Due May 2009 - There's a bun in my oven and it's making me HOT! HOT! HOT!

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Shiny new thread already!

pulapula I work for local government and the same decision was made not to backfill my post. We have vacancy freezes too, and I remember the "good old days" when even sickness cover was found. I think it will be quite unusual in local government for maternity cover to be recruited unless it is a front line post. I guess my SMP rebate will be going towards paying for the enhanced maternity pay that we get.

re: panic attacks. I've never had one of those, but I do get just random anxiety about things every so often (a breech baby is my current fear) and have to consciously tell myself I'm being silly and that x or y is unlikely to happen. I suppose it's all part of being pregnant, after all it's a big life event that turns all our worlds upside down. Men, I think, don't always understand that. The real change for them happens once baby is there.

re leg cramps: Like Polony said. Stretching your calves by pulling your foot towards your shin BEFORE going to bed and doing the same during a cramp also helps and I've heard that keeping a potato in bed by your legs helps as well. Maybe it's the same principle behind it like sausagenmash's parents method. It would give your legs a bit of a massage while sleeping, wouldn't it?

pula one of my friend has 4 boys. No3 and 4 were attempts at creating a girl. Whenever she comes over it's like a hurricane hit the house, 4 of them play fighting. I don't know how she copes. I would go mad!

No time to post properly but hi everyone. Did you know we are over half way through the thread already!!!

Ye gods. 4 boys! I'll have 2 boys, not sure I'm brave enough to risk a 3rd!

Hi everyone, hope you're all ok today - another Monday at work over, hurrah. Have been interviewing for my replacement today (more to do tomorrow and Weds) and am shattered as a result, although from what everyone is saying on here, I'm lucky to have a replacement at all. MsG I don't have children either and I know exactly how you feel. The last week I've been exhausted all the time, rubbish! Do have a new mattress on order though so fingers crossed I might have a few weeks of decent sleep before that becomes just a memory.

I've been getting leg cramps recently too but was prone before pregnancy anyway so had dismissed it... but have also had a real need for bananas, milk and chocolate. Excellent, clearly there is a medical imperative for my chocolate butttons habit.

Phoned for my 28 week blood results last week and the surgery said the doctor needed to call me because of the abnormal white blood cell count... I had a small panic and frantically checked t'interweb, phoned DH and bit my nails to the quick, then an hour later the surgery called me back 'Oooops' they said, 'the doctor apologises, he forgot you were pregnant when he was checking your results and for a pregnant lady they're fine....'. I mean, he forgot I was pregnant?! Why did he think I was having the bloods? For a laugh?!

Matthewandbumpsmummy, hope you're feeling a little bit better, must have been a relief to have a long chat with your other half at least. I can't add any more to the advice everyone has provided except to say I'm sorry you're feeling so sad.

Anyway, enough of me and my ramblings for the time being!

Hi all - not been on for a few days and you've all been speed chatting. Not got time at mo to catch up properly but will do soon - can't believe how time is flying. Have finalised lists for hosp and labour bag, plus bits and bobs for my new blue addition. I want a fitted wardrobe in the nursery but OBV the cheapest Ikea DIY option won't fit and I got very stressed trying to work it all out.

Matthewandbump just to echo what everyone has said and glad you are feeling chirpier for having spoken to DH and shared your troubles on here. I do agree with all that it would be good to chat with your MW as well tho just to be sure. I think without exception that everyone has crappy days, I'm awful when tired (today as DD up 3 times in night and then awake for the day at 5.20am urghhh) I panic like crazy as to how I'll cope with 2 - esp after long tiring nights/days with a toddler. You're not alone hun - open up on here its what its for! x

DD got a rash on back and tummy and been super clingy, whingey all day. Hmmm what now I wonder?? She's also cutting a back tooth, poor tiddler

Sold my Quinny but it went to a good new home and think they were delighted with it. So can pay 50% off my double now!!

Long rambling post - sorry girls

Hi there, am home alone with ds as dh is away on a course. He's been telling me about all the lovely food he's been having and is now off to the pub ! I on the other hand am also shattered. I've not been sleeping well and my spd's been playing me up.

Thanks for the link to Potassium rich foods. I had really bad cramp the other night, so have started eating apricots - I normally hate them!!

I had a session with a physio at the end of last week and the advice she gave me along with a very attractive tubigrip was to sleep on top of a duvet and to wear satin shorts so it makes it easier to turn over in the night . I've just changed my bedding and now the bed looks like something out of princess and the pea!! The tubigrip is really uncomfortable to wear, it keeps rolling down and I have to start fishing around to sort it out. Made the mistake of forgetting where I was on the ward this morning when I did this

Matthewandbumpsmum sorry to hear you are feeling so down - I hope you get the support you need. Nearly every day now I wonder how I am going to cope with 2 lo's. I have very little patience as well.

