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Due August '09 part 2 - 'Bring on the bumps- we're not fat we're pregnant!'

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HeinzSight · 08/02/2009 21:21

Thought I'd better get our shiny new thread up and running. New title courtesy of BumpBLump

part 3 thread title is bagsy(ed) by kitkatqueen, 'Its the second trimester!! - Does my bump look big in this???'

here's a link to our old thread.

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LittleFairySmile · 19/02/2009 20:20

readyfornumber2and3 I'd be up for the NEC baby show - when is it?

olivo you know, a lot of people think nappy choice is all or nothing, but I know many people do actually use both part-time. On occasion we use disposables, after all they are convenient!

trixymalixy · 19/02/2009 20:36

To join the cloth nappy debate, I really liked bambinex(or whatever they're called now, think they might have changed) and motherease one size. I hated tots bots and wasn't overly keen on little lambs.

i have to admit that i gave up on them when i started weaning DS as our washing mountain was big enough as it was.

I might go back to them with DC2 as we are going to be sooooo skint whle I'm on maternity leave. I'm starting to get quite worried about quite how skint we'll be .

LittleFairySmile · 19/02/2009 21:01

trixymalixy as cloth is cheaper than disposables that might help, especially if you have some nappies left from DS. Did you ever wash nappies in with your other washing? That would help with the washing pile.

trixymalixy · 19/02/2009 21:32

littlefairysmile I have enough nappies to not have to buy any more.

I wasn't precious about not washing nappies in with other clothes, it's just when weaning DS he pretty much had to have a change of clothes after every meal so I just couldn't keep up with the washing and as he didn't sleep until he was 18 months old (severe allergies), I was just knackered and disposables seemed less hassle.

I'm hoping with Dc2 that now we know about the allergy issue we can cope better if DC2 has allergies and deal with it quicker so the sleep is better. (please god!!!)

LittleFairySmile · 19/02/2009 21:40

trixymalixy I totally understand turning to disposables. I would have too under those circumstances I'm sure. It's always so much worse when you are knackered!

My DS made loads of mess when eating, so I used to keep one (very dirty top by the end of the day) long sleeved t-shirt and put it on him for every meal. It meant most of his clothes were saved, and kept washing down. Bibs were no good, he always managed to get food down the side and under them! And, if I'm honest, sometimes I used the same top two days in a row.

trixymalixy · 19/02/2009 21:55

Ooh, that's a good idea about the long sleeved top!! Thanks for that.

I nearly resorted to buying a little eater suit for him, but thought it might be a bit over the top !!!!

LittleFairySmile · 19/02/2009 22:06

Well, would save trousers too! And not OTT if it works. Saves washing and, more importantly, your sanity! I can see it for severe allergies!

sarah76 · 19/02/2009 23:00

Hi, can I join you? First pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 7wks in September, but despite the PCOS I got pregnant again quickly and am due 25th August. I thought about coming here earlier, but was avoiding until I was sure this one was sticking around. Three ultrasounds later, I think I'm finally convinced.

ScummyMummy · 19/02/2009 23:49

Hi Sarah. Welcome and congratulations.

BabyBump2B · 20/02/2009 00:53

Hi Sarah & welcome!

Well I had my mid-wife appointment today and all is fine with Bun. Good heartbeat which was brilliant as with the week we've had I was convinced there wasn't going to be one!

Our really love our midwives and each visit just reassures me. They're sending me for a consult with an anethesiologist (sp?) as I need to be closely monitored with local anethsetic and have been known to go into shock. But aside from that just great to know everything's going well.

Book the 20 week scan for March 25 - quite nervous we we really want to be able to find out what it is!

readyfornumber2and3 · 20/02/2009 04:35

LittleFairySmile Its 15th-17th may, They have a website www.thebabyshow.co.uk which tells you about tickts and how to book,never been before but looks good.

Welcome Sarah76 and congratulations x, glad things are going well and hope you enjoy these next few month
Is this your first?

BabybumpB Glad mw went well, its always good to hear the heartbeat
Not long till the big scan now (cant wait for ours as really want to know sex aswell lol)

Olivo Good luck for your scan always lovely seeing them for the first time

valz · 20/02/2009 10:04

Hi ready i live in north of ireland, my care does seem alot different, although earlier in my pregnancy i had early scans because of bleeding and i thought i was getting great care compared to some ladies on other threads i was on, so i suppose i thought it would follow through. It could be the difference in the care in the EPU and the ante natel department because there was a world of difference in the midwives i saw.

