Due in June 2009 – let the eviction process begin!!

[lauraloo09]

I hope I've done this right - here is the new thread...and hopefully the last in ante-natal

laura 3/5th for a month and I thought I was doing all right then.
louise yup, got a second sweep this afternoon at 3pm.

I've not been sleeping well at all, I've been emotional and worried about exactly what the risk is that the birth centre will not take that I can't deliver there anymore. I've not had any explanation on what having a "big" baby (if she is even big that is) means in terms of birth and feel like the last 6 months of "preparing" have been totally wasted.
Dh will bring it up after the sweep this afternoon so I can get my head round what kind of birth I should be expecting since allthe "nice" choices have gone out the window.

Congrats Daisy! Great name and you avoided induction! Hope the early days go well and you can tell us more when you are up to it..!

Insy - congrats to you too! Great news!

Naat - Sounds like you were an absolute warrior throughout labour, congratulations again! I know what it is like to be feedin constantly, you just try and rest as much as you can inbetween!

Thanks for reassurance about throwing up, it was extra helpful as he did so again this morning, copiously! He doesn't seem bothered at all by it ermin so I'm sure you're right. Health visitor was round and she gave me some winding tips, but Alex may just be like your Emily ineed, he may be a bit of a puker!

Oh, also the HV said that sometimes at about 4-6 weeks breastfed babies can start holding onto their poo for days... ie only pooing every few days, but as long as they are happy not to worry! I don't think that happened with dd! Anyway, strange but interesting I though....

Tee - Great news about Adam! Home time soon!

Zozo - Welcome back! I hope things kick off soon for you, waiting is nightmarish!

Welcome worriedamy!

Sorry to see that you guys have not followed my pattern silk and ermin... oops! Still, give it another 24 hours...

Right, lovely friend has just picked up dd so I am going to put my feet up for a bit.Dh is already asleep on the sofa!

June-- I dont know how you are coping beong overdue like you are and then having your plans changed like they have been it must be very frustrating for you! I wrote my birth plan out for the millionth time the other day, but can't help feel its a bit idealistic and not going to be at all like that!

I know what you mean about the 'tips'... however the only tip I seem to get is have sex, and I think poor DP is feeling a bit worn out now!!

I have plenty of support from DP, mum, sister, and family and friends but it still doesn't really feel real. DP is quite a lot older than me (23 and 42!!) and I think he is a bit worried about how he is going to cope when the baby arrives too. He has a son already, but he was born at 27+5 and it was all very different, as I'm sure you can imagine! So I dont think he is really sure how to cope with a moaning, immobile pregnant woman, and spends quite a lot of the time looking at me worriedly (a real word?!) every time I have a twinge. He is very supportive and tries to be as involved as poss though, so I'm not complaining!! I have just moved 50 miles away from all my family and friends though, to an area where I don't know anyone, so I am starting to get very worried about how I am going to cope afterwards. My mum manages to get up to see me once a week, and is very excited about her first grandchild. My sister is also very excited about becoming an aunty, but she has just started uni, so I think it all seems like a totally different world to her. Most of my friends are either still at uni or just starting proper jobs, so I feel like a bit of an odd one out I still get all the invites to festivals etc, and makes me a bit sad when I have to say no as my life is changing away from that carefree world now They all mean well, but any conversations about being pregnant turn into an interigation and inevitably end in a conversation about how they could never imagine being pregnant or going through labour and I can't help but feel like they all think I am a bit weird for wanting to have a baby so young (I dont think I am that young!!). So, just generally feeling a bit bleugh and sorry for myself as you can see, and really wish I had found this thread a lot earlier so I could have had some reassurance throughout the pregnancy!!
Anyway... sorry for the moan!!!

lauraloo09-- congrats on getting a good nights sleep, I think I may have forgotten what one of those was like! I was sat in the kitchen at 3am this morning with the dog looking at me rather confused as to why I was sat in the kitchen with her in the dark! I'm sure I will get more sleep when the baby actually arrives!!

zozokat-- I have a great big thick book about pregnancy which I have been reading rather a lot recently!!

worriedamy There's a real spread of ages on this thread - I'm one of the two oldest at 42 - and nobody would say there's an ideal age for everybody to breed; we all find our own way through it. When you're my age your LO may have left for college and you can be going to festivals every other week .

