Due April 2009 - Chapter 27: Waters Have Broooooken.............Like First Stage Laboooour

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Here we go again, may we birth more babies on this thread!!

Ohhhhh we're on our way to birthing day!!!!

The baby list...
12 Feb: Skiingone: MARIANNA 4lb 4oz
20 Feb: Glaskham: RUBY MARIE 4lb 3oz
04 Mar: Barbarella: ESTELLA, ROSANNA, OTIS
05 Mar: Kazkiss: ISABELLE FLORENCE 4lb 6oz & OLIVER THOMAS 3lb 7oz
15 Mar: Babypringle: OSCAR WILLIAM 7lb 2oz
28 Mar: Claireykitten: VIOLET ROSE 7lbs 9oz
29 Mar: WhatFreshHell: BABY FRESHHELL 10lb 5.5oz
31 Mar: Mumblemum: ORSON XERXES

Still yet to hatch...

30 Mar : BabyBolat: 1st timer
01 Apr : Rachelinscotland: DD 3 years, and DS 2 years in March
01 Apr : Juwesm: 1st timer
01 Apr : Chickenbalti: DS 4 years DD 17 months
02 Apr : BoffinMum: BOY! dd(21) ds(10) ds(7)
02 Apr : MathsMummy27: GIRL! DD 3 years
03 Apr : purlease: 1 m/c, 1 DD 3 years
03 Apr : Kalikaroo: SURPRISE! (28), 1st timer, lives in Scandinavia (but too shy to say where!)
04 Apr : Bleuravin
04 Apr : Bumpalump
06 Apr : ToastnHoney: first timer
06 Apr : Mummyontherun: DD 22 months
06 Apr : pintofstella: DS 5.7
08 Apr : LuLuBai: 1 DD born 02 Apr 07
09 Apr : Oddeyes (30): GIRL! DS 17 mths, 1 mc. London
09 Apr : Minush
10 Apr : hopeful1
10 Apr : mrsfossil: 1 DS 6.5
11 Apr : Bubbaluv: 1 DS 1yo
11 Apr : SpringySunshine: BOY! 1st timer.
12 Apr : Brettgirl, 1st timer
13 Apr : Dungungirl(30): BOY! 1 m/c, DS 4 years
14 Apr : AuldAlliance: DS3.8 BOY!
14 Apr : Woody2shoes: Second DS
15 Apr : electra
15 Apr : Sarahmum: DS 10yrs
16 Apr : tristaleejac(25): 1 ds, 3 years
17 Apr : Surprisenumber3(32): DS1 9 DSS 9 DS2 5 GIRL!
18 Apr : gingersarah: 1st baby
18 Apr : Lauren61
18 Apr : salbysea: (28) 1st timer
19 Apr : Kittycatisgettingfat (29) 1st timer
21 Apr : B52s: DS will be 2 and a quarter
21 Apr : Staryeyed
21 Apr : Schulte
22 Apr : PuzzleRocks: DD 22mths GIRL!
22 Apr : soon2befamilyof4 DD 13 months.
23 Apr : FatandFedup DC3
24 Apr : conkertree (27): DS 17 months
24 Apr : Bronze (Gawain) - 4th DC
24 Apr : Frekkles
25 Apr : Swaliswan: DD 17 months
27 Apr : Bicnod
27 Apr : Carameli
27 Apr : ilovesummer 3rd dc
27 Apr : purplemonkeydishwasher DS 3yo
30 Apr : Nutty Taff (27) DD nearly 5 GIRL!

Puzzle - my dates match so you arent alone

Oh my dates match too!

Hello
Big stress over here. MN jury please.

So we went up to see the head of DS2's new school and drop him off. So far so good. Then I took DH to station and then came home.

In my absence, AP decided to take DS1 to school on the tandem for some reason. NB: normally he goes to school by himself on a scooter. DS1 couldn't be bothered to look for his bike helmet, and told her this, so she didn't insist on him wearing one because 'he never does as I tell him'. She didn't wear hers either.

They set off, cycling on the wrong side of the road on the pavement. I should say that although this breaks the Highway Code, there are some naughty parents that do this, and she probably copied them. However when she first arrived I cycled the route with her and showed her how it was supposed to be done safely and so on, which was not like that.

A motorist pulled out from a side road, not expecting to see a bike whizzing past at speed on the pavement going left to right, and her car clipped the tandem, which then spun out of control. AP and DS2 hit the ground. Motorist told them off for cycling on the pavement.

