Due in June '05 - onwards and outwards

[welshmum]

Here we are - Happy Mondays all

Mrs W, I had a feeling that I was seriously over-eating last week. Luckily it's passed, but I am indulging much less than I have been.

I love cheese, but I'm more of a soft cheese girl, so I'm not having that much of it, just reminds me what I can't have!!

MMmmmmmm Welshie those creme caramels sound good! Not so much the rice pudding, those kinds of things tend to make me gag, sorry for tmi, I just can't stomach them.

Uwila, I hope you can make it on the 2nd!!! Fgs 'babysitting' indeed! A friend of mine told me recently what her dh said to her. It was the w/e and they were having friends to stay, so my friend was staying at home to tidy up, while her dh took the baby to the shops to get out of her way. Well, he was taking quite a while to pack the bag and my friend was reminding him "dont forget this, u might need that etc" To which he replied "Look, if I sent you out to my office, you wouldnt have a clue what to do either!!" brilliant!!! the suggestion of course being, childcare and parenting is her job Ah dear, I was in fits over that.

DOn't you have any other babysitters??? How have you carried out any kind of social life over the last 2 years (when budget allows) ???

Yes, there are babysitters. One such person lives in our house. You'd think he might be able to find her and ask. But, I'd bet money on it that it hasn't occurred to him that it might be his place to do that. It is also his place to sort out how to pay her in light of the new budget. MY budget doesn't have babysitting in it for this day because he was supposed to do it for free.

The lights are on, but nobody's home!

I've forgetten who's going on the 2nd - must check thread out and see what we said, so much seems to have happened since then.

Uwila, I think you need to drop dh an email today to say "please let me know what arrangements you're making for Saturday morning as I'm about to book my train ticket" (or similar). Babysitting indeed.

My morning rant today will be about ... well, I'm not even sure who to blame. I've just had a letter from our solicitor explaining (although I can't understand it) the hideously complicated position we're in re: wills, inheritance tax, cap gains tax and god knows what else because dh owns half of his parents' house. I am so hacked off about having to sort this all out, were it not for our tax liability I'd just tell dh I wasn't dealing with it any more. If he wants to take the risk of me evicting his parents from their house (which I could do right now if I wanted to!) so be it. ARGH.

None of this was sorted out when dh bought the share of the house (he was working abroad so the MIL 'handled' everything), and is just one of a series of financial messes that have been allowed to go on for years.

On that cheery note, I am off to empty the dishwasher and see if the solicitor's letter makes any more sense afterwards!

Do you think men are genetically unable to perform certain tasks or just lazy arses?

Well I'm off for my hospital appt now, probably a 2 hour wait and some hacked off midwife at the end of it but never mind - need to go after 9 weeks of gaily going it alone. Have lovely afternoons ladies and happy easters if I don't get on here again for a while.

lazy arses.

Speaking of men, DH told me a couple of days ago that he wanted to have a talk. I asked what about and he didn't want to say. Finally he said it was because he happened across some of my posts on mumsnet. Ah, it seems I've been busted for talking about him behind his back. I wonder what he read. Oh well, there's not much on here that I haven't said to his face. And there's nothing on here that our marriage wouldn't benefit from him knowing. So, I suppose it's just as well if he's learned something he didn't already know.

ah but uwila, that is the same as reading a diary or letters - if he's nosey enough to do it then he deserves it when he sees things he doesn't like. If I thought dh was checking up on me I would start posting very uncomplimentary things about him for him to find.

Who said about cheese, I am a big cheese eater, having so many off limits is torture for me.

Wasn't he slightly shamed by what he'd read about himself? You'd think it might spur him into a bit of positive action.

we've got up to 635 posts again!!! nearly time for a new thread!!

i should be sending emails out, but i can't be bothered!!

My dp had a 'packing the change bag' problem at the w/e too, he just seemed to be unable to do it without getting really bad tempered.

Ooooops Uwila, lol sorry can't help giggling that dh has seen some of your posts That could be interesting !! But, as we all know, this is the www and it is an open forum for all to see !!! So, not really like reading a diary, but certainly might feel like he has!!

