OMG, huge post, DS2 just bloody deleted it
Sound's like the weekend's went well for everyone Kayz christening sound's like it went down a storm, am also a bit at your SIL though. Bit odd to do that.
Tink, can I borrow your girls for a week? I want to go and do some girly shopping, am fed up of shorts and t-shirts!
LBOX, it really isn't long is it? This time next month, he'll be here!! V. exciting
I have a dilema, am going to try and keep it short, it didn't work with the last post so we'll see, but could really do with some un-biased advice.
OK, next door neighbours, lovely, nosy, 60+ years old (so not exactly the sort of people we'd want to be hanging around with on a Saturday night IYKWIM? Really helped us out more than I can explain when I had all the troubles with Mikey's pregnancy (looking after DS1 and 2 etc.) always been friendly, never a cross word although a lot of what she says we take with a pinch of salt, can hear two versions of stories, one from her, one from the other person, and they never quite tally, always hers comes out with her being on top etc. etc. etc.
Friend, has become a very good close friend, but relativly recently, wasn't around when I was pregnant, but I know if we had have been friends then she'd have done exactly the same as neighbour, so if you like loyalty is on parr with neighbour.
Friend had a blazing row with her DH in my front garden (which I didn't like at all, my house, don't shout and scream at each other in the garden type of thing) neighbour had a right go at friend about it, friend gave as good as she got, still cross and upset from argument with her DH.
Neighbour used to come round at least 4 or 5 times a week, think she kind of felt a bit of a mother figure to me, although, as grateful as I am for what she did with the kids, I never treated her like a mother figure, she just likes to play the role if you like. She seemed to think she had something over us because she'd helped us out.
Day after friend and neighbour argued, neighbour completely ignored me as I was coming back from school, so when DH got home that night I went round to see if a) she had ignored me, and b) to sort it out. She claimed there was no problem between DH and I and her, just friend and her, I say no problem, their arguments are up to them, I didn't, don't, want to fall out with her over this.
Skip forward a few days, friend goes on hols, neighbour doesn't know friend went on hols, neighbour pipes up with "did you hear all that noise last night? Thought it was friend starting again" in a really bitchy way so I said "I doubt it, friend is 4000 miles away in the Canaries" neighbour has sly digs at friend for the rest of the time friend is away.
Then yesterday afternoon, DS1 and I playing Simon Says int he garden as you do..... !) I say "Simon says....." neighbour pipes up with "shut up" - telling my child to shut up in his own garden Again, I didn't want to fall out so we came in, shut the door, completely ignored them and played inside - which I wish I hadn't done now.
Today, Friend comes round. Kitchen door is open so neighbour obviously knew friend was home, heard neighbour SLAM their front door, now we heard that over us talking, some music playing (not loudly) and the extractor fan whirring away, so it was bloody hard - obviously meant for us to hear)
Now, if we'd have been in the garden, music blasting, talking loudly etc. then I get it, but am I in the wrong to think fuck 'em, I'm in my house, after paying my mortgage to be in my house, talking to my friend, it is f' all to do with next door.
...but then I feel bad... she did such a lot for us when I was pregnant, do I go around again and pander to her? I refuse to justify who and why I am friend's with someone - anyone, whether neighbour gives me her blessing to be friend's with them or not.
But then I feel bad, again.
If you have got this far well done!! DH home, will probably not get back tonight, but needed to get it out!!
Have a good night everyone! xxx
Friend goes on hols, neighbour doesn't know they were going on hols.