They carried on to school. As I arrived home AP was back and trying to phone me to tell me about the accident. I then explained both sides were at fault as far as I could tell - bad cycling, no helmets (helmets for children being our no 1 house rule), poor driving. I then got a call from the school telling me they thought I should take DS2 to A and E as he may have fractured his hand. So I went to collect him and took him up to the hospital to get him x-rayed and so on. As it happens it is just badly bruised. Consultant gave him (another) thorough telling off about not wearing helmets.

I then pick up DS2, feed both boys in the supermarket cafe nearby, and drop them off at normal school.

I come home and AP raises subject of accident. I say that there was contributory negligence on her part IMO, and not getting an 11 year old to wear a helmet is just plain stupid. I am not convinced she appreciates the severity of all this, certainly the bit about cycling on the pavement on the wrong side of the road instead of using the cycle lane. She just sighed in a frustrated way as if I was blaming her for something that wasn't her fault. I argued that she had increased the chances of an accident probably 10-fold by choosing to cycle this way, ignoring my instructions.

DH reckons I am overreacting; I feel she has shown monumentally bad judgement for the second time and I can't trust her any more.

Am I overreacting??

Hmmmmm looks like my company has got another step closer to folding...

Sorry, it was DS1 on bike, have mistyped in various places btw.

The homebirthers...

BoffinMum
Electra
GingerSarah
Juwesm
KittyCat
PuzzleRocks
RachelinScotland
ReallyTired

Boff I think you're not overreacting - you gave her clear instructions and she just ignored them. Glad nothing worse happened. Not sure I would sack her for this, if that's what you're contemplating, but certainly sit her down for a few very stern words?

YO ARE NOT OVERREACTING !!!!!!! what if things turned out worse (luckily your ds is ok to a point)

your dh is severely underreacting!!!

OMG boff she has to go!!

with everything else this is just the icing on the cake

Boff ((hugs)) xx

I think the AP needs a warning. Whether you sack her depends what she is like and whether this is a one off mistake or there has been a all catalogue of errors.

Oh bloody hell Boff, here we go again. No you most certainly were not overreacting. I don't like to think how I would react if I was in that situation. I really think for your sanity, she has to go. How many other incidents will there be? You really don't need this all the time.

this is a catalogue of fecking stupididty though, shes been given a good talking to loads.

Two big errors affecting DS1's safety IMO.
Some little annoyances about not always pulling her weight.
Actually in all other respects been better this last few weeks.

Still its the big errors that count!! shes blardy dangerous.

how you havent strangled her i dont know, hats off to you.

There has been a slight degree of verbal strangling. I just don't get the helmet thing at all. If I was looking after someone else's kids I would be absolutely paranoid about safety. I said to her it was a bit like putting them in the car and not putting the seatbelts on them because they object. If that's the case, then you simply don't drive off, surely?

And there's me getting annoyed with MIL even for not putting socks on DD because 'she doesn't want them'. No, the helmet thing is irresponsible.

Away for a week and I miss 2 full threads. MW visited me for a HB booking in visit this morning, apparently I am down as high risk because sprog is a CF-carrier (determined by the amnio I had ages ago). WTF? We'll need to transfer in afterwards for a paed to check out the sprog as the MWs won't do it - just for being a CF-carrier? Like me or DH - but it's never affected us as far as we know. Just a bit miffed by this. Also I hope sprog comes early as MW I've been seeing doesn't fill me with confidence and she's on leave the week before. Me, me, me, sorry.

well exactly!! crikey its just plain idiocy!!
as your outrage buddy let me tell you i'm past the point of outrage im fuming on your behalf. it could have been so much worse, does she not realise?!?!

Boff - Guilty

B52s - is DH a CF carrier too?

Boff - I think you were incredibly reasonable to attribute blame to both sides and not just to AP! A bit of recent spontaneous helpfulness surely does not make up for enormous errors of judgement like this?

Juw - we're not sure which of us is a carrier, apparently 1 in 25 of the population are and know nothing about it. We can have blood tests to find out (which we will do at some stage). One of the 5 day blood checks on a newborn checks for this too.

Sorry B52s, misread. Sprog is already known to be carrier only? I was not aware that being carrier had any significant effect?

Neither was I. Can't see why I'd need a paed to check sprog as there's no visible signs to being a carrier. Stupid bloody MW.

I wonder if there is increased risk of meconium ileus with carrier status, or anything like that? Perhaps contact the CF Trust and see if they have any info www.cftrust.org.uk

Is the MW trying to get out of you having a homebirth by using pathetic excuses.

Paediatrians sometime miss things. My son had to have 18 months of physio as toddler because the paediatrian didn't notice he had a problem with his tendons as a newborn.

Anyway if the MW doesn't feel confident then why can't the GP do the newborn check. GPs will have had experience of paediatrics as part of their training. More than likely a newborn check in a hospital will be done by a junior doctor who has less experience than a GP.