the wheels on the wagon go round and round into the new year and all those new babies

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hi ladies a new thread hopefully it will bring me my baby

Ses be careful out there!!! You don't want to slip and fall. Rest now, but for the future, it will help to loosen the snow/ice a bit if you put some salt down on it - even if it's just table salt. I probably should've mentioned this long ago but it's also easier if you get out there and clear the snow periodically as it's falling so that you don't have huge amounts that keeps melting/freezing when you finally emerge from your cozy snow-in! Er, I mean get your DH to do it!

Glask I'm under no illusions of what it's like to have a baby - and believe me I LOVE my sleep, but I also have an overactive sense of guilt, especially about work. When I first moved over to the UK, I felt so guilty about not having a job right away while DH was working. So I imagine it will kick in pretty severely when I'm on mat leave. Not to mention I'd like to be BFing, so there won't be much he can do in the middle of the night anyway.

me too kay!! haha!! I think these first time mummies have got the 'perfect baby' in their minds!! haha!! its funny though becasue i was exactly the same when pg with DS- now i have a completley different take on it all!! haha!!

LBOT, He can burp the baby!! Which means if baby LBOT brings any milk up it goes over Daddy not Mummy!!

LBOT- I wasn't having a dig... meant to add a few grins and smiles in there!! Its nice when your DH will sleep in the same bed, i eman its one thing having a baby causing a bit of tiredness and stress between you, but its nice to be able to snuggle up in bed together when baby is sleeping- I'd have felt really annoyed and possibly rejected if DH slept elsewhere.

Yeah- Kay is right- he can do bum changes, burping, getting baby back to sleep if they dont go straight back to sleep!!

Again it has nothing to do with a "perfect baby" at all - I'm very aware that they're bloody hard work whether they're good babies or not. I just don't see why both of us should have to be awake. And I don't think it's particularly funny...

Kay just had a vision of poor DH covered in puke Ah, I think he's gonna love it!

LBOT
Thats interesting, Im with you on the guilt thing. I also have that over active guilt issue about work and mat leave etc...

Its weird but while I've not had the easiest pregnancy and desperately need a break before the birth AND that looking after a baby will be hard work, I do feel guilty that I get to have mat leave and DH doesnt. I get to have 5wks off before the birth, then I get to stay home for 9mths and raise the baby. I see that as a massive privilige as I know he'd love to do all of that....

I'm sure I will manage though and when i go back to work, it will ALL BE VERY DIFFERENT!

i'll stop digging my own grave then- agree to disagree- i feel one way you feel another...

Right Dc's have finished their tea so i'm off to get them bathed and dressed for bed. then gonna watch my soaps before DH is back from work.

PS- give me 2 wks of mat leave and I will begging to go back to work

We need a new thread soon- I will start thinking of titles!

i'll stop digging my own grave then- agree to disagree- i feel one way you feel another...

Right Dc's have finished their tea so i'm off to get them bathed and dressed for bed. then gonna watch my soaps before DH is back from work.

internet is going funny- said it hadn't been able to process the action so i pressed 'post' again.... oops!!

Feel free to completely ignore this post if you wish.

My bloody sister got a dog about 6 weeks ago. A 8 week old puppy, not sure what breed. She is now trying to sell her again because she:
wee's on her floor, barks if someone knocks on the door, pulls when she walks her, chews things and worst of all she has to walk it when it is cold.

She actually rang my dad to ask if he would go to hers on the way to work to walk her bloody dog!!!. He did say no thank god.

It really bloody annoys me that she is so stupid. Now my neice will be heartbroken and the poor puppy will also be upset as it has got used to living with my sister and neice.

There was even a bloody thing in the local paper about her going to court. Its here if you fancy being nosey.

Right rant over. Resume brownie eating.

LBOT I feel it's my duty to know what my cervix is up to....could be anything up there on it's own.
I will also admit to having an unhealthy interest in Moos'

The Dh sleeping arrangements is an odd one. I think probably best to play it by ear when your lo's arrive, see how you feel.

Dh does all the night time wakings with our 3 atm, simply because the effort it takes for me to get to them is immense. He's used to it I guess.