Congrats Sarah, its great the relief that comes when you reach 3 months

OonaghBhuna · 20/02/2009 13:34

Valz whereabouts are you. I live in good old Bangor!

Welcome Sarah, glad things are going well.

kitkatqueen · 20/02/2009 14:34

Hi Sarah76 Congratulations!!! and Welcome - have added you to the list!!

Clare1234 EDD ?????
Skydancer EDD 27th July
2HotCrossBunsAnd1InTheOven EDD 28th July (DS 3.7 DS 1.9)
pussface EDD 29th July (DSS 14, DD 6mo)
Uki EDD 29th July (DS3,DS1)
Nandos EDD 31st July
Hope88 EDD 1st Aug
BumpVLump EDD 1st Aug (first)
Cheekymonkey EDD 1st August (DS
Specialoffer EDD 2nd Aug (DS16m)
nellyup EDD 2nd aug (DD3, DS4)
trixymalixy EDD 2nd Aug (DS 2)
faerieprincess EDD 3rd Aug (DS20m)
gemdangracie EDD 3rd Aug (DD2)
itsamiracle EDD 3rd Aug (DS2)
babylanguagelearner EDD 3rd Aug (DS 12m)
Rachel1963 EDD 3rd Aug (DS 3.1)
Oonaghbhuna EDD 3rd August (DD1 3.6,DD2,2)
Mellin EDD 3rd August (DD 2.4)
LeninGrad EDD 4th Aug (DS 2.9)
Cairns EDD 4th Aug (DS 18m)
moosecat1 EDD 4th Aug
hippyme EDD 4th Aug
Zorra EDD 4th Aug
TaleofTwoCities EDD 6th Aug (DS4,DD2.1)
nuttygirl EDD 6th Aug
noodle12 EDD 6th Aug (DD 2.5)
PPorgy EDD 6th Aug
Scummymummy EDD 6th Aug
fairylights EDD 7th Aug (DS2)
Mayl EDD 7th Aug (DD DS)
lifesaboxochoccies EDD 7th Aug (ds 2.10)
cakesandchocolate EDD 8th Aug
MammaDani EDD 8th Aug
Hunnybunnyaug09 EDD 8th Aug ( first)
BabyBump2B EDD 9th Aug
sweetiewrapper EDD 10th Aug
LittleFairySmile EDD 11th Aug (DS age 2)
Lyra75 EDD 11th Aug (DS 16 months)
monkeyfeathers EDD 11th August (DS 8)
hencath EDD 12th Aug (first)
fairygirl3 EDD 12th Aug (DS, DS, DD)a
Kanuck EDD 12th Aug
Rozebud EDD 12th Aug
Fruitymum EDD 13th Aug DD1 3yrs old
Cazinski EDD 13th Aug
suwoodolf EDD 13th Aug (DD 7, DS 2)
Heinzsight EDD 13th Aug (DS1 12, DS2 9, DD 15 months)
Boogiewoo EDD 13th Aug
babycat EDD 14th Aug (DD)
Picante EDD 15th Aug (DD 2.7)
loopylou25 EDD 15th Aug (DD1 5 DD2 1)
Hawkmoth EDD 15th Aug (DD3)
chocolatine EDD 17th Aug
InspectorGadget EDD 17th Aug
mamamila EDD 17th Aug (DD)
KitKatqueen EDD 18th Aug (3 DC)
Valz EDD 18th Aug
ThePippy EDD 19th Aug
WeAreStardust EDD 19th Aug
Beetlesbugsandbutterflies EDD 19TH Aug(DS3)
Beccylt EDD 20th Aug (1 DC)
motherof2boys EDD 20th Aug (ds1 6 ds2 5 )
MichaelaS EDD 20 Aug
Cwtchy EDD 21st Aug (DD 15 mos)
thoughtforms EDD 22nd Aug
Sushipaws EDD 22nd Aug (DD 21mo)
May67 EDD 24th Aug
chrysanthemum EDD 25th Aug
Sarah76 EDD 25th Aug
rightbobbydazzler EDD 25th Aug DS3 DS6mths
VJay EDD 26th Aug (DS 6)
olivo EDD 27th Aug (DD 2.4)
fustilarian EDD 27th Aug (DD 14mnths)
lea1980 EDD 27th aug (DS 17 months)
readyfornumber2and3 EDD 30th Aug (DS

kitkatqueen · 20/02/2009 15:12

Now that my housekeeping is out of the way( LOL!!)

