Due in June 2009 – let the eviction process begin!!

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I hope I've done this right - here is the new thread...and hopefully the last in ante-natal

doris sorry x-posted earlier, thanks for your birth story. I'm definitely keeping open minded about pain relief!

right, first timer question: Where abouts are these after pains you guys are talking about? Where the placenta got yanked detached from?

DH just made a fruit salad that "may contain traces of pineapple"

naat you ok?

Hey ladies housework done, another batch of maternity clothes put away (too hot or too tight!) and now rewarding myself with a catch up with you lot

Looouise ? your post about the cervical biopsy made my toes curl ? ouch!

Nemo ? hope something happens for you before Friday and if not, I hope that it?s an easy job have you had to be induced before?

Llynnnn ? I know exactly how you are feeling I almost wish I had had an internal and a sweep today so I?d know a bit more where I am with things but that?s not how it?s done here apparently

Naat ? don?t worry hon, the fact that you are effaced and thinning is great even if the sweeps are not working, maybe you are just not ready quite yet.

Bunnymother ? thanks hon!

DV1 ? welcome and congratulations sorry to hear you are feeling low and anxious I was very worried about money when I had DS in Jan 08 as I too was the main bread winner and our funding plans fell through. We were constantly being called by creditors when DS was tiny and it was very stressful. I would advise you to organise things the best you can before your baby arrives and then give yourself 6 weeks off from thinking about it and unplug the phone if necessary.

June ? sounds like you have certainly been active!

Thanks Tee for sharing Effie?s news hope you manage to sleep tonight will be thinking of you all day tomorrow x

How fabulous Effie that you have finally had her first cuddles with baby Rupert you are being so brave and I am glad to hear that he is doing so well. Keep us posted x

Ermintrude ? you?ve described what I am getting too and I do remember the MW saying pains in the legs were signs labour was on its way

Littlesarah ? great news on the feeding front

Doris ? I remember those long sleepless constant feeding nights with DS poor you, hope you have a better one tonight. Thanks for sharing your birth story it just shows you that the secret is to be flexible and see how you feel on the day, you just never know

Insy ? thanks for your support, DH just does not get how I am feeling at all he just says nothing when I say I am worried about being induced, I don?t know how he can be so unsympathetic your ILs sound odd re the 3rd stage, why don?t you wait to decide when you meet your MW, that?s what made me change my mind from managed to natural

Sleep well ladies and let?s hope some of these babies get moving!!

june after pains are the uterus contracting back down to its original size, for me it felt like a contraction again when I bfed for the first couple of times, for others its a dull period pain type ache

x posts mrsmcj and fwiw I don't think my dh gets it either, I'm having very up and down days at the moment and last night tried to share my fears about money, coping with 3, labour etc and felt very dismissed - he told me that the last two were out of my control and would just be what they would be, we'd deal with it at the time but I am over analysing at the moment, and yes my in laws are very odd at times
well done on housework!

Super quick post

Effie, soooo happy for you!
Tee, thinking of you tomorrow!!!
June, yep, I'm fine, a bit worried about it being a week since pre-labour / early labour started but well...

Have a good rest, Juners!!

xxx

Hello all,

Woke at 3 and couldn't get back to sleep so good time to post .

Realised on Tuesday night that I was beginning to feel traumatised by my experiences over the past 3 weeks. Bad cramping, constant BH pains, general contractions, nausea, sleeplessness and headaches etc etc since 16 May - had worn me down - I was fed up with the anticlimax of feeling I was going into labour and then not. I did not want to go to bed as I could not face another night of it. So I rang the hospital this morning and after a long chat (why do I have to self-refer, it really does put the pressure on doesn't it to justify your existence!), I ended up heading to maternity triage (I thought day care assessment would be more appropriate but am a bit confused about who does what sometimes).

The mw was absolutely lovely and ran all the normal tests. The great thing was that I (and LO) was given a clean bill of health, which was a great weight off my mind. The absolutely thing was to find out I wasn't dilated at all beyond a fairly normal 1cm, that the cervix wasn't shortened at all and not particularly soft. So three weeks of endless cramps, uterine activity, endless BH, and even two nights ago contractions for over 3 hours to 5mins apart (but tbh not quite strong enough for real labour) have all resulted in nothing, ni nada, zilch!!!! I was speechless.

