Due April 2009 - Episode 14: Fanjo Warriors attempt to be "clean" during this thread?? NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN!!!

[PuzzleRocks]

And so it continues...

Mar
29 Mar : WhatFreshHell, DS 2.4 born on Easter Sunday
30 Mar : BabyBolat: 1st timer

Apr
01 Apr : Rachelinscotland: DD 3 years, and DS 2 years in March
01 Apr : Chickenbalti: DS 4 years DD 17 months
02 Apr : BoffinMum: BOY! dd(21) ds(10) ds(7)
02 Apr : MathsMummy27: GIRL! DD 3 years
03 Apr : skiingone: DC1
03 Apr : purlease: 1 m/c, 1 DD 3 years
03 Apr : Kalikaroo: SURPRISE! (28), 1st timer, lives in Scandinavia (but too shy to say where!)
04 Apr : Bleuravin
04 Apr : Bumpalump
04 Apr : babypringle: 1 DS 2yrs 1 month
06 Apr : ToastnHoney: first timer
06 Apr : Mummyontherun: DD 22 months
07 Apr : Picklelala
08 Apr : LuLuBai: 1 DD born 02 Apr 07
09 Apr : Oddeyes (30): GIRL! DS 17 mths, 1 mc. London
09 Apr : Barbarella: 1st timer, TRIPLETS
10 Apr : hopeful1
11 Apr : mrsfossil: 1 DS 6.5
11 Apr : Bubbaluv: 1 DS 1yo
11 Apr : SpringySunshine: BOY! 1st timer.
12 Apr : Brettgirl, 1st timer
12 Apr : Mumblemumhome4lunch (37, Swindon): DS will be 4 on 11th April, DD 2yrs and 1month
13 Apr : Dungungirl(30): BOY! 1 m/c, DS 4 years
14 Apr : AuldAlliance: DS3.8 BOY!
15 Apr : claireykitten: GIRL! DS 12 months
15 Apr : electra
15 Apr : Sarahmum: DS 10yrs
16 Apr : tristaleejac(25): 1 ds, 3 years
17 Apr : Surprisenumber3(32): DS1 9 DSS 9 DS2 5 GIRL!
18 Apr : gingersarah: 1st baby
18 Apr : salbysea: (28) 1st timer
19 Apr : Kittycatisgettingfat (29) 1st timer
21 Apr : B52s: DS will be 2 and a quarter
21 Apr : Staryeyed
21 Apr : Schulte
22 Apr : PuzzleRocks: DD 21mths GIRL!
22 Apr : soon2befamilyof4 DD 13 months.
24 Apr : conkertree (27): DS 17 months
24 Apr : Bronze (Gawain) - 4th DC
24 Apr : Frekkles
25 Apr : Swaliswan: DD 17 months
27 Apr : Bicnod
27 Apr : Carameli
27 Apr : ilovesummer 3rd dc
27 Apr : purplemonkeydishwasher DS 3yo
30 Apr : Nutty Taff (27) DD nearly 5 GIRL!

xposts!

great minds though

can you imagine the small ads

lion for hire

lol we have a shortage of gazzeles to shoot for food in britain though

could always feed it unwanted mil's i suppose

i can see it now a pregnant bb wearing a deer stalker, big gun out hunting for deer and such

Ah, the ring-tailed lemur. Definitely cuter than it's monstrous cousin the aye-aye with their satanic claws.

here

the bit that looks like a stick going into the egg is actually it's central digit

and here

Aaarrgh - help - what do I need to do to see Springy's photos? I don't understand how Facebook works! Do I need to be connected to her as a friend???

imagine having to clear this up lol

or this

Aye Ayes are v strange!!

Schulte - yep if you send a friend request you should be able to see them when she accepts

Hi Schulte, where have you been? Are you joining our buddy system?

Sorry been quiet, had a lovely day with DD and DH just fooling around the house, putting a tent up to play in, letting her dress up in my (cheap) jewellery etc. I think I'll stay out of the buddy system if that's okay - last time the first thing I did when I got home from hospital was to go online and email everyone so I don't think it will be different this time - I want to tell you my news myself

Okay lots of catching up to do still...