Cheese cheese cheese... it was me! I love it. You can still eat a lot of it. Anything processed is good. And you can have any of it if you melt it. If it gets hot enough to melt then youve killed the bacteria that is potetially unsafe for bub. Cream cheese is always acceptable (even if you get migrains). I stay away from blue/stilton and brie when pregnant. And Blue/stilton cheese dressing is my absolute favourite. Yum yum....

That's okay. Two more months to go and I'm having blue cheese on the salad I get just before my sushi. Oh, and I'm not missing that date either.

Hey, just in case oh unreliable one finks out. And, he might because the reason he can't babysit is because he has a software installation /upgrade at the customer on Friday night and it might run into Saturday morning. So, if worst comes to worst, would anyone shoot me if I showed up with DD??? I know I know, it was my idea to leave them all at home. But, desperate measures call for desperate action.

I don't mind if you bring your dd Uwila. It will just be a shame for you that you don't get a few hours gassing over lunch with the girls without having to look after dd too. Rather you there with dd, than don't come at all.

Byeeee KVG! Have a lovely break. Hope the 'thing' doesn't get any bigger.

Welshie, hope all went well at your appointment.

Well I have been running up and down the stairs all morning making sure I clasped the post before the evil neighbours were around. They didn't seem to have anyone over this morning.

It turns out I won't be able to sit my exams on different days with the clash. I'll have to sit six hours of exams in one day I'll need a dr's note - I'm going to fail I don't sleep now and I'm never going to manage the pressure of all that when I'm 37 weeks pregnant. I'll have to go to the loo a hundred times I'll give it a go but I'm not very hopeful.

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Which tube station will I have to get out at for the meet - the meet thread is too long and daunting to review. is it anywhere near the last place??

Oh heck Pink, 6 hours of exams is a hell of a lot for anyone, never mind at 37 weeks. Is there no way the college might agree to you sitting them on separate days, i.e. if you stayed in the college medical place overnight or anything? (If they have one, I seem to dimly recall such a thing from my uni days). I guess that'd mean extra work for them though so not much chance ...

The only other thing I can think to suggest is that you ask that if you do well in one paper but not so well in the other you are allowed only to resit the second paper if necessary. (Don't know if the two exams are in the same subject so whether this is applicable).

In my finals I had four exams back-to-back, i.e. two three hour papers one day, two three hour papers the next. Fortunately the last one was one I wasn't particularly interested in because it didn't count towards my final mark (I think). Not surprisingly, I didn't do as well in that one! But also wasn't pregnant at the time.

Pink, isn't there someone at college you could talk to about this? It sounds impossible!

Right, that's me done for the week. Hope you all have a lovely long weekend, catch up with you on Tuesday.x

Evening all, I realise you've probably all logged off for the weekend.. ah well.

Coop - i really sympathise . At least you can look forward to coming back home and having Kira back where she belongs .

Hi Scraggy, glad to "see" you again...I'm also getting terrible hip/pelvic pains, walking and sitting for long periods (I still drive a lot for work) is becoming a nightmare. Can someone make me feel better and tells me that this isn't going to go on for the rest of my life??????

Mrs Wed, bless your DD and your dragon. That is so funny. I bet he says it with a really convincing look on his face as well.

Cheese, Uwila, you'll appreciate this. My v. good friends are getting married this weekend and have asked me and another pgt friend to sort out food for about 20 friends on sunday evening. Big mistake. Huge error of judgment on their behalf. Working solely on our pgy whims, we have bought 3 of the biggest slabs of cheese we could find in Costco. Plus, our pgcy indecisiveness meant that this decision alone took about 20 minutes . We're off to Tesco's tomorrow for round two of buying food WE like......

Have a lovely eater everyone, eat far too many eggs.....