Nothing helps you make friends more easily in a new place than having a baby - all towns and cities have playgroups and mother and baby activities so it's worth checking local newspapers and freebie magazines for details. Lots of church halls have baby and toddler groups which are not just for churchgoers. Have you done an antenatal class? That's always a good source of new friends who'll be in the same position as you, and the NCT run post-natal ones too. Your GP surgery should also have info about resources for new mums, and you'll meet lots when you take baby to clinic.

And Mumsnet is a great place to get advice about all sorts of things so feel free to rant and moan on here.

Got to get DS from school now. You've got all of it to come..

worriedamy i think i'm one of the relatively younger mums-to-be on this thread (25) and I TTC since the age of 22 but i had a lot of problems and funnily enough this time last year I was told off my consultant and GP that I would never have children, and I was about to be put on waiting list for IVF when this miracle happened for me and my lovely DH, totally surprising GP and consultants

Like ermin said there are a lot of support groups you should check GP surgeries, NCT websites etc for any groups in your area...and mumsnet is always here...don't know how i would have got thro last 9 months without the lovely people i have 'met' on this website - esp thro my miscarrige scare everyone i have been in contact with here have been very helpful and supportive...esp if all you want to do is have a rant

Thanks ermintrude, I'm sure you are right and it will all seem very natural to me when I have a little baby to look after... at the mo it all seems a bit 'AHHH'!! 12 months ago I was acting like a d'head every Wednesday night round town in fancy dress and wondering what to wear to Graduation!! Don't get me wrong- baby was planned and v v v much wanted, and to be honest we knew we couldn't really wait too long after I graduated with DP being an old fogey and all that but I think its all dawning on me a bit!!

Good idea about the baby and toddler groups... will have a look if there is a breastfeeding group or something that I could go to?? The avergae age of people in the street around here seems about 102, so was wondering where I would meet new people! I have moved in with DP, and didn't start of on a good footing as I parked in someone elses parking space a few times, and was left a friendly little post-it on my car advising me not to do it again!! All very stuck in there ways around here!!

Got a 'Gala Day' to go to on the 2nd August, its a work thing and I would really like to show my face. What do you new mummies think?? Would it be too soon, with it only being 6 weeks away?! Would it be unfair of me to take the baby with me if I went? Would it be a bit much for him?! I really don't know!!

lauraloo what a great outcome for you, you must be so happy!!

Worried I think it's rather lovely you're starting so young, and in fact I envy you. I wanted to ttc when I was 24 and was living with a wonderful man, whom eventually I had to leave when he told me he would never want kids. How I wished I'd just got pregnant....10 years later, he's single and depressed and I've got all the challenges of single motherhood ahead of me (my baby conceived after ONE episode with an old friend from uni, who will be involved, but lives abroad...)
I know plenty of people who take their kids to festivals, as Ermin says. It's all going to be lovely for you. Plus my mum had me at 23, and I love having such a pretty, young mum, who at 56, is now able to give me full support and enjoy her grandmotherhood.

HI Zozo, hope you're bearing up...I'm overdue too, it's crap

Worried - the great news is there is a secret society of mummies that I knew nothing about before having dd 18 months ago.

Although I'm older than you I knew no one locally with children as I'd been doing the whole career thing. I was dreading my maternity leave stuck in the house with only a tiny baby for company and no family locally either.

However, there are loads of places to go. NCT post natal meeting groups which you can drop into and churches are a fantastic source of community support. Local health visitors ran drop in centres at the local sure start place. You suddenly realise there are loads of other mums just like you not knowing who to turn to. I met a huge variety of people, all ages, all walks of life and all very friendly.