Thats fine Schulte, thanks for letting us know

Well Springy! Welcome to the world of MILs! Mine was a bit sour at our wedding too, for no particular reason other than she hadn't really been involved much in the planning. And had probably hoped for a full-blown church wedding near where they live rather than a registry office affair in Surrey. She's perfectly nice though and she did get over it so fingers crossed yours will too.

Booked a massage today for the first day of my maternity leave, can't wait now.

Did everyone else have a nice weekend?

I go away for a couple of hours and I come back to lion poo!!! I could pull off a deer stalker tho !!

Smutty, yes 4 girls who are now enjoying £300 of my make up! We found some of it in one of their bags but had no proof they put it in there and I didn't want the police out on my wedding day so just made them leave and didn't pay for the last couple of hours of their set!

DH bag???!! I'll let him organise that if he wants one!!

Hello all, popping in to say hi, have my brother staying at the moment so not much time to surf t'internet you know

tristaleejac - really sorry to hear of your housing and mother difficulties. I don't have anything useful to say but sending you lots of virtual hugs and support {}{}{}{}{}{}{}

Springy - congratulations on being a married lady!!!! very exciting to have weddings as well as baby talk on here.

electra - sorry to hear of the worries about your baby, fingers crossed that your baby hangs on and grows enough to stay in. will be thinking of you lots.

I won't be buddying if that's ok, I'm bad enough at keeping up with the thread so I'll just pop in and let you know when something happens. Should also update my due date, last scan put it forward again to 27 March. (I'm less and less entitled to be here, aren't I? ) What with that and the baby being a big 'un, I'm not sure when it's going to put in an appearance. It seems to have dropped quite a lot already, yikes.

Top tip for hospital bags I got from my doula last time round - flannels, for mopping of brows, and also a jar of honey, if you like it. It's a great way to get some calories in when you're getting tired, and doesn't require chewing - mouths can get quite dry which makes anything more solid a challenge. I remember DP spooning it into my mouth last time round, was very nice. Also bring your own pillow, can be very nice and they're often in short supply for some reason!

Got to go to bed now, completely knackered - have peaceful nights, all

IIIII HAVVVVVE JUUUUUST HAAAAAD A PG TAAAANTRUM. IIIIIII AAAAAM VVVVVERRRRY CRROOOOOOSSSSS.

AP complained the oven was smoking choking fat and she couldn't use it. This is because she never wipes it out after using it, lazy trollop.

So thoughtful person that I am, not wanting her to feel exploited or anything like that, I paid Ovenu £120 to overhaul the oven, hob and extractor fan so we could all start from fresh. This was while I was in hospital. So she was basically presented with a new oven, in cleanliness terms.

I have just looked at it a month later, and found the door was filthy, so started wiping it despite SPD. I then looked inside and found the entire thing was encrusted in baked on charred fat, and there was also a baking tray in there with old encrusted food on it. Plus the teflon sheet from Lakeland I put in the bottom had so much fat and general crap spilt on it that I could hardly peel it away from the oven floor.

I then felt obliged to get out my Lakeland cleaning chemicals and rubber gloves and had to put chemicals all over it, and give it a scrub. THIS HURT ME!! It was so bad I need to leave the chemicals overnight and rinse them all off tomorrow, and also buy nylon pan scrubs and basically overhaul the whole thing again.

THIS IS WHY I PAID ALL THAT MONEY FOR SOMEONE TO COME IN TO DO IT FOR ME WHILE I WAS IN HOSPITAL!!! SO I WOULDN'T HAVE TO BLOODY DO IT MYSELF!!! I HAVEN'T EVEN SODDING WELL BEEN ABLE TO COOK ANYTHING IN THERE!!! AND I LOVE COOKING!!!!

DH has offered to finish it off but this basically means an hour or two of scrubbing before he collapses into bed before getting up at 6.30 for another gruelling week.

I am absolutely fed up. How hard can it be to clean up after yourself a bit????

