Due April 2009 - Chapter 27: Waters Have Broooooken.............Like First Stage Laboooour

[SmuttyNuttyTaff]

Here we go again, may we birth more babies on this thread!!

Ohhhhh we're on our way to birthing day!!!!

The baby list...
12 Feb: Skiingone: MARIANNA 4lb 4oz
20 Feb: Glaskham: RUBY MARIE 4lb 3oz
04 Mar: Barbarella: ESTELLA, ROSANNA, OTIS
05 Mar: Kazkiss: ISABELLE FLORENCE 4lb 6oz & OLIVER THOMAS 3lb 7oz
15 Mar: Babypringle: OSCAR WILLIAM 7lb 2oz
28 Mar: Claireykitten: VIOLET ROSE 7lbs 9oz
29 Mar: WhatFreshHell: BABY FRESHHELL 10lb 5.5oz
31 Mar: Mumblemum: ORSON XERXES

Still yet to hatch...

30 Mar : BabyBolat: 1st timer
01 Apr : Rachelinscotland: DD 3 years, and DS 2 years in March
01 Apr : Juwesm: 1st timer
01 Apr : Chickenbalti: DS 4 years DD 17 months
02 Apr : BoffinMum: BOY! dd(21) ds(10) ds(7)
02 Apr : MathsMummy27: GIRL! DD 3 years
03 Apr : purlease: 1 m/c, 1 DD 3 years
03 Apr : Kalikaroo: SURPRISE! (28), 1st timer, lives in Scandinavia (but too shy to say where!)
04 Apr : Bleuravin
04 Apr : Bumpalump
06 Apr : ToastnHoney: first timer
06 Apr : Mummyontherun: DD 22 months
06 Apr : pintofstella: DS 5.7
08 Apr : LuLuBai: 1 DD born 02 Apr 07
09 Apr : Oddeyes (30): GIRL! DS 17 mths, 1 mc. London
09 Apr : Minush
10 Apr : hopeful1
10 Apr : mrsfossil: 1 DS 6.5
11 Apr : Bubbaluv: 1 DS 1yo
11 Apr : SpringySunshine: BOY! 1st timer.
12 Apr : Brettgirl, 1st timer
13 Apr : Dungungirl(30): BOY! 1 m/c, DS 4 years
14 Apr : AuldAlliance: DS3.8 BOY!
14 Apr : Woody2shoes: Second DS
15 Apr : electra
15 Apr : Sarahmum: DS 10yrs
16 Apr : tristaleejac(25): 1 ds, 3 years
17 Apr : Surprisenumber3(32): DS1 9 DSS 9 DS2 5 GIRL!
18 Apr : gingersarah: 1st baby
18 Apr : Lauren61
18 Apr : salbysea: (28) 1st timer
19 Apr : Kittycatisgettingfat (29) 1st timer
21 Apr : B52s: DS will be 2 and a quarter
21 Apr : Staryeyed
21 Apr : Schulte
22 Apr : PuzzleRocks: DD 22mths GIRL!
22 Apr : soon2befamilyof4 DD 13 months.
23 Apr : FatandFedup DC3
24 Apr : conkertree (27): DS 17 months
24 Apr : Bronze (Gawain) - 4th DC
24 Apr : Frekkles
25 Apr : Swaliswan: DD 17 months
27 Apr : Bicnod
27 Apr : Carameli
27 Apr : ilovesummer 3rd dc
27 Apr : purplemonkeydishwasher DS 3yo
30 Apr : Nutty Taff (27) DD nearly 5 GIRL!

Morning all

Bleu and trist - yay for babies - come on!!! How you both feeling this morning

Boff, glad you are all sorted, I would sit down with her though and explain her change of roles and how she is really going to have to step up with the house side of things now she is no longer responsible for the kids pick-ups etc.

Just have to ask a very quick question - how much show is normal? I ask because after my waters went I had a fair amount but since say 2pm yesterday afternoon I have gone through 20 pads of the stuff (so sorry for TMI at this time of the morning!) all very bloody gunky stuff and my period pain has intensified by about 300%, along with the back pain. My bump is still not tightening like contractions so don't think it is anything kicking off but I just feel like i am constantly leaking the stuff and for the first time have to physically stop everytime the pain comes (which FYI is still not regular). feels a bit like what trista is describing but without the tightenings in that pain, baby goes crazy then all calms down for another 20 minutes! Could it be a result of the internal I had yesterday?

I was indeed buying walls yesterday although not putting them up you will be pleased to know, DH and dad did that yesterday evening - I did however rip up the bathroom floor - (was very easy as the people that decorated that bathroom were incompetent) and am hoping that bar tiling and painting, it will be finished over the weekend so at least it is livable and I don't have to put on DH's work boots every time I want to wee!!!

Right am off to keep myself busy for an hour or so until everyone wakes up!

