Due September 2005 - Thread 6

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Re: BH contractions... not sure if I'm having them or not!! Have been getting funny 'pains' (not exactly painful tho) / sensations at bottom of bump, feels a bit like period-type pain, but not as severe. Could this be BH? I thought it was probably just things stretching a bit or somethng.

Great to see everyone the other day by the way

Snap with the braxton hicks and ditto to the agonising stitch when walking quickly. But had both (though the BH are more noticeable this time) last time round. So prob nothing to worry about.
I am also agonising about the buggy situation. DD will be 26 months, so part of me hopes to avoid getting one, and doing with a sling initially, then a buggy board if dd amenable! I'd like a tandem, but not too heavy or bulky, and maybe will buy one on ebay, and then resell as soon as possible. I just don't know. The whole "do we get another cot/move dd into a bed" thing is also a dilemma. And do we move her into a larger room with the plan that the baby moves into hers when its 6 months old? And do we do this before the babe is born? And should I potty train before or after? My time between now and birth seems pretty intense really, what with also thinking that it's time to cut out the dummy!

Yeah, I get pains like that LadyL - they don't feel like contractions tho.

I had ideas of transferring DD to a bed before the baby arrived to avoid getting a 2nd cot pooka, but have given up on that. She'll only be 19m in Sept and isn't even walking yet (hence the definite need for a double buggy!). We're going to borrow a Moses basket for the baby and then hopefully move DD to a bed when baby's ready for the cot.

I don't think I've had any BH's at all with any pregnancy either Franch.

Ds1 was 22 months when ds2 was born and we got another cot for ds2 as ds1 wasn't ready for a bed. He moved to a bed at about 2 and a half I think. With this baby he'll be in a moses basket until he outgrows it as I'm assuming he'll be big and long like the other 2, and then we'll be making ds1's bed back into a cot for him, and buying ds1 a new bed. Ds1 and 2 share a room and ds1 wants bunk beds but as he'll only be just 4 when he needs a new bed I'll have to think about that idea a bit more.

As for pushchairs, I'm still hopeful of avoiding a double, and am making ds2 walk as much as possible already (cruel icon!) but as he's only 18 months at the moment thats not very far. Will have to see how it goes, but if I do find I need one will probably just run down to Mothercare to pick one up and get the cheapest.

its good to know other people are feeling BH too - i am always a bit dehydrated i am going to try drinking alot of water and as about stress - i am quite stressed at the moment am also feeling a bit unwell too so it could all be that.

daren't ring the midwife to say i have been having braxton hicks - this is my 3rd baby and i suppose i should be an expert by now.

i have been having stitch like pain in both sides after walking too far, usually after a very long day, i put that down to muscles stretching too.

I think that we'll prob keep dd in her cot as it seems to suit her pretty well atm. Part of the logic behind moving her asap into a bigger room is that when db is bigger and moves out of our room, he/she can either move in with dd or go into dd's smaller current bedroom. I love the idea of two sharing - my brothers shared the very same room when they were little (18months age difference).

What's the youngest you think they can start sharing safely? I know you have to be careful with toddlers around babies. We'll have a 19m gap, and (from our experience with DD) imagine we'll move DD2 out of our bedroom at about 6m.

I'm really not sure about ideal age gap. Would imagine (would put that in italics if I could!) that if babe is in a cot, wouldn't be too dangerous from a pretty young age - i.e. not get at-able. My main concern, given that dd has never been the world's best sleeper, is that the baby would wake her up. So think will wait until the babe can be relied upon to sleep through. dd didn't start sleeping through until she was 10 or 11 months, and is going through a monster non-sleeping in cot phase right now. Don't really have the energy to argue at 3am about cot-is-best-no-really so ends up in with us fairly regualrly. Yet another thing to be tough-cop-ish about in the coming months! Aaaarrrgghh. Saying that, maybe having a friend in the same room would take the pressure off us!

I've been having BH as well - had a few last night which took my breath away a bit.

I have lots of dilemmas on the double buggy and bed and sharing room scenarios. DS will be 22 months when DS2/DD arrives and although his walking is all right, I don't think that I would be too trusting of him on a buggy board. DH likes the (red) Urban Detour double. I have a bit of a hankering after a Phil and Teds, but DH says he would need to be convinced (so would our bank balance).

DS loves his cot so much and does sleep well [said with a general fingers crossed emoticon] that I am loathe to move him out of it and into a bed too soon. He moved out of a Moses basket and into a cot at about 15 weeks I think. But he was always in his own room (with me there as a permanent fixture for about 8 weeks). We now have a 3 bedroom house, but DS's room is small. The spare room is bigger but was originally planned as being a spare bedroom for guests (as DS2/DD wasn't quite planned to come this year ).

Longer term I see them sharing. DH has some ideas about being able to shift the position of the walls (been watching too much Location Location Location I think) to make DS's current room bigger and the spare room smaller so that we could have both of them in one room and guests in another (definitely couldn't get two in DS's current room).

