Due in June '05 - onwards and outwards

[welshmum]

Here we are - Happy Mondays all

Lynny how lovely - bet she was as pleased as punch too! I'm not sure if it's coz the next is on the way, but every day recently I've had a huge surge of love for ds when he's done something new and 'grown up' ...of cause that surge only lasts until the next time he throws a wobbly toddler fit because he can't watch Dr Who (all dh's fault!!) for the 50th time that morning

...and neither of the mw's at my surgery wear uniforms any more...although neither is funky enough to wear leather anything!!

Hello all,
Charley, hope you can let your Mum know soon. I think Pink's idea to write a letter or Uwilas to send a parcel are nice and will avoid that confrontation.
Lynny - You m/w sounds a scream. And bless your dd. I hope she has an exciting special day.
I know exactly what you and Tea mean about surges of love for the existing child and agree entirely that it is down to trying to remember every bit of them before our time isn't all theirs. I think I am going through a surge of emotional hormones at the moment anyway as I am finding a lot of things overwhelming and being quite tearful for no reason, just fears of things happening and completely irrational. I am trying to be out and busy as much as poss to keep my mind occupied. It affects my dreams too and I keep waking in tears because someone I love has been hurt or worse in a dream. It is quite exhausting and frustrating as I know it is so silly and I am normally quite rational after I have got over the initial shock/dread of a situation. Oh well, I know it will pass.
Red - Can I have some of your nesting urges please. I am going into a slow decline at the mo. I have it in my head that I have everything for the new baby sorted and it is so not true! Oh well, there is still 12 weeks to go. Had better get on with some jobs while dd is asleep.

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Lynny - I take it you've just had your new bill through..? We got ours monday - £1665 a year now!!!! coz we live in a village it's always more in villages So go on then how much is yours??

Morning!

Did any of you try my "get to sleep" method last night? Did it work? I seem to have no difficulty sleeping at the moment. Although dp who was working away last night called (after a few glasses of wine) me at 2am to tell me that he loved me. Bless. Not.

Uwila - She knows I'm pg - we "fell out" about a week I think after I told her. I even texted her to tell her it was a boy. I've sent flowers for their anniversary and a wax bath thingy for her arthritic foot. She called me briefly to say thanks and to say she's been diagnosed with osteoporosis which I was concerned about. I was hoping then that we were ok, but heard nothing more so I texted her to let me know when she had the results of some test or other, heard nothing, then sent her a mother's day card for the first ever time which she acknowledged with a brief text. I just can't stand making these gestures only for her not to speak to me, It hurts too much so I'm not doing it anymore. Ball's already definitely in her court. She knows I can't call in case her dh is there - another story. She lives in an insular and isolated bubble and any outside "interference" freaks her out, including me. She just wants to be left alone. So I am.

So did you have your talk with nannythug last night?

Tea - how lovely of you to offer to adopt Pink and I What a massive council tax bill you have Are they all like that. I have no idea what "we" pay

Lynny - that brekkie thing sounds like fun for your dd - what a good idea!

Coop - nasty little critters those hormones aren't they Hope you feel better soon.

Coop - poor you and your dreams - hope they get better soon. I also know what you mean about thinking you have everything sorted...I'm like that too, and then suddenly it dawns on me I have yet to go up in the attic and salvage any clothes from ds that are ok, and then wash them, and then check that the buggy and car seats haven't gone all mildewy, and rescue the steriliser, get new teats, buy nappies, get hospital bags together...and so on and I realise I'm nowhere near organised...and then I flop down in front of the telly and don't move for the next 3 hours, save getting the odd chocky bar!

Charley - I think it depends on where you live and the 'band' that your house falls in, we're Band E (think D is 'average' for an area), but think next time we move we'll go to Wandsworth as they're consistently low...now to see if we could afford more than a shoe box in Wandsworth, he he he!

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Still alot tho Lynny eh! I was dreading ours actually as there was talk of 16% rises etc, but in the end it was capped and went up by about 6 - 7% (£105) so not the disaster I was expecting, but still not what we all need right now as we look forward to SMP only for afew months!!! Hey ho

Tea - lol that is exactly what I mean. I have it in my head that as I have all dd's stuff I don't need anything new....I will be in for a shock I think.

LOL, Lynny - don't get me started on the extra amount for being in a village...we have no police, doctors (have to go to the next village) or any other amenities supposedly covered (although we do have a rather nice landfill site!!)...rant, rant...!

Coop - so at least neither one of us is alone in our deluded states, he he.

Hi all

Hope your all well, not much time to post.

Lynny our council tax bill was £1605, you're lucky!!! We live near the centre of town. There's a recent thread on this, some people pay even more than that, £2000+ !!!

I am ready to commit murder

My neighbours have had people over... I went out for half an hour this morning - didn't take my post as I'd just have to carrying it around. The scabby bastards next door have had someone over and they have stolen my mail There was quite obviously a video in the mail in a parcel. I had to buy out of print copies of a film I wanted to watch from amazon and it has been stolen out of my post box. I can't trust them at all. I am not usually judgemental but they have people making noise at all times and leaving the front door open. I won't be able to leave the buggy down there as if that gets pinched I'll have lost my only mode of transport. I am so pissed off as lugging it up the stairs every time I get home will be a pain in the arse. Not to mention I don't want to have to leave the baby in the flat with the door open incase they decide to walk into my flat. They just do that - walk in as though it is a free for all. You know the kind of people who don't know boundaries at all... BASTARDS

Charley - awful isn't it how we end up feeling so much quilt for the crappest parenting ever. God I hope I don't do that to my child.

