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December 2008 Once you pop you can't stop

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Veggiemummy · 10/12/2008 18:23

surely most of us will go on this one

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abbymeg · 14/12/2008 09:04

Jolly and Hotmama early good luck to both of you for tomorrow. Did hotmama say you're scheduled first? - lucky thing! I just hope if we get there sharpish tomorrow that I will be in quick. I'm getting very nervous. JB feels like the end of a very long journey! I hope it goes really well. Try and rest lots today.

Veggie massive congratulations on your successful homebirth and your little boy .

kayzr · 14/12/2008 09:33

Hello!!!

Congratulations Veggie!!!!

I hope everyone is feeling well.

I am exhausted but very happy. I actually got a few hours sleep last night.

BF isn't going to well really. He isn't all that interested. He wont really latch on and when he does its only for a few minutes then he comes off. But at 3 this morning he stayed on for about 30 minutes. I nearly yelled with joy.

Will do birth story soon. He is Dylan George and he's very cute.

GettingBiggerBird · 14/12/2008 09:55

Morning all, just a quick update before I head into hospital. Unfortunately no spontaneous contractions so induction looks likely but I'm trying not to stress myself out about it (failing miserably so far after just having a massive go at DH and sobbing for 20 mins ). But now feeling more composed and getting in The Zone. Eeeek!

Will let you all know once we're done!

Congratulations Veggie and anyone I've missed.

kayzr · 14/12/2008 10:59

Here is my birth story. It is really quite rambly and long so I'm sorry.

I had a show about 7 in the morning and contractions started pretty much straight away. I rang DH to get him to come home from worl and then rang the labour ward to get them to send a mw. She came about 9 and I was only 3-4cm when she examined me at 11. She went and did a fews jobs at the dr's surgery and came back at 12. By this time the contractions were getting more painful. She examined me at 2 and I was only 5cm. So we decided to wait a couple of hours and she would examine me again at 4. I was using my tens machine for pain relief and I don't know what I would have done without it.
When she examined me at 4 I was 6-7cm so we decided she would break my waters. The contractions got more painful almost straight away so I started using the gas and air. The second MW arrived at about quarter past 4.
I did want to be on all fours leaning on the sofa but when I did try that I found it really uncomfortable. So I ended up sat up against the sofa which was actually really good because between contractions I could rest my head on the sofa. They had to get a 3rd MW to get some more G&A as the pipe was broken so lots was leaking out.

Then at 20 past 6 I felt like I needed to push, the MW said to go with what my body was saying but I did need her to tell me to push. I just felt like I needed that instruction. At half 6 the gas and air ran out and I had to do all the pushing without it. I was only pushing for 34 minutes but it felt like hours. I got a small tear that didn't need stitching.

He weighs a huge 10lb 5oz and the MW thinks that his size is why it took longer than we were expecting.

I am so happy I got my homebirth. We weren't too sure about it and finally decided to go for it just 2 weeks ago. If you had asked me when the G&A ran out if I liked being at home I would have said no but now I wouldn't have it any other way.

I am still amazed at how big he is. DS1 was 7lb 2oz so it was a big jump.

EffiePerine · 14/12/2008 11:31

Wow Kayz, lovely birth story . I'd have been peeved at the G&A running out as well! Over 10lb and only a small graze . It's still early days re the bfing, and your DS has to learn how to feed so stick at it (and ring one of those nmbers if you need to ).

Congratulations to Veggiemummy and baby

GOOD LUCK GBB! Sending calm induction vibes to you - hope all goes well

kayzr · 14/12/2008 12:02

MW has just been. He latched on really well and fed for about half an hour. She has shown me how to hold him under my arm for a different way of feeding him.

jumpjockey · 14/12/2008 14:35

Hurrah veggie! well done you and daddy veggie can't wait to hear more.

and congrats hiccy on your lovely son

trace glad to hear you're home now and Phoebe's doing well

kayz that's a lovely name and what a great story, sounds like a lovely birth (even if the G&A ran out...!) what a whopper, there are some really wonderful big babies on this thread! And how fantastic of you to manage it at home after all the problems with your consultant.

