monday and will have one last chat with gp about it.

Glad I have booked it now.

Can I ask about everyone elses braxton hicks? Other pregnancies I only had them right at the end and my whole belly would go rock hard for a about a minute. The other week i had them across the top of my belly only and the mw said that was my body telling me to slow down. Last two weeks I just get a tightening pain across the lower part of my belly.

Devotion - I've had a few BH... I think?! I say, "I think" because it does seem to coincide with probably needing to go to the loo and (TMI alert) the pains/spasms I get at those times, contend with full on labour pains !! However, they are definite tightenings and I have to breath through them. Sometimes, they will last for half an hour or so (in total duration) and other times, it's just over a period of 5 mins and then nothing more for a few days. I also feel as though its the whole of my belly going hard, not just in one place.

Well, just back from an exciting trip to a&e. NHS direct made me go! Been breathless for a couple of days now, and after incident this morning DH made me ring them.
They checked BP and oxygen levels, I even had to have a chest x-ray, but everything clear so they sent me home. They think it might be linked to SF jab, but didn't really commit. Ah well. I have brownies cooking so that will cheer me up.

alibobins - I'd get some breast shells. I was very leaky, and I used them during feeds to collect "drip milk". I would usually get enough through the day to make up a bottle for DH to do a feed at night so I could get a bit of extra rest.

Morning all.

I don't think I've had any BH...although I have no idea what they feel like. I'm still getting period pains (which I've had since day 1) which are getting slightly more frequent...are they BH?

I have a few questions about bedroom layout that I'm a little stumped on, I was wondering if any of you kind ladies have any suggestions.
-How long do you keep baby in your room before they go into their own room?
-Is it best to have their cot ( I have an amby) right next to your bed or is it better to have it out of arms reach so that they can self soothe through a grizzle and they don't get used to auto sleep arm giving them attention when it's not needed?
-Do you nappy change in your bedroom through the night if so do you turn on the light, does this wake baby? If you change them on your bed have you ever had spray issues?

I know it all sounds wierd, but my bedroom is a nightmare shape and I want to get it set up so the cats get used to it all.

Hope you all have a good day.

SWH - I'm completely different to Yangymac and I suspect you will find your own way, depending on your own DC and also your own wishes. Both of mine were out of their moses baskets quite young (DC1 6 wks and DC2 8 wks). They then went straight into their cot, in a different room (and indeed on a different floor). We then relied upon monitors.

As far as changing, usually did that in the cot (or cot top changer) - or, sometimes, if no "no. 2" - would leave until morning

Thanks for the replies guys. The problem I have is that my bedroom is long and thin and really awkward to lay out because of windows, radiators, doors etc. I kinda need to know how it's going to work before hand so to minimise complete mayhem later on. I'm going to have to move out furniture that's in there just to get the amby in, where it goes depends what furniture gets moved out (no idea where to, but that's another problem). I think I'm trying to be organised and failing!

bethoo not heard from you for a while hope your ok.

Hi everyone I was going to buy a new moses basket but am having second thoughts as dc3 & 4 didn't really like it. So I have decided to have a cot at the side of my bed with the side down for easy access. Is everyone bf and I know I'll probably be lynched as well but it isn't for me at all so i'll be bottle feeding. I've never had a warmer, always got up gone downstairs and warmed up bottle, usually fed baby on setee and then gone back to bed.
Does anyone else use a warmer, are they worth the purchase.

Sockmonkey - thats terrible! Hope you are feeling better. Sorry but I thought I had posted a comment on your funny episode at the school and was goimg to ask if you thought it was linked to the sf jab.

Thats worrying that they thought it was . Hopefully it was a one off, could it have been your sugar levels were a little too low and you got up too soon. You may have been rushing about too much that day. The other week I fell asleep and luckily set my alarm to wake me up, I woke up with a just a few mins to get shoes on and run around the corner (well walk fast) to the school to collect dd. When I got there I felt really odd and had to hold onto the railings, this mum was speaking to me and her voice sounded so distant. Freaked me out!

Think I should have had a glass of juice before I left or a tea and a biscuit.

Anyway I'm glad you're ok now. Do you have to go for more checks or blood tests or are they happy with you?

Take care x

RE: Bedroom.
I keep them next to my bedroom until at least 8mths.
For first 8 weeks in moses cot next to my bed for easy feeding
Then cot next to my bed until the night feeds are finished and then I keep the cot in my room but move it away from my bed so we dont disturb each other and baby gets use to not seeing me.

Most changing tables are massive but I was lucky to be given a really narrow neat one and I find it very handy. I keep it next to moses basket or cot. With night changes I did it mainly on my bed, kept supplies on floor next to bed so I could just reach them, feed baby then pop basket in moses basket. Then as the baby gets bigger, I just did the whiff test at night, if no smell then no change. Pampers night nappies do a great job

But you will find we all have our own ways and you will find one that suits you!

With smaller babies they need their nappies changed more frequent then a baby a few months old so at the beginning its all just around teh clock and night and day seems to be rolled into one but over the weeks everything stretches out and baby learns about night time... if you help them. I always try to not make eye contact with feeds during the night 12am - 7am. Lots of kisses and cuddles of course but no cooing, talking with lights on. I either use a camp light at night or a small lamp on the floor so just enough, then eventually I use no light.

Phew good to hear yangy. Was on one of the other threads and someones dh was getting lynched for not wanting to caress op's bump every 5 mins. but then we are all different aren't we.

I really wanted to try with dd3 as dd2 was only 12months old, dd1 was 5 and ds was 10. We had booked a holiday after having dd2 for the following sept but then dd3 arrived in the august, so thought I would bf for about 8 weeks till we came back from hols. Had a lovely water birth no probs, no stitches etc but when she (mw)asked if i was feeding her myself i became an emotional wreck and just couldn't bring myself to do it. I really upset myself with my reaction, but then thought i'm a good mum so i'm not going to beat myself up over it. dh was ok with it and plus he gets to interact with baby while feeding as well.