Anyway, she gave me a sweep (I am 40+5) and away I toddled. My experience was like lynnn's and I think mrsmcjnr's - very short - a minute (?), a little uncomfortable but fine. erm - yours sounded nasty but it sounds like it was done at the right time. I can't help but wonder if because mine was only briefly 'unpleasant' it kind of signifies that my body may not be quite ready. (Useful info about the inducing and sweeps - thank you.)

louise and & june - if your sweeps are anything like mine was, then it's not even worth thinking about, let alone worrying. My immediate thought after she finished was 'you mean, that's all!!!'. naat - how was yours?

It is a huge weight off my mind to know that the baby is just fine - and I have accepted it may be a few more days before anything happens. The annoying thing is that this baby had looked like coming early, dh had cleared his diary for the past two weeks and until the end of this week, we never dreamt I could go past 41 weeks for the second baby. And now he has some fairly career critical stuff on next Mon(here)/Tues(London)/Wed (London) that to be honest, I would not want him to cancel. So if the baby doesn't come before Friday, goodness knows what we will do. I guess I will be taking up all the kind offers from neighbours!

....and breathe

mrsmcjnr - my dh said the same thing about not having any more around the time dd was born. We had a very difficult time with dd. I took it with a grain of salt - time passes, memories fade etc and anyway, our first dd is the light and soul of his life now so a bit hard to look back and say it was all 'terrible'. Surely all this pressure about his job and money and recently being unwell is not putting him in the best frame of mind. The grrrrrr-ing thing is, is that these things are the last thing we need to endure when we are suffering the last weeks of pregnancy and feeling at our most vulnerable. My dh started going on to me about restarting work - about the last thing I need to discuss at 40weeks pregnant and feeling atrocious!!! .

naat - sorry to hear about the operation your friend's baby has to have. When I visited one of the local school's recently there was a charming Down's girl in one of the mainstream classes and she was doing quite well apparently. I got emotional and started to cry and quickly had to restrain myself.

nemo & tee - soon be congratulations to you both. Exciting times. tee will be our first first-timer won't she as Inned littlesarah bigcar and doris - all have children already don't they.

And what is it about our babies not wanting to come out!!!!???? littlesarah the only one to not need a sweep or any other help/cs. Do we need some theories:

1. The summer temperatures make them complacent?
2. They are hanging out for the next round of sunny weather so their daddies can take our children to the park and play footy with them in the sunshine?

Hope you all have a lovely day.

Quick post, I think things may be kicking off here. Cramps since 1am, up to the loo numerous times with little output, a bit of a show and now the cramps are really quite painful, stopping me in my tracks and coming so thick and fast that I think they must be contractions. I'll keep you posted. Can anyone give me a mobile number so I can text any news? I can't seem to log into MN from my mobile and my DH won't post for me thinking of you all today xx

Mrsmc!! Yay!!!
Keep us posted!!
I'll give you my mobile.
07786731401
Thinking of you!!!
Lots of love!!!

Good luck mrsmcj!!!

And good morning all.

I actually slept very well last night. Have some things to sort around the flat and then its off to hospital!

Everyone have a lovely few days and I hope to see lots of baby announcements when I get back!

MrsMcJnr - am on 0755 443 4802 - GOOD LUCK!!!

Tee - am very excited for you - good luck and can't wait to hear your news, either!!!

Morning lovely juners!!

Ermin, I thought gandt referred to some sort of medication or pain relief haha (I guess it could be) LOL at the trojans!

Bunny, at medical studies = MN How are you today?

Laura, good to know peas are giving you some relief!

Choccie, hi!! How are you feeling?

Loouise, hi!!

DV1, welcome to the thread! Sorry to hear you're feeling low and worried about money. Up to 07 I was the main earner at home, then I started an MA and now I only work part time so I know what you mean, there are things in our minds all the time worrying us about money. As June said, hope you get some mat allowance or mat pay.

June, totally sympathise!!! I went from calm and relaxed to anxious to worried about LO being OK after all these false alarms

Effie, thinking of you and Rupert! Looking fw to the pics!!