GBB fingers crossed for you, hope the induction goes well.

LadyT have some more hugs, you're being ever so strong and of course you miss your DH, when there's a new baby like verso says everything seems much more sensitive.

SL re the unfortunate choice of film, a mate lent me one of her trashy novels and it's about two women both of whom feel their lives have been f!cked up by becoming mothers, and one of them gets killed by her demon little girl dropping a lamp into the bath. not perhaps the best book to be lending a new mum...! She didn't do it on purpose I'm sure...

zoejeanne · 14/12/2008 14:44

Congratulations veggie ? sounds like a great birth for veggie baby

Best wishes to abby, jolly and hotmama for tomorrow, 3 new babies in one day, how exciting ? plus we?ll hopefully have twins from GBB (or maybe today), and maybe some others as well? What a day it could be.

Cat ? sounds like you had a lovely evening with your family, and good to hear champagne is medicinal and a good cure for ills

Verso ? I was wondering about comfort sucking and replacing boob with a dummy if it happens. I thought I?d read not to try a dummy for about a month, but you seem to be having success earlier, so is it worth a try to try and stop a habit forming? Its so fab having this endless source of experience from all you lovely ladies on this thread, as I newbie its great to hear how it really works.

Kayz ? fab name for your new DS. I bet he looks ready for sitting up at his size and is already cuddly and lovely. I still can?t believe you finished the job without G&A, well done you, and thanks for the lovely birth story.

Have a good Sunday afternoon everyone xx

Indith · 14/12/2008 18:26

Congrats veggie

Kayz I love the birth story. Sounds great.

Trace glad you are home.

Tomorrow is going to be busy! Very exciting

I had a blob of jelly today. Not much to be excited about I know but I didn't get anything until I was at least 41 weeks with ds if not a bit more so it makes me happy Still not tonight please baby (see above ref to toddler sick)

EffiePerine · 14/12/2008 19:12

Isn't champagne supposed to be good for encouraging labour? Have a bottle in the fridge for baby/Xmas (whichever comes first)

Good luck for those having babies tomorrow!

artichokes · 14/12/2008 19:27

Lovely story Kayz and it sounds like you are doing well with BF despite a sleepy baby. Congrats.

Sorry to hear about your induction GBB hopefully you are holding two little bundles by now.

LadyT I feel I misled with my post about my birthday at the Ivy. Its not like I hired the whole restaurant for a private party (can you imagine?). It was simply that my Mum took 8 of us there for dinner. It was great fun for a star struck 21 year old.

Indith - exciting about the show but boo to the toddler sick.

OK. What is the stupidest thing you can all imagine your DHs doing when you are 5 days overdue???? How about this... This evening DH was putting up the christmas lights and for some unfathomable reason decided he needed to use super-glue. Now DH is not the most practical of people and usually I would have taken over when confronted with him using a ladder and a highly sticky substance - but I am too tired. So what happened? DH glued his hand to the ladder! We have spent an hour soaking his hand and it is not free but two of his fingers are still glued together and he may need to go to Casualty. I am not sure whether to laugh at him or hit him (I am certainly not expressing any sympathy).

EffiePerine · 14/12/2008 19:29

will he have to take the whole ladder to Casualty? Reminds me of the bit in Adrian Mole where he superglues his airfix model to his nose...

JamInMyWellies · 14/12/2008 20:10

Ooh Arti PMSL I feel your pain I too am 5 days over. Which one of us will be first?

Kayz lovely story well done.

GBB hope all goes well and to all our other lovely mummy's who go tom.

Turniphead1 · 14/12/2008 20:12

arti surely under the laws of sod you should go into labour now (Turnip envisages Arti plus Dh plus birth bag plus car seat plus ladder glued to DH all arriving at the hospital)....Hilarious. Hope he gets er..unstuck soon.

