Due May 2010????

[lizzie9442]

Thought I would start a new thread for may. Just got bfp and I am really excited. I think I'm due 30th April/1st May but there are so many people on April already. Heres hoping for a healthy pregnancy. I will just wait for lots more of you to join me. xxxx

memorylapse I feel your pain my mum wasnt at all happy to hear of my first pregnancy as my partner and i had only just gotten back together after a 6mth break (never mind we had been together for 5yrs before that) he response was "how could you let this happen?" and then she said she would have to call me back when she had taken it all in! it wasnt any easier this time around which i dnt really understand I guess she just believes im still so young and maybe rushing things but im happy and thats all that matter. What I can tell u is they do eventually come round to the idea especially when they get to see that beautiful baby when its born. hope u feel better soon and we are all here to support you no matter what and I know im extremely excited for you xxx

thanks mummytoeli..dont understand why my mum is cross as im 37, dh is 41 and weve been together 14 years!..saying that..we have had a slightly rocky time over the years, but we are very strong

I guess at any age mums are mums and they just want the best for us... but have a weird way of showing it! Im 23 and DH is 24 so I believe it is my age that is the major concern for her but i can also agree with having a few hiccups in my relationship but doesnt everyone?? xx

Oh, I'm just up the road from you, Kaylo! I'm in Leeds, and I was actually checking out the Wakefield Birth Centre the other day as a possibility.

I'd quite like a home birth, using a birthing pool, I think. I hate hospitals and the idea of being stuck on a ward freaks me out a bit. However, I'm a first timer, so I'm not sure whether I'll be allowed... I intend to argue it though! I'm a normal BMI and have no underlying conditions. Do you guys think I stand a chance?

I was looking at the birthing centre as an alternative, in case I'm not allowed. Since hopefully it won't be too much like a hospital?

Anyway, what's all this about prawns being bad? I had some yesterday for dinner, and I'm having them again tomorrow. I love prawns! Do I have to give them up? They've been frozen... And they're well cooked before I eat them!

I've been avoiding the unpasturised cheese, unless it's been cooked in something. Since I assume that's ok to kill the bugs? I presume wine in cooking is ok too... As long as the alcohol has been burnt off?? So many new rules...

mummytoeli..you are right,..everyone has the odd hiccup from time to time and I think its getting through those that makes you stronger

my mum hasnt responded well to any of my pregnancies..I dont think she likes children!

To cheer me up..ds1(15) has just made me a lovely plate of scrambled egg and it was delicious.(mind you did have to ask him to put it back in the pan for another minute as it was a tad undercooked!!).I hope Im not re visiting it later!

Spirael..I dont think prawns are banned, as long as they are cooked, ie in a meal or on a pizza, but not sure if you can eat them straight from the fridge..which is a shame..as I love prawns...saying that..19 years ago when I was preg with dd1..the dont eat list consisted of soft cheese and pre packed salads..that was about it.
In the early weeks..I was at college in Cambridge and used to pop into m and s and buy a prawn curry(ready meal)..pop it in my bag, keep it in my bag all day then finally get home about 7 and heat it up, goodness knows how I didnt end up with food poisining..I lived on dippy eggs and when I was admitted to hospital when I was in the later stages, liver and onions was on the menu..because at that time they still beleived that you should eat loads of liver...I shudder when I think about it now..but dd was ok

memorylapse your mum sounds like she's being ridiculous. Hopefully she'll realise what she said was insensitive, unsupportive and unfair, and apologise. If not, then next time she says anything just say "Oh well it's a good job it's coming out of MY vagina then, and not yours"

When I told my brother he said "what FOR? why NOW? I thought you said you were going to wait a few years" I said "er no, YOU said I should wait a few years. I said I wanted a smallish gap between children so they would grow up together!"

I'm afraid they can all sod off, it's us who will carry, deliver and look after them, not anybody else.

So sorry to hear your news Swallowsandamazons

Sorry for Jan9ne as well, I hope it turns out OK.

Parents can be funny about the news can't they? My mother was fine, but my Dad is really shocked. I think it's because I've just started losing weight finally so he thinks this is going to mess it up. Which obviously it will, but it isn't the end of the world!

I've been to a cheese festival today enjoying samples of unpasteurised hard cheese so glad it's not too much of a problem. All very yummy!

