Due Sept 05 - Thread 8

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Here it is.

I also am amazed at people who ban children from their wedding. Of course you're not going to let them ruin the procedings. We went to my cousin's wedding in Sept last year when dd was 8 months. She was the only preteenager there and wasn't really invited - we just checked with the groom's mother that it would be ok as we were travelling to Ireland for the occasion and all possible babysitters would be at the wedding. As it turned out dd was very well behaved even though I spent most of the service outside with her as she had decided to sing along - even when there were no hymns! Everyone kept coming up to us at the reception to tell us how adorable she was and that it was lovley to see some a really young family member there! Must admit though, I was glad my mum was there to take over after I'd had a couple of glasses of fizz!
Pooka - I'd be tempted to bring jnr along anyway, tell them you're breastfeeding (even if you're not) and can't leave them with a babysitter.
We didn't invite any preteens to our wedding - but they were far from banned and when a few people asked us if they could bring tinytots we said they were welcome.

We did ask for no children at our wedding. It seemed a shame but it was due to the fact that we went to three weddings the year before ours that were ruined by babies/toddlers. In each case the parents(friends of ours) did nothing when their offspiring started to cry loudly during vows/speeches. If you know you can count on people to leave the church/hall that would be fine but barring giving them a rattle(!) they let them yell. One toddler actually ran and threw himself in front of bride who had to climb over him in narrow aisle whilst his parents looked on. I am afraid that sealed it for us. Im sure most of us wouldnt let that happen but it wasnt a risk we wanted to take. I would have loved older children there but our venue insisted that over 3's were counted in numbers and we had already had to whittle our list down. Its a very emotive issue and people can get quite heated about it, but I guess at the end of the day we need to respect the wishes of the couple whose day it is. Just giving my viewpoint, I hope this doesnt upset anyone We are also missing a wedding this autumn but fully understand the couples choice.

I quite enjoyed my antenatal (NHS) class last night and have 4 more to go. I'm wondering if paying £160 for our NCT one is necessary. Could buy a Maclaren buggy for that, or lots of pedicures, massages etc!!

Good news - I won argument with HR and get my full annual leave entitlement

I totally understand people not having kids at weddings - in all the cases I know it was due to numbers/budget. Most venues are limited to 100, so if everyone brings kids too it's just not possible. Having said that, I cannot understand the problem with babies - they are hardly bums on seats, or need a meal. We had to say no to a good friend's wedding after ds2 born as I couldn't bring him, and I was bfeeding.
We had kids at our wedding but we got married so young, no one had any children except the odd cousin - childhood sweethearts!!
We are going to a wedding in Aug and I am delighted that the kids aren't invited as it's far more relaxing (not that I'll be dancing the night away by then....)

Gosh no - not offended at all. Everyone is entitled to the wedding they choose (we went to Las Vegas and had no guests at all
As I said, I have no problem leaving dd (who will be 26 months) with my mother - might be a good break and there are health and safety issues apparently with the venue as it has a large moat!
But as will defo be breastfeeding I sort of feel (irrationally probably) that I'm being excluded because no way can I leave a month old baby working on the experience I had feeding dd who was the ultimate snacker. Suppose it saves me shoehorning myself into a posh frock though

25 weeks today .

And we're going on hoiday on Tuesday (Monday really as we will be staying overnight in Dover). I have made a list of the things we need to buy. Would have gone shopping but DS wanted to go to sleep so I was forced to come onto Mumsnet .

One of my friends is having a baby at the end of June and tonight we're having a surprise baby shower for her. I'll be seeing her this afternoon as well and hope I don't spill the beans (will have to tape my mouth shut I think). Can't decide what to wear.

Hi everyone - hope you are all doing well. Haven't got time to read the thread as just popping in, in between packing to say hello. Work banned access to mumsnet in the last few weeks I was there so was bereft of my chatting and sanity. We are now midst packing ready to move out of our house next Thursday. Not really making much progress as such as my two toddlers are around and creating chaos. They are off to stay with my parents on Monday which leaves us two days to get all of it done - eek! Am actually feeling exhausted all the time which is rather grim. 25 weeks, 26 on Monday. 20 week scan revealed I am having a little girl so will have a boy and two girls come September, 3 under 3 and 2 weeks!!! Will look forward to getting back into mumsnet once we have moved and the dust has settled. Not able to move into our new house until at least 20 June so having to stay with my parents in between.

Glad you are stil around Sallie - I was getting a bit worried about your lack of postings. Hope the move goes well.

I often worry that my work will ban Mumsnet - it wouldn't be good. Have you stopped working now?

Hi Sallie - nice to have you back, we were starting to get worried about you! Good luck with the move - it's always such a nightmare

Lucky you going on holiday Picadilly Circus. Am very jealous!!

So pleased it's Friday - don't think I could take another day at work this week!

Franch or Katts - have you tried the yogabase mondays classes yet. Have been to Yogajuction in Holloway on monday nights and enjoyed it - but thought meeting up at yoga may be quite fun. Im ususlly down in Islington on monday nights (meet friends for a pub quiz after 8)

Hi Boompi, yes Katts & I met at Yogabase not last Monday but the Monday before. I'm hoping to go this Mon. See you there?

