Due August '09 part 2 - 'Bring on the bumps- we're not fat we're pregnant!'

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Thought I'd better get our shiny new thread up and running. New title courtesy of BumpBLump

part 3 thread title is bagsy(ed) by kitkatqueen, 'Its the second trimester!! - Does my bump look big in this???'

here's a link to our old thread.

Just got back from scan, am 19+6 and baby is looking well! It's a real wriggler and had to be prodded a bit to get it into a good position. It gave me some good kicks and punches and it was wonderful to be able to see that 'oh that was a punch' and 'oh that was a kick' because they feel the same, but to watch at the same time was really good!

How was your scan Trixy?

And hi FairyLights.

Hello Ladies

I do hope those still not feeling great get better soon.. it must be horrid still feeling awful

Fairylights, good to have you back. I know what you mean about forgetting you are pregnant when you are running after a toddler, a few other mums I know 'forgot' I was pregnant yesterday (despite my now quite quite huge tum) cause I was running around so much after DS.

Anyhow just got back from the scan all is well which is great. We did not find out the sex (although I was tempted more this time than with DS) as we are one of those couples that like the surprise I suppose. It doesn't bother us either way. The only 'worrying' thing about the scan was they told me the baby was looking big (this doesn't surprise me as DS was a big baby for a 1st and I do feel quite large) so I will have to go for growth scans from 28 wks to keep an eye on it and to assess what they will do, also likely that they will not let me go over my dates. Quite happy about this tho as lots of scans mean I see the little baby more often

Congratulations ladies on your scans I can hardly wait for mine...7 more sleeps!

Welcome back Fairylights. Time is racing by, am sure it'll slow down by week 34!

I'm mumsnetting again otherwise I'd be asleep at my desk!

Congrats to all those who've had their scans.

Sarah - sorry you're still being sick. Fingers crossed you get to hear the heartbeat.

Hawkmoth - hope you're feeling better soon

Went shopping this morning and dd threw a tantrum in almost every shop...which included throwing a pile of neatly folded t-shirts across Zara . What was I thinking having another ???

Back from consultant. Didn't like him very much. The midwife working with him was much nicer. He just went on and on about my BMI and how I needed to see a dietician and start going to the gym when the pregnancy was over, and that I needed weight-loss drugs or I'd be dead when I am 50, blah blah blah. DH, bless him, tried to defend me and say my diet was great before pregnancy and I exercised before the SPD. Consultant started going on about how much time he'd spent in the gym yesterday (????). Like I care?

In fact, I've been on a bloody diet for years. I've taken appetite-suppressing drugs. I've had university level nutrition classes. Not that anyone medical ever asks/believes me. I must just be another lazy fatty who doesn't care about her health. Never mind that PCOS is the main factor and there's no cure for that!

I asked him about weight gain in pregnancy. He said 'oh you're going to gain loads of weight, no question about it'. Um....I haven't gained any thus far, and I know it is both possible and safe for someone of my size to gain 15 pounds or less. Then he started going on about exercising, even though I hobbled in there and told him about the SPD and that I had a physio referral. DH interrupted and said 'we'll wait to see what the physio says about that'. I don't know what I would have done if he hadn't been with me. I was near tears at the end of the appointment.

At least I got to hear the baby's heartbeat. Took a bit to find, but it was loud and strong.

Had my thyroid function tested again as they seem to have lost the results from the most recent one. If the TSH is higher than the result I had after the miscarriage, I will have to go to a 'medical weirdos' clinic or some such thing. Thankfully, I did not barf in the phlebotomist's sink this time (she remembered me!). I did lose it in the waiting room toilet though.

Also scheduled for glucose tolerance test, a follow up with the consultant at 34 weeks, and told I have to see an anaesthetist consultant 'because of your BMI, in case you have a caesarian'.

Asked about long-haul travel and was given an emphatic 'no'. So not going to my brother's wedding this summer. I'm ok with this as I'm not sure I could face 8-9 hours on a plane + 6 hours in a car at 32 weeks. Now just have to tell my family.

Sorry for this being so long...I am still quite down about this appointment. Nothing like being told over and over again how fat you are, particularly when you're not in a position to do anything about it.

Oh lord Sarah, that is not fun You're a size 22 right? I was with my first and noone said a thing, thank goodness because I wouldn't have been able to take it.

Plus the gaining weight - I have a FB friend who has gone from a size 24 to a size 14 while pregnant and baby is doing very well so far.