I'm based in West Devon, just north of Dartmoor. We have a lovely maternity unit just next door which I would love to use but I suspect I'll have to go to the main hospital in Exeter again because I may need a CS. Going to talk to my MW about the options when I see her though.

memeorylapse i am expecting that kind of response from my grandmother!! i had the same response with the other 4 as well though. She is the one I dread telling more! I am debating telling my inlaws as they are really quite good to me and help out whenever need be, so will be good. My mother i am not that close to, but she won't care really.

I ate prawns all the way through pg#1 though I'm pleased to hear that I can eat hard unpasteurised cheese. The minute I got pg this time my first thought was that I hadn't eaten enough blue cheese before getting pregnant again and I know I'll just crave it for the next 9 months.

I'm in Southampton and although we have a good hosp v close to home, I'm going to hopefully go to the birth centre in the New Forest which is just lovely....

My BIL reaction was great.... Another one? You too are like rabbits!!
PIL seem pleased but making lots of comments about How busy im going to be and how im a glutton for punishment which makes me feel abit sad.

Actaully feeling abit queasy this afternoon. Not a nice feeling and hoping its not the start of MS as we are off on Holiday tomorrow.

Hi Girls,

memorylapse at least you've got us to lean on if you need to chick - although the response you got to me would border on rude! My mum was lovely about it - she's bought us a pram!! Already! But.....dh's parents were like "but you have a boy and a girl, what are you expecting to be different this time?" How about just save your negative comments and lie to me - say congratulations like normal people do!!

spirael WooHoo, you're just a train ride away Whats it like in the Birth Centre at Wakefield? I haven't actually been yet. And I can't see any reason why they wouldn't let you try for a home-birth as long as the baby was ok and no complications etc.

Carikube Are you talking about Hythe? I've only seen that on the tv show but its such a lovely setting where it is (or seems to be).

Had to tackle town today for some wallpaper. DH and I are going to Barcelona on Wednesday and while we're away his dad is decorating the living room and fitting a new fireplace for us As well as looking after my monsters!!

Jan9ne Where are you hun - hope you're ok!!

xxxxx

Anangelwithin..think I my point out to my mum, that DC will be coming out of my fanjo..not hers!..know what shes like though..she will sulk all the way through, refuse to acknowledge the pregnancy and refuse to help out with childcare when I go into hospital..
Dh's family will be pleased as punch..but tbh they live 270 miles away and havent been to visit for 3 years..so kind of by the by!

Im thinking of ordering some of those preggiepops..has anyone ever used them?

Kaylo..thats the lovely thing about this thread..its fab having a little network of virtual friends who you can confide in when you dont want to be telling RL people
I joined mumsnet in 2004 after having baby number 4, but wish Id found it when I was pregnant with her

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pigley - at it like rabbits you are what 28 and this is your second pregnancy hardly!!! I hate the term glutton for punishment, none of my children are punishment thank you

Well as for us MIL died 2 months ago, FIL died years and years ago, only SIL on DP's side and although she is lovely she lives an hour away. I haven't seen my mother this year, she told me I was stupid having DD2, DB3 well just as well I had a mc as no one has 3 DC these days, DD3 was well are you ALLOWED to get pregnant again and I won't be caring as I had a "loss", so I won't be directly telling her about this one as she won'tbe happy anyway and I'm not talking to her, she sent me a birthday card saying sorry if I felt she had done something wrong so I sent her a letter saying you haven't done anything wrong just that I am making as much effort as you do, she sent me a letter back saying how everything was my fault and that even as a little girl I thought I was better than her (WTF?) and that I was the barrier to her seeing the girls yeah right? I have given up as she obviously has issues.

So we have no family to help out at all which is sad but I suppose you have to get on with it.

I tell people that unless they are the ones getting up in the night, changing nappies and feeding and paying for the DC then they shouldn't make comments, I would never dream of making comments about the size of someones else family, funny how some people think it's OK

I have just had my mums sister on the phone shreiking at me saying some very derogatory things..apparently DM doesnt want to speak to me or have anything to do with me at the moment and told my aunt that Ive ruined her big birthday party which is planned for Oct 3rd as Ill probably be to ill to attend...Im in shock..I cant beleive my family are behaving like this..Dh works full time and I run my own business..surely we are allowed to decide if we want more children?

oh dear memorylapse. Poor you. Maybe just leave them all to calm down for a bit. You don't need to stress yourself (or the baby!!)

good for you sweetkitty! I am the same. I tell them at the end of the day, my husband goes out to work to earn a living for our children, I never ask anyone else to look after my children, and that I love them all very much. I even get people asking me if they have all got the same father though

memorylapse - so sorry to hear about how difficult your DM is being and I just hope that you don't let her stress you out as it's the last thing you need at the moment.