Pulapula - I haven't forgotten about the pushchair - its on my list of things to think about!!

Is anyone else getting totally narked with all the comments about their size? People at work just keep harping on about how big I am. I had a small choc biscuit the other day to snack on as I was feeling light headed and nauseous and was told it I was going to have another 10lber

Anyhow I have waffled enough now - I'm going to try and get an early night...

Hi daisydoo- my friend says she thinks she'll put the pushchair on ebay but i said you might be interested, and she's not in a rush. If you decide you're not interested, just let me know so she doesn't keep waiting. But if you're still unsure, then no rush.

HI all, i'm tring to make more of an effort to post instead of just reading! I feel huge, i don't think it's possible to carry this baby for another 11 weeks....where will it go?! I don't think there's any room left. I'm sure i wasn't this big last time. I'm waddling, huffing and puffing when i get up, i feel like a stereo-typical pregnant lady.
momino - know what you mean about anxiety. I have this fear of something bad happening to my DH, DD or me. It's completely irrational and i get really anxious and tearful but i can't help the thoughts i have. I had them with PND but they have returned on and off during pg, they always coincide with down days.
matthewsandbumpsmummy - I really relate to a lot of what you said. Parts of it could've been me who you were talking about. I'm worried about coping with 2, i haven't enjoyed this pg, i feel really down and tearful beyond belief some days, my DD is nearly 2 and like you said my patience can be really low and i dread the thought of having her all day and all night if DH is working away.I don't always feel like this but when i do it really shocks me how low and out of control i can feel. I think i've resided myself to being like this (on and off) until the baby is born. Just hoping my PND doesn't return afterwards but i've seen a counsellor a few times and we're coming up with strategies for this. The advice everyone has given is exactly what i'd say. Remember you won't always feel like this, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Keep talking about it, try and have strategies to keep yourself busy and try and give yourself 'you' time (easier said than done i know). I think there's a lot of pressure on pg women, we're bombarded with images and stories of what a fabulous time it is, and i really don't think it is for all. I don't think all women are very honest about how they feel during pg and the early days with a newborn. It's sad we're like this and what's so refreshing about this thread is the honesty of women who've been through things like this or are having those thoughts. It makes me feel a lot more reassured.

Pula - Ds has started saying wee when he needs one so we were wondering about starting potty training. He went without a nappy for 10 minutes this morning and knew when he needed a poo and panicked because he didn't have have nappy on. He wouldn't sit on the potty ( and I don't blame him his sister had just that minute vacated it, splash back n all ewww) and so dh had to clean the (luckily stone) floor this morning.

Pulapula - sorry I haven't got back to you re the pushchair - I just need to think things through properly - just haven't had time. Will let you know soon. If your friend wants to put it on ebay that's fine as I know I'm dithering!

Have also realised that I need a swimming costume for when we go away next week and think I've left it too late for ebay! Oh well - will have to let dh do the honours!

Right I really am going to bed now...

Jenn sounds like your lo might be ready. How about one of those seats for on top of the toilet. My dd liked that, it made her feel secure and no queueing for the potty!

Daizy The tubigrip does work wonders. I think you'll feel it better tomorrow, once you've worn it from the morning. Make sure it's right underneath your boobs (if it's like what I've got). That way it wont slide down, though I do have it going up at my hips when sitting, which digs into my bladder and makes my baby angry. I'm always adjusting it too, but at the bottom. I've started to get good at it without putting my hands down my trousers I never heard about the sleeping on top of the duvet thing, but I have heard about sleeping in satin PJ's, it helps you slide you see. I generally just go and sit up and use my hands to lift my bottom and then swivel my hips around. I'm too hot now for PJ's anyway!

We have one of those seats, but the problem is the toilet is a LONG way from the kitchen. We don't have a downstairs loo and I aint carrying them! Wee is one of the few words he does say and he's only 20 months. I'll see how it goes though. Dd is now dry pretty much at night.

My fella came home last night with a bottle of gorgeous Agent Provocateur perfume for me. How lovely is that??

matthewandbumpsmummy - i just wanted to say hi and that things are moving in the right direction - you have reached out on this thread and spoken with your DH - all good.

You are not alone in what you feel - exhaustion, feeling low about the pregnancy and impending birth /arrival of baby, and lack of patience / not feeling you can cope with the kiddies you already have - I feel all of those frequently - a bit of a come down from the excitement of the first pregnancy. But - I hope it will be a temporary state of mind and things look and feel more positive soon!

Hello all - just quickly checking in, it's such a high speed thread I can't keep up!

matthewandbumpsmummy everyone is right about how normal it is to feel like that sometimes, and for a good 2-3 months until very recently I could have written your post almost every day. It has made such a difference to me to speak to dh and the doctor and talk about it on here, in a way I feel silly that it's been such a simple thing that helps so much. I'm glad you're feeling a bit better and I really hope you get the help and support you need.