Speak to you all soon!

nutty do they do that suit in grown-up sizes!!!! it is adorable!!!

exciting, exciting, hope there's some baby news soon!!

DS's school has been closed today, thought it was going to be my last day of freedom - this baby WILL be born before they go back on 20th April!!

Oh well, at least I can stay in my PJ's today!

Hope everyone is okay. My baby seems to have moved back up and is under my ribs again, but I didn't get up to pee in the night!

BB that sounds like a bit too much to me. I would go and get it checked tbh.

Hope your bathroom gets sorted soon. You really benefit from having a nice bathroom when you've had a baby, as you are in there every half hour or so, faffing about with your bits. That's why I did mine up.

As you ask about the AP, I am stressed out my box about it. It is one thing dealing with difficult people at work and being able to go home at the end of the day, leaving them behind. It is quite another thing dealing with people over and over again who live 24/7 in your house, who invariably ignore basic principles of food hygiene, child development and child safety when it suits them, not to mention my own personal domestic preferences, and having to be quite reliant on them because of vast family size, disability, and absence of any familial help, so I feeling really sorry for myself about it all.

DH has basically talked me into keeping her, on the basis that we have nothing else, but as I type I hear through the door the usual whiny pleading from her that puts her in a very weak disciplinary position with little authority, and gradually leads to a predicatable escalation of protests and stroppiness from the boys (and which was a big factor in what happened yesterday, as they shouldn't have been on the tandem in the first place and she should have had the authority to impose bike helmet rules), followed by a lot of shouting and stress as they leave for school. I am so knackered I just haven't got the energy to go out there and do the usual Butras Gali UN-style negotiations today, although I have talked DS2 down in my bedroom twice already.

We have arranged for her to walk DS2 to school today as I have had very little sleep and shouldn't really drive. But day after day I go out there in my bath robe to model the appropriate behaviour, organise the situation, only to find myself in a Groundhog Day scenario over and over and over again.

In times gone past, I would just have got rid of her and done the SAHM thing while I was on Maternity Leave, but my advanced years, DH's frightening health issues and my SPD have left me with very few options.

Sorry, this turned into a v logn post. I am actually crying now. I am so so fed up.

Oh, Boff, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this right now. She sounds worse than useless, TBH, and it must be awful feeling that you have little choice but to keep her on in spite of her many failings. She's meant to help, not hinder, the organisation of your life and household and she just adds to the existing problems, which are more than enough for one person to deal with.
I have no useful advice, and from your posts I know you are sufficiently resourceful and smart to have sought and found any possible solutions.
So I am just sending you my support from over the sea (and a book which may not cheer you up much!).

Trista- Good luck for the PE being negative xx sounds like you have definately have something going on there,hope you managed to get some sleep, Good Luck!!xx

Bleu - Hope you're ok the sicknes and shivering is normal, your body goes into a bit of shock (and so do you to a degree, its all a bit new) hope your ok this morning and managed to get a bit of rest in! Good Luck!! xx

BB - there is quite alot of bloody gunk (sort of clumps??) but with that much being apparent you need to phone the MW, the back pain/period pain might be the contraction indication rather than it going on at the front iyswim, so it may be worth being monitored to find out exactly whats going on in there. it is very possible it could be down to the internal but with that much show i would be getting it checked, good luck xx

Suprise - yay for no night pees

OMG THIS IS SOOOOO EXCITING!!!!!!!

Yes BB are you sure it's not your waters with meconium or blood in them? Also I never noticed my bump tightening with any of my contractions, just very intense period pain that came in waves. Please phone the hospital. Good luck! x

oh Boffin ((hugs)) it must be so awkward and frustrating for you xx i dont really know what to suggest, but please dont cry ((hugs)) its really the last thing you need to be dealing with.

Come to my house its quiet here and we can have a cuppa and a good old bawl together ((hugs)) xx

Oh Boffin ((hugs))

Ok am going to try and take this in parts:

Please, please, please try not to stress about it

I know there is little else for you at the moment but you being stressed out is damaging your health, the babies and DH's - you need to be strong to get through the next few months and these feelings are not going to enable you to do it. I know that is not helpful, but I really worry about things like this as I think being a mum is one of the hardest jobs in the world and it takes a lot of mental strength to do it.

It does sound like your DH want's an easy life at the moment which is completely understandable but I am not sure he is realising what his lack of support for you is doing on this issue - it must be incredibly hard as you don't want to stress him out at the moment because of your concerns for his health but I worry you are taking on too much of the emotional burden of all of this (naturally but not good!)

On the plus side, she has been much better at the household things so if you do start to feel better - you can allocate that role to her (not ideal) and you can ensure the kids are home safe

At the very most you have 2 weeks left during this pregnancy, after which you will be able to assess, what impact the SPD has had on your body for the longer term. If after a few weeks you are feeling more up to it then you can take on more of the SAHM (knowing you, you will probably embrace it and be running around like a crazy person just because you can!!!) I am crossing everything in the hope that it is not long-term.