PLUS
I am now in DH's bad books for having a tantrum. He says, and I quite, how obliging and helpful she is. Well as I explained to her the need to clean up after cooking, clearly this is not the case.

WhatFreshHell - nice to hear from you thanks for letting us know

BOffin - should have made her clean it and make her pay you the £120 she essentially made you waste!!!!!

then sack her. seriously you should. or dock her pay until her work standards are raised.

a) all she does is cause you greif
b) she has caused you considerable pain and stress (which you so do not have to deal with right now)
c) she does not do her job and is lazy (and the cheeky moo gets paid for it)
d) it's just unhygenic to leave an oven that way when cooking for kids and a pg lady!?!
e) she complained about the oven and then proceeds to wreak it WTF?!?

Plus your dh does not have to put up with her all the time.

did you manage to speak to her in the end, when you were unhappy last time?

I am apparently the demon now. She heard me making a fuss and is now crying in her room. DH told me off and said he never knew you had to wipe out ovens after using them, so how could she be expected to know. This beggars belief IMO. I then said I thought taking 8 hours to do 2 hours worth of ironing a week meant she was not able to keep on top of all these little day to day things and was always behind.

She hardly has to do any cleaning, but somehow she thinks the tidy fairy is going to come around after her and finish off all these jobs. I was that tidy fairy but I simply can't do it now.

I had a chat to her last week when DH was home because he saw her fiddling around taking forever to do relatively simple tasks, and also we were two weeks behind on clean clothes because of this (boys had no trousers and so on). I said to her if it was taking an hour for her to pair up 20 pairs of socks or 8 hours to do one basket of ironing then this was a problem, frankly, and she needed to get her act together because this was not what we were paying her for.

At risk of sounding like a spoilt middle class housewife I also have a cleaner who never does any tops of cupboards, never does the corners, never cleans the TV area or the fireplace area, never does the underneath of the sinks to get the soap splashes off, never does around the wc pan on the outside to get the muck off, despite me telling her over and over and over again, so I had got in the habit of finishing all this stuff off every weekend, thanking my lucky stars that at least I have some help that comes in regularly.

DH says I am too fussy domestically, but really I do not understand how this can be because surely a working oven and loos that don't smell go with the territory??

Sorry for long outraged post. I am so cross I am practically giving birth here.

If I sack her I have nobody to get the kids to school. Plus the kids and DH think she's so great.

Aww Boff that stinks! i think you have every right to have a major major tantrum!

Hello MRS Springy!! Congratualtions and glad that on the whole you had an amazing day and serious brownie points to your brand new DH for being on your side re the MIL stuff!!

I have come to the conclusion that on the whole hospitals are nigh on useless when it comes to supporting new mums and particularlly supporting the choice of breastfeeding. We have just been to visit friends today who had thier little boy by CS 2 weeks ago, as he was 3 weeks early he ended up in SCBU fro a week but his mum was determined she wanted to breastfeed and was going down whenever they sent for her. To cut a longish story shorter she was starting to get really upset as he didnt seem to be showing any interest and wasnt feeding, eventually she found out the reason for this was the midwives in SCBU were giving him a bottle of formula 1 hour before sending for her to breastfeed him and had never told her they were going to do this!

tell her to put in an official complaint. I kicked off something cronic when I got a phonecall to say they had had to give my dd formula as I hadn't left any ebm. There was a freezer drawer full. I didn't make it official but I made it clear I wasn't happy to eh nurses boss.
I'm not sure what the legalities of what they were doing are? Does she not read his notes?

Boffin - she sounds like shes playing the innocent little girl card tbh and its not on.
she's 20 FFS not 12. Your dd is a similar age and i'm guessing she knows how to do these tasks in half the time, perhaps ask her if you are being unreasonable and get her view?

If she can complain about not being able to use an oven due to fat smoke then she bloody well knows that the fat has to be removed to avoid smoking. an hour to pair up 20 socks!!! thats outrageous!!! she has your handbook what more does the girl want?? appart from the obvious which is someone else to do it.

could you not swap her for a ante-natal doula? they look after the children too dont they?