Due May 2009 We're Nesting and Napping, Squeezing and Holding

[FiKelly]

here we go

happy birthday divedaisy

Went to the midwife yesterday, have sugar in my wee again

she said she wouldn't refer me for a glucose tolerance test (think that's what its called?) as I have a consultants appointment next week so she'd wait to see what they said first. She did asd if I was eating lots of sugary things - if anything I'm eating less.. bit worried about how much weight I was putting on.

Would my eating more bananas affect my sugar? eating 2-3 a day to try and stop the leg cramps.

Ignore them chocbunnies they're idiots. You and your DP know what you want so your friends will just have to accept that. I was 20 when I settled with my dh and I had people telling me that it was too soon and that I should see if there was better out there. I knew he was the one despite my age. 11 years later I can now feel truly smug and vindicated that I ignored all the idiots that told me what to do with my life!
Why don't you have a look at eBay and check what the new Chicco buggies go for, maybe you can get your money back that way. My dp didn't understand either why I didn't like the pram we had with dd, back then I didn't work and didn't feel like I could put my foot down and get the more expensive pram I really liked: result 3rd baby 3rd pram and finally my perfect one, but in the long run we've ended up spending more on prams, because I couldn't sell my dd's one and ended up putting it on freecycle.

chocbunnies ignore those sad idiots.
They are obviously have nothing else in their lives to think about.

sorry that should be "have nothing else"

baby brain

you'd think i'd ignore them, but i just cant, im so wound up about it, i cant believe they would be so stupid to piss off a pregnant lady?!!!!

theres only two used ones on ebay, lots of brand new ones, but no bids or anything so maybe its not going to be easy to shift, typical!

Hi all, just skimming this week as am supposed to be marking coursework

choc do try to ignore the idiots sticking their oar in. I met my now DH when I was 19 and was asked 'why didn't I want to play the field?' by several 'friends'. 13 years later, we're still together, v happy and had our wedding exactly how we wanted it even tho we p'ed a few people off. I can imaging being pg makes it all a bit harder in terms of sticking up for yourself - can you get your dp to do a bit of the work? Mine told his mum to back off in a very nice way after she got a little too enthusiastic about organising things for ours...

Fi any news on your house, sorry if I've missed it. Have been sending positive vibes your way all week.

divedaisy HAPPY BIRTHDAY! hope you enjoyed that magners.

Hi to everyone else hope all is going well
runningm xx

LoobyLou I had high random blood glucose, then glucose in my wee, so they sent me for a glucose tolerance test which came back as normal. My GP told me that pregnant ladies can get "leaky kidneys" which let some glucose escape and can be perfectly normal. I'd eaten 2 twixes and a couple of pints of squash before the appt so she said that was most likely why - if you ate the bananas before you did the wee sample it could explain it. I still decided to cut out processed sugar just to be on the safe side though - don't want this baby to be any bigger than he needs to be!

looby I'd say bananas would have an impact on your blood sugar. THey are quite high in natural sugars. Don't worry about the glucose in your wee, it doesn't necessarily mean you have gestational diabetes.

chocolatebunnies you poor thing, you are having a tough time. Ignore those silly people, they need to grow up.

Re glucose - I had a sky high blood glucose in my 28 week bloods (we had to drink some lucozade 1 hour beforehand) and borderline whether there was some in my wee this week (mw couldn't tell if it was just the light or not!! I have a GTT at the hospital next Thurs - not looking forward to it as I am still bruised over 10 days from giving 28 week bloods.

Right, must go offline to do marking...

chocbunnies - ignore them- they obviously don't understand what it feels like to want to spend your life with someone, and raise a family together. My mum and dad started dating at 16, married at 20, had 3 kids and are excited as this year its their 40th wedding anniversary. They have had their troubles along the way of course, but it only made them stronger.

As for my 5 pushchairs- it might sounds extravagent, but the most that any of them cost was about £100 (M+P aria/second-hand P&T), then a travel system off ebay for £30 (RRP £100), a summer buggy (£30) and a double mcclaren buggy (£10 off ebay!).

belgianchocs its great having a MW on here- always wondered what the point belly thing was, and its good to know that its best to avoid it, so i will take more care when getting up/out of bed etc.

divedaisy happy birthday! hope you're having a great day

chocbunnies as everyone's said, try to ignore those so-called 'friends'. I'll bet underneath they are scared because they know they have to stop acting like children themselves at some point and are worried they won't be as happy as you two both are.

re pointy tummies - when I first got a bump I noticed it a bit when sitting up in the bath. They my friend told me about what happened with hers (still had a bit of a pointy tummy after the birth & was told it's her bowel protruding ) and the advice of her physio to avoid using the stomach muscles as much as possible. I've been trying to do use arms/legs to sit up as much as possible to hopefully limit any damage.

belgian I love the cards & the sweets ideas. I might have a go at making some cards when I'm on mat leave using Photoshop. It would be nice to have something creative to do before baby arrives & any hope of having a 'hobby' evaporates for however many years.

belgian llareguub detsy definitely up for a meet-up, Staffs is great for me. Oh, I think Jael is in Staffs too? The place detsy was suggesting is Trentham Gardens (detsy did you mean gardens or the shopping bit?). It's close to the M6 J15.