In all honesty I do not think there is a lot you can do about it which is depressing in itself, as you either keep her and cope with the ups and downs that she brings to your household or you fire her and find a replacement. Neither of which is ideal but I think you have to work out which is the lesser of 2 evils. For me, the option would be easy but I don't have a poorly DH or the problems physically that you are having, the biggest issue comes down to the safety of your kids which she is putting at risk.

One thing I am definitely sure of is that as SOON as you are back on your feet and strong enough physically and emotionally to cope with a house full of LO's she does have to go. She sounds like a complete nightmare.

Advanced years - pah, sorry boff but you are younger in heart and lifestyle (ordinarily at least) than most of us on here

Hey my name is chanel. I have a problem here bout tryna get pregnant can any one help me please my email address is [email protected]

Nutty you are up very early!!!

Thanks all, going to monitor it for the next hour or so, it's kind of clumpy, feels very damp when it comes out - the day assessment unit opens at 10 and they are lovely there so I will call them and chat to the lovely MW that did all my checks and bits yesterday.

Re bump, it's pretty much permanently hard as baby has completely filled it up and apparently is a very boney little one (was told yesterday it had very slim defined hips so it is going to be long and slim like its daddy!) the pains were waking me up a lot last night but seem to have died down a bit in the past hour or so starting in my back and then really intensifying at the front but have only had a couple this morning!

oooh tea - am off to make a cup - who wants?!!!

Boff - oi missy!! whats all this about advanced years!!! (bit slow this morning i missed that) age is not relative!! in my eyes you're a youthful sprite !! when all this is done with i bet when we meet up you will party harder than the rest of us xx

Thanks Auld. I might post your book off as well later if I feel a bit better. Book exchange should cheer us both up.

I have emailed lovely doula lady and will get her across if she's free, to make me tea and listen to my woes and help me go to Waitrose to get DS2 a birthday cake or stuff to make one for tomorrow. That might help.

I think I will also email the agency I got the AP from, and tell them we are having to take her off the school run duties (which frankly is mainly what she is hired for) and get some advice about varying the terms and so on, also in doing so, flag up the problems we are having. Maybe they have something useful to say - they were good last time we consulted them, when she was just doing what she pleased.

At least that's doing something constructive. Anyway, one good thing today is that DH's BP is dropping nicely with the new tablets and is now under 90 (lower number) with no massive headaches any more, so he's a bit more perky.

well folks drum roll.....

Morning all - may the contractions continue...

chanel, you'd be better looking through the conception board to see if your problem is discussed, or start your own thread there. Hope that helps

What was that?

BB get on the phone and tell us what the MW says!

Bleu is in labour I take it?

Boff so sorry you're so frustrated, it really is a bad time to be having these AP issues. Hopefully she'll be able to help properly around the house

BB - yup, sleep is evading me at the moment but it gives me more time to catch up on MN and baby booming so its all good yes please to the cuppa!!

Chanel - please dont take this the wrong way but you may be better off posting in the conception section of MN, lots of lovely ladies there with lots of good advice and support as they are ttc themselves, good luck and i hope you can sort out your problem and find a solution xx

OOOOOHHHH CONKER

Sorry my 'what was that' referred to Chanel!

Conker what's up??? Spill the beans!

Springy you cheeky girl have just been on the old thread

BABY NEWS

Text from Oddeyes - Hey Conkertree. Still in hospital. Our beautiful nameless little (biggish, 9lbs 8oz) girl born yesterday at 7.55pm. Very rapid 5pm -8pm went 4cm to all done, too fast - thought I was going to meet my maker! Just some grazing but all else well. Praying jaundice levels ok and allowed home soon. Only just about to get my toast though.

Thanks BB I will have a tea too and can I have sugar in it please? Gone off actual food - too sad.

I think you are right - I can probably just hang on until I know what my SPD is doing and then ditch her. I am very glad I booked the boys into the school holiday club full time now, as at least they will be OK over the holidays.

Nutty, I would definitely come over your house if you were remotely near me but it took me five hours in the car last time I went over there. so perhaps it's a bit far.

Good news about OddEyes. Congratulations!!!!!This is so exciting, being in this group, because normally with RL groups you only hear much later what has happened and not so many details as the DHs are organising communication.

Congrats OddEyes! Yay!

Boff - hugs

Off for some mummy duties now...

Yay to Oddeyes, that is great news - congrats to her and her new DD!!! Can't wait for pics and names etc!!

I think if the contractions didn't start bleu would go in this morning to check that the waters definitely had gone and then be induced tonight so she may either be pushing or resting!! [dancing emoticon]