Due April 2009: Episode 18 - Mumble gets married and we have triplets and twins here!!

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Let the ramblings commence.

I feel really guilty & embarrassed - I love my sister to bits, but she's in a really bad place & I think she needs to see a doctor, to be honest. She's got a big emotional mess of her own, plus all of her friends seem to be the sort who cut themselves & what have you. & she takes it all totally to heart & gives herself sole responsibility for their well-being & blames herself every time she can't stop them.

& now she's getting 'I don't care' about everything, which is really unlike her - usually she's a massive stress-head about school work (to the other extreme, which isn't good either) & a straight A student because she works so hard. & now it's all totally sliding & she's getting in loads of trouble & she has her GCSEs in a few weeks now - & she's just totally given up.

The problems with her friends will pass & I know one day she'll cheer up again. I was depressed through my GCSEs (in fairness, I had a much bigger reason than she does, so far as I can tell), but I had really great, supportive friends - she doesn't. They all seem to think that it's somehow a teenage rite of passage to give up on life & let opportunities like getting really good exam results with very little extra effort from this point slip through their fingers. It feels like they're trying to out-misery each other. & she's caught in the middle of it & is genuinely really messed up & does nothing but cry a lot of the time.

My parents aren't oblivious to it, but don't know how bad things are getting because she doesn't tell them. She confides in me a bit more. But now she won't, because she knows that I phoned my mum to tell her about it all - & it's the first time I ever have & I really debated whether or not I should. I'm really angry with my mum for putting me in that position, even though I know it's my own fault really. I'm hormonal & I'm blaming her, so nerr.

Springy - your poor sister, her friends sound like their involved in some emo cult, which cant be helping. ((big hugs to you and her)) if its any consolation i think you did the right thing with the right intentions. why would your mum put you on loudspeaker?!? its obviously a sensitive issue. maybe she was trying to show your sis that everyone was worried??

just checking in again on yet another thread!

Had a scan on Friday (36w 2d) and baby was measuring 37w 1d, so hopefully means a good sized baby! Consultant was happy with everything and wrote down that he approved of home birth etc, so everything seems in place! Saw the community midwives today and I'm measuring 36 now but baby is 3/5 engaged, so guess that's why I'm smaller. Haven't really felt more space for eating (can never finish a full meal really) but I am getting lots more pelvic pressure! ughh Midwives aren't dropping off my homebirth kit (or going on call) until I'm 38w 1d, so do hope baby doesn't try to appear before then! I'm sure I had the gear in the house around the time I was 37w before, but seems they're busy/not so many of them on call etc.

So, hope everyone else is OK. Afraid I can't really catch up on everything here - everyone just talks tooooooo much! LOL

I am back.
I did not paint anything as frankly I was in too much pain. I am a very frustrated nester.
I did however go to the John Lewis depot all by myself late afternoon to collect some bathroom accessories, and I also managed to pick up some dry cleaning, again all by myself.
DD did not take me out on the razz because she was fiddling about doing beauty stuff. However DH took me down the pub this evening to cheer me up. I was not pleased to find that my bottom, which has been a normal womanly size until this point, did not fit into the suggested chair, such is its current girth.
I am so doing Weight Watchers after I have this baby.

BTW maternity bras - NCT shop have the best advice on fit and probably the widest choice.

I was on loudspeaker anyway, because mum seemed to think that I'd be phoning to say that I was in labour or something but she didn't tell me that I was, or that my sister was even in the room. Meh. She'll get over it. Me phoning to 'tell on her' is hardly going to feature on her worry list for any length of time & she'll realise in the future that I meant well.

Rachel, good to see you have a healthy sized baby (or more than ) & that you're 3/5 engaged - sounds exciting! Let's just hope they get to drop off your HB stuff before LO makes a break for it

Boff, very pleased that you weren't painting. You'd have been in for a good telling off, I can tell you. I may have even phoned your mum to grass you up Don't get too down about the bottom size thing - you know that it's mostly water retention because you've not been able to move properly for months, but I know it'll still get to you. Try not to let it xx

Rachel Yay for good scan and baby engaging

Boffin - you should see my butt from all the sofa action lol dont worry we'll get back to our buttock beautiful pre preg state soon enough so glad you were'nt painting xx

Springy - oh well, tis done now (sorry not helpful) but she will realise you meant well!! xx

Night Night Gorgeous girlies xx

Morning all.

Springy I would have been really cross if that was my mum, but glad you are feeling relatively philosophical about it. You were trying to do the right thing after all.

Rachel - good stuff - big baby, heading towards the exit. All sounds good!

Boffin - v. well done on the errands you did run, but glad you left that skirting board alone. Don't worry about your bottom. I think you will be pleasantly surprised how a lot of the weight will drop off quite naturally. Lots of it will be fluid anyway. And once you get active some of the other weight should shift. So you should only need to do weightwatchers to shift those final few pounds to take you back to svelteness.

Thanks for consoling words re: bottom. I suppose as long as I can still fit in the glidey chair for the duration of the pg that will have to be OK.

Doing a media interview about home birth today, and even more exciting, the washing machine repair man is supposed to be coming. The washing is taking over the house, as it seems to be growing at the same rate as my rear. So this is a very welcome development.