Hello all, Wow, what a lot of catching up to do.
Pink - Argh. What a nightmare! I had a couple of three hour exams on the same day like Trib and you CAN do it. Not saying it will be easy but take in water and food and make sure they know you WILL need to go to the loo. And just think it gets them all over and done with quicker too.
KVG - Hope the coldsore is better. Where in Suffolk are your parents? I have been looking at properties there today and am feeling a bit homesick.
Trib - Eeek, solicitors letter. Hope it makes more sense now.
Uwila - Your DH! Rolling eyes. What is he like? Hope you get it sorted out.
Lynny - I hope that you have got through the day OK with dd being off school and out of sorts. How is the rash?
Welshie - Sorry to hear of your miscarriage. How awful for you, especially to be so far from home. My friend had a miscarriage in Dec and she said it is the unanswered questions that she struggles with.
Kat - Sorry to hear of your shocking trip too!
Hi Scraggy - Can't help on the travel insurance front. Sorry and hope you find something.
I flew to Hilton Head in South Carolina when I was 18-20 weeks pregnant for a holiday (four flights in total). I don't even think we declared it to the airlines I did ask my midwife when I could fly until and then just did it. I am not saying this is a good thing to do though because you will already be aware of my head in the sand mentality and foolish confidence regarding my first pregnancy. My stepmum insisted I wore those DVT stockings though and I wore them again when I flew home at Christmas this year. It wouldn't have crossed my mind not to fly I am afraid.
I have had a lovely day with dd today as she is now officially 2! DH came home from work at 7.30 this am so he could watch her open some presents and then we saved the rest for this pm. We went to Musical tots and everyone sang Happy Birthday while dd tried to look coy and embarrassed. So funny. Had to go on the webcam to my dad this morning and to MIL this pm. Also went to the midwife at the hospital today which was fun. I arrived to be told that I would be having a blood test and so my blood pressure went through the roof. (Not good with needles and wasn't expecting it). Thankfully they were not concerned and accepted my reason. It did hurt this time too and their chat about my veins didn't help. I had a midwife and nurse looking after me who were lovely and asked lots of questions about prev preg and birth and let me sound off about lack of gas and air for this birth etc etc and listened quietly agreeing with me. I think they are more frustrated by everything than me. The nurse hadn't even seen any babies born since she got here. Then the consultant popped in to say hello. He is nice but again obviously had time on his hands due to the theatres being shut as I shouldn't have been seeing him. The nurse mentioned my small bump and I said yes but I bet it measures at 28 cms and sure enough it did. The consultant made me laugh saying he doesn't trust the tape measure and had a good feel and said baby is a good size and I seem fit and healthy, baby moving lots etc and he has no concerns. I felt really special with all the attention and chat all about me. Such a change to those rushed appts I had in the UK with the NHS. I was in there over half an hour I think. Spoilt or what. I am happy that they are happy with my bump size and I do feel good at the mo. Sorry to those of you who are suffering. My hormones are still awful though if it is any consolation. I have burst in to tears twice today once just for seeing a card for dd from my Mum and then when I picked one up from my Granny. I felt really and lonely. I hate feeling like that. This pregnancy is getting more like my first now so I wonder if it is a girl after all.
Take care all xxxx

Evening Jonah,
Hee hee about the wedding. It will be fab. x posted with you earlier.
I love the typo wishing us a Happy Eater too. . I think that is much more appropriate!

Not the dodgy roadside restaurant though obviously! Lots of hot cross buns and scrummy stuff (Sorry Lua, but I think you are away enjoying yourself anyway)

Oh my g-d, that was a genuine typing error . You can see how my mind works........

Glad you are feeling more positive about bump today Coop and had a lovely day with DD.

Right, must go (waves), my DH has a gig tonight and being a good, loyal, supportive wife, i'm going to be in Oldham tonight way past my bedtime. Ah, the things we do for love.....

Oh, I never responded about nannythug. Sorry. Well, she is still with us, but we are leaving inpeace now. She controls the food, and I control the wardrobe. I just decided that sking her to leave when I am still pregnant and could realistically go into labour while DH is away for the workweek and I have DD in tow could be a really bad situation (especially since the hospital is miles away in the worst traffic London has to offer). If nanny is still here and something happens in the middle of the night, I can get to the hospital and leave DD with nanny until DH can come collect her (after he is done at the hospital!) Might cost us a few extra sheckels but it's better than.... well I don't really have an alternative plan.

I'm still going to let her go and take that extra month of maternity leave. But, I am considering giving her the option to return under new contract, which will outline my eating and nanny diary requirements. At least that way, I don't have to feel guilty about turning her out onto the street. But, if she doesn't want to play by my rules, then she doesn't have to come back. AND... I keep my extra month with DD and DS

ooops... Freudian slip. We are living inpeace, not leaving inpeace. My, what a typo.