Hi
Thanks for all the messages, please don't let it hijack the thread, you should all get back to moaning about puffy feet!
We are surviving, it just hits me in waves, I can be talking rationally about what happened one minute and wailing the next.
She was beautiful, we held her for hours knowing we would only have that time with her, it was like she was just sleeping.
Shropshire SANDS provided cameras and a Moses basket so we could take photos. They also provide a keepsake pack which the midwives did for us with hand and foot prints and a lock of hair (she had loads - all the heartburn?). They also fund the grave stone if we go for a hospital arranged burial. We are going to take a look at the section of the cemetery where they are and then decide.
As we are of the hippy leanings we may mark the occasion later but I don't think we will have a funeral or memorial in the conventional sense, it all seems too formal and grown up somehow.
The support from the hospital has been fantastic. I expect my milk will be coming in in the next few days and that will be tough, mastitis is a particular risk in these circumstances.
Thanks again for all your kind words now back to the business in hand .... piles, heartburn ......