I think it's worth looking them up now and waddling along even before you have the baby. I went to the NCT bf group beforehand and after even though bf went horribly wrong. They were still very welcoming (was expecting to be lynched once I swapped to bottlefeeding).

Reflexology update - no dramatic bursting of waters thank goodness Although when I told the therapist she said wouldn't have phased her as she used to be a farmer and ahs delivered lots of calves/lambs

Dh's birthday tomorrow so we'll see if he gets a surprise present.

June - ime birthing centres are almost always looking for reasons to not allow you to birth there. I had dd on a labour ward (none of my birth plan happened as I expected really) but it was still a good experience. Hope this afternoon's appointment goes well. Sorry yr going through such a tough time

Worriedamy, echo what others have said about the NCT! You can join their groups even if you haven't paid for classes or joined up. I haven't had the experience of playgroups yet, but also recommend investigating the Mumsnet Meet-ups threads and Local sections. Depending on where you live, you might already find a thread or you could start one. When I joined MN in January, finding local people was a priority for me (I'm an expat living in London so no big family network nearby etc.) and it worked our really well, met some lovely local mums-to-be including bunnymother (can't wait to hear an update from her!!) so definitely recommend giving it a try

Loooouise it is crap being overdue isn't it!! are you getting loads of 'is the baby here yet' emails? i have my facebook status set to a daily 'still waiting' type message to stem the questions as it is getting depressing.

Silkcushion hope the reflexology gets things going

June have i understood correctly you can't use your BC due to baby's size?? hope they can give you some straight answers about that. (And good luck with 2nd sweep. got my 2nd tomorrow at 11am ? )

zozokat here's a typical playground conversation from today:

Everyone: Ooh, isn't it your due date today, haven't you had it?

Me: Damn, I knew there was something I was supposed to be doing.

. It's going to get very boring in the next week or two.

silk lol @ your reflexologist. Having seen how James Herriot delivered calves I'm relieved for you that she didn't have a go

worriedamy ahem, being 42, like me and my DH, your DP is a mere lad, not a fogey. You can go off people, you know .
Re the 'gala day' - teeny babies are very portable and as long as you don't take them anywhere too noisy/hot/cold etc. they can be carried along with you everywhere. I bet your colleagues would love to meet your LO too.

Hey am back and the news is that my cervix is not co-operatng.
Realistically looking at induction Friday, not fun .
The mw said the baby is "big" from the measurement they take with their little tape measure on the tummy. that's why I can't have it there, in case it's too big and gets stuck.
I don't think that measurement is very acurate especially since the sonographer mentionned there was a lot of fluid in there but hey what can I say.
with the baby only 3/5th engaged the situation is that we won't know until my contractions are started whether the baby is too big or not. If she is then they'll advise on a (emergency) c-section. (not sure whether I want to do some reading about it or not :S).
So that's it really, very little chance of me going spontaneously in labour since she couldn't do the sweep properly.
Off to get something to eat!

Well the doctor I saw was fab. She said she wouldn't prescribe flucanozole for breast thrush as she wasn't happy to prescribe something that wasn't licensed for BF mums, but as I was presenting symptoms of vaginal thrush (sorry for TMI) then she'd prescribe me the oral tablet, two doses over a week. It wasn't 'til I got home and looked at the prescription I saw it was the stuff I needed. I thought she was doing a bit of 'nudge nudge wink wink' but was too dazed to work out what she was saying! I have Daktarin cream at home anyway so I'll start putting that on my nipples, so it's just the oral gel for Emily if she starts showing symptoms and you can get that over the counter. She was so much nicer than the last doctor I saw and chatted to me for a good 5 mins after the appointment about the 3D scan cock up (she was 23 weeks pregnant herself) and DS's health.

So hopefully, the tablet, the cream, some heavy duty pro-biotic from the health food shop and maybe the gel for her (though she's got no symptoms of thrush, so don't want her to have it if she doesn't need it). It also comes through in breast milk so she'll be getting it that way too.

I feel so much better just having spoken to her. Phew!