Also happy to trundle down to Brum on a train tho too scared to drive there (not been driving that long).

gosh, this thread is going so fast have just had time to skim over posts will try and catch up properly and keep up from now on

Choc - second what everyone else is saying about ignoring your DP's friends. it can be difficult though. Congratulations on the wedding as well

DiveDaisy - 40 is all good I was so worried about turning 40, though it would mean I had to start wearing brown nylon slacks and being boring but its not like that anymore. 40 is the new 30 ! Enjoy

was hoping we had escaped the various bugs that are going around this winter but have had both the little ones home ill this week with D & V so not had much chance to get online. My LO head down now too and still some tightenings but not enough to need to get back to hospital. My bag has been packed
and ready for ages but after DD2 being 6 weeks early wanted to be prepared just in case.

belgian, spangle, detsy, jael and any other midlanders, Trentham Gardens looks great and from the AA route finder is only 70 odd miles from me. I'd be up for it!

Belgianchocolates the sweets tradition looks a lovely... but i have to admit I'm relieved to not be expected to do this as I am a very crafty person and would definitely get too carried away. Your colour scheme is lovely and I hope everyone appreciates all your hard work. The photographer has some lovely work too... i'm sure you'll get some really special photos.

chocolatebunnies I'm horrified at what your dp's so called friend said on facebook... maybe he's just envious of your happiness & good life together. When my mum (and DH's) started putting on pressure to increase the numbers at our wedding It took a lot of nerve from me to say no. I was determined to stick to my guns though as it was my 2nd wedding and my mum got her way the 1st time. Her answer then when i objected was "well i'm paying for it". With DH we were paying for it but it she was still going on at us... Do you know what worked in the end? I said if she was so desperate for 2nd cousin & partner so and so to come that it was no problem as we'd give them her and dads place. Problem solved she never mentioned it again. Worked a treat for DH's mum too... neither wanted to give up their wedding invite for anyone else!! I would contact the pram company anyway... you've got nothing to lose. The worst they can say is no and the best is you'll have rid of it and the one you'd like...

runningmonkey thanks for asking about our flat/house situation. I've been fretting about it since monday... The persimmon office was shut tues/wed... we discovered on driving out there. Just when DP wanted to thrash out a deal on the new one for us and had even taken wed off to get hold of them so we could then go back to the people who put in the daft offer to get it hopefully upped. Today DH was dealing with all the parties and so far the buyers have not upped their offer... they are thinking it over apparently. We have managed to beat persimmon down on price but are still a few £000 adrift between what our new home will cost and what we're being offered. Apparently there is a chance we'll know for sure either way tomorrow [biting fingernails emoticon] I found it hard enough to sleep last night let alone after all this too-ing and fro-ing today. DH has found it stressful too today as he's gone out to buy chocolate for us (and he'd given it up for lent!).

Oh and maybe it's a side effect of the nerves or just LO... but i have bladder the size of a pea at the moment!

Thank for all the messages of support, I feel like being really childish and ringing him to gie him a piece of my mind, but he then just migt think Im a crazy pregnant lady!

Im feeling a bit happier this evening, DP cooked me a lovely stirfry for tea and he's let me book a 4d scan! its alot of money, but i really need it, hard to explain, but i think its so amazing, and its the last time im going to be pregnant and think its a lovely way to mark it as the last. So on 23rd March I'll be meeting my baby!

You guys will like this, I have only just realised, its only my birthday on Tuesday! I'll be 22! with all thats going on, it completly slipped my mind!

Fi As we're paying for the wedding I will have no problem in saying who I want there! There have been some odd requests for the evening do, but by then I'll be too tierd to care who's there IYSWIM!

Hi, had a really full on day today and am so exhausted i can hardly think. Just wanted to drop in and say HAPPY BIRTHDAY DIVEDAISY your husband better be spoiling you absolutely rotten. Enjoy the magners, why can't you have a mojito?

chocbunnies- glad you are getting your 4D scan- i've also booked mine for 22 March (mothers day). I also feel I need it - I worry that i haven't bonded as well with this LO as he isn't the girl I'd originally hoped for, and because I've been feeling more tired this time I worry I have been blaming him. When i see his little face and expressions, it will make him so much more real and exciting! I think he will be my last too, so i want something special to remember always.