I can believe the speed of this thread, i disapear for a day(ish) and there are just so many posts!

On the washables discussion I spend a fortune on washables for my 1st and was so determined to use nothing but - however my dd had really horiffic nappy rash whenever she was in washables, I ended up trying every liner/cream that I could get my hands on and didn't find anything that could help - at one point i was changing her hourly and she would still get raw. after 24hrs back in disposables she would be fine. after 6 months i threw in the nappy and gave up. Had the same prob with dd2 and ds. I would so love to use washables. It was suggested at the time that my children have a form of wet excema and this could have been the cause. So if any of you experts have an answer plllease tell me!!!

btw this is not at all intended to put anyone off trying washables - i know they normally stop the problems I have described and quite honestly they are so cute and environmentally friendly etc. As a washable panty liner and moon cup gal I have a guilt trip every time i chuck a disposable in the bin - even my breast pads are washable - so much nicer!

If anyone has any ideas on making the washables work with no4 please let me know

olivo · 20/02/2009 19:27

evening! finally got my scan today, 13 weeks exactly so will change myself on the list. all ok at this stage, the relief has finally hit me. nuchal measurement average i think, so double test in about 10 days.

has been a huge relief to tell our families today, now just got to tell the boss!

olivo · 20/02/2009 19:29

updated list:

Clare1234 EDD ?????
Skydancer EDD 27th July
2HotCrossBunsAnd1InTheOven EDD 28th July (DS 3.7 DS 1.9)
pussface EDD 29th July (DSS 14, DD 6mo)
Uki EDD 29th July (DS3,DS1)
Nandos EDD 31st July
Hope88 EDD 1st Aug
BumpVLump EDD 1st Aug (first)
Cheekymonkey EDD 1st August (DS
Specialoffer EDD 2nd Aug (DS16m)
nellyup EDD 2nd aug (DD3, DS4)
trixymalixy EDD 2nd Aug (DS 2)
faerieprincess EDD 3rd Aug (DS20m)
gemdangracie EDD 3rd Aug (DD2)
itsamiracle EDD 3rd Aug (DS2)
babylanguagelearner EDD 3rd Aug (DS 12m)
Rachel1963 EDD 3rd Aug (DS 3.1)
Oonaghbhuna EDD 3rd August (DD1 3.6,DD2,2)
Mellin EDD 3rd August (DD 2.4)
LeninGrad EDD 4th Aug (DS 2.9)
Cairns EDD 4th Aug (DS 18m)
moosecat1 EDD 4th Aug
hippyme EDD 4th Aug
Zorra EDD 4th Aug
TaleofTwoCities EDD 6th Aug (DS4,DD2.1)
nuttygirl EDD 6th Aug
noodle12 EDD 6th Aug (DD 2.5)
PPorgy EDD 6th Aug
Scummymummy EDD 6th Aug
fairylights EDD 7th Aug (DS2)
Mayl EDD 7th Aug (DD DS)
lifesaboxochoccies EDD 7th Aug (ds 2.10)
cakesandchocolate EDD 8th Aug
MammaDani EDD 8th Aug
Hunnybunnyaug09 EDD 8th Aug ( first)
BabyBump2B EDD 9th Aug
sweetiewrapper EDD 10th Aug
LittleFairySmile EDD 11th Aug (DS age 2)
Lyra75 EDD 11th Aug (DS 16 months)
monkeyfeathers EDD 11th August (DS 8)
hencath EDD 12th Aug (first)
fairygirl3 EDD 12th Aug (DS, DS, DD)a
Kanuck EDD 12th Aug
Rozebud EDD 12th Aug
Fruitymum EDD 13th Aug DD1 3yrs old
Cazinski EDD 13th Aug
suwoodolf EDD 13th Aug (DD 7, DS 2)
Heinzsight EDD 13th Aug (DS1 12, DS2 9, DD 15 months)
Boogiewoo EDD 13th Aug
babycat EDD 14th Aug (DD)
Picante EDD 15th Aug (DD 2.7)
loopylou25 EDD 15th Aug (DD1 5 DD2 1)
Hawkmoth EDD 15th Aug (DD3)
chocolatine EDD 17th Aug
InspectorGadget EDD 17th Aug
mamamila EDD 17th Aug (DD)
KitKatqueen EDD 18th Aug (3 DC)
Valz EDD 18th Aug
ThePippy EDD 19th Aug
WeAreStardust EDD 19th Aug
Beetlesbugsandbutterflies EDD 19TH Aug(DS3)
Beccylt EDD 20th Aug (1 DC)
motherof2boys EDD 20th Aug (ds1 6 ds2 5 )
MichaelaS EDD 20 Aug
Cwtchy EDD 21st Aug (DD 15 mos)
thoughtforms EDD 22nd Aug
Sushipaws EDD 22nd Aug (DD 21mo)
May67 EDD 24th Aug
chrysanthemum EDD 25th Aug
Sarah76 EDD 25th Aug
rightbobbydazzler EDD 25th Aug DS3 DS6mths
VJay EDD 26th Aug (DS 6)
fustilarian EDD 27th Aug (DD 14mnths)
lea1980 EDD 27th aug (DS 17 months)
olivo EDD 27th Aug (DD 2.6)
readyfornumber2and3 EDD 30th Aug (DS