Well it's my 32nd birthday on Friday and methinks it'll be a bit of a write-off this year! Going out with a friend in the morning for a coffee as we'll drop the toddlers off at a church group that babysit for you while you go off and shop! It'll be quite civilised (well as civilised as can be with a 5 month old and a newborn).... then it's a nice meal in the evening with DH before I scuttle off to bed at 9pm so I can get some sleep in.....

Once I've cracked the thrush, I'm going to start trying to express some milk so DH can do a feed in the evening to give me a bit of a window for sleep.....

Hello to zozocat and worriedamy - this thread is a life-saver! Where are you both based? I think there's a few of us based in and around London. There was talk of us all meeting up around September time (which will be weird!) when we feel a bit more confident with the bubs.... Don't worry about being young or a first-timer. I've blinking-well forgotten everything from last time anyway, so will be asking questions myself from time to time. We're all different ages here anyway, and from different backgrounds with a whole range of experience. My mum was 23 when she had me and it's lovely that she's still young enough to enjoy life and her grandchildren.

WRT to taking baby to places, my mate took her 6 month old to Glastonbury and camped and everything! They have brilliant facilities for babies, I think it's lovely! He did have to wear ear protectors though!

Emily's nose seems a bit better today, though she still snuffles through her feed. I BF in front of FIL today. I think he felt a little awkward, but he soon got over it. I guess the key to feeling more confident BF in public is to just get on and do it!

Anyway off to bath DS. I only realised earlier that we haven't bathed Emily yet..... I remember dying to bath DS after his cord dropped off.... I just haven't got round to it with her

Hello everyone. So sorry have not been posting.

I feel awful but just don't seem to have the time for anything at the moment. This is day3 for me and my breasts are engorged and painful and I am having huge hormonal swings/baby blues.

Elina is doing great but is very mucousy so not keeping much food down and is in quite some discomfort.She is sleeping so much and we are finding it a challenge to wake her for her feeds. Last night was our 1st night home and she was awake for most of it. She is still so young so things will change in time.

Congrats to Daisy.Well done!

Typing this with 1 hand as Elina is propped up in my other preparing to wretch.

Had 5 hrs sleep since delivery on Sunday so shattered. Will be back when can function.....come on you due ladies. Can t wait to hear your news.

Hi All.

Congrats to Naat insy Choccie and Daisy sorry if I've forgotten anyone xxxx

Tee I sniff a hat that Rupert wore the lovelynot - yellow one and thats meant to help!!! But its comforting if it doesn't. I know you can store it in the fridge for 48hours and 3 months in the freezer.

Hows everyone else doing???????

I'm a bit fed up today I should be happy, as Rupert might be coming home on Saturday but can't help think- somethings going to stop it happening!! But I won't bore you with it all. Just hormonal and tearful. I'm rooming in ( where I stay overnight) tomorrow and friday and fingers crossed for saturday xx

DH is feeding me chocolate and making me tea-- which helps xxlol xx

Hope you are all well xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Good luck with the rooming Effie when we came to take dd2 home I remember the feeling of absolute dread that something would go tits up, but it was ok if a little scary.

ineed glad you had a decent dr this time, mine are still sore but have the mw back tomorrow. I'm wondering if my postioning at night is not great as it feels worse in the morning so tonight (if I can manage it) i'm going to come downstairs to my 'normal' chair to see if that helps.

Chocci hope you get dome sleep soon x

Ermin LOL at your playground conversation. being overdue is no fun

and june to hear about your difficult appt, don't ersign yourself completely just yet our bodies are odd things and it may surprise you yet! (on the other hand start making some mental plans in case of cs too)

zozokat and worriedamy (((waves)))

I've had a reasonble day still knackered and still not done the pre-school run yet (I promsed myself I would do it this week before dh goes back to work). Annabelle is doing well and passed her hearing check today.

However got all emotional this evening as I changed dd2 I noticed some red spots which look like the start of chicken pox. she was due a full review with the CF team tomorrow so that will have to be cancelled and she has had a cough for the last god knows how long which we wanted to discuss. So ontop of the fact that she may struggle anyway dealing with it, I really would like Annabelle to avoid getting it so young (small miniscule positive note d, dd1 and I have all had it already)

ARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!