We co-sleep with ours too and he has had the offer in the past of sleeping elsewhere, but never has yet that I can remember. I don't think he sleeps well without me next to him tbh.
The night feeding is easy (bf) as we dream feed, so really no one 'gets up' and I only change them if they've poo'd. I would do that as I'm already more awake from feeding.

That's sad about your sister Kayz, too many people think looking after a dog is a doddle imho. It's why we don't have one, cats are much easier! Won't read link though...

I'm going to have to agree with LBOT et al on the sleeping front, DH slept downstairs for the first couple of weeks when both DDs were born, he had to get up for work and I didn't so it seemed silly to get him up. He's never done a night feed, in fact he's only ever done half a daytime feed and he's only ever changed 6 of DD1's nappies and none of DD2's! It suits us though, I wouldn't have it any other way!

ouch ouch ouch having really bad BH at the moment.....

Having really bad time with dp at the moment as well because dd keeps hurting herself and he is blaming me. Today she burnt her fingers and he has gone mad saying I can not be trusted to look after her.... And other hurtful things. I am starting to wonder if I even want him at the birth

LB, I am really sorry dp is being a pain. What does he expect? DD is nearly 2 and believe me I know how much they touch things and pick stuff up they aren't meant to have. You can watch them like a hawk but something will always slip past.

DS1 burnt his fingers today too, maybe it is a burning fingers day.

Kay there is just no talking to him at the moment, I dont know what his problem is but I am seriously thinking of birthing on my own, I dont need this stress. I am going to take some pain killers and go to bed, I might even pinch a glass of wine to take with me!!

I do hope he comes round and says sorry to you. If you want to birth alone then maybe you should do, you certainly don't need the stress.

Can you believe it, I am back again? It's becoming a bit of a habit this!

I don't really see the point in the DH's waking up just for the sake of it, and I'd be pretty pissed off if he kept waking me up when it was my night off! I think I am deffo in the camp of as much sleep as poss, for both of us. Though will admit it was easier with DS2, DS1 was at school so I could still sleep while DS2 slept, whereas now, I am at the point where I would be too worried to sleep incase I slept through the time to get DS1 from school. But, I think the first 2 or 3 weeks are the hardest, your body adjusts after that, and although you could sleep on a washing line, you don't have that sheer exhaustion hanging around your neck all day (and night!).

Right bed time! g'night xxx

Right I am off now I need an early night, hope things are starting for you Astarte could we have baby news tomorrow????

Night night.

You're joking LB, if things are kicking off we'll have baby news by 10pm!

I'm having labour withdrawal symptoms. We need another baby soon. Its been over a week now

Hi! Feeling bit better now after a good rest. DH cooked a stir fry for tea and I'm still taking it easy - can't believe I was so stupid!

LB - hope your DP takes a reality check and realises how unreasonable he's being.

Astarte - I'm getting excited for you ...

Glad you are feeling better Ses and your DH is looking after you.

Just had dinner with a small glass of wine - think it was quite a strong one as Im feeling quite light headed now... might have a quiet baby tonight!

Still not sure which way its lying, possibly transverse as NJ suggested.

Nursery nearly done now! We realised how HUGE the cotbed is in a small room but looking good..

Night all - can't believe I'm still up and MNing after last night! Am going to get ready for bed and get into sofa bed with DS, so DH can sleep upstairs uninterrupted.
Have to say, I'm with the both sharing getting sleep brigade - as in I will encourage DH to sleep in a separate room on nights when he will work next day, as I don't see much point in both of us losing sleep. He is a light sleeper (better now than when DS was newborn) and would wake at everything. Don't get me wrong, if I'm having a bad night, I know I can wake him up and he will do his share (with DS, he sat one night for two hours with DS asleep on him, just so I could get some sleep), but I know that although we both want to sleep in same bed, we are saner if we can take in turns to get good sleep. I think it is just a case of whatever works for both of you.

Right, must clean teeth, wash face and go to bed before I fall asleep at pooter!

Shall check in tomorrow morning to see if any progress Astarte!