nuttygirl · 20/02/2009 21:40

Roll on Sunday. Am sat hiding behind laptop. Have already resisted the urge to shove a sponge cake down mil's neck, shout, scream, walk out, make dh drive us home and I've only been here 10 hours (3 of those away from IL's). dd not settling and mil fussing. ARGH...wanna scream!

kitkatqueen · 20/02/2009 21:58

hey nuttygirl - Repeat after me!!!Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -Deep blue ocean -

Now repeat about another 300 times and you might be ok!!! Hope u survive the weekend!! Good luck!!!

ScummyMummy · 20/02/2009 22:06

oh no! poor you, nutty!

Glad the scan was a good 'un, olivo.

There are loads and loads of us due in August, aren't there?

sarah76 · 21/02/2009 01:15

Saw the midwife briefly today, what a miserable experience. I had my booking in a few weeks ago, and at that appointment the MW I saw said I should come back after my scan. So I dutifully scheduled my appointment, went there today, only to be told 'you didn't need to come' and she had no idea why I was there.

To make matters worse, I might as well confess that I am really suffering with antenatal depression. The GP has stuck me back on antidepressants (which I'd quit to get pregnant). I saw him yesterday (3rd time in a month) and he has no idea what to do with me. I have an appointment with the mental health people on Monday (after GP phoned them again and said it was urgent). . .but I don't have much hope that it will help. The last time I tried to get help from any mental health services was 4 or 5 years ago, and it was a complete disaster.

I'm off work, GP thankfully is calling it 'pregnancy complications' on the sick note, but my stupid boss has phoned twice this week and left messages. I hate talking to her-I've had such bad nausea for weeks and am barely eating anything (cyclazine not helping), and she acts like if I would just eat some ginger biscuits I would be completely fine. I wish I could just say 'I've had the fucking biscuits, and they make me retchnow fuck off until you can say something that doesn't trivialise what's happening to me.'

Is anyone else this angry/sad/frustrated, or is it just me who is completely failing to cope with being pregnant?

LittleFairySmile · 21/02/2009 08:56

Oh Sarah76, I am so sorry you are feeling so bad. I have no idea what the antenatal depression feels like, but know about the nausea and how irritating people who give advice with no concept of you feel. It might have been fine for them, but it?s different for everyone. That makes me cross on your behalf! I did, and do, feel frustrated about maternity care on the NHS, especially right here, and the only way I could stop the helpless feeling was to hire a IM. Who have you got around you to give you support? Have you considered a doula? Someone who will listen to and comfort you without making stupid comments? Plus vent on here as much as you like, that might help too! Oh, and BTW, welcome to the list.

Kitkatqueen so sorry to hear your probs. With nappy rash. I take you tried fleece liners (as they take moisture away and give a stay-dry layer ? my fried brought a chap fleece blanket and cut the shape to cover the whole of the nappy with a lip over so when the wrap went on there was nothing but fleece touching her skin, IYSWIM) or a hemp/bamboo nappy to absorb moisture better? Sometimes a different nappy helps? What about a silk liner, or a liner dipped in chamomile tea and gently wrung out (should still be wet) and placed in the nappy. Also, don?t use any detergent at all with nappies; get one of those eco-laundry balls to avoid build up of detergent on nappies. I guess though you?ve probably tired all of this as you?ve had three attempts!

