Due Jan 2010 - watching our beans grow into bumps :-)

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As we all talk so fast the last thread is nearly full so thought I would start us off on a new one

Feeling rather angry and upset today. You may recall me saying that I had volunteered at a PTA meeting to organise the Xmas event. Background is I have run my own event business for 20 years, therefore know a little bit about the job and committee were v pleased to have me on board after years of being working mum and not having time. Anyway, one of the sub committee members had some great ideas for the event, I circulated minutes and other stuff that I was told by the PTA secretary to do. The person with the great ideas has gone absolutely ballistic, on email, to entire PTA committee, apologising on my behalf, saying I had no right to send that information, that they were her ideas, not mine , that none of the other sub committee members knew I was sending stuff out (incorrect) and basically I was an idiot that had embarrassed eveyrone!!

Quite frankly, I was only doing what the PTA secretary had told me to do and at no point have I ever tried to make anything seem like "me" more a "we are doing this, that etc". I was so humiliated and angered by the whole episode. How dare she apologise on my behalf?

Anyway, had quite a heated exchange of emails last night and have spent most of morning having a bit of a bawl and feeling v down. Don't want to go to school to get kids or anything - feel so upset about this. Bloody PTAs - wonder why many parents don't bother to get involved??! My turn has been rather short lived at around 5 weeks!

i would be tempted to confront her the up her own arse lady!

CantThinkofFunnyName - oh dear, sorry you are suffering the wrath of the egotistical PTA mums!

Sounds to me you did nothing whatsoever wrong and even if you did which happens when you first get into things this woman could have acted more adult about it and explained how "she" likes it done.

My friend who got involved with her PTA for the first time last year had an awful experience with this nasty mum who was so controlling and intimidating.

It was a shame because my friend decided to no longer be involved in the PTA after that. It seemed all the other mums were scared of this woman and were happy to go along with her way.

My PTA luckily are nice people and I was just thinking how the would react to this and I actually remember when I was involved two years ago (been too busy since) that we all had each others emails and would circulate ideas, like adding to a list. They were not kept as TOP SECRET! So this woman at your school just sounds really controlling to me.

I would not play her game and argue your case back as that shows to her there is a case to be made with this. I would just tell her to chill out and its no big deal the ideas were revealed as "our ideas!"... Just say that you didnt realise something so small would bother her so much and if she prefers you could resend it out as "HER NAMEs IDEAS"

Dont allow her to intimidate you.

Its not worth getting your lovely belly all tight and you upset. Few deep breaths and tell yourself, "It does not matter".

Hold your head high in the playgroud, you didnt commit a crime

Thanks ladies. Hormones in overdrive today! After her email to all and sundry last night, she sent an email to me and copied to the other sub committee members, to which I did reply and apologised if I had offended anyone, but explained why I did what I did, that the other people did know about it and that the PTA secretary had told me to do so, thus I trusted their guidance. I also said that I would have preferred any wrongdoing was addressed in a mature and adult fashion and that I felt completely humiliated by her actions.

She responded with another really rude email at which point I said no wonder you have trouble recruiting to the PTA and its such as shame when there is a wealth of experience and expertise out there.

I then went on to apologise again for any offence caused etc (through gritted teeth). I just thought that actually, even though I do not believe I have done anything wrong at all, I would rather let her think she had the upper hand than sink to her level and get into turf ways and playground politics. I am not on any quest for self worth of PTA adulation so that part doesn't worry me - but I do feel just to hurt, upset and embarrassed that there could now be playground gossip about the way she "dissed me" etc.

Sorry girls - I'm really having a bit of a rant but with the hormones, I just haven't stopped crying today - how ridiculous!

Cantthinkoffunnyname I think you are being very mature about it, I am pretty sure other people know what she's like. Did she want to organize the Christmas event - maybe that's what's behind her actions.

Timmette - thanks, I'm trying to be, but actually feeling quite adolescent with my tears! The lady in question is part of a sub committee organising the xmas event - there are 5 of us in total. The PTA overall committee said that this lady and I should be "lead" as she has the prior knowledge of how PTA works yet I have the "superior event experience" - their words, not mine. I believe that she feels very put out and probably thought of it as her baby, but truly her rant was the first I knew of it. The trouble is, being pregnant, the hormones really do take over don't they and silly little things like this set us off - well me anyway!! I'm sure pre-pregnancy I'd have just remained angry, as I was last night, but I woke at 5.30am thinking of all the things I should have said and done, wrote so many emails in my head, had so many rows in my head and instead spent the day in tears.

Anyway - sorry sorry sorry - hijacking our pregnancy thread with "woe is me" tales

FM- you enjoy it i hope all goes well and you get the chance to fly out! when i got married it so didnt happen due to money but oh well, with a new born could you really have a relaxing honeymoon!!

CTOFN-you just relax when it all goes tits up she will then feel very small! its a shame because it nice to be involved with school functions but all that wasted energy getting puffed up because her name was not mentioned is quite sad!!! you focus your energy on lil one! i would withdraw for now and wait till after baby is born if you still want to be a part of the group, sometimes because she is allowed to behave like that she will keep doin it! deep breaths have a bit of chocolate! i have a bag of "caramel filled buttons" which just every now and then pop one in my mouth mmmmmmmm lovely!

still thinking about the 4d scan!! my DH wants it so i guess if thats ok and its cheap i will! this is the final lap around the baby saga!!!

Anniemac - you are a star and have made me smile - thank you!! I do have to see her in RL, every day in playground actually but I'll get over it. Up until this past year I have worked full time (and then some) too so this is all completely new territory for me.