Can't remember who said it but I'm currently also feeling terrified at being at home with a toddler, having spent the past year wishing I wasn't working full time. You can't win! I'm sure there's no need to panic really... and at least I don't have 4 boys , I'm very impressed with anyone who can cope with that!

Must get hold of some bananas and dried apricots - in fact you are all making me crave fruit! This has been happening for the last week so obviously I haven't been eating enough fresh stuff - sods law though, the only thing I have in my office right now is a packet of chocolate biscuits which are not appealing to me at all. Anyone want them?

grrr italics - can't get the hang of formatting things. The choc biscuits don't appeal at all! At least I managed to get a smiley right first time though.

divedaisy

If I was to chew on any sponges from this house, I would fart sparkles (DD2 has covered everyone and everything with purple sparkles from a Lush bubble bar thing). Come to think of it, I could put on some sort of show with it.....

I hope everyone is feeling good today and no-one is putting up with 10lb baby comments or 'oooh you're big', etc. Or, of course, 'you're very small'. My bump has suddenly exploded in the last couple of weeks, now high up and rock solid.

I measured 28 (cm?) at 28 weeks, so look spot on. Dearest, darlingest DH was a freakshow giant baby so always frightened that LO will take after him, however, 2 babies already = elastic fanjo

Grumpy at elastic fanjo. Or maybe . Or perhaps , in case dc2 is a total bruiser and ruins all the care dd took with mine last time round...

Hi everyone

DS is wearing me out at the moment... if he's not waking up in the night he's up before it's daylight! This morning he woke up as DH was getting ready for work and pottered through to our bedroom at 5.30am. We took him back to his bedroom after a quick cuddle. DH left fOR work at 6am and he Was back through to me at 6.20am. At 6.50am i gave up trying to get him back to sleep, popped milkshake on channel 5 on in our bedroom and dozed for half an hour until i felt awake enough to move! He did at least sleep through last night so i got a straight run of sleep from 11pm (when my vbac natal hypnotherapy cd finished) till he came through... must try and get to bed a bit earlier tonight if this is going to continue though.

It's now a grotty rainy/strong winds afternoon... so looks like we'll be in for the rest of the day. At least we were out pretty much all morning at our local playgroup so he's had a lot of exercise

daisy This morning i got a lot of oooo when are you due? it's not long now is it? wow your bump has shot out! with surprised reactions when i told them.. err not due till middle of may! It started to wear a bit thin after a while. At my 28wk MW app last wk I measured 29cms & not due back to MW for another 2wks so will be interesting to see if i'm suddenly expanding off the charts

dandy since having DS i have made friends with a lot of fellow mums with DS's of about the same age... I can tell you that there is just as much variety in personalities of DS's as there prob are for DD's. There are the boisterous ones who show no fear and are like mini stunt men, there are also the quiet take it all in first and explore everything in detail ones etc. Mostly the DS's seem to be fairy similar in personality to either the mums or dads. My DS has times he jumps and bounces on everything and lands everywhere. But mostly he is a see how it ticks kinda boy... loves to dismantle things to see how they work & very calm and chilled out (like me & DH)... not into bashing stuff/rough play fighting etc. So i'm sure your DS will follow your character traits . I'm just wondering if our DD is going to be as chilled out as DS! only time will tell

Hello!!

Just been told about this site, and I love it. I've just found this 'club' and would love to jump on board - if you'll have me!!

Due 29th May, one dd and a rather lovely dh. One previous mc. Midwife wants to start me early - well, at least have a 'fiddle' to hopefully get things going (will get dh to have a go too, much nicer thought than my heavy handed midwife!). Grace was 9lbs 15oz, and I had a failed induction and cs, she was 10 days late. Hoping for vag birth this time round. Fingers crossed!

eeeek!!!

Afternoon all

Welcome flooziesusie

Went to work today at 7 but didn't have much to do so decided to book the afternoon off. I have to use up some holiday before I go on ML anyway and as my boss still owes me 9 weeks wages I really didn't want to be there.
Was in the local swimming pool by 11.30, managed to do 40 lengths so came out quite pleased with myself - have now blown it by having lunch followed by a cup of tea with THREE chocolate biscuits

Just hoping the extra exercise will help me sleep tonight - really struggling at the moment, baby very active and I just can't get comfortable.

Hi flooziesusie glad you can join us. There is a list of all of us somewhere a few pages back... feel free to add yourself on or if you're not sure how just shout and one of us will do it for you

looby I think your 40 lengths more than outweigh your 3 choc biscuits... now maybe if you'd finished the packet you might have undone all your good work!