Or there is the plan of extending upwards somewhere....

I have waffled on too much. And I have some sort of vaginal infection (which isn't just thrush ). But I am seeing the specialist nurse tomorrow.

Also I have an infected tooth. Pain on Thursday night was not nice and so went to the dentist on Friday. I have more appointments (he said we needed to deal with it before I'm about 6 months pregnant as I won't want to have to lie down on the dentist chair for long after that . For the moment I am on antibiotics, which probably isn't helping with the other infection....

Must also remember to pick up new prescription of the anti-depressants today - I feel like I am at leats getting good value out of the NHS .

Morning! Had a little panic this morning, as hadn't felt the baby move since early last night, which is unusual, but it's just woken up and started kicking me like mad (think the cup of tea I'm drinking has woken her/him up!). Must stop thinking that something will go wrong!!

Pooka - maybe you should take a phased approach: move dd into her new room in her cot now to give her a chance to get used to the new room, then move her out of the cot in August to give her a chance to get used to the new bed before the new baby arrives, then there won't be too many changes going on for her at the same time. Don't know how unsettled babies get when their sleeping arrangements change, but imagine that moving from a moses basket to a cot probably causes a bit of disturbance, so might be easier for you and dh if only one of your offspring is moving sleeping arrangements at the same time?? Just a thought, but as I'm waiting on arrival of no.1 and don't have a lot of experience with kids, I could be talking through a hole in my nether regions !!!

It's so nice not to worry about double buggies or cot moves!!!

A very good friend has a Phil and Teds, and loves it apart from a couple of design faults - no footrest when older one in front, so puts feet on fabric (will wear) and this hits the front wheel and stops it turning. Only a prob if the toddler is reasonably tall I suppose.
IME our kids both found the move from cot to bed easy - they slept better if anything (but you will need something to stop them falling out at first!!)
I don't think I would be happy with 2 in the same room until the older one is about 3. Maybe I'm just a bit neurotic, but most 2yr olds I know rather 'smother with love' their baby siblings, and this would worry me - also v agile and could easily climb into cot.
Wish we had started our 2 boys sharing a room, although neither room in our old house was really big enough. They both have huge bedrooms, but the baby one is tiny - fine for now, but I can't see (her?!!) being impressed in a few years time when she starts comparing! don't think either ds would fancy sharing room with a baby, esp if it is a girl!!!! (Thinking: lots of pink plastic, mmmmm) A loft conversion beckons, but not sure where the money would come from....

Ds2 went in with ds1 at 4 months. Luckily even when ds2 woke up screaming it didn't disturb ds1, but he can sleep through anything really.
With ds1 we moved him out of our room at 10 weeks.

With the moving from Moses basket to cot I always tried to get them used to the cot by putting them in it for daytime naps after the first few weeks, then it didn't seem strange when they went in at night.

Hi not posted for a while just been catching up on all the news wow . We will have to start yet another new thread soon as this one is getting a bit long. sun is shinning today and i am feeling happy after all the rain yesterday. Had a lovely weekend spent most of it in the park. Had last week off work to try and get the house strainght whilst i can still pick stuff up off the floor, unfortunatly it looks like a bomb has hit it again allready there is ironing on every available surface and toys everywhere. And i still need to get all the baby stuff down out of the loft soon to sort through it all even though we don't know what flavour we are having. I am getting fed up of hearing mummy i need sweeties etc ohh and being smacked by dd when she can't get her own way. I am wondering what on earth she is going to be like in september.

andif, at what age did you move yours to a bed?

I think we moved both ours to a bed at about 2 - we had separable bunk beds and used the top bunk(ie as a normal bed, but it had guard rail all around) in both cases. For ds1 it was essential, as he climbed out of the cot at 22months! One of my friends misunderstood me and thought I was extremely irresponsible for putting my son in the top bunk at 2 years!!
Thinking about it, probably fine to put 2 in together when first child still in cot, as won't be able to climb in with baby and by time able to, prob won't even think about it! My prob was ds2 waking up ds1 in the early hours of the morning (even in separate rooms!)

Thought I'd start a new thread as feeling very lazy today and no one's chatting. Think I've worked out how to do it now, so will see if I can prove that I've still got a brain.....

Hi im a first time mum, im 8 weeks pregnant and im just racked with guilt.
Im so scared that somethings going to happen to my baby that when I get excited about a new pram, cot or just teddy in the bak of my mind im thinking I hope I don´t lose "it".
Also, n please give me your truthful answers, am I being awful hoping my baby isn´t born with a disability or special need?
Dont get me wrong if my baby did have a special need or disability I would love it no less. We dont have any history of special needs or disabilities in the families. Is this something every mum experiences?????
I feel awful please just give your truthful answers much appreciated xxx