Glory indeed! Do you know, I have created, launched and directed 15,000 pax events for worldwide governments, royalty, heads of state, blue chip corporations etc for over 20 years. Then went on to sell an event to v large plc and made a mint - hence why I retired in January!!!! Sorry, that sounds really egotistical - but just my little pep talk to self that she really is a very sad individual. Tee hee - she doesn't quite know the extent of my background as set out above. But others at school do. Silly silly insecure lady!

cantthinkoffunnyname don't apologise for hijacking the thread, I have hijacked it all along with my tales of woe (sorry!!!!)

Anyway your PTA lady sounds absolutely mad, pathetic, petty, immature and totally sad. If she is that bothered about a PTA email- and to stoop so low as to insult you in that manner with so many others reading is ridiculous.

I think it's great that other people received the email though, as anniemac says she comes across as a psycho!

Try not to be sad try to be amused that she has outed herself as a wholly unreasonable nutter in front of everyone else!

congratulations fraochsmum that sounds very exciting! your dress sounds stunning

sorry x-posted! Glad you're feeling a bit better CTOFN

well said everyone "i believe in what goes around comes around"- CTOFN - glad your feeling better!

Morning all. Feeling much happier today, had a couple of lovely texts last night from other ladies at school basically offering their support and their apologies for the way "psycho" (tee hee) acted. Trouble is, no-one actually stands up to her face to face by the looks of it. Anyway, nuff said on all that.

Constipation - anyone? My word, it's bad over this neck of the woods. I had it really really bad with my first, second seemed to get away with it - but it's back! Am sure that my "surprise" is going to be a little boy as seem to be getting lots of similar symptoms to first pg. Daily cartons of prune juice, lots of veg, fruit etc NOT doing anything to help!

Psyllium husks - what on earth are those? Never heard of them - but if they really work, where do I get them? Going to get GP to write a prescription for Lactulose too I think.

WARNING WARNING TMI alert.... bottom now bleeding profusely!. Spent 1 1/2 hours on loo this morning - stuck! Finally went but was like actual childbirth - too big for too little opening, IYKWIM! Rather odd as going each day but obviously lots hanging around after!!

Ewwww - sorry everyone. Hope days are going well. I'm going out with hubby and a couple of friends tonight - first time in months - woo hoo, wonder what time I'll stay up til?!

Glad you're feeling better cantthinkofafunnyname. We've got a 4D scan booked too, for 17th Oct, cannot wait! It's £175, had one for DS1 as my bday present, and got loads of pics, so have to do the same for this bump! He was so cute, thumb sucking, kept licking his own arm, and then showed him really elbowing me with weight of whole body behind him! Made DH appreciate what i was going through!! Justify cost this time as we don't really need to buy anything for this baby except some new real nappies, and if we have a girl I'm sure the relatives will provide lots of pink outfits! Got mainly unisex coloured baby stuff for DS1 the first time anyway, so could use again with a girl.

I'm also massive, and have had shocked looks when say due January. I went to the gym wed night and felt huge so hid at the back of the class trying to be discreet, only for the instructor to yell 'God it must be twins in there', and everyone turn round for a good stare

Going on a hen w/e tomorrow, I'm a bit apprehensive about trying to go along with the dressing up (blond wigs!) and games without any cocktails inside me, plus have nothing glam to wear. Have a dress on order from blooming marvelous but if doesn't arrive today I'm scuppered! Scared to go out in case miss the post! The other girls are doing a pole dancing lesson, but i have bowed out and booked a mum-to-be massage in the hotel spa, yey
Pregnant pole dancing would just be obscene!

Xposts cantthinkofafunnyname, sorry to hear about bottom issues, hope GP sorts you out with something fast.

CTOFN aww, constipation/hard stools are nasty. I can't say I have had any major probs with that, although I have noticed that stools get much harder if I don't have some weetabix before bed. There was also something I heard that may help. If you are constipated stick some vaseline up there before hand as it can ease movement down...don't know if that might ease the pain a little.

Somewhat - am laughing hard at the thought of putting vaseline up bottom - if only I'd done that I wouldn't be in this mess IYKWIM LOL!!!

What can I say...I think vaseline up the bottom is the least of the indignities we are destined to suffer being pregnant.Mmmmm wonder if it could work with birthing...a bit of extra lubricant .

Hi all

CTOFN re: constipation, i know what that feels like. i would suggest you ask your GP for MOVICOL ok to use in pg and is taken with small glass of water (doesn't taste great but with vimto is passable) or any watery based food ie: milk, sloppy yoghurts etc. the water you take it with doesn't get absorbed by the body do it goes straight to the stool to soften it, rather than lactulose which you have to drink lots of extra fluids with (sorry to be an anorak but its my job) it takes about 48 hrs to works but TMI you get a "good" result. hope this helps.

to everyone having 3d scans, i hope they are really nice, i would love one but i'd feel a bit bad as i haven't got one of any of the other 4 so rather unfair me thinks.

anyhoo back to work - talking about wees and poos all day LOVELY!!

CTOFN you poor thing, what a stupid woman! Fancy getting upset about you circulating minutes from a meeting! I think you have done the best thing and let her awful behaviour show what a silly cow woman she is.

Hope the bottom gets better, I had this in 1st trimester but luckily seems to have gone. I still have sickness and heartburn instead. Lovely.

I had the rest of my scan yesterday, for the face and heart. Everything is as it should be. We took dd to see the scan and she thought the baby was coming out there and then and covered her eyes . Dp and I were amazed at the view of the face, I definitely didn't have that with dd, 4yrs ago.