I think there are some forms of exercise that are ok, but trust your physio above everyone else... apart from yourself, obviously. If I can ever bend down well enough to shave my legs I will go for a bit of gentle swimming!!!

Plus don't go to the gym as soon as you have the baby, SPD can take a while to settle down, and overdoing it will prolong your recovery. With me I got worse after birth, got horribly miserable because they all told me it was going to get better straight away, and put on 4 stone! A few months of 'laziness' may well save you from long term problems.

Grr on your behalf... FFS, what if you end up in a wheelchair for two years???????

Trust yourself. Lots of people with high BMIs have problem free pregnancies and labours. There is nothing now to say that you won't.

Oh, Sarah... That's horrid... Can you ask / request another consultant?

I'm a size 10-12, but still a good 2 stone heavier than when I got PG with DS in 2007 - I exercise loads well, i walk the dog!) and eat a really healthy diet, but I find it really difficult to exercise.

I really agree that going on about your weight when (i) dieting isn't really an option because of your pregnancy and (ii) exercise is difficult because of the SPD...

Consultant sounds like a bugger, Sarah. Sorry to hear you've drawn a short straw with him. Glad your dp stuck up for you. He sounds lovely.

My baby is moving about all the time now. Really enjoying him/her.

Hello!!

Littlefairysmile glad to hear your scan went well!!

My scan went really well, the consultant gave the baby 10/10. There are pics on my profile if anyone wants a nosy. We didn't find out the sex, but all guesses are welcome!!!

sarah what a w*nker!!!

Hope everyone else is doing OK, got to go sort out dinner now!!

sarah76 so v. at your consultant. Sister has PCOS and gets the same weight assumptions, with drs going on about ?lifestyle? and all that! I feel for you! Glad you got the reassurance of a good strong heartbeat! I'd complain, esp. about him going on about his own exercise regime (WTF?).

trixy glad all went well!

trixy - your scan photo is so clear! Ours was blurred! I love the photos of your ds too. I would love a dark haired child. We are all fair haired, blue eyes here so not much chance!

Sarah - that sounds tough, just what you do not need. Too bad you weren't sick on his shoes!

Have reached the end of my 'working' week which is good. Got to attend nursery tomorrow partly for ds end of term consultation and partly cos I was silly enough to volunteer to go play bassoon for them. I kind of forgot that I haven't played it since 2005 and that I sound more like an out of tune fog horn these days

Thanks TOTC!! DS always got lots of comments when he was little because of his dark hair!

We did pay 200 feckin quid for the scan so I would have been pretty pi@sed off if it wasn't clear!!!

I would love to be able to play the bassoon!

TOTC, I play Euphonium and find it so much easier when pregnant. Think I must be more relaxed, plus using diaphragm is easier so I sound like a cracking player!

Lovely pictures Trixy I was that hairy as a baby, same triangle and everything, DD wasn't... so exciting to think what our offspring are going to come out like!

Trixy, such gorgeous pics!!

Sarah, Don't stress about anything consultant said he's only an iggerant boy after all glad you had your dp with u!! - I am also 2 stone heavier than with dd1 and with ds (no3) I put on 5.5 stone

Hope everyone who hasn't posted for a while is ok...

I'm off to check on a scary thread I posted on, with the number of people now feeling sick on it its definatley not the place for anyone feeling delicate! Probably be back for moral support soon!

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Trixy - those pics are gorgeous! Your boy is adorable!

Sarah - not sure if this will make you feel better or not but I TOTALLY know how you feel. Last Thursday my midwife told me that I should not be gaining ANY weight and, in fact, how I should be LOSING weight. I am probably a size 16 and, ok I was 25lbs (just less than 2 stone) heavier than my "perfect" weight when I got pregnant but I am only 6lbs up on my pre-pregnancy weight with a total gain at 20 weeks of 10lbs. I was so mortified and embarrassed I didn't want to say anything to anyone. She's basically told me to cut carbs out of all but one meal a day - which I tried but have been so tired and hungry I've cut carbs from one meal (usually dinner) and we'll see how it goes. I was really happy about only being 6lbs up so felt for being shot down. Its funny when I read your post I thought what an ass that Dr is but that wasn't my reaction to what was said to me - its hard when its you under attack!

Well its my night time and I am exhausted to off to bed! Who's next for scans?

Obesity is the new smoking... clearly.

