Due August '09 part 2 - 'Bring on the bumps- we're not fat we're pregnant!'

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Thought I'd better get our shiny new thread up and running. New title courtesy of BumpBLump

part 3 thread title is bagsy(ed) by kitkatqueen, 'Its the second trimester!! - Does my bump look big in this???'

here's a link to our old thread.

Yes all you want is a healthy baby. People who make comments about gender like that really annoy me. My mum has always said 'oh I don't know what I would have done if I'd had boys,' (she had 2 girls) which has always upset me a bit. We're now going to have 2 boys and a girl but any combination would have been just fine. I am still amazed at our luck in having 3 children....

When I said to my mum I think it's a girl she actually said, "Preparing yourself for the worst then?". Grr.

In her case I think it's because she is absolutely besotted with my DD and seriously thinks that another girl would be an ugly evil frog in comparison!

I'm off to physio again today. Back and pelvis not too bad, tailbone and hips not too good. Also got some nasty nerve pains down in my feet and legs, but not much to be done about them I suppose.

How are everyone's BHs? I know they get worse with subsequent pregnancies, but it's such a pain that I can't just lie down when they come on. They don't hurt but they are tiresome.

My friend and my sister can't understand why I would want to find out - they didn't with any of theirs and so can't see the need. Personally I love knowing what my baby is going to be before its born, yes I know that most of the stuff for newbies is white but I love having the opportunity to buy a few special things for the baby a pair of shoes or a cute coat that isn't white. I also love knowing whether its a boy or girl in there just because they seem more real - i can imagine them better and I feel like I begin to bond with them more before they are born. My dp and I have chosen each name before the baby was born and it was lovely to know who we were welcoming at the birth.

I know lots of people like to have the surprise and if it weren't for modern medicine we would have to wait, but for me the foreknowledge is lovelly, It makes the pregnancy more special to me. Saddens me a bit when people don't understand.

Each to ther own really

Bugger bugger bollocks!!!

I rang the MW people today to ask a really embarrassing question about discharge after sex. So they said, see your MW tomorrow. GP says no appointments, left message with MW and she's coming in half an hour.

My house is like a bomb site. It's HORRENDOUS. I can't even wash up without being in agony and the DSDs made a terrible mess at weekend, which we haven't had time to sort. The embarrassment of the house is outweighing the fact that in 30 minutes I'm going to have someone rooting about up my fanjo. Oh lord.

Haribosmummy - We're just outside of Vancouver We try to hit Seattle a couple of times a year for a little escape - I did a course there years ago and love it!

I can't stand attitudes about gender but I am slightly worry that I have completely convinced myself the baby is a boy and I'm worried I'll be disapointed if its a girl. Has anyone else ever felt that. Its silly because really there is no clue but I am CONVINCED and now feel like an idiot for letting myself get this way.

Oh no Hawkmoth - hope it went ok. I had a visit from nursery staff last wk, part of dd's settling in process. I was stressed about them seeing state of the house!

Car seat traumas here - lovely lady in Halfords trying to fit 3 in the back of our car (mid-size car, not people carrier) and she's pregnant herself, lugging all the kit around. It doesn't seem to work despite the toddler fit fitting fine in the middle and hi-back booster one side of it. No room for the baby carrier! We only got new car in Nov, few weeks before the pg test and now may have to get another one - what a pain...

Will get the results on Friday. Something I probably should have got checked out sooner but nothing serious I shouldn't think! Just a case of finding the right antibiotics she said.

We just about get three in our cars. The 2 and 3 yos have the big car seats and the 5 yo has her booster in the middle. DP hurts his hand every time he has to strap them in though. Think we're getting a Toyota Previa at the end of July when the tax runs out on DPs car. Obviously, this is unless we win the lottery, in which case I'll be buying a Nissan Skyline and the kids can all walk!

Yes, Kitkatqueen - each to their own!! I agree with you. I found out with DS and really felt closer knowing he was a little boy. Similarily, I will find out with this one (certain it's a girl!)

We had DS's name picked out too... but when DS was born, he didn't suit it at all, so he's called Harrison - in part because Raiders of the Lost Arc was on the TV the night DS was born

Hawkmoth - How did the appt. go????

Oh you know, she tried not to look at my piles of ironing, I tried to imagine I was somewhere else while she did her thing with the HUGE COTTON WOOL BUD!!!! :D

Could be worse, at least I don't have a prostate gland.

Babybump2be - I had that last pregnancy. I felt it was a boy but wondered if it was wishful thinking iykwim. We decided to find out at the scan for that reason and it was a girl. I cried for 2 hours the next day. Then I started to get used to the idea of it being a girl and haven't looked back. This time I have no preference. I think my main worry was that I'd have a really girly girl and I'm not like that...strangely though I got more girly after having her (started making jewellery, crocheting, etc.).

Going out this evening cos it's my birthday! Just waiting for dh to get in from work. He had to go to the docs today - keeps having nosebleeds (last year they put it down to hayfever but he saw an ENT person at the local docs today). Anyway he had it cauterised so fingers crossed that'll be that!

Does anyone else get really sleepy at lunchtime? I find that at about 1pm I'm really really tired. Luckily Erin often naps then so I can sleep at the same time but I find I'm almost dropping off even if she's awake.