Yes, fitting in the glidey chair is the all important factor. Would love one of those. When DD was teeny tiny I used to go along to Peter Jones and sit breastfeeding her in the glidey chairs in their mum & baby room. Could have spent all day there

Boff - I'm sure you are sound of mind not to worry about this anyway, but ignore all images of celeb mums looking skinnier than ever 10 minutes afer giving birth. Don't rush into trying to lose it. You need your strength in the early days with a newborn. I stuck to the 9 months on, 9 months off mantra with DD which seems reasonable to me.

Yes but Lulu, I put on about 1.5 stone with DS1 that never really came off, despite a lot of effort, and subsequently another 1.5 with DS2 that never really came off, and I wasn't exactly skinny to start with. I know I have put on at least 2 extra stone with this one on top of normal pg weight increase, so it has got to the point where I even look at maximum weight limits for things to sit on etc and worry about my bottom being stuck in chairs or chairs collapsing. I know that sounds a bit silly but having a thyroid problem means excess weight sticks to me like glue tbh.

That having been said I did find last year that taking Reductil and having personal training helped me lose 1.5 stone of additional eating rubbish whilst commuting and working too hard weight, but obviously you can't take Reductil when bf, and I won't be able to exercise for ages after this, even if my mobility does start to come back.

Sorry, this was not supposed to turn into a big moan!

Morning all

Springy that's a tough one, she will be grumpy for a while but sure she will get over it in time.

Yay for your errands boff and dont worry about your bum, as soon as you are mobile your rear won't know what has hit it!!! Even more yay for the washing machine being fixed!!

Speaking of butts - I have a problem with DH's - he has got in to the habit of sticking his bum in my back when we sleep and it is so uncomfortable and honestly I turn in to a monster in the middle of the night and am horrible to him for waking me up (5 times last night - plus two wee stops!!) at one point he even rolled over on me and kind of leant on me like a cushion!!! apparently it was 'comfy' so not only am I a human cacoon for this LO but now apparently a nice leaning post!!! - any tips for stopping this?

Oh celeb mums - tis so unrealistic - AND very unhealthy - Liv Tyler took 18 months to lose her weight and looks so much better than others!

BB at least he likes having you there next to him!! How about pjs with studs on the outside????

I am off to google Liv Tyler as I can't remember what she looks like - perhaps I will find this encouraging.

Liv Tyler looks quite slim to me, even postnatally.

A currant bun on the front does not constitute huge weight gain IMO!

LOL @ pyjamas with studs on .

Boffin - honestly don't let your bottom get to you. I feel pretty hideous at the moment too but have to keep reminding myself that making a healthy, happy baby is all that really matters.

In a very dark way I am curious to know how much I weigh but luckily I threw out our old bathroom scales when we packed up the house and there are none at my mothers any more either (shame that- my mother's always made me 1/2 stone lighter )

No she gained almost 5 stone with her pregnancy all together - she did a big interview afterwards saying she was in no rush to lose it! she was huge at the end and said she wouldn't succumb to the pressure to lose it but spend 18 months enjoying her baby and deal with it then if it was an issue!

Kate Hudson gained over5 stone too but she did the classic celeb thing and starved herself with a vengeance getting even skinnier than before in no time. Tbh she really didn't look healthy.

Much as Davina McCall is a bit irritating she was quite sound in her approach to baby weight loss. She gained quite a bit of weight but lost it again in a healthy and considered way. Lots of exercise and healthy food.

I banned scales in my early 20s when I started training with weights (muscle weighs more than fat etc etc) anyway, I was at the time a very comfy size ten (having gone down from a tight, squeeze-myself-in size 12 - really should have been a 14!!) and had gained 2 stone and got so depressed because actually my weight and BMI were horribly over according to the dr yet I was in the best physical shape I ever had been!

Anyway, my point is I hate scales and at about 6 months I stupidly got on the scales at the gym had put on 2.5 stone and was horrified and was so unhappy so God knows where I am now but there is nothing I can do about it - yes the chocolate doesn't help but I haven't been stuffing myself silly or anything like that!

Also Mila jokovich (sp) did the same! I intend to be like them! really I will hate the extra weight afterwards but I just intend to be as active as possible and see what happens!

Hello

feeling a bit better

Just had to read 6 pages this morning. Kept thinking of things I would say and have forgotten them all now

except

Springy the darkness across the face is called chloasma or pregnancy mask. I've had it in the past

re dressing gowns. I dont take mine for warmth but for covering up because during the day theres always strange men (strangers not odd, thought they may be that too) wandering around the ward. I might take my long cardi instead though.

Off to finish painting the bedroom nowI have the energy to stand. Good to hear you all in good spirits

OK, I'm going to go and weigh myself. I think I 'need' to know. I reckon 2.5 stone (eek!!!), but at least that is half Kate Hudson.

Springy - you did the right thing, your sister knew you were going to tell your mum anyway, she just found it easier telling you directly

Well if that lot put on five stone then maybe it's OK if I have. As long as I don't go to the South of France on holiday this summer I should be safe!

oh and doughnuts.... are we talking ring style or jam filled?

I will be going to a beach holiday type place at the end of May and in June! What have I let myself in for!!! [hmmm]

2 stone 4lbs - I'm good at guessing if nothing else. Do you lose about a stone when you give birth? I think the problem is not just eating too many cakes but being so much less active than usual.