Due September 2005 - Thread 6

[PiccadillyCircus]

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Had a lovely weekend weather was great dh felt baby moving for the 1st time!!!! I have been feeling the little one move for weeks. Good luck with all the scans etc coming up.

My dh is not drinking as much as usual because we would normally share a bottle of wine at home. If we go out to dinner he orders a really nice bottle of wine and I have a small glass - has to be red for some reason, I've gone off white completely.

Still not felt any movement and getting really worried now.

I've only just felt small flutterings in the last week or so but yesterday felt huge one as if it was turning over. Then sat for 15 minutes looking at my stomach to see if it actually showed on the surface but of course nothing. My friend said she felt nothing until 26 weeks and her little one is fine. Picallili - maybe its moving but not near your stomach where you can feel it or its probably just a very chilled out baby. Why don't you make an appt at the drs and ask them to listen to the heartbeat to reassure you? Week Weds is a long time to wait to see it if you are worried.

Try not to worry piccallili, go see the GP or book in for an earlier appointment with the midwife ask them if they can listen in and set your mind at rest.

Picallili, I felt movement v.early on, then nothing from 14 weeks to about a week or so ago (20 weeks and a second timer). Think babe was in the wrong position. Do see GP?midwife if you need reassurance, but I'm sure its fine.

Hi all, glad to read that most people seem to be getting over their sickness now! How are your hormones? I thought I was going completely bonkers this weekend - I'm a big softy as it is but have cried at least five times a day usually over nothing! Am starting to have quite a lot of fear about the actual birth - I know it's second time round and at least I know what to expect and 1st time wasn't a real horror story on the grand scale of things but........!!! DH not helping by making totally useless comments about how I couldn't help all the noise I made but I really want to be a bit more controlled this time. Any advise from any second/third/even more timers? (I know I need to stop watching Discovery Health births so much!)

Apart from feeling totally chilled out, almost to the point that nothing upsets me (apart from the animal and cancer ads on tv and then i'm crying my eyes out) I've not been hormonal at all and had no sickness either. bet the birth is going to be horrendous to make up for it. first time for me so probably explains why i'm not worried about the birth... yet!

My hormones are all over the show - quite frequently burst into tears for apparently no reason . As for watching anything remotely emotional on TV - pass the tissues!!

Had my scan today and all fine baby has long legs like the other two - about a week ahead of the head and body! We asked the sex and it is quite categorically .... a boy! So we will have 3 boys!! It did seem that I had a slightly low placenta but the radiographer thought that was due to the very full bladder that I had, so has just put a note that I may need a scan at 34 weeks if there are any clinical signs. Hope she's right as think that may scupper my homebirth.

Good luck to everyone for all the upcoming scans.

Sandy R - I don't get particularly hormonal, don't have sickness and so far have had 2 very easy births - so stay chilled out - you may be lucky!

aww congratulations Zubb! I have my scan on Thursday, so I'll give you all an update then

My scan is on Friday. A bit nervous as had to rush to hospital last Thurs as baby had stopped moving altogether. We heard a strong heartbeat but it still isn't moving much if at all. Have been signed off work this week and have next week off as annual leave so not due back till 9 May. Best wishes to all having their scans imminently.

i'm having the most awful nightmares at the moment....two nights in a row i have woken up physically shaking and then couldn't get back to sleep. i'm sure its anxiety......i've suddenly realised i'm going to be responsible for a human life and panicking that i will be an awful mother.

we decided ages ago that we wanted a cat and had a phone call yesterday to say that a friend has kittens.......so in a months time we will have a little tortoiseshell puss to care for!! (am now apprehensive about how a kitten and a baby will mix)

i also have my scan on Friday.....don't want to find the sex out.....after both wavering dp and i have firmly decided we want it to be a surprise. am a little bit nervous about the scan........

Scan yesterday - all went well. Another girl by the looks of things, with very long legs (competely off the scale of the percentiles that they show your measurements against). dd cried when we told her - she is a complete tomboy, and wants a brother - but she seems happy about it now.
Good luck to everyone else with scans coming up.

congratulations tallbird!
ds1 (3) wanted a sister but seems OK with it being another boy. When I put him to bed last night I talked about having another brother, and he said 'OK Mummy, but can we have a sister tomorrow'!

Sallie - hope you manage to get some rest, and feel reassured by the heartbeat.

Moschops - I think it's quite usual to start to worry about being responsible for a new life. For the first month or so after ds1 was born dh and I still felt like we were just babysitting, and that we couldn't really be totally responsible for a baby. I still sometimes look at the boys and think it's not possible. Hope the nightmares stop soon - it may help to talk to the midwife about any fears that you have, or to check out some parenting courses - NCT or hospital run.

Good to hear everyone's scans are going well. Just come back from visit to midwife and heartbeat racing away like a good 'un . Bit concerned though, apparently my midwife is a part of a team who look after you in pregnancy but then there is a whole other team who run things at the hospital so won't meet any of them until D day - anyone else had this with a previous baby? Seems odd.

elasticated - that is the way that it works here as well. I think that you can ask for a named midwife if you really want it. With ds1 I had the same community midwife for all ante-natal apoointments and then a hospital midwife for the birth.
TBH, and I realise that I am in the minority on this one, I don't really understand why it's a problem not knowing the midwife at all. I couldn't have cared less about who was delivering ds1, was just grateful that someone was there!
If you would prefer to know the midwife then you could ask if there is a scheme in place where it is one of the community team - a domino scheme or something.