Thanks Teabelly - does that mean you'll come over and sort my nieghbours for me Now we're family and all

I don't pay council tax

PINK, how awful, scabby shits!!! Yeah I'll come and sort them out - I'm quite punchy when I want to be ...and I guess they'd deny it if confronted and then turn nasty to boot, ooooh!

I don't think it is them - it is the people they have over Although scabby (and the girlfriend really does smell) They aren't dishonest but the people they have over - honestly. I have lived near all sorts of people in the past but never had to share my doorway and thats what annoys me most because I can't trust my things will actually get to me. This explains where the other missing post things have gone lately I am on ebay getting a lockable post age. It'll be at least £14.99 and I'll have to diy it to the door I don't know why people can't be more considerate All they have to do is shut the door after them - not hard. Oh an not invite vagrants over past midnight....

Pink that sounds like a complete nightmare about your neighbours. Grrrrrrrrrr.

Council tax bill - I left before the post this morning so it will probably be waiting for me when I get home tonight, so that's something to look forward to.

Teabelly, that's exactly the same as me! I keep thinking I'm all sorted then I realise I have absolutely NO newborn clothes (lent them to someone and never got them back), no new bottles, changing mat etc, etc. And then I start to panic about the fact that there will be a newborn baby for me to look after and I've forgotten what to do and they are so little and....well you get the idea.

Happy birthday to your DD Uwila, and to yours for tomorrow Coops.

Lynny, what a lovely proud moment . I completely know what you mean about a surge of love for the older one now number 2 is imminent. I feel the same way about DS, he's absolutely adorable at the moment (even when he's not, if you know what I mean). I also feel guilty about how much his world is going to change.

Saw the chiropractor this morning, he said I'd had some muscle tightening around my pelvis, I didn't really understand it all but he moved my legs backwards and forwards a bit and it is definitely better. I've been advised not to spend too much time sitting down, but should also take it easy, so have decided to pack in the gym and re-start my pilates classes instead (only went once!).

We have a 'mailbox' shop thingy close to us where you have a po box address, and you can have your mail delivered them, and then just go in and get it as and when, not sure how much that costs per month...do you have anything like that?? Bloody pain tho as you'd have to go and collect your post, maybe not the best solution with a young one in tow, hmmmmm and it wouldn't solve the buggy dilemma...wish I could be more constructive help wise!

oooh pilates - that reminds me I really must watch that dvd . Your muscle thing sounds abit like sciatica (sp?) I got that towards the end with ds, where muscles/nerves become kind of trapped by the position of the baby. I found that I was worse when I first woke up, so would get onto all fours and wiggle my hips abit to move baby's position, and that made it a bit better. Not sure if this would help at all in your case Mrs W, but it sometimes alleviates the condition enough to make it bearable until you get some professional 'hands on' treatment

I've got so many clothes I'm not sure what to do with them all. I got them from a lot on ebay - also I think Bubba's bum might be a bit big in washables.

Well Mrs wednesday, if you had lived at my house your council tax bill would have been filched - not sure if thats a good thing though...

I am trying to find a childminder for next year. The college course I want to do next year in no longer in the day time so I won't be able to use the college cresh I'll have to dole at the cash to a childminder because the course will be in the evening I better find something now as I'll need someone to look after him the same time every week and can't rely on a normal babysitter - would I even want to anyway, specially if I don't know them. Ho hum. Maybe I can get the money back and you get a grant if you need help with childcare costs.

Has anyone seen Scraggyaggy?

Lynny, bless your DD. She sounds like an absolute sweetie-pie.

Charley, I am so sorry about your mum. It sounds like you've done everything you can to offer olive branches, which she doesn't seem prepared to accept.

Pink, how awful for you. That's all you need on top of everything else.

Tea/Mrs Wed - i haven't bought any of the things you are talking about. I've got as far as a buggy thing, a nappy bin, a monitor, um, and a cot. I was hoping to do all the changing mat/nappy stuff in one big shop. I guess I still think that this prgy is NEVER going to end, so i'm not too panicked. Yet

Jonah, don't worry about all the paraphanalia you seem to need - you probably won't use half of it anyway!! So long as you have a couple of vests/babygrows/nappies for the hospital then dh/p can run out and buy anything else if you haven't had time before to get it By the sounds of it you're well on track to being sorted, do what you said and get the other stuff in one big shop in a few weeks time.

Pink - and now the course has changed !! I'm sure they must provide something towards childcare costs when you're studying...someone at your college will probably know.

Afternoon ladies, feeling rather rundown and crappy today so generally not happy. This despite the arrival of Hotel Chocolat chocs from the MIL this morning. (Apols to Lua for mentioning them). Despite being vegan, dairy-free and wheat-free they are actually very nice!

Pink - your neighbours are evil, it's official. What a pain in the arse for you.

Charley (and Pink) so sorry about your mothers. Charley, I would just go ahead and tell your family, if your mum doesn't want to know that's up to her. Text her so you can feel you've 'told' her and then get on with sharing the news with the people who love you. Well, that's what I'd do anyway. I only told my dad because I told my management company and he works through them as well, I thought it might be a bit off if he phoned them with a tax query and was greeted with "congrats on your daughter's engagement" (I would have told him eventually anyway, but it wasn't a high priority).

I feel very lucky to have such a great relationship with my mum, and it's grown stronger over the last few months as I waffle on about baby stuff to her, even if she still hasn't started that blanket she's meant to be knitting me! 13 weeks and counting! (Well, nearly).

Jonah - you're still miles ahead of me. Oh well. I am sure I will get around to it in the end!