Due September 2005 - Thread 6

[PiccadillyCircus]

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Well done PiccadillyCircus!

Didn't get weighed at my mw appt today - apparently they have a policy of only weighing you at your first appt, much to my relief!! Means I'll have no idea how much I put on during the pg...

I only got weighed at my first mw appointment last time, but did weigh myself at home now and again. Haven't weighed myself for a while - I think given the size of bump I am now getting that there has been some weight gain going on.

Unfortunately I'm a bit paranoid about weight as had to make a massive effort to lose over 2 stone. think the weight loss and doing more exercise might have been part of the reason I managed to get pregnant after 5 years of trying. Has anyone been for their 21 week scan yet? Mines a week on Tuesday and wondering what to expect. that seems odd, not weighing you again, I thought they'd want to check you were putting on enough weight.

My scan is a week on Wednesday .

I think the thing about not weighing people routinly now is because it tends to make people paranoid about how much weight they are putting on. And it also doesn't give any indication of how big the baby is likely to be (DS was 6lb 1oz).

Really must do some useful housework type tasks while DS is having a nap (but Mumsnet is more fun )

Or that you weren't putting on too much!! I lost 3 stone before our wedding, then stopped smoking a couple of years ago and put on 2 stone, of which I managed to lose about 3/4 stone. My mum said she lost a load of weight from breastfeeding, so I'm counting on that to give me a helping hand .

My friend said the same thing about breastfeeding. She said she could almost feel her waist shrinking in proportion to how much her DS fed. Nice thought isn't it?

SandyR - so happy to hear your good news xxx

On the weight loss side of things I've always lost the weight of preg with bf and just running around after my other dds. I've always put on loads - last time 25 kilos (don't know in stones!!) I was 74 kilos when I came home (7 kilos lighter)after giving birth and six weeks later down to 65 kilos. I ate loads and had to rest due to pph during this time. The rest just went away bit by bit. For me bf seems to be the key. Before preg I was 58 kilos (I was still bf at this time) and I'm now 70 kilos - don't know how this happened The thing with preg is that I can really eat what I want - it's like a miricle cure for my digestive probs. I normally can't eat high fat things without having to up my meds. I had meckles diverticulum with peritonitus & gangrene awhile ago that has left me with probs. I sometimes feel so hungry I could faint if I don't eat and last weekend after an enormous meal made by dh I was hungry after a few hours. I just go with the flow and don't stress about it. Have to laugh when the preg clothes catalogues say just order your pre-preg size

Milward, that sounds reassuring. kwym about the feeling starving thing. One mo I'm alright and the next minute i just HAVE to eat. anything. and right away. never heard of meckles diverticulum but its sounds terrible. how did you end up with that ?

Hi all, aren't we a busy thread?

ych and elasticated, congrats & welcome Make sure you add yourselves to our stats thread.

Boompi, Kiwifruit and zubb, thanks for the sympathy. Had a better day yesterday (DH and mum around, sunshine, plenty to do) - tbh I guess I've been up and down ever since DD arrived, but the pg hormones must be making it worse. zubb, you're right about getting out no matter what - it's one of my rules - on Wed I even got as far as getting DD's coat and socks on, then took them off again as I was just too exhausted to face lugging her down 2 floors to the pram, and then another load of steps to the pavement. Got out in the afternoon briefly but by then was feeling so fed up nothing was going to help. Boompi, I do wish I could get out to yoga - did pg yoga every week religiously last time round and it did me so much good - I'm trying to do my pg yoga video as often as possible but can rarely get a moment when DD's not around.

Anyway we're off to Gymboree this afternoon and then the hosp for my 20-week scan - hopefully we'll find out if it's to be a brother or a sister for DD! I've a strong feeling it's a girl ....

Just heard DD has a 26th cousin on the way - and it'll be younger than our little one! All DD's cousins are on DH's side of the family (he has 5 siblings) and we were fairly sure ours were to be the youngest, but no! SIL is 46 and already has 5 kids so quite unexpected (although DH's 2 other brothers have 7 each so not exactly unprecedented )

mummyhill, I was so sorry to hear about your fall. Glad you got some joy from the doctor in the end.

Kiwifruit - still haven't decided about the double buggy, or found anywhere that we can go and try out the Phil & Ted's and the Marco Sky. Met up with a fellow MNer the other week who had the latter and it does look excellent - amazingly compact - although I don't think you can use it for a newborn, you have to wait till 3 months - I reckon we could manage with the sling + stroller till then but DH is dubious (too fond of taking DD out to cafes and the like!).

SandyR, so glad to hear your amnio turned out OK. Must be a HUGE relief.

Hi all, have a wonderful afternoon to myself DD has gone to pre-nursery and mil is collecting her, don't have to go to work till monday unless i really want to (Yeah right as if i am going to go in if the GP has given me an excuse to stay home)[GRIN]. I should do some housework but don't know if i really want to.

being virtuous re. housework imho is over-rated, it'll only need doing again in a few days time (and if your dp/dh is anything like mine, he won't even notice if you do do it). I'd make the most of it and do something for yourself, put your feet up etc... Although I'm not a very good role model, should be working and am just mumsnet-ing instead !

SAndyR - My med situation just happened! - one moment ok the next not. I'd been born with it but didn't know until my intestine twisted because of it. Horrible situation - have posted on the more pain than childbirth thread.