LittleS, glad you feel better. Let us know how Alex' check goes.

Doris, great birth story! Thanks for sharing! 5 pushes!!! You're an idol sorry you were up so much the other night.

Hi Insy!! Odd PIL's comments indeed!

Mrsmc, thinking of you!!!! I guess you're right, I'm not ready yet...

Daisy, we were up at the same time last night, my fellow contractor. great that you got some answers and a full check. My first sweep was just slightly uncomfortable, the second (two hs later) was far more uncomf, not partic painful but it did make me breathe deeply quite a lot to get through it! I feel a bit tender/sore down there now, don't know if that's bec of the sweeps or not. I left a msg for my MW to ask her about that. Hope LO arrives before your DH has to go to London!

Tee, soooo excited for you!! Will be thinking of you today and tomorrow!!! ((Hug))

No news on this front, just that discomfort down there, wanting to know if I should worry

My friend texted me yest. She said they are in a turmoil of tests and diagnoses and that docs still don't know if they must operate on her or not. She said their little angel was being a fighter and they were proud of her, which of course broke my heart and made me cry thanks for your sweet thoughts and prayers, lovely Juners...

Anyway, hope you have a nice day, let's see some more babies!!

(((Waves)))

morning all

tee, all the very best for the next couple of days, can't wait to hear your news

MrsMcJnr, ooh, how exciting, hope all goes well!

effie, great news, glad you got your cuddle, make sure Rupert gets a cuddle from us too

naat, sorry to hear about your friends lo, hopefully she won't need surgery, fingers crossed.

daisy, sorry to hear you've been feeling so down, glad you managed to get some reassurance

doris, lovely story! Edward had a bit of a feeding frenzy on his second night, thankfully since then he's fed mostly during the day

littlesarah and ineed, good to hear the feeding is going well

sorry, afterpains definitely get worse with each baby, take paracetamol and if they don't work ask for something stronger!

Edward is all official now, registered on Monday Dd3 had a good day at nursery too, no tears at all, from either of us We saw the midwife yesterday and all's going well, just one more check on my scar and hopefully they will sign us off! Health visitor is coming today so busy, busy

Hope everyone has a good day! Waves to all

mrsmc Good Luck! Let these lead to birth for you today! I agree with daisy (you're very assertive btw) that when people are stressed they behave differently. I think I may have been quite toxic at times a few months back (to do with ils divorce).

Had a bit of an emotional night last night, going up the stairs to bed was a painful challenge, I was over-tired and anxious/excited about baby coming.
Also worried that the ward was going to be full and dh gone for a ciggie and that I was going to give birth on my own. (I'd been reading birth stories - positive ones).

Daisy Glad you got checked out and the baby is doing well. Very frustrating about the dilation Thanks about your experience with the sweeps, I am more reassured now.

I'd better mnake most of this extra time to carry on tidy up my desk!

Take care everyone,
Tee How exciting, GOOD LUCK! Thinking of you today :D

mrsmcjnr yey hopefully this is the start of labour for you please keep us posted if you can x

tee all the best for the next couple of days can't wait to read your announcement!

daisy how frustrating that after 3 weeks of constant bh, cramps etc that your not further dilated hopefully it will start soon for you x

Well i got a fairly good nights sleep, was up about 7 times with cramps, loo trips, 'visitors' but was able to get back to sleep within 30mins of waking up. Need to go and buy more ointment today for my 'visitors' but the feme pads and the frozen peas have been great I hope everyone has a good day i'll prob not catch up until after 8pm as taking my mum to a shopping centre after work so hopefully there will be some more labour/birth announcements

oooh mrsmcjnr good luck dearest! I'm thinking of you!

Doris thank you so much for posting your birth story - as a first timer, I find these accounts soooooo helpful. I hope Missy Annabelle settles into some sort of night time sleeping soon.

Daisy, you poor love, that sounds rubbish. My midwife just told me that my own 'negativity' was probably holding me back, just what I didn't need to hear! (I was telling her about my cervical biopsy). But it is hard not to be down heartened. I've been having tightenings galore every morning from 5am, then nada. I've almost lost sight of the fact i'm having a baby, it feels like I'm just in this weird state of suspension.

insy do you think the mn abbreviation of DH should actually stand for dickhead husband, rather than dear husband??

