Due July 2009 - Part 4 - The Third Trimester.

[Phoenix]

A new thread, the old one's almost full

July 09 List

25th June - Christiana - DC #2 - Surprise
28th June - Woollyjo - DC #2 - Having a girl
29th June - Welshlinz - DC #2
29th June - JLo2 - DC #4 - Having a boy
29th June - Highrise - first baby
early July - lyca - DC #4
1st July - Rattling - first two babies - Surprise - TWINS
1st July - binkerbeany - DC #2
1st July - Mrsmope - DC #2 and #3 - Having 1 boy, 1 girl - TWINS
1st July - trixiechick
2nd July - Nicky6 - DC #2
2nd July - pop1973
4th July - Mum2boys2girls - DC #5
4th July - ActivityApple - first baby - Having a boy
5th July - soozze - DC #2
6th July - xxhunnyxx - first baby - Having a boy
6th July - Wiltedrose - DC #2 - Having a girl
7th July - MuppetGirl - DC #3
7th July - Misspaella - DC #3 - Surprise
7th July - QueenFee - DC #3 - Surprise
7th July - thelollipoplady - DC #3 - Having a boy
7th July - Eviebear
8th July - JetLi - first baby
8th July - deleting - DC #3 - Surprise
8th July - rubyriley - DC #3 - Having a boy
9th July - LargeGlassofRed - DC #4 AND #5 - Having 2 boys - TWINS
9th July - Betsyboo - DC #3
9th July - London11 - DC #2 and #3 - Having 2 boys - TWINS
9th July - bellybaba
9th July - Gillyan - DC #2 - Having a girl
9th July - Hobbgoblin - DC #4
10th July - Baffy - DC #2
10th July - Mij - DC #2 - Surprise
10th July - Newb - first baby - Having a girl
10th July - SafferUpNorth - first baby
10th July - eveningall - DC #2
11th July - Marsmonster - DC #2
12th July - Jenny79 - first baby - Having a boy
13th July - Scully - DC #3
14th July - doublehelp - DC #3
14th July - Naturopath - DC #2
14th July - Dannyg - DC #3 - Having a girl
14th July - LittleDoe - first baby
15th July - Accebar - Having a girl
15th July - Lydiathetattooedlady - Having a boy
16th July - BeccaBump - DC #2 - Having a boy
16th July - Knax - DC #2
16th July - NattyTomAndEllen - DC #3
16th July - SheWillBeLoved - first baby
16th July - plot2 - DC #2 - Having a boy
16th July - Lillabet - first baby - Surprise
17th July - Patchybob - DC #3 - Surprise
17th July - Phoenix - DC #2 - Having a boy
17th July - alibobble - DC #2 - Surprise
17th July - Bozette - DC #2 - Having a girl
17th July - BrumOne - first baby
18th July - maxmissie
19th July - Dinkyboysmum - DC #2
19th July - busyemma - DC #3
20th July - LBK - first baby
20th July - Belgrano - DC #2 - Having a boy
22nd July - ray81
22nd July - chellebelle - DC#4
23rd July - Andie01 - DC #2
24th July - Madoldbird - DC #3 - TWINS
24th July - Lastboxoftampons - first baby
24th July - Moominmoma - first baby
24th July - Lyrebird - first baby
24th July - ilikeyoursleeves - DC #2
25th July - PrincessButtercup - DC #3 - Having a boy
25th July - BonzoDoodah - DC #2 - Surprise
25th July - Mickeylou - DC #2 - Having a girl
27th July - KitCat26 - first baby
28th July - mylilmiracle - first baby
28th July - Cheekycel - Having a girl
29th July - Brainmish - DC #2
29th July - Poppet45 - first baby
30th July - Mavornia - DC #2
31st July - madeinamerica - first baby - Having a girl
31st July - littlepipbumpmummy - DC #2
31st July - EarthMotherWannabe - first baby

Glad you're safely back at home Gillyan and that baby is staying put for a little while longer. Lots of rest and absolutely no housework

Gillyan take it easy!!!!!! I hope your LO stays put just a bit longer to be fully baked

I am so tired today, we had friends visit over the weekend and they have brought us their old changing table/chest of drawers and their old cot - just need a new mattress now!

I have been through the clothes again and am starting to wash the newborn/0-3 stuff now. Also the bedding for the moses basket. Still need to pick up quite a bit more in the way of clothes for baby but will wait to see what size we are looking at on Tuesday at the growth scan.

I am getting loads of strong BH's now and also on and off period type pain - public consensus is I am not going to make it to due date but I want to hang on a bit longer as I am only 34+3!

Realised this week that I can watch Big Brother and it will not have finished before baby is here - totally freaked me out!