We haven't told anyone yet but I'm very lucky in that I know the parents will be very happy for us - I'm one of 6 children so my parents will be fine and DH is an only child and his DM is already beside herself at having a DG so will just get even more excited.

kaylo - Hythe birthing centre closed down a while back I believe and a new purpose built place opened which is the one I went to (it had only been open 7 months when I went). It was quite surreal watching New Forest ponies between contractions but rather lovely too!

Swallowsandamazons, I'm so terribly sorry.

So sorry everyone not to be keeping up with the thread. I've really been struggling to cope with stress at work, DH being away on exercise, and just the exhaustion of a commute, working full-time and coming home to a demanding 3 year old. If I had known I was finally going to get pregnant again a month after returning to work I would probably only have gone back part-time.
I have my first midwife appt on Wednesday morning and having spoken to her on the phone she said she'll get me referred for my first scan asap but it can take up to 2 wks from my booking appt with her.
The other day (6+3) I had the dreaded brown discharge (sorry for tmi!) and was very on edge for about 24 hours. Threads on here and elsewhere put my mind at rest a little, as there was no cramping or fresh blood. I've tried to rest up this weekend while DH is home but easier said than done. Will be much happier once I have a scan date.
DH is home for this week so hopefully I'll get some time to come on here more often and catch up with what everyone's been up to.

Memory lapse, hugs hunni, what a bunch of nosey busy bodies! It is NONE of their business! You are entitled to expand your family when you want. I'm sure my family will give me mixed reactions too, my dad already jokes about us popping them out like rabbits (rolling eyes), my mother will be devastated because my career will be on hold 'again'. So from that viewpoint I'm not telling any of them. And I am deadly serious.....they probably won't notice at xmas and we may not see them for a few months after that. I personally think that'll be hysterical! Come May they may not even notice a new baby lol! I am a grown woman and a mother of 3 who despite having children young has still acheived everything I intended to education wise so who are they to judge me!

Sorry rant over!

I don't have the prawn issue, I'm a vegetable (as my 4 year old informed me yesterday ). I have been wondering about vegetarian paten though?????? Is that safe, is the pate issue just because it's meat or ois it to do with the storage process???? I have no idea never worried about pate before but I have some quorn pate in the fridge that is calling me?????? Any ideas?

memorylapse I hope you're ok!! Theres just no need for your family to react that way, children are miracles and something to be happy about. Not worrying that a birthday party may be ruined, and if you are ill at the time (which I hope you aren't) then she should be concerned for you!! Especially after the scare you've had!! Sending you lots and lots of hugs!!
And I also wish I'd found Mumsnet earlier - I only discovered it in May this year!! How I wish I'd had this with dd and ds pregnancies

What are preggiepops?

sweetkitty Well said!!

I've had awful crampy backachy pains today, not comfortable at all. But then again that could be cos I had a trolley with a dodgy wheel full of wallpaper in B&Q.

xxx

thanks everyone for the positive messages..DH has just sat and put his arm round me and said "what really matters is that WE really want this baby, so stuff them!"..hes right, we planned this child and its very much wanted.

We told the two teens as they are not stupid and would have guessed with me being sick all the time..DD2 is a bit wobbly as she is off to uni and felt like she was being replaced..but she is also very excited.
DS1..is very laid back and has just taken it in his stride..although I think he was a bit disgusted that his dad and I still "do that"..hes only 15 so of course anyone over the age of 20 is pre historic..he is fussing over me though and said he hopes its a boy..Ive been told off today by him for watching NME as he said he didnt want his new brother or sister listening to that kind of music before its even born!!
Not going to tell dd 2(5) and ds2(8) until at least the 12 week scan, think dd will be beside herself with excitement, shes been asking for a new brother or sister for ages...I do also think there potentially could be a bit of jealousy there too as shes been the youngest and kind of used to the attention

info on preggiepops here
preggiepops

Now they sound v.interesting. I'm not sick yet but when(if -) I get it it's definitely something I would consider - might try cheaper lollipops first tho.
xx

I wondered about preggiepops last time although I'll give boiled sweets a try first like Kaylo!

It's sad that so many people have negative reactions to a pregnancy

Meanbeansmum - I googled about pate and apparently it's fresh and not made with liver it shouldn't be a problem. Not sure how true that is! I can't imagine there'd be a problem with Quorn pate though.