Anyway enough of me I hear the call of the sofa good luck to all you due ladies ( dreamy may have her LO by now )xx

Evening all.

I am exhausted so just wanted to say YAYA effie for rooming in!

As for Adam, main line is out of his belly button, he's on full feeds through is tube, no fever and no longer on O2. All that's left is to get him to take a bottle/breast and he can come home!

Hey ladies thanks for the compliments on my babies, I look at them both often now and wonder how I got so lucky

Littlesarah ? LOL about the sick, it?ll all come back to you (literally ) I keep trying to wind Aaliyah but she doesn?t seem to need it sometimes a smile creeps across her face and I think ?yup, wind? but then my efforts come to nothing and she falls back to sleep! Her feeds and sleeps are getting longer so I got a bit more sleep last night would have got more if I hadn?t been up with DS at 4am.

Ermintrude ? happy due date! am feeling a lot happier today would be even happier if DH hadn?t come in from wetting the baby?s head at 2am and broken the toilet though

Laura ? how about putting the pineapple in a smoothie to mask the texture? Those pains are normally the cervix preparing I think, not a nice feeling, I so hope it happens for you soon

Ah Help ? I know how you feel. Post about Infacol here, we worshipped the stuff with DS, called it his ?starter? as he had to have it at every feed, he was a nightmare for colic. I have stocked up again but so far I haven?t needed it.

Tee ? yay! A weekend home coming! Great news just a thought, are you using a collector on the other breast when pumping from one? I always leak and it really boosts the collection volume if you catch the overspill, I got 3ozs this morning. Great to hear of the positive changes in Adam

Naat ? congratulations both to you and your DH. Lovely name and what a good weight Mila was! But hey what a lot of hard work you had to put in though! Phew! That cervix of yours certainly took it?s time dilating for you like you, I have found the ?throne? the most comfortable place to be in the final stage of labour, I literally had to pull myself off it and onto all 4?s this time as there was a very real possibility that that was where my DD would have ended up being born!

Hey there Silkcushion you are always cooking yummy things

Ineed ? so glad you got a good result at the drs this time, hope it clears up soon

Worriedamy hey you, don?t feel like that those of us who have done it before want to help those of you who haven?t and those of you who haven?t had a baby before are helping each other too by confiding how you feel so do stick around I look at my DD, now a week old and think I recognise shapes she makes with her body from when she was inside me, it is an odd concept though! We moved to Spain when my DS was 4 months old and I?ve met all my friends here through him

Zozokat ? welcome back hope your baby makes an appearance for you soon!

Bigcar ? yup DS seems massive, especially when he wanted to be cuddled for 1 ½ hr last night poor mite is feeling full of the cold I can?t believe Edward is 3 weeks old, Aaliyah is a week old already and I can?t believe how the time has flown ? I want it to slow down, she is such a delicious newborn

Daisy fabulous work you! Beating the induction, way to go! Little Fraser (well actually he was really quite long wasn?t he? ) sounds great and I am really delighted for you. Hope DD is reacting well to her little bro

June ? love the annoying tips what planet is your SIL on?? My personal favourites and I swear they are true are:
?I have never seen anyone so massive?
?Are you sure the baby is alive in there??
?You?re overdue? So you could have it here this minute??
Am really feeling for you over the shadows cast over the birth by the bc, I hope you can find some peace of mind before your baby comes. Anything we can do? Want to compare measurements with us? Remember that my baby was meant to be massive, too big for my pelvis blah blah and it was nonsense.

Looouise ? LOL hope you are enjoying the clary sage baths

Dreamy ? we are all rooting for you come on Dreamy?s Baby!!!

Choccie ? hang in there hon, it?ll get easier you know it will

Effie ? so hope you get your little man home at the weekend, everything crossed x

Doris ? hope it isn?t chicken pox hon.