Dear All - just been to the blooming mavellous website. There is a sale with, imho, lots of good prices. I have only two skirts that fit so definately need to get some things. Have lots of maternity trousers but still abit big around bump but fit well everywhere else

Now off to change little dd who has just had a nap!! & then get ready to pick up dds from school. We have a tennis shoe emergency so hope I can get some before dd's tennis class...... Best wishes to all.

Unfortunatly DH does notice if things get out of hand at home as they have recently cause i have been feeling like deathwarmed up. However have just had a lovely nap and am now going to straighten up downstairs and put the dinner on for when he gets in. Might make a nice change from eating at 9pm every night cause of my work hours.

Think I'm a bit lucky, as housework is DH's department - I help out occassionally if there's something he's missed, or if we're in a hurry to get somewhere. I'm in charge of ironing, shopping, and the majority of the cooking (although am slowly training him on this point...). Our flat is pretty small, so cleaning it takes nearly as long as the ironing and the difference is made up by the cooking....

Wow domesticated bloke, where can i find one DH is a bit of a cave man in that respect womens work is to do the house, raise the kids, shop and cook ohh and to go out and earn an extra income if we need it!!!!!

My DP contributes greatly to the housework... In creating a mess for me to clear up that is. Much simpler to do it myself as if he tries I cannot find anything for weeks (he's not silly is he?!). But at least he doesn't moan if I leave things undone, him not noticing i've tidied up also works the other way, he doesn't notice if I haven't. Kiwifruit, think you have a rarity there, I don't know of anyone who's DP/DH is in charge of the housework !

Think DH would adopt that position if I gave him so much as a sniff at the possibility... got to keep them in line . He gets very shirty when I point out that the housework hasn't been done this week - am always quick to point out that I can't get away with not doing my jobs as he would notice very quickly if there's no tea on the table or no ironed shirts in the wardrobe... that usually keeps him quiet. Threats of withdrawing marital rights also work wonders

Yup they are wonderful about creating the mess unfortunatley the kids then think they can do as daddy does not as he says and mummy ends up in a pig sty!!!!

Just had my 20-week scan and guess what? Baby was being ever so modest and hiding its bits! So still no clue as to what it is ..... Have to go back next week as they didn't get a good look at the heart either - everything else looks fine though so that's the important thing In the meantime DH & I are going mad with frustration - we just want to know! We knew very early with DD because of a scare which led to an extra scan - so it seems like ages to wait this time ......

just been to the Blooming Marvellous website and indeed there are some very good items in the sale....................but i can't order them because it does your address off the Royal Mail postcode/address checker and despite asking numerous times over the last three years Royal Mail still haven't added our address to the database

so am going to ask MIL to order the stuff i want tomorrow........i'm rapidly running out of clothes to wear!!

Have just been catching up with all the chatting and glad everything was fine with your amnio SandyR.
I can get my DH to do most things in the house except clean the bathroom!
Had my first sober work night out last night. Had lots of drunken work colleagues thinking they were hilarious telling me to slow down while drinking my fresh orange & kept pointing at my growing bump (which I think is now getting bigger by the hour?!). Must admit, last night was the first time I really thought I looked pregnant. Bit freaked out, scared I will look like a small elephant come Septemeber. Got my 19 w/s on Tuesday, looking forward to it and just hope everything is ok. Just ordered some trousers and tops from Next, will have a wee look in the BM site too.

thanks ych and I KWYM... being sober out with those who are drinking can be rather amusing. just come back from a quick break in spain with dp and one of my best friends and her dp who were all drinking loads. I have now realised why there never seemed to be enough time for gossip when I was drinking too. Talk about repeating everything 15 times and then starting all over again the next night with exactly what was said before! still, nice not to have a hangover in the mornings... and of course they all had to point out my bump to the world and his wife: waiters, taxi drivers, the woman at airport check-in... Out of interest, has anyone's dp/dh given up/reduced alcohol drinking in support or have they carried on as normal?

Dh has carried on as usual but as he is not a particularly big drinker it's ok.

my dp is not drinking as much as usual.......partly because he says it just doesn't feel right/the same without me drinking too and partly because he says he can't justify spending the money when we have babe on the way. we don't go out as much as we used to anyway and so i tend to 'let' him buy a more expensive bottle of wine than usual so he can really savour what he does drink.

also have no problems getting him to do housework......the only appliance he doesn't use is the washing machine!!

have my 20 week scan on friday am......have been looking forward to it but am now starting to feel apprehensive....

Dh not drinking as much - just because we would often go out together or open a bottle of wine at home when I was drinking. I dont think alcohol in small amouts is a prob in pregnancy but have completely lost my taste for wine (my ususal tipple). Very weird - it used to be one of my biggest passions! Have had the occasional glasss of bubbly - which still tastes ok. Have a wedding in 2 weeks with all my university mates. That should be interesting!!

I am also approaching my 20 week scan on Wed this week with a mixture of apprehension and excitement. Have a irrational fear of spina bifida - as wasnt on folate pre preg and drank too much over Xmas and New Year when didnt know I was preg. There is no real link between booze and SB and my triple test was obviously normal (never got a phone call to say it wasnt) so know Im being silly but, I am a bit of a worrier! Cant wait to see little one again though.

I can feel quite a bit of movement(21 weeks) but DH cant which is frustrating. Anyone else experience this?