Due April 2009: Episode 16 - BB's magical cervix dust prevents birthing. But Barbarellys Babies are here !

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here, that was close

owowowowowo!!! I have the worst headache.

My friend is coming round tonight and

1. The house is so messy
2. There is so much washing up to be done
3. There are wet nappies all over the house
4. I have nothing for dinner
5. I DONT WANT TO SEE ANYONE!

Someone please take all these issues away from me...

the weather was bad. the midwife we saw at our booking in appointment said that april is giong to be a busy month!!

i checked a couple other ante natal threads and they're all pretty big. i guess we just chat a lot!!

I've knocked up a birth plan based on various templates found on internet. Tried to do something functional enough for people to be able to find relevant bits of info quickly, so have tabulated it all and put in lots of headings, but have seen lots written out in prose, IYSWIM.

I thought if I had something to start with, we could then go through and make changes. I've put lots of info in, but I don't feel that strongly about some bits, so willing to be flexible.

Think our routine appts are only 15 mins, usually long enough to dip urine, check BP, squeeze and listen to bump and not a whole lot else. But as I've been very straightforwards and speedy so far, I may take the luxury of becoming a bit more demanding in these late stages.

BB, you're very pregnant, what can she possibly expect of you?

Take some paracetamol & get out some takeaway menus.

BB - call your friend and tell her you aren't feeling up to it. then go lie down.

Bleu - if it's any help nobody was really that bothered about my birthplan for DD until I actually went in to hospital in labour. And even then some of them read it in more detail than others.

Really recommend keeping it to very plain English, written in bullet points so that a busy midwife dealing with several labouring mums simultaneously can quickly scan it.

Most important thing is that your birth partner (DH?) knows exactly what your preferred options are so that he can speak up on your behalf. I really went into myself and didn't want to speak to anyone so relied on DH to do the talking.

Purple I did that last night and rearranged for tonight!

Poor BB I so empathise. DH ex girlfriend has invited herself over next weekend to stay... not looking forward to it at all...

BB - ignore messy house and washing-up. Cancel friend (they will understand). Nappies will dry. Dinner is whatever you find in the cupboard. Nutella, tin of beans, frozen chips etc. Protein, roughage, Vit C, calcium - above meal is nutritionally balanced.

Afternoon all, thanks for the welcomes . LuLuBai, and Swalisan slightly of your husbands ironing prowess

oooh I am so tempted but she goes on holiday tomorrow so would feel too bad - however she will have to cope with the messy house - I will just close the kitchen door and make sure she doesn't go in there (will throw the nappies in the wash basket and put them out again once she has gone!!!)

BB - roll that forward a couple of months and you will be adding

6: I have a screaming baby who hasn't let me have any sleep, let alone a shower in the last 24 hours and I have no clothes to wear without baby vomit on them.

You need to be prepared for lots of visitors in the first few weeks. Really hectic.

As for roles in this house:

Rubbish: Blue
Washing: Pink
Ironing: Blue / Pink
Cleaning: pink
Banking/forms etc: pink
DIY, painting, gardening etc etc: Blue.

Fairly traditional I guess!

Bleu at DH ex coming to stay.

You are a saint!!!

So my birth plan is/ can be:
I want it as natural as possible... I'd like to avoid drugs/meds as much as possible unless it is better for me or the baby to receive them...
???
I do not know what else to say really

just say that you'd rather have a drug free birth but are keeping an open mind.

BB, you have EVRY right to cancel. I only just made it through a MIL visit and I'm not sick.
Bleuravin, having ANYONE over for the WE at 8 months pregnant is a bloody big ask. But DH's ex girlfriend????????? Completely above and beyond any conceivable measure of duty or goodwill. Bloody Hell!!!!!

Bleu, say if you want to be encouraged to try active birthing positions / if you want to try the pool / you'll be using TENS, etc.

That's pretty much it. NCT teacher advised also to think about what if things don't go according to plan A e.g. if I end up in hospital having a ventouse I would like...blah blah. I would like baby delivered straight onto my chest, i would like to attempt to feed straightaway, DH wants to cut cord etc.

Bleu - a few more things to think about:

Do you want to be given the opportunity to move around? Do you want the option of a birthing pool if available (or any other kit - e.g. birthing balls). Would you like gas & air or really nothing? Do you want a natural third stage? Do you want to tear naturally or have an episiotomy? Do you want baby to be given vitamin K injection.

Ah LuLu, that is something I have already thought of and all non-immediate family members apart 2 very close friends will not be seeing LO for at least 10 -14 days. I have given people strict instructions about who is an isn't allowed at the hospital when I am there (unless there are any long-term complications) and who can and cannot visit in the first week!!! I know it will annoy people but I also know what I am like when I am tired and grouchy so will be worth it in the end!

I was going to say that about the ex girlfriend, but then remembered that Boffin told a story a while ago about having a semi-naked ex girlfriend of her DH in the back of their car, so I thought it might just be me

Having said that, one of mine & DH's best friends is technically my ex, so I can't really talk.

Right.

As for DH's ex... talks one's ear off until you've agreed to things before you realise because you start responding uhuh, yep, yes, yes, yes, uhuh...
She's not horrible just a bit talkative which means one cannot get much in edgewise...but I told her I'm not running up and down the steps; she'll have to get her own refreshments...

BB, I'm almost tempted to turn up at your hospital the day you give birth, just to wave cheerily & ask really irritating questions to see how long it takes you to go mental & start throwing things at me

Yeah - it's hard but worth fending people off if you feel you need to. I really didn't want anyone around. And overexhausted myself feeling that I had to.

This time I will be more ruthless. (Must remember to discuss this with DH actually - we set something of a precedent last time by taking DD on a grand tour of all her great grandmothers when she was 5 days old - I don't want to do it again!)