Off to eat something now - no idea what - but we must have something

xxx

Gosh I just popped on expecting to see a birth anouncement and get the opposite. Glad to hear u r well Gillyan, as exciting as it was to thik we were getting our first arrival your little princess is in the best place.

I've just seen the most gooorrrgeous baby in Mothercare, he's 2 weeks old and was born 5&1/2 weeks premature weighing 6lb 13! He was due on 28th June so it was weird to see him and know my baby would look similar.

Been and got final things for my hospital bag today eg maternity pads, PJ's, knickers etc. Thank god for Primark!

Thanku all for the lovely messages! I might still be the first to pop as my section is booked for 2nd July, thats 24 days away!!!! OMG

I've had a nice 90 min sleep on the sofa and DP has cooked tea and I've just had a bath and I've only had a few tightenings so fingers crossed she will stay put for a bit.

I was starting to wish I would go into labour but thinking about it she is in the best place for now, she would be 5 weeks early still. I really haven't got that big a bump and the MWs don't think I am going to have a big baby, DD was 7.5 at 37 wks so it's likely she will be on the smaller side.

We should start placing imaginary bets on wether I will make it to the 2nd or not...

It's a good job all my super organisation paid off! I must of known subconciuosly that this would happen as I had just done my bags and we had sorted everything out ( rememeber the excessive ironing of baby clothes?) maybe I was nesting!

We're just back from a very wet camping weekend in Wales but we enjoyed it anyway, just need to dry the tent.

Queenfee I hope you are recovered from your fall

Gillyan I hope all is going smoothly and you are getting the rest you need.

I turned 37 weeks today and moved the moses basket and stand into our room and have started talking to dd (2.5) that baby sister will be ready to come out soon. She offered to help squeeze her out!

I have a feeling these next few weeks are going to be very long .....

We're just back from a very wet camping weekend in Wales but we enjoyed it anyway, just need to dry the tent.

Queenfee I hope you are recovered from your fall

Gillyan I hope all is going smoothly and you are getting the rest you need.

I turned 37 weeks today and moved the moses basket and stand into our room and have started talking to dd (2.5) that baby sister will be ready to come out soon. She offered to help squeeze her out!

I have a feeling these next few weeks are going to be very long .....

gillyan glad its hanging in there. I know the feeling when I was being monitored I was contracting on wed night and part of me was relieved the baby was coming and another was scared as hell. I burst into tears when DH came home on thur eve as I had had these crampy feelings all day and was feeling a bit what if the baby does come early and it's all my fault if it's poorly because it would be prem. Got over that now and have to say as I am nearly 36 weeks feeling a bit more get it out of here
I worked it out in the small hours that its about 35 days not long then!
hunny I hope things go the way you want x I love the Icandy - I looked at the pear for my DCs.
wooley Jealous of your camping. We were supposed to be going but DH never bothered to bok any time off work Where di you go in Wales? Was it a nice site - maybe we can get away at the end of the summer when bubs is a bit bigger.

Gillyan glad the baby is waiting a while and that you?ve sorted out the type of birth you want. I hope you manage to rest now until the delivery day!

hunny I?ve been shopping today too and oohing at all the tiny babies 

Has everyone got a coming home/first outfit? I was looking for one today but just couldn?t decide what to buy. I want something lovely but also very comfy.

I?m missing last week?s sun too, it?s been a rainy weekend here and looks set to rain all week 

It does suddenly feel like it?s all going to happen soon but I?m not ready!!! Part of me thinks it?ll happen early and part of me hopes for later so I have longer to get everything ready. This is the worst bit I think, it could be a whole 5-6 week period of thinking ?any minute now?. It must be nice to have an actual date booked 

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Gillyan and Queen Fee - hope the little ones do as they are told and stay in for a little longer.

We are all getting to pretty decent milestones; I was born at 36 weeks and weighed 6lbs 12.

I have to go for a growth scan today as my growth has tapered a bit. I will be 35 weeks on Wednesday.

This is also my last week in work - yippee! Although now I have to think about the fact I am having a baby, not just finishing work for a year

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Gillyan glad ur home and baby is behaving itself.

I've had a weird coupla days. Started with period like cramps on sat eve, then yesterday a funny tummy with constant trips to the loo. Last nite I had back pain all in the left side and couldn't sleep till 4 this morning. Now I just have a general feeling of not feeling great. Have doctors app in half an hour.
Hope everyone is having a better time than me!