Good luck to the Monday gals! A new crop of babies!

indith hope your little one recovers enough for you to go into labour! Show sounds a good start.

Kimberly1979 · 14/12/2008 20:21

Hey Everyone! Just got back from trying to do a little Christmas shopping. But sadly didn't accomplish much. I am also pretty much feeling like a beached whale at the moment! I can't seem to get up off the couch or anything for that matter without assistance! I think the bump is officially in the way!

arti that is hilarious!! Sorry your DH stuck his hand to a ladder though. Have you tried finger nail polish remover?? I think it might help to loosen it up.

Goodluck to everyone on Monday!!

veggie congrats on the new little one!

JollyBear · 14/12/2008 21:25

Wow congrats kayz! Well done for managing your homebirth with such a big baby

veggie Congratulations! Can't wait to hear more details.

Thanks for the best wishes ladies, good luck to abby, hotmama and gettingbiggerbird. Should be a bumper crop of babies tomorrow!

Sorry for the short post and not saying hello to everyone but I've still got stuff to pack!

zoejeanne · 14/12/2008 21:26

arti your DH is priceless, me and my DH are crying with laughter now, as that is exactly something my DH would do - he has made a mental note never to use superglue, just in case ... hope DH gets unglued soon

LadyThompson · 14/12/2008 23:00

Well done our Veggie! And to all the Veggie family. Hurrah. Looking forward to hearing all about it when you have caught your breath.

Enjoyed reading your story, Kayz. Still v impressed at you doing all that at home!

Arti...they will use a solvent to get his hand off if you have to go to Casualty so nail varnish is worth a go...oh dear oh dear

Best of British to the Monday girls.

Feeling a bit better today but things got off to a bad start when DP paid me a lovely compliment and said how flat my upper tummy was looking. Fantastic, you might think. But he ruined it by saying something like "and here, at the bottom, have you got that caesarean belt on again? Is it any good?" (It is a sort of padded belt to help protect your scar that I tried for the first time yesterday). And I hadn't got it on , it's just an odd sort of roll of, well, fat I think. It's horrible. I haven't a clue whether it's forever or what. He realised he'd gone wrong and tried, in a flustered sort of way, to pretend he was referring to the top of my pyjamas. Oh God. It's not his fault. He does try. I cried for half an hour, squeezed myself into some of my maternity trousers which looked like shite, and we went off for lunch at a pub miles away with some friends. Ah well. I shall be asking Father Christmas for some self-esteem of the kind I used to have, and er...several pairs of hold in pants, I guess. Selfridges on Tuesday. Anyone know if Spanx are any good or is it all hype?

hotmama · 15/12/2008 05:59

The very best of luck to everyone booked to have a cs today - and anyone else who happens to give birth today!

I'm just boiling the kettle for my last cup of tea and then taking my dose of ranitidine that has to be taken by 6am!

This was probably my last decent sleep for a while!

Got to be at the hosp for 7.25 and as booked first could well have ds1 by 9am! My dd's are very excited whereas I am feeling really bizarre - having a planned cs is very weird none of this wondering is this it like the last two times!

Still haven't decided on a name for ds1 - it's not as if we haven't known we are having a boy.

Anyway going to drink my tea - will be back at the end of the week!

Veggiemummy · 15/12/2008 07:53

Right I'm up and have been lurking since ds2 came along so should really post or I'll drop off this thread. Have just fed him and dh & ds1 are still asleep so should write this birth story while all my boys are settled.