I got weighed at 12 week scan, noone's mentioned it since. MW doesn't care, they didn't care last time, I will only care if my arse gets too big for these pants. I'm a size 16 top and 18 bottoms, yes above average but I've been losing weight slowly and steadily for two years now. In my mind, it's a slow retraining process (I have no excuses, just used to like eating until I was bulging, and then enjoyed 'treats' too much, plus drinking bitter!).

I'm not feeling hugely energetic at the moment though, will try to have more veggies over the weekend. Yet again I am cherry-tomato-obsessed!

The worst thing about it is that HCPs are nagging, lecturing and berating us now, but when baby's born we drop off the radar. My HV last time told me I should be eating 3000 calories a day for BFing, at a time when I couldn't even walk to the corner shop. I'm stil very angry about that, and all the unnecessary weight gain. I was calorie counting, then topping up with chocolate to make that 3000! I wish I'd have known better then. Support post-birth is MUCH more important.

I shouldn't be so cross so early, all this frowning will not help me shift this bloody headache!

Hope everyone's ok today. Weather's miserable here, but I'm trying to remain optimistic for a sunny spell or two over the weekend.

WTF is it with these people? I'm sure they just think pregnant women should have something to stress about...it's a shame they don't think about the effect stress can have.
Sarah - can we all come and dislocate your consultant's hips and see how his exercise regime alters????

Trixy - lovely scan pics.

Felt a bit this morning. After Erin being a pita yesterday when shopping I asked for advice on another forum and someone said that she needs more stimulation like baby groups etc. Made me feel a bit crap tbh but there aren't many groups for her age that actually have the numbers to run around here. She goes to 2 and soft play once a week so I think that's fine - think it's just hormones getting to me. Plus she did not sleep well last night so I'm tired. Wanted to play with daddy half the night. In the end I made dh just come to bed and I went and told her daddy was asleep and not coming to see her. She cried for ages but eventually went to sleep. Felt a bit mean but I think she's trying it on a bit at the moment to see what she can get away with.

Thanks everybody!! So no-one is taking a guess at the sex from lookign at the pictures then?

God, one of the best bit about being pregnant is being able to eat what I want for me!! I couldn't cope if someone said I need to lose weight. Sometimes I get so hungry I wake up in the middle of the night with my tummy rumbling.

We get enough guilt piled on us without weight issues as well!!

Nutty my 2 years old is being a PITA as well, he is just so clingy ATM.

hi Ladies

im 19+4 today, since friday my lower back has been aching constantly, its so uncomfortable. i only dont seem to have gained mush weight yet but the bump has grown quite a bit, probably because of the two babies. has anyone else got this or had it? what is it and does it fade away? im just worrying that if im this uncomfortable this early on what the hell am i gonna be like in a few months time?

Valz, my back hurts because of SPD/PGP. The exercises the physio gave me are fantastic... see if you can get referred to your hospital's obsetric physio.

Without her I would be off work getting worse and worse. I'm pretty much back to normal, but not doing anything that could aggravate it.

Nutty - I have a two year old who is a PITA at times, very clingy at the minute and the usual tantrums. I think its rubbish when people say they need more baby groups etc. It sounds like you are doing loads with the soft play areas etc. I go to the park alot because she wants to run everywhere and she loves it. I find she gets so much joy being outside and of course she goes to sleep really easily then! We go swimming and really we only go to one group once a week. I also arrange play dates with friends.

Well I am totally fed up with people especially my mother (who I have a difficult relationship anyway) telling me on how large my bump is.Im having a baby and its lookingvery healthy. I just wish my mother and others would appreciate how lucky I am to have a healthy growing baby.I havent put much weight on anywhere else, so it irritates me even more because with the other two pregnancies I was huge everywhere.
Soory for the moan.

20 weeks today!!!! Good lord that's gone quick.

Coincidentally my mum's been on at me about getting DD into a nursery this morning! I'm leaving it until September so it's a school one, hopefully the one nearest!

Oonagh - my sympathies. I too have huge bump for 5 months. Can't even get away with non-maternity tops anymore. Normal trousers have been a thing of the past for some time now. Must admit no-one has actually said anything but I do get a lot of raised eyebrows when I say baby's not due until August.

Mind you, came in handy the other day on crowded tubes and trains - lots of people gave up their seats even though I am not that pregnant and actually fine standing. I accepted gratefully!

Hello All, I have been reading this thread for a while - please could I join? I am due August 20th and it is starting to feel real!