Hi everyone - wow Gillian what a lot of excitement youre having. seems like your little girl is intent on being quite a handful!! take care. x

hunny - dont worry about the lady and the pram. cant personally understand why she would be upset.if she wants rid of the pram surely she can donate it to a charity shop? i think part of the fun on being pregnant is picking your new pram for your new baby!! i didnt need one as DS' is still in good nick but i just couldnt resist . i have a mamas and papas jewel this time which is somehow still in the box. last time i made DH put it up weeks early so i could keep admiring it.

i havent packed my bag yet but have two carrier bags in the bedroom which are rapidly filling up - one for me and one for baby. just need to transfer them into the big bag.

DS will still be in nursery on the day i have section. i dont think i am going to tell him as i dont want him worrying. he comes out at lunch time so hopefully baby will be out by then and DH can break the news and bring him to see me. those of you with older dcs - how did your firstborns react when baby actually arrived?

i am feeling much better now, but lots of braxton Hicks and low shooting pains. 3 more weeks at work - hope it goes quickly!!

we are still debating over names - DH seems set on Poppy Grace

Queenfee we camped near Bala beside the lake (great for fires on the beach on rainy days)we take canoes and wet suits (not that mine fits) so as we are in the water anyway the rain makes no odds. The lake is deep and v cold but the kids don't seem to notice/mind. I think its called lakeside but not certain. Only other facilities are a small loo/shower block.

Its so nice reading all the threads- I'm 35 weeks today - v. uncomfortable with heart burn / morning sickness / back ache- but hopefully not long to go

However she is my first so i'll probably go over knowing my luck!

God I'm lovin bein on maternity leave, however I'm finding it really hard to get motivated to do stuff cos I'm thinking ''oh well I can do that anytime'' so I've done absolutely no housework all weekend .

Today I'm gonna have a good clean up, do some washing and go to the nursery shop to pay some money off the account. And my ex has said he's gonna come round tomos so we can pick the cot up and build it . I wont hold my breath tho, he's not the most reliable of people lol.

mickylou yeah I've been racking my brain about the pram lady and come to the following conclusion...her parents are millionaires and her n her husband now have a nice house etc (but not really rich) but I think she thinks she's a cut above everybody else and likes to think she's got this perfect life etc and prob expected me to want everything she has and so was gutted when this young single mum turned down something she was offering cos it shattered her illusions. Also there's prob an element of jealousy cos she wants lots of babies but her husband only wants one. I've decided I'm just gonna forget about it cos at the end of the day it's his family and since we're not together anymore it's not really my problem.

Poppy Grace is lovely btw, I think I've decided on Joseph Adam now. Now I've just gotta decide on the surname, Hilton (mine), Whittaker (his), Hilton-Whittaker or Whittaker-Hilton?

Right I'm gonna give myself a kick up the backside and get some bloody housework done now!

Good that you're home Gillyan, hopefully baby won't arrive too early
I'm 35wks tomorrow, hard to believe that it could happen pretty much anytime now. It was a long weekend here and we got loads done at home, finally the cot is up, the mattresses ordered, found the cosey toes and pouch after much searching in the garage. & we have another play area in the garage now for the dd's so they don't have to be in the lounge the whole time, or their room. Thought that would be useful when dc3 arrives
Have a consultant appt tomorrow morning, hopefully will tell me baby is head down and behaving

Gillyan thank you for keeping us all on the edge of our seats! Hope all stays well and baby inside for just a bit longer.

I am feeling like this one won't be hanging around either, and DD was 6 days early. I know there's no evidence for trends in having early vs. late (and I've scoured the internet for data on that) despite the anecdotal evidence but I just have this gut feeling it's not going to go the distance

hunny surnames are a bugger. I wasn't wild about hyphonating but we were both adamant that DD should have the other one's surname, and as DP's surname name is also a girls name mine had to go first with a hyphon to avoid confusion. My feeling was that I wanted both names to avoid misunderstandings at school/passport control/whatever. Although I do get fed up with being called Mrs Myname-Hisname, cos I'm neither a Mrs nor hyphonated myself. No easy way around it.

DDs birthday bash this weekend. 'Twas supposed to be a small, chilled out affair but somehow the guest list is up to 24 (only 10 kids though - DD likes her grown-up friends )

mij i don't like hyphonated names either, if me n my ex were still together I'd happily let baby have his surname but since it's me who's bringing him up it doesn't seem quite right. But I think if I gave baby my surname he'd grow up hating it cos I know that boys often worship their Dads.