To the midlanders: Trentham gardens looks great and easy to find, only 35miles for me. I noticed that they've got the monkey forest amongst their estate. My dcs have been nagging me to go there ever since they saw the leaflet in the leisure centre a few weeks ago, so if we meet in the weekend then it would make my dcs very happy. Brum is off course good for me too, I only live about 20mins from the centre!

chocbunnies happy to hear you're feeling a bit better. I think that when you're pregnant (or have PMS ) you always take things to heart a bit more. I'm happy to hear that your dp is agreeing to that 4D scan. My dh is the same, always saying no at first and then a little while later agreeing after all or even making out that it was his idea!

pula Thanks for your nice comment

fi Sounds like you're having a stressful time with your house. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you that it will all turn out OK.

chocolate Your Dp's mate is a twat. Don't let it bother you. That sort of thing would eat me up with rage that I would stupidly store up and take out on the wrong person. Dh and I have been together since I was 18. Will be 13 years together in October.

Fi hope all goes well with the discussing the house price.

I'm too tired to read properly so I'm sorry if I've missed anybody. Dd is up at least twice in the night. Not wetting the bed, but wanting me to just bloody be there when she gets out of bed to sit on the bloody potty. She is willfully ignoring me too. I know I'm the grownup and should lead by example but it is so bloody exhausting having to ask her to do everything 5 or 6 times and stay patient and calm. I'm just not in the mood!

Take care everybody. Need to find my glasses and pack for the weekend. No doubt you'll be on another thread.

Oh just quickly before I go Belgian how bad is it to lie on your back at night? I prop a pillow behind me so when I do roll, my pelvis is at least tilted but I'm finding it very difficult to stay on my side. My back is sore being twisted all the time.

Will catch up on all the chat properly later, have had the day from hell today. Just wanted to say - Belgian Can I advise you to be very, very careful about getting a Zafira. I just handed mine back to the dealership after 18 months of wrangling because of a known fault that they kept missing. It had a nice side effect of making my electrics cut out whenever I braked, which was a handy little trick when I live in the roundabout capital of the world - we had six very near misses in that 18 months, including me nearly putting the car with me, hubby and five kids through a brick wall on a national speed limit road.

I have just got a Citroen C8 and it's probably the first car I've owned that I don't have a complaint about yet!

blotted I never heard of that fault before. Thanks for warning us. I'll tell my dh, so he can have a look into it. The thing is that his current Ford Escort Estate is doing exactly the same as your Zafira did, so we're looking into swapping that one as well. I'll ask some of the mums at school too, there's quite a few Zafira owners.

Jennster Lying on your back is actually not a very good thing to do when pregnant. A big vein (the vena cava) runs behind your uterus and so when you lie on your back you compress it and effectively reduce the bloodflow to both your uterus and your own brain. Lying on your side it the best really, with a pillow between your knees and maybe put a pillow under your bump or get one of those wedges to support your bump. If you want to be on your back, prop yourself up with some pillows so you're not completely flat and put a pillow under your knees rather than your pelvis, so your legs aren't straight, because that apparently strains the symphysis pubis(according to my brilliant booklet I got yesterday)

jennster When you're on your back it would be best if you can somehow be on a slight left tilt to take the pressure of that vein. Not sure how you'd do that in a normal double bed though. Personally I find lying on my side most comfortable for my pelvis, I find it much more difficult to get out of bed when I've been on my back. I suppose actually being on my back is more comfortable, but it's the afterwards that's worse IYKWIM. I've got to a stage now that I sleep in the same position all night and wake up really stiff from not moving. I remember the same thing happening with my other 2 pregnancies.

Gosh, you lot don;t half chat! Only been away a few hours....

Chocolatebunnies - nothing to add really, just to say ignore what everyone else says, especially if you're paying for the wedding! What is it about mothers/MILs and opinions? DH and I met when I was 18 and he was 20 and got married 5 years later - MIL had tantrums because we weren't getting married in a church, my mother changed the flowers without telling me () and my dad was so horrified at everybody else's behaviour that he offered to pay for us to elope!! Anyway, we survived it all, the wedding was almost as we wanted it, and we've been married 10 years this year.

Re back sleeping - I can't do it, I feel really sick really quickly. I guess it's a combination of the weight of all the baby gubbins pressing on everything else and the vein thing.

Belgian - re Zafiras. Anecdotes aren't great, I know, but my mum and dad have just got their third Zafira (replace them every 3 years), they really rate them. No electrical or otherwise problems.

Fi - fingers crossed for good house news.

flippineck You're probably right about you feeling sick being caused by the vein. Thanks for sharing your parents' experiences with Zafiras. When I mentioned it to my dh he seems to think he's heard about it. If we buy via network q we'd have a 1 year warranty included anyway, so any problems and they'd have to take it straight back. I never had any problems with my corsa and my parents have had Vauxhalls (Opels) for 20 years and never had any problems, so I do trust them really, but it wouldn't hurt finding out how common it is.

Anyway. Off to bed now, I'm falling asleep as I'm writing this.