I think the last time I posted I was having almost regular contractions. Well by almost 1pm they were regular and 3/4 every 10 mind so we rang the midwife who wanted to come over. DH had filled the birthpool (against all odds, always check the hose attachment fits your taps is all I will say) but I didn't feel like I wanted to get in yet so we just settled into a routine of me wandering around chatting and watching the arsenal match then every couple of minutes leaning over the birth ball and dh massaging me through a contraction. I has some lunch then shortly after that my lovely mw arrived so we all had a cup of tea and chatted between contractions. We discussed when I might want a VE and I said I was happy to wait until I felt like I was in transition. So we went on like that until about 4pm when I felt like getting in the pool. Surprisingly I kept eating & drinking and was almost enjoying the contractions. In amongst all this since the beginning I had been taking the homeopathis combination I has been prescribed and I gave to say I was feeling very happy and positive which I put down to it.

Anyway after about an hour in the pool I hit transition and it started getting a lot more intense. DH was amazing at this point whenever I had a contraction I would go to him he would lean onto the side if the pool and I would look into his eyes while I rode out the contraction. Sometimes they were so intense I didn't think I could cope but he kept me focused. My mw had me blowing raspberrys with my mouth which actually really helped. After another hour of that I was starting to feel quite tired. I was having nice endorphin hits between contractions which helped deal with it all but I felt like I wanted a rest from the intensity so I asked for some gas and air and used that for about 3 contractions which was nice but I felt I worked better doing what I had been with dh.

Finally at about 8.20pm I felt like pushing. My midwife had check me when I was 8 cm and she felt confident I was fully dialated (and I has been doing little checks which she had suggested) so off I went pushing. As with ds1 I really didn't get the whole pushing thing so tried a fist breathing technique the mw had got me to read about a few weeks before and it was very effective but I couldn't get a position I was happy with in the pool so I got out and tried a few positions until I settled on the birth stool which was great I had about 3 contractions and then knew he was crowning so him do his thing and out came his head and then he body. The mw sat back and just directed dh with what to do and guided ds out and handed him to me. We all got comfy and about 30 mine later out came the placenta and then dh cut his cord. The mw was great she actually didn't. Touch him until she clamped the cord so he was not rubbed or nostrils cleared or any of that. As a result a cried for a split second and then snuggled in for a cuddled.

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Veggiemummy · 15/12/2008 08:08

Sorry just read through and lots of spelling and grammatical errors. DS is on my chest at the moment and typing on itouch so that's my excuse sorry last post so long and forgot to add he was nearly born in his bag but I got mw to break my waters as I was getting a little impatient to get him out and he came with the next contraction so it def helped also has some gas and air for the last 2 contractions as I was having some pain in my lower abdomen which I think was his shoulders decending. But no tearing which was nice and he took to bf well.

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IceCube · 15/12/2008 08:11

Ahhh, Veggie, that is such a lovely birth story, I can only wait and hope I get a similar home birth.

Did you use the tens for the early stage before you got into the pool?

mibbes · 15/12/2008 08:37

All the best for today Abby, Jollybear, gettingbiggerbird and hotmama, can't wait to hear the news

Veggie congrats missus, what a fab story, enjoy your wee boy

Arti LOL at your DH's superglued hand !!!

LadyT I so feel your pain about post CS belly. There have been a lot of tears over here too about how awful I look. The 'overhang' is so hideous and belly still looks about 4-5 months pregnant . I hardly have any clothes that I can comfortably wear as most mat trousers/jeans sit right on the wound and pre-mat clothes are not an option. Lots of tears every time I have to go out and as I refuse to wear trackie bottoms in public, I still have a scrap of self respect left... just. I am sticking with the RLT as read that it helps uterus contract after birth too so may speed up the tummy-shrink...

Verso · 15/12/2008 08:41

Veggie your birth story is lovely. It sounds like you were really supported by your mw and DH. Amazing that you did the whole thing with just literally a 'bit' of gas and air at the end too. Your story has made me a bit emotional as I've been writing mine and it couldn't be more different. I'm not actually upset by mine or anything - just that yours sounds so warm and homely and special whereas mine couldn't have been more clinical really!

Mine will follow shortly...