Nuttygirl chin up, you?ll get through, and rant on here more!!!

ScummyMummy · 21/02/2009 11:37

Hi Sarah. Really sorry you are feeling so down. How long have you been back on the antidepressants? Did they work before? I work in mental health and during some training I did recently we were told that the current advice is that expectant mums with significant depression stay on their ads throughout the pregnancy and beyond and there are several that are v v v safe to take throughout. Is there a specialist mental health team for pregnant women in your area? They are usually multidisciplinary with specialist midwives, nurses and doctors and in my experience they can be very helpful. I would ask your CMHT to refer you if there is one near you. They probably won't be that interested in you longer term unless your depression is (sometimes) very severe (like maybe if you have needed a hospital admission at some stage) but they might offer a consultation with advice for you and they tend to be very good and reassuring, ime.

You are not alone, you know- do a search on ante-natal depression on here and you will find lots of people who have come through this.

Really hope things start to feel better for you soon. Keep posting here if it helps- your August buddies will do our best to support you!

sarah76 · 21/02/2009 13:11

Thank you Scummy & LittleFairy. I've taken antidepressants for the majority of my adult life, my diagnosis is recurrent major depression. I've been hospitalised twice (age 16 and 25), I'm 32 now. Most of the time no one would know I suffered from this if I didn't tell them. Usually I take the drugs and I'm fine, I can cope with the world. My psychiatrist in the U.S. (American by birth, don't hold it against me please!) said that my depression was chemical rather than situational. I moved to the UK six years ago. The past year has been a rough one---my divorce was finalised, my new partner and I moved from London to Warrington, I quit trying to finish the master's degree I left behind in the U.S., had a miscarriage, started a job that I quickly realised I hated, got pregnant again, and got remarried. To say it has been stressful would be an understatement.

I had been taking venlafaxine (Efexor) for the last seven years (since my last hospitalisation). When I found out I was pregnant the first time, I continued cutting the dose till I was taking only 1/4 of the lowest dose tablet and was planning to stop. After the miscarriage, I figured I would go ahead with my plan to quit so that I would be drug-free for another pregnancy. I was feeling ok, but the other times I've quit ADs I usually have a few months before it all goes down the toilet again. The GP has put me on fluoxetine (Prozac) for the last month, but I can't say it's helping.

I don't know about specialists in this area, but am guessing not. The GP wasn't particularly complimentary about mental health services around here (which does nothing for my confidence!). The last time I got referred to services (in London), I really needed to see a psychiatrist about my medication. Instead, I got there and found out I had to see an idiot social worker (for 'assessment') who didn't even have a room to meet with me! He made me sit with him in the tiny inner courtyard, spilling my guts even though people kept walking past. When I spotted the dead fox not 15 feet away, I couldn't even continue. I ignored his calls after that and never saw anyone again. They contacted my husband and were all concerned about his 'caring responsibilities' and sent him this ridiculous survey with items on it about whether or not he had to help me with toileting or eating. Completely inappropriate and frankly insulting, considering they did nothing to help me. So my expectations could be classed as low.

I'm sorry to be so negative and long winded. I think I am just lonely up here.

kitkatqueen · 21/02/2009 17:33

Oh Sarah76!! Tough year? You are not kidding !!! I don't have any advise realy except for omega 3, which I am guessing after everything you have been through you have probably already tried.

I don't suffer from depression ( thankfully) but I do feel emotionally better balanced when I'm taking it.

Don't think to yourself either that every pregnant woman is a glowing serene epitome of happiness, its a fallacy perpetuated by Hollywood .

I totally agree with you that the level of help availiable to you seems absolutley rubbish. Can you go back to your gp and ask to be referred for councelling? Can't understand why you had to see a social worker at all???? Doesn't make any sense to me. My gp referred me for councelling when I suffered from a series of panic attacks after a very traumatic incident. I never saw ss for anything. It almost sounds as though the gp made the wrong referral.

Either way its crap, unload on here as much as you like!! Hope u r having a better day today.

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