Your IL comments would have driven me mad too...hell, speaking of ILs, I'm not even in a relationship with babyfather and his mother rung yesterday. Taht would be fine if she was friendly and suppportive, but she has a very brusque, short tone, (which is probably a weird shyness, to be fair), that I just don't warm to. She keeps referring to how 'heavy' I looked when she met me at 27 weeks. I find these references to our bodies when we're pregnant incredibly irritating - they're not public exhibits ffs. She said she'd see me in July, not pls thank your parents for inviting me to their home in July and 'make sure I keep in touch'. It's not MY job to keep in touch with her, ffs, it's her son's!
Anyway. Red lights off. Sorry about that.

Tee, I am so so so excited for you, bc as Doris says, you're our first first timer! You must be feeling so strange right now; the beginning of the greatest adventure of your life. Good luck!!!

Naat I think you're next (gazes into crystal ball)

just a very quickie!

Good luck mrsmcjnr - hope your baby is well on her way now!!

tee - all the very best for tomorrow, so exciting!

still nothing here and now less than 48 hours until induction, which i really wanted to avoid!! not very happy with myself today, feel very fed up.

sorry for very few personals, will try to come back on later

morning - checking in for registration Silk and her sticky/comfy/snuggly baby who has no intention of ever coming out apparently

Effie - delighted that Rupert is doing so much better and you've had some precious cuddles. Can't imagine how you must be feeling but I'm thinking of you two everyday

Tee - good luck for tomorrow. I'm not sure you'll be the first first timer (think Naat might still surprise us)

Naat - so sorry to hear of you're friend's little girl. Made me cry too

Laura - sorry you're in so much discomfort. At least you haven't lost yr sense of humour! I'd have been laughing at the mw suggesting I shove frozen condoms up my jacksie!

Doris - thanks for the birth story. It's amazing how birth plans go right out the door don't they? This time round my birth plan says 'get the baby out' - mw thinks it's quite funny

MrsM - good luck and hope you're holding yr new lo by tonight

DV1 - hello and welcome to the thread. Sorry to hear yr worried about the finances. You'll find a way to cope - we always do

Bigcar - glad to hear yr dd enjoyed nursery without either of you crying.

Daisy5 - bet you're relieved that you've been checked over and all is well. very frustrating that all that anguish has resulted in nothing. You'll probably find you have a LittleS 2 hr special birth to make up for it (well here's hoping)

Hello to everyone else that I've forgotten Looouise/Bunny/Insy/INeed - oh god I can't even remember the names of the people on here - sorry

Terrible night's sleep again - just me not dd this time. Awake every 2 hrs and not even cos I needed a wee or was uncomfortable

Have been nesting again this morning. Painting skirting boards in spare room before the carpets get delivered and fitted on friday. We're buggered if this baby arrives before Friday evening. We've had to empty 3 bedrooms of all the furniture so the whole of upstairs is in chaos!! I guess I was employing some reverse psychology on this lo thinking she may arrive early if it's terribly inconvenient. Thinks she sussed it though and is staying put!!

Hope you all have good days and at least someone produces a baby today

Hi all

Just had a lovely friend round for copy and kept getting cramps - she was v hopeful she'd be delivering this LO, and actually she'd make a great birth partner, but all calmed down now, just the usual BH and baby on bladder pain.

I had a sudden urge to depilate this morning and was sure that must be a Sign - epilated legs, shaved underarms, Immaced (or Veet or whatever it's called nowadays) ladygarden -which of course I couldn't see, so applied rather liberally and think I've left a v small tuft . But it was probably just a sign that I needed some maintenance .

Doris thank you for your birth story, glad it went so smoothly.

MrsMc here's hoping that leg pains mean something. Ooh, and hope this is It for you, good luck!