Anyone got any tips for getting rid of resentment? I have woken in a foul mood . DD2 was fine last night - just woke twice, but then wouldn't settle after her 3am feed and just kept going until 5.45am... relentlessly feeding (growth spurt?). Anyway I got pretty knackered and DH was useless. I woke him up (how on earth he was sleeping through it I don't know) and asked him please to help her settle so I could at least go to the loo. He said there's 'no point' him trying to settle her as she only wants me . Well that's ok then.

I am beside myself with seething rage at the injustice of new baby care. Sorry! I have even been debating switching to the bottle early just to FORCE him to make an effort because he wouldn't have the breastfeeding cop-out excuse any more. Mind you, he'd probably make up something about her only settling for me and then I'd be no further forward and she wouldn't be getting the breast milk...

Thing is, DD2 is nowhere near as difficult as DD1 was, so I feel bad for complaining - but it's the weight of the responsibility which feels like such a burden.

Verso · 15/12/2008 08:45

I had to phone the ward at 8am and see whether there was a bed available. There was, so they asked us to come in in the next half hour ? but at least before 9am. It is very strange to know the day your baby is going to be born. Once we got to the hospital we were shown to the recovery room ? space for two beds but one was missing ? and I was asked to undress and put on a hospital gown (which was a bit draughty down the back!) I remember there was a very annoying fluorescent light in the room which kept blinking off and on, which was not very relaxing when we were both rather apprehensive.

Then a nurse came and introduced herself and said she would be scrubbing in for the caesarean. She also said the anaesthetist would come to see me too. She put TEDs (anti-embolism) stockings on me and checked I'd shaved enough (!) and also talked me through some of my worries. Then the anaesthetist came to see me and went through the spinal procedure, and associated risks, with me at some length. He was very calm and kind and patient, which helped a lot. Finally another medic came in (I'm not sure what role) who went through the yellow consent forms and ALL the possible risks. This was where things got a bit scary as there was talk of bowel perforation and emergency hysterectomy and so on.

I signed the consent form. We were then left waiting for what seemed like ages, but eventually DH got his blue scrubs. However, while putting them on he managed to pull the cord completely through the waistband of the trousers, so he had to go off to get a second set.

Finally we were off. Walking to theatre was very surreal. The operating theatre was very cold, and I was very very nervous by this point, so I was shaking and trembling. One nurse stayed with me throughout the spinal and held my hand. One of the others kept chatting to me ? we ended up talking a bit about my work, which was strangely comforting and 'normal'!

They started the operation by putting an IV in my arm ? badly. When I asked if it was meant to hurt they realised it had ?tissued? - ie perforated the vein ? and redid it at a different location. (See my profile for a picture of the bruises that resulted!). Then they did the spinal ? firstly spraying my back with a very cold spray, which made me even more shaky ? and the injection was VERY sore. They did about four injections in total, and all of them hurt a LOT more than I was expecting.

I slowly started to feel my legs go numb and they quickly turned me round on the trolley so I was lying down before they went completely. They sprayed me with another cold spray to check what I could feel and where. I had a momentary panic where I thought, ?even if I wanted to, I couldn't get up and leave now because I can't walk.?

The surgery itself was disconcerting and uncomfortable, but not painful. I started a random conversation with DH about West End theatre ? just to have something to focus on. At 11.07 (only about five minutes after the spinal) DD2 was born. They lowered the screen and also held her up ? a mauve and white squished-up bundle. She cried ? loudly and reassuringly ? and then they took her to the rescuscitaire room next door ? and DH went too. After what seemed like ages, the midwife came back quickly to tell me all was ok (DH had asked her to come back out as he knew I would be worrying). DD2 had mild positional talipes in one foot, but her Apgars were nine and nine.

The sewing up was probably more unpleasant than the birth, although less pushing and shoving involved ? and then I was lifted back onto the bed (very undignified with two dead legs!), DD2 settled in beside me for skin-to-skin, and wheeled back into recovery. I don't remember much about recovery except getting DD2 to feed for the first time.