Come on babies

Just a quick goodnight post from me.

Sorry to hear some of you new mummies are feeling exhausted/emotional/sore - puts in to perspective the frustrations of just waiting for these little monkeys to come out.

Going to try and get a decent night's sleep tonight - keep meaning to go to bed earlier and then reading loads of mn threads!!!

Hi lovely Juners!!!

I know this morning DH updated you on the birth of Mila, up to this afternoon I had been a human milk dispenser, believe me!

Mila was eating every single hour for 15 or 20 minutes and oh my I was constantly on call Now, I don't know if it's because the milk is about to come down, she last fed at 5.30, then had a nap for an hour and a half, got up, fed for 10 and back asleep How can they change patterns so quickly? Or maybe it's just a one off? Oh the uncertainty

She's doing fine, mum and dad are so inexperienced that granny is being a great help, I don't know how I'd manage without both of them here. The only thing is that she's having some trouble passing gas and cries and that breaks my heart, esp. as she cries until getting all red and now her voice is so hoarse because of last night's crying session

I've tried to catch up but could only get two pages back So so sorry if I get some things wrong when posting now.

Ermin, happy due date, really hope things get going soon for you I'm sure there's some sort of amnesia for mums to go through labour more than once

June, your SIL is just too much, girl. for you. You're right about BCs in general, they have sooooo many little things that can rule us out. I'm so sorry they've been like this with you, sweetie. (((hug)))

Dreamy, hope this is it!!! Birthing vibes your way.

Zozocat, welcome back! Hope things kick in soon!

Loouise, how are you up here? Could you solve the issue with baby father's sisters?

Tee, Adam is gorgeous! So glad he's getting better.

Daisy, YAY on avoiding induction!!! your baby is ace!

Laura, hope things kick in soon for you, a month with a 3/5 engaged baby! You're a saint!

Worriedamy, believe me, it's shocking to see a baby in your arms and realise it's yours!!

Ineed, awful doctor, so sorry you had to go through that! Glad today's doctor was much better. Hope Emily's nose clears soon.

Silk, Hi! Distraction is a good method. Your baking skills are brilliant! Yum!!

Insy, congratulations! What a wonderful birth!

Bigcar, DD sounds lovely Wonderful that LO is more awake now

Mrsmc, your LOs are lovely!!! MWs said to me at the BC up to 8 paracetamol a day are allowed and OK.

LittleS, I must say, I had your labour story in mind at times during labour to give me strength and think it might not be too long for LO to arrive

Hello to all the rest of the Juners.

I've taken so long to finish this post as I've been on and off feeding Mila and doing things I'm sure I'll have lost many things and maybe some more will have popped by now

So sorry ladies, will try better tomorrow.

(((waves)))

mrsmc LOL @ ?I have never seen anyone so massive?. I showed my bump to my little bro on the webcam and he said "WOW, can you still get through doors???"

Naat It's good to hear from you, I hope the feeding calms down a bit for you :D How are you finding it?

Sorry I'm not catching up properly, I have been reading the posts but I'm really caught up in my own little world trying to come to terms with Friday's induction.

Thank you all for your kind messages of support! I feel a bit pathetic at times getting all anxious like that, I know millions of women around the world give birth all the time and I should really get a grip and be strong.

I'm trying to focus on this overwhelming feeling of happiness people talk about when the baby will finally be in my arms and hold on to that thought whenever I feel anxious about it all.

It's really nice to hear the new mums birth stories and what you are going through with the newborns, I am really quite excited about meeting my little one hopefully this weekend.

Has anyone else here been induced? I can't remember!

hey, so... been having my first proper contractions every 3 minutes since 3am :D
Hoping this is it and that it's not going to stop.
Called the labour ward who said by the sound of my voice to call back around 8am...
Fingers crossed for me ladies.

Good Luck June!!!!!!!

june hopefully this is it for you and like daisy you can avoid your induction please keep us posted and sending birthing vibes to you xxx

June fingers super crossed for you!!! Sending you loads of birthing vibes!!!

xxx