I haven't been here for ages but want to make the effort to be a regular again.

I had a week away at a study school (doing my Masters via distance learning) so that has taken up a lot of time. I was exhausted doing full-time days of lectures and seminars. Plus it was on a campus in a hilly part of the country. I got so tired and left a day early. The food was good though and I made the most of 3 cooked meals and two desserts a day

I am 20 weeks 4 days today and have felt the baby move since 18 weeks. I'm still so tired and fear the energetic glowing bit will never surface with this pregnancy.

I had my scan and AFP test at 15 weeks. All looks good.

beatie.....i said to dp this morning i'm sure the pregnancy 'bloom' is a rumour!!! i've yet to experience it. i still haven't recovered my appetite and am forcing myself to eat for the sake of my baby.

feel better now the nursery is mostly finished........just need to get a blind and some curtains up, and a cot mattress. we put my rocking chair in there after we finished and i just sat in there for ages trying to take it all in.

i have realised my emotions/moods are like a seesaw...........i'm lonely but its probably a good thing i'm not around people too much at the moment!

Piccalilli - I've not yet felt movement & I'm 18 weeks. Had a checkup today & doc asked me about this. She was surprised that I'd not felt anything yet as this will be no. 4 (5th preg as I had had a miscarriage awhile ago), my tum is the right size for 19 weeks She checked the heartbeat and it was there - loud & strong. She explained that it is perfectly ok not to feel anything yet. See your doc if you're worried. I must admit reading about all the movement being felt on this thread was making me panic (just my reaction to what was posted in a normal & happy way ) Of course the scary bit of my visit was when my doc spoke about the shock of having a child with abnormality even if the parents are prepared. Said I could have an amnio after my scan in 3 weeks - said that I still didn't want one. Best wishes to all.

Elasticated, I've had 4 different antenatal appointments all with different people. Only 1 was a midwife at the hospital. Two were with whoever happened to be on duty at my GP's office. And 1 was with the consultant from hell at the hospital (a whole other story!). My next appointment is again at my GPs and then I won't see a midwife at the hospital until week 28. I'm a bit fed up with it to be honest. I would much prefer seeing 1 person at the same place for each appiontment rather than traipsing back and forth between hospital and and GPs. GPs can never answer any questions about the hospital. They just say, "Ask your midwife?" Consultant said the same thing. Midwife at the hospital was under the impression I would assigned a midwife through my GP. But the GP says they only do that if I'm having the baby at the Whittington. (When they referred me to UCH in the first place). I'm so fed up with it all that I'm ready to tell them I want a homebirth just to get them to assign me to someone specific. IMO much better to have someone who actually remembers you who you feel able to ask questions rather than a series of random strangers.

Katts - sounds like you've had a frustrating time! reassuring (sorry) to know that its not just a local thing, i've seen 2 different midwives and a random gp who happily told me that he wasn't sure which checks he should be doing (several midwives had all gone on holiday and not booked cover apparently!) so that one was a reassuring visit . Home birth does seem to be the only way around it but not brave enough myself. Oh well, looks like all is healthy with ds/dd at the moment so should count myself lucky. Hope all goes well for you and you have a better experience next appt.

I have to make an effort to really feel the movement and when I felt it at 18 weeks, I did not notice it again for several days. I only feel the movement when I am lying down and all the fat, er, pregnanacy belly, spreads out.

You may realise with hindsight that you have been feeling it.

With my DD I first felt movement at 23 weeks!! I actually saw my belly move. It's actually been really weird for me to notice the movement internally with this baby.

First time round i never saw the same midwife twice at hospital or GP's and went through 5 shifts of midwives and their accompanying students durring the time i was in the delivery suite. I therefore think myself lucky to see the same midwife each time at gps this time although she seems to have a different student each visit. I am cared for at the GP's by a team from City Hospital (Used to be Dudley road to anyone who knows Birmingham at all) and am having the baby at good hope in Sutton Coldfield so odds of having someone there at the birth that i know are slim but then i had the same last time and to be honest it didn't bother me i was just glad that there was someone there to help. It is usefull durring the pregnancy to see the same person as you build a raport and feel more comfy talking to them but on the actual day it doesn't matter as long as someone with the right qualifications is there.

Agree mummyhill. A friend of mine who is a midwife told me that the shared care scheme between GP and Hospital is really just a money saving scheme. She actually suggested I tell the hospital I'm going for a home birth and just "change my mind" at the last minute. Because that way they assign 2 midwives personally to you. Hmmm...

Hi all, just catching up with everyone's news. Excited to see some of you have found out the sex - we've just found out ours is another girl! Weird trying to imagine it - if they look anything like each other they'll practically be twins! I thought it was a girl anyway (pregnancy has felt pretty much exactl the same so far) so no jumping up and down with surprise but lovely to be able to plan and imagine and think about names .....

Scan was fine, everything looks normal