I have even been debating over whether to put my ex on the birth cirtificate, I know this makes me sound like a real bitch but i have my reasons. I spoke to him on Saturday and he was drunk (as per usual) and I said that he needs to start stayin sober in case I go in to labour, he said that he can't cos he's an alcoholic! Yes he has a drink problem but he isn't actually an alcoholic, he can function without it, he doesn't drink in the morning so he doesnt actually physically need it. But if its in front of him he has to drink it and once he starts he can't stop. He's been sayin all thru the pregnancy that he's just gettin it out of his system whilst he can and he'd stop when baby is nearly here. But now he says he can't and wont. I'm now really worried that he will carry on once baby is here n if that is the case I don't want to put my baby at risk or for my son to grow up thinking that it's an acceptable way to be. If he was still drinkin I'd like to be able to stop him seein our son but if his name is on the birth cirtificate it's virtually impossible cos he'd obviously have legal rights to see him. I don't know what to do

hunny it might be worth posting on the legal bit of the forums. My DP had to come with me to register DD in order to have his name on the birth certificate, as we're not married, and we both wanted him to have full parental rights in the event I step under the proverbial bus. But as you're not with your DS's Dad, you may wish to think about other legal guardians (and make a will!) if you don't trust your ex. I think you can put his name on the birth certificate without conferring full parental rights, but that's where you need proper legal advice.

Thanks mij. My mum knows a solicitor who deals with family law so she's gonna speak to them for advice. I just dont know if I could deal with the grief I'd get off him if I don't put him on the birth cirtificate, he'd go MAD!

Loving poppy grace and joseph adam x Must be a nightmare with surnames - my maiden namewas Willetts and wouldn't have been good hyphenated with anything! I would however get your name in there somewhere as a friend of mines kids has her dps surname and she wishes she had her surname in there too now.

I had a really good appointment with my midwife this am. Ended up crying my eyes out re my consultants approach and the midwife was really sympathetic and has arranged for me to see their superior. Bless her. She knows me quite well and said I am usually quite laid back so for me to do that I must be worried. I didn't realise it was worrying me that much till I spoke to her about it so fingers crossed for induction at 39 weeks as originally planned.

Hi honey - i practice family law.

if you name your ex on the birth certificate you will automatically give him parental responsibility, which gives him the right to be consulted on all the big decisions like religion, education, medical treatment etc. it will also mean that if he decides to turn up at nursery in the middle of the day and take your little one the nursery will not be able to stop him.

if however you dont put him on the certificate he can always apply to the court for a Parental Responsibility Order (which he is likely to get) and he can ask for a declaration of parentage so he can get the birth re registered with his name on the certificate.

my advice would be to register him as the dad - thereby giving him PR. he will get it anyway so why put yourself through unecessary stress of the court application.

i would personally only put your surname and if Joseph wants to change it later in life you can do it for him before he is 18 or he can do it himself after. i have seen lots of mothers who have given their children double barrell or the dads surnames only to regret it when they disappear out of the child's life. the child is then stuck with a surname that means nothing to them as you wont be able to change it without your ex's consent.

re the booze - it certainly sounds like he has a problem - he may not need to start drinking as soon as he gets up every morning but if he cant stop himself drinking at some point every day he needs to get some help. i am suprised he is using the term alcoholic tho. in my experience alcoholics are very reluctant to admit thats what they are until they have hit rock bottom and have no other choice.

if he keeps drinking i would refuse unsupervised contact and insist on you or soemone you trust being there. i definately wouldnt allow overnight stays until he can show he can stay sober whilst the baby is with him.

talk to your solicitor about getting a Residence order, this will prevent him removing the baby from your care/nursery without your consent.

sorry for the sermon!!!!

mickyLou I know it wasn't me who brought it up, but can I just pick your brains then, about why my DP has to be physically present for the registration of birth if he'd get PR anyway? I was under the impression he wouldn't get full PR if he wasn't there in person..?

Gillyan Gosh, poor you!! All that contracting and your cervix still closed; glad that baby is hanging on as sure every day will make a big difference. Glad also you have your birth plan sorted. I knew of someone (a few yrs ago) who had too much amniotic fluid, looked full term at 26 weeks and they desperately filled her with drugs to delay the birth and steroids to develop the baby's lungs. Her fluid didn't increase and she eventually went to full term! So, it's amazing how things can turn out ok in the end. And your baby is 35 weeks which is a little early but not massively (and heading towards 36 weeks) My first DS was born at 37 weeks, 7.5lbs and was popped into special care just for a couple of days as struggled to maintain his body temp & couldn't suck so was tube fed. Think no suck reflex fairly standard for slightly early babies but no great problem and doesn't last long. You're due the day after me I think and it's getting SO close now Keep us posted?

Soozze I was going to wear jogging bottoms and a loose top as no doubt will have a large jelly belly even though will feel intoxicatingly slim in comparison And to be able to put my own socks/own shoes on.........ah, bliss!!