Daisy it's so hard to be patient and relax when you have so many little symptoms. The MW visit sounds reassuring though. It never occurred to us that I'd be 10 days late with DS so DH had organised his schedule on the basis of being back at work 2 weeks after due date (doh!) so I felt v sorry for myself lugging new baby for DD's school after only 5 days of paternity leave. But we managed, and lots of people were happy to help so hopefully your friends and neighbours will rally round if necessary. This time DH runs the organisation so the pat leave will start on the day this LO comes out

Looouise oh dear, you don't expect to have to deal with irritating MILS if you're not even with the babyfather! Don't let it get to you - and be glad she's not actually your MIL

Llynnn are you going for a long walk today? You never know, you might avoid that induction yet, but if not you'll be seeing your LO very soon

Naat G&T IS a pain killer . I wonder if you will get in before Tee?

Hi to all you other new mummies and ladies in waiting. There's going to be a huge flurry of LOs showing their faces any minute now...xx

Umm - my friend came round for coffee, not copy. How on earth did I type that?

loooouise - your situation sounds similar. I have been having strong cramps most nights for the last 2-3 weeks! Usually keeping me awake for the second half of the night. I am emotionally and physically drained. I have been so excited about this pregnancy and so positive throughout, but I feel I have lost sight of that now. I am just a hormonal wreck! I am sure this is quite common and that once you go into labour, you focus again. Then when you have that precious baby in your arms all this will be forgotten (that is until the next lot of post natal hormones take over!).

I keep telling myself that it is all part of the wonderful rollercoster journey of pregnancy and motherhood

My due date is tomorrow so I went for a longish walk this morning to try and get things going. Even if it doesn't bring on labour, I do feel a bit better. I suppose it gets the endorphins going.

HI everyone

Mrsmc - So excited for you. Sounds like you are in labour and may have your baby very soon

Tee - Thinking of you. Hope all goes well and look forward to hearing your baby news

Laura - So pleased the peas and femme pads are helping to ease your "friends". Did you try the condom thing?? .

Daisy - I have been having very similar cramps as you for the last couple of weeks now. Then yesterday I started to get some period type cramping and if I sit down for too long I get massive shooting pains in my pubic bone My bump has dropped a lot these last couple of days and everyone is noticing it. I didn't sleep very well last night as I kept getting pains and I am getting so anxious that I won't be able to tell the difference between strong BH and the real thing. So I really feel for you Daisy. All these signs are driving me bananas and my patient is wearing thin and I'm only 39 weeks today.

Silk - How on earth are you managing to get down to skirting board level???!!! I struggle to pick up the kids toys.

Hi Lynn - good to hear from you.

Looouise - lol re: DH = Dick head husband . Your baby fathers mother sounds so irritating. I can't stand it when people come out with such insensitive comments such as "Oh you are rather large" etc..."I am pregnant for goodness sake" "get off my case".....aaaarrrrhhhh.

Hi June, Bigcar, Bunny. Naat - I am feeling ok thanks. Just tired after crap nights sleep. I don't remember being this impatient or anxious about giving birth before. Hope things start moving along for you soon

I have spent 2 hours shopping this morning. Have to get so many things organised because I just know it will be difficult to get out fo the house with 3dcs for a while.

I bought the teachers presents as DS2 is leaving Montessori in 2 weeks time . Also have bought the fathers day cards and gifts. Got my dads birthday bits and bobs, a few more baby bits and pieces and stocked up oin some kiddies birthday gifts as DS1 seems to get invited to a party every 2 weeks!!! Feel much better now....

Sould have said "my patience"!!!. My mind is boggled too Ermin .

Hi Roseability. It seems there are a few of us going through the same annoying and teasing crampiness. I just hope I will be holding my baby this time next week and that there are quite a few babies popped before then

Ermin - impressed with yr 'gardening efforts'. Think mw will struggle to distinguish between my forestation and the baby's head when the time comes

Rose - sorry ry feeling so fed up and crappy

Choccy - getting down to skirting board level was fine. Just collapsed in a heap on the floor. I've slithered around the room like a beached whale . Can't bend down at all and getting back up was the devil's own job!!!

silk lol @ 'forestation' . Mind yourself with that skirting - I keep getting DC to pick things up if I drop them, or fasten my shoes, because it's such an effort to get back up.

Choccie we're just one week away from D-day! Do you think it would help if we saw it as a race? . You're definitely ahead of me in terms of getting organised with all those presents and cards - I'm hoping that the new arrival will be my perfect excuse for failing to do anything at all for Father's Day (or will rely on 11 yr old DD to sort it out for me).