Hi Franch - what time is the yoga class, and what's the address? I would been keen to come too - do you need to book?

Hi Franch - what time is the yoga class, and what's the address? I would been keen to come too - do you need to book?

Baby shower was fun - and the Mum to be hadn't guessed what was going to happen . We played games involving guessing the ingredients in nappies (things such as Rogan Josh curry paste, cat food [need a queasy emoticon] and chocolate and dried prunes_, estimating the size of her bump, guessing baby pictures of ourselves and guessing the ingreients in baby foods.

And eating a lot of food.

I paid for it in the night - after having my customary nocturnal visit to the toilet, I was sick . Definitely due to over eating and not getting home until midnight. Still feeling a little delicate today.

DS is currently sleeping, and I have tidied up. Need to get things for our holiday, but this does require DS to be awake (as DH is furiously trying to finish his essay which needs to be in very soon).

KF - info is here - needs updating though as it's not really a drop-in - I just turned up when I went, had to pay £12 and was told I'd need to commit to it in 6-week blocks (£60 I think).

Hope to see you there

Sounds like a good plan. I know I cant do the 13th but otherwise commiting may be a good thing!!
See you ladies - KF I know you. Will we need to wear a carnation or something - will be camouflaged by all the other preggie ladies

I think the teacher's OK if you let her know in advance any dates you can't do. I'll email you both some clues as to how to spot me

hello all, just back from two weeks away in Scotland seeing the rellies. Still occasionally being sick but usually OK as long as I get 8-9 hours sleep which has killed my social life although we went to the cinema last night for the first time in two years! When we do get a babysitter it seems a shame to not be able to chat. Have my scan on Friday so excited/nervous about that.

Pooka - am starting Zoe's yoga class on Tuesday. She usually has info about home birth and also remember water bith hire folk coming out to chat to us one time.

Re the wedding issue for Moschops I went to a friends wedding when I was 11 days overdue and had a lovely time (I was feeling miserable before due to lack of baby!)I borrowed a friend's outfit which was Ok and also wore an incontinance pad (not the nappy type I hasten to add!) just incase my waters broke and took my hospital bags in the car. It was only about a hour away and the happy couple were really chuffed we came. DS didn't arrive for another 4 days so I didn't have to dash off!

Hope to see you there Rhumba!

Morning Ladies - have got my first GP ante natal visit today (conveniently timed at 2:20pm - think they think that pregnant ladies don't work or something!), so will be interested to see how that goes. Think I might avoid going back to work afterwards actually, as had a really busy weekend, and am exhasuted!

Franch and Boompi - I'm not going to make it tonight, as am exhausted from the weekend, and really need an early night (DH has decreed that he will make sure I'm tucked up in bed by 8:30pm - he's been getting very bossy lately!! ). However, will make it next week. I went to a yoga class on Saturday at the Iyengar Yoga Institute in Maida Vale, which was really nice - felt very relaxed afterwards.

Morning!
Feeling so tired today after busy weekend. Mum keeps nagging me to slow down, and even dh said he didn't want to hear that I'd done anything active today!
Bought 2 washable nappies on ebay last week which have just arrived. So cute, makes it seems more real somehow...Feel like I'm just playing babies at the moment, must take getting ready a bit more seriously!!

I know the disposable v reusable nappies issue has been done to death [yawn!] but has anyone changed their minds over the recent reports that reusable are just as bad for the environment as disposable? Thought I'd made my mind up but now am undecided again.

Morning all
Andif - know what you mean about feeling tired, have felt exhausted all weekend, seems as though I've hit the 3rd trimester and body has just decided its had enough - not good as there's still a long time to go and judging by the looks of the other bumps in my yoga class still a lot of growing to do too! Anyone else returning to the weird hormone madness of 1st trimester, I was in tears most of the weekend over very silly things and just felt really fed up which makes me feel v ungrateful and quite ridiculous really - think all the planning about leaving work is making it seem much more real and I'm having a bit of a freak out! Fingers crossed that all will calm down again soon...

I'm quite up for reusable nappies despite my mother's horror at the idea - we went to see a friend with a new baby last weekend and they look really easy to use and just seem a nicer idea, am quite ready to change my mind when i come face-to-face with the real 'full nappy' experience though!

Elasticated - re the hormone thing - I've just spent a weekend at the ILs which resulted in my having a minor spat with DH BEFORE we left and even though the weekend went ok and we had made up DH and I are currently now not speaking. Why? Not entirely sure . Totally out of character for us. And am now feeling very tearful...PITA hormones!

I have been swinging between the 2, but have decided that I will use disposables at least for the first couple of months while I try to get the hang of the baby thing, then look at changing to cloth nappies. As penance am prepared to pay more for the 'ecologically more sound' versions of disposables. Will look into cloth when we get back to NZ, but am not so married to the idea of cloth that I can face dealing with them in my London flat with no drier, no outside line and only the living room to hang them to dry. Think that even if I do switch to cloth, would still use disposables when out and about.