Babybump2be - I had that last pregnancy. I felt it was a boy but wondered if it was wishful thinking iykwim. We decided to find out at the scan for that reason and it was a girl. I cried for 2 hours the next day. Then I started to get used to the idea of it being a girl and haven't looked back. This time I have no preference. I think my main worry was that I'd have a really girly girl and I'm not like that...strangely though I got more girly after having her (started making jewellery, crocheting, etc.).

Going out this evening cos it's my birthday! Just waiting for dh to get in from work. He had to go to the docs today - keeps having nosebleeds (last year they put it down to hayfever but he saw an ENT person at the local docs today). Anyway he had it cauterised so fingers crossed that'll be that!

Does anyone else get really sleepy at lunchtime? I find that at about 1pm I'm really really tired. Luckily Erin often naps then so I can sleep at the same time but I find I'm almost dropping off even if she's awake.

sorry, got a wierd error first time so went back and clicked post again.

kitkatqueen I am equally saddened that people can?t understand why I don?t want to find out gender. It, to me, is one of the best feelings in the world to know this baby could be anything at all. Forget gender stereotypes of achievements, attitude and behaviour, for these blissful few months, this baby could be absolutely anything at all. The baby in the womb is an entity so separate from the babe-in-arms and I feel a soulful connection to this baby as it moves inside of me, as I did with my son before he was born, but I feel bonding begins to take place when the child is a unique being, distinct and separate from its mother.

We had a few names on the list, and our son had a potential two names as a boy when he was due and when we saw him we just knew which was his name. Without seeing him, how could we have named him?

Have just ordered some baby name books from the library, so looking forward to DH and I writing our lists out!

I love the fact that there are such diverse opinions and beliefs on here. I am not seeking to convince anyone of my way of thinking, just thought you might be interested in reading it!

Hawkmoth how was MW visit? Sounds bad if you need antibiotics.

Hope your DH is ok nuttygirl.

My sleepy time is 3-4pm. No chance of a sleep then!

I've started calling the bump the girl's name we have chosen, after my dream about having a girl the other night. I probably shouldn't... only eight more sleeps!

LFS, went alright.

Will try to explain without it being too gross. A day after sex, when the troops come back unsuccessful from their campaign, it's a kind of yellow/green colour. Finally joined the dots in my head that said... probably not a good thing, infection likely.

LFS - I agree that's it's difficult to name a child without seeing them... We didn't actually name DS for about 48 hours and I'm very happy with his name now, so while we will have a few names on a short list, we won't choose one until the baby is here!

Have a good night nuttygirl!!

Me and dp always seem to end up with just one name that we like, but we have always said that if they pop out and look nothing like it then we will reconsider. I think I am just being oversensitive today, I can totally understand others wanting a surprise I just don't like surprises!!! I like being able to organise and plan.
with dd1 I just never imagined it would be a girl, I had 20 weeks to get used to the idea that I was having a girl and I can honestly say that I was so looking forward to seeing my little girl! I have found out with subsequent pregnancies because I had so enjoyed knowing what was in there - its almost like the ulimate secret. I think I was just disapointed when my friend and my sister reacted as though I was a bit stupid for needing to know, I understood their descision not too and never passed judgement because as has been said on here each to their own. Like I said I'm just being oversensitive!!

Happy Birthday Nutty!

I think whatever you believe about scans (and telling people the name once you know the gender) people just need to keep their own mouths shut when someone tells you what they're doing! I desperately want to know but I know not everyone does and I would never try to convince someone else otherwise so I don't think you are being all that oversensitive Kit Kat!

It does make me laugh though that all our friends who never wanted to find out are the ones most excited about us finding out!

Kitkatqueen isn't is awful that people just can't just respect your decision and feelings, but feel they have to make comment. I think that's terrible that your friend and sister reacted as though you were stupid. I certainly don't think you are, and can understand the desire to plan and prepare.

Hawkmoth hope the antibiotics work! Sounds rather nasty!

Oh, and happy birthday nutty

Meh. Severe vomming episode in the shower this morning. Just when I think it's all over!

Am 18+1 today, and on the way to my appointment with the consultant. Not sure what to expect, hoping I will get to hear the heartbeat.

Good luck with your appointment Sarah. I also had an incident in the shower this morning, due to coughing more than anything. I'm sure there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Went to bed at 8pm last night, and feel much better. Was getting a bit stressed about things. Now I'm at work, tucking into a kinder bunny and looking forward to writing lots of boring letters

Good luck this morning, Sarah!! Yes, I am sure you will get to hear the heartbeat!

Sorry that you and Hawkmoth are still feeling less than 100%.... Hopefully it will be over soon!!

I'm feeling great this morning because DS slept in his cot from 8pm till 6:15am!!!

hello! I am just re-joining this thread after a couple of months absence! Am 22 weeks now and have finally stopped vomiting all the time (hallelujah!) - can't believe i am heading towards being 5 months pg - second pregnancies do fly by when there is a toddler to entertain too! Anyway hope you are all doing well, am very of those of you in hot places..am dreaming of the sun all the time at the moment.
Have many others of you had their second scan? We had ours last week and (just the same as ds) the baby refused to show its gender by modestly crossing its legs - can't believe that has happened to us twice now! Although actually quite